Are You Tired of Being Nice and Failing to Find A Great Girlfriend?

When the anger and frustration of failing with women begins to take over your life. What do you plan on doing about it?

You can treat those women all nice on the outside but go home every night bitching about it, and then calling them every name in the book besides being a girlfriend. That’s what I did for years.

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You can hide from them and seclude yourself with limited beliefs, hell I even did that for a while.

You can be the jerk. Yep. Just stop being nice to them and see where that gets you. Wait, I tried that too.  Only thing that got me was an angry depressed world to wake up to everyday and no closer to getting laid or finding a girl for more than just a friendship.

You can say, “Fuck it. I don’t need them anyways. I’ve survived long enough by myself and if I’m strong enough for that, then I feel stronger than most people in a relationship anyways.” Wait. I said that also.

You can “refuse to settle for someone you’re not attracted to” and continually use that excuse but in reality it was because you’ve been turned down constantly by thegirlfriends you really wanted. Yeah. You guessed it. Been there also.

Are you seeing the pattern of where I’ve been in my life. I was so tired of being the good guy banished to the friend’s zone. Each failure I experienced became just another small drop destined to become a large pool of despair and misery. Sure the wind would blow and create tiny waves of emotions, but that was always replaced at night fall. When the water went still, all was numb. No feelings at all. Just (blahness) about finding a great girlfriend.

I’ve got some harsh words coming up here. Yet this is not something I didn’t finally tell myself. ..

Nothing outside us will ever change. We will not wake up tomorrow and then suddenly everything is different. No wonder woman is going to show up at our door selling lemonade and smiles. It just isn’t going to happen. If we decide today to get this part of our life handled and we are able to accomplish this, ten years later, nothing outside us will ever change.

It took me a while to figure that out. No one ever really pointed it out to me in a way I could understand. I’m sure they meant to, but again it alluded me. You see this is not meant to be a statement to lower anybody’s expectations. Yet look around you. Really look around you. Now imagine how the world would be tomorrow if you woke up tomorrow this total chic magnet.

Literally women everywhere you went were throwing themselves at you. You had your choice of any girlfriend you chose.

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Now…look around in this world, has anything really changed?

Not at all. Only you changed. Women are attracted towards certain men all the time. Everyday someone decides to enter a relationship. Everyday someone breaks up with their great boyfriend because she’s scared. Everyday someone out there is having great sex. Everyday someone else is having terrible sex. Some woman out there right now, this very second,  is being used by some guy that’s more interested in playing her rather than just being a man. And in the time of reading this small paragraph, I’m