“Does his friends only attitude frustrate you?”
A strange twist at Dialteg ™, a blog page for women, to help them get out of the friend’s zone.
Many nice guys finding themselves just being friends with a woman they claim they are in love with, probably have never took the time to realize how many women also want out with one of their guy friends.
It’s unfortunate through my readings and dealings with women that it’s much harder for a woman to change a man’s mind than it is for a man to change her mind. Men’s attraction are so driven by looks and women’s attraction are so driven by personality, amongst other factors, that unless a women undergoes a physical makeover it can be very difficult for her to change a man’s mind. Or have that special man in your life gain physical feelings for you
It’s not all bad news though for you ladies out there. Men never, yes I used the word never, are attracted physically to the same type of woman. They may stick to one style of women, like the classic blue-eyed blond, but men everywhere do NOT find the same physical attributes sexy on a girl.
Some are breast men.
Some are ass men.
Some are attracted to legs.
Some like short hair.
Some like long hair.
Some like them big.
Some like them petite.
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Either way the man you are trying to get and see you as a potential partner has his own unique perspective of what he finds attractive. I’m sure if you have been friends with him long enough you are well aware of what his preferences are. But they are just preferences and they can change. Don’t let yourself get bogged down by thinking he doesn’t find you attractive or sexy enough.
I thought hard about this whole woman stuck in the friends zone and I tried to relive some experiences in which women attempted to get me out of the friend’s zone with her. I’ll begin with some mistakes she made so you can try to avoid them yourself. Keep in mind they are actual experiences I have been through and they may not apply to you directly.
What a woman should not to better her chances of getting out of the friend’s zone with a man:
Acting too needy:
Calling me all the time.
Calling me at times when she knew I could not answer in hopes I would push my life aside just to please her. Proving to her mind that I actually did want her, but only setting herself up to fail.
Which I bet is part of what she wanted anyways. The feelings associated with neediness can act like a highly addictive drug. The mind will go out of its way to acquire those same feelings and give them the emotions they are used to experiencing. It’s a cycle of self-prophecy which in turn reinforces negative thinking. Read my page on Limited Beliefs to learn more about how to reframe your neediness.
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Offering sex to win him over:
Being friends with a woman who is constantly mentioning how she would like to fuck my brains out is not only a turn off but it’s much worse for you, than it is for him.
Any guy that would take you up on your offer knowing inside what your real goals are, (using your body to win him over) is not a very good man at all. I suppose it would be a good test for you. Offer your body to him and he takes it just for sex, than you’ve found yourself an ethically devoid man and not a very good friend at all. Your actual goal is to allow him to make the first move. He must find himself in a position in which he can not resist the temptation to look in your eyes and position his lips close to yours.
Grabbing, groping, and treating him like a sex object:
No, no no no. Stop it. Believe it or not.
The best men in this world do not like to be treated like a sex objects.
Ah have the tables turned here.
You mostly hear women talk about how they don’t like to be treated this way but yes there are women out there that treat men this way too. It’s been my experience to run from them. I would bury myself around friends in hopes she would not notice me. If a single man is out somewhere and there are woman around him that he is attracted to and you start treating him like this way, he will resent your actions. Not only will he be less attracted to you but you will force him to act in a way in which there is good chance the other women around him will notice. That will cause deep resentment and even if you do end up getting him in the end, it is not a good way to start a relationship.
Don’t play any games that are not the fun and flirty kind:
Trying to create jealousy is a sure fired way to create more problems than solutions. Showing up with another man just to make him jealous will lead you down a road which will most likely ruin your friendship with him. But also imagine what the guy whom you are using will feel like. Unless he’s just in it for sex, man or woman, it does not feel good to be used.
The theme above to all those tips are,
Don’t act out of frustration.
Those acts above are usually done out of sheer frustration and you will find them closely related to how a man will act in those same situations. Desperation is universally unattractive and unfortunately leads people everywhere to perform acts they will in time regret.
What a woman should do to better her chances of getting out of the friend’s zone with a man:
Mental instability is always unattractive so always work on yourself first:
Believe it or not, looks aside, the women that have been highly attracted to me and I just wanted to be friends with had some serious issues mentally that I was not attracted to.
You see men may be more in the physical realm at the initial sighting of you, but I’ve found myself attracted to certain types of women I wouldn’t have guessed after getting to know them. In my eyes their looks changed.
It was her personality that enhanced her physical attributes.
Either way if a man is unsure, meaning, only finds you mildly attractive at first, and then learns about some serious flaws in your thinking, like negativity, low self-esteem, or jealousy, your friendship is all he will ever accept. Nothing more.
So get your life under control and by doing so he may begin to find himself more and more attracted to you. It’s the same thing I tell the men I deal with. Go to work on yourself, not others, and allow them to experience you. Never try to prove yourself to another. So do it for yourself. Be selfish.
Make him feel special:
Trust me ladies.
Men deep down want to feel like he is special in your eyes.
Especially the nice guy that doesn’t know how to act with a woman he is attracted to. If he does have feelings for you and for some reason can not act on those, which is very common, you may need to make the first move. Personally I wouldn’t go and just walk up to him and pressing your lips to his, but learn how to tease him sexually. This will make him feel special and it won’t hurt his ego.
It’s the little things that make the difference here.
No groping or grabbing, remember that’s not teasing and as a woman you should know that. I’m talking about leaning a little too close so he can feel your breath on his neck when you need to whisper something to him. Don’t just haphazardly cup your hand and talk. Lean in slowly and whisper in his ear softly.
I remember in college there was this woman who was obviously attracted to me but for reasons beyond a simple attraction she was good at making me feel special. In turn my attraction towards her went up. One night she appeared in my doorway with a backpack and said bluntly,
“Follow me.”
So i did. She took me to the middle of the campus, sat down on the ground and asked me to join her. She then pulled out a candle and lit it. Then two champagne glasses, and a some champagne of course. Granted this was highly illegal but you can’t imagine how special that made me feel. just the excitement of getting caught increased my heartbeat. Her face flickering from the candle and she hinted a sexual smile towards me.
He may want more but is not very good with dealing with his attractions towards women:
This type of man you should already know.
Look for signs of the women he is constantly mentioning in which he is failing with. This is an obvious one but if he has rarely a girlfriend that’s probably the problem. He just doesn’t understand women or he is too scared of making the first move for his own reasons.
Usually its lack of experience so he’s unsure that he can perform and bring you to an incredible orgasm.
There are not many nice guys, or men at all, that don’t enjoy giving a woman an orgasm. Just the mere image in our heads of your eyes rolling back, your hands clenching on our back, incredible moans vibrating our ears, is a big turn on for men. Let him see you in that state in a jokingly kind of way and let his imagination run wild.
What I’m talking about here is bringing up conversations about sex casually. Make fake orgasmic sounds that are similar to how you actually act in bed. Let his mind race with the possibility of achieving that himself. Remember men are visually and aurally stimulated so use this to your advantage.
This next one is a tough one and I have struggled with on how to put this. But it needs to be said.
If you are a woman, that is constantly finding yourself attracted to and wanting gorgeous men that have plenty of ladies hanging on their every word, you must take all these hints, or tips that I give men on these pages and use them for yourself:
It’s not much different. If your self-esteem is not high, or your confidence around hot men seems to be out to lunch, you CAN learn from material written for men or nice guys getting out of the friend zone. You can be the sexual person you want to be. These pages are designed to help men but the concepts contained within are not much different for women. Let me break it down a little for you.
Inner Game includes but is not limited to your confidence, self-esteem, and control on how you deal with your emotions.
Outer Game for woman is further off than it is for men. Learning how to test men. Presentation of you looks or style. Knowing when to approach a man or knowing how to get him to approach you.
Body Language can not be emphasized enough because men are not as good as women at reading them. You may want to look at yourself walk and talk. Ask a woman friend to help you out. Women that are perceived to be sexy and alluring have a confident walk. Their hips sway naturally and freely. Don’t force the hips find a way to get them to open up and be more free. Men will notice it. It’s a big turn off for me to see an attractive woman who walks with her toes pointing out. It tightens their hips and becomes very similar to how a man walks.
Understanding Men. Hey what’s there to understand right? Most men are horny and want only sex? WRONG!
Negative thinking is unattractive. Any statement that begins with,
“All men…”
Just proves a negative attitude for whatever reasons they may exist.
It could prior relationships.
It could be a response from being treated badly by men, or from being treated like a sex object your whole life.
Whatever the reasons are anytime you use any combination of these words,
“All men…”,
“He should…”
It is a form of suffering.
When you place all responsibilities in your life for reasons you have no control over you make yourself into a victim.
And victims are unattractive.
Suffering without any actual physical cause, as in being hurt, cutting yourself, losing a family member, is actually wasting your energy.
It depletes your essence and desire to enjoy your life to the fullest. So understanding a man and the whys he is doing so may be difficult at first. But be persistent in your quest. Believe it or not most men do certain things for reasons you would never believe. Often they have deep-rooted beginnings from their childhood. Read my article, Sexual Frustration and the Common Man – Does it Hurt Or Help Society As a Whole?
Time for me to get on with my day. If any of that may have helped you let me know and I will do my best to include more pages for women. I realize there seems to be a lack of real help out there for you when it pertains to this issue. But there is plenty of information on how woman can make themselves into a woman that men can not resist.
You’ll find it all has a common theme, whether it is for men or ladies, and that theme is centered around working on yourself and not others.
Please take the time to seriously consider one of these people or products to help you achieve all your dating goals with that guy friend, or any future man. They are incredibly good at what they do and I firmly believe they can help you. You just have to give them a try.
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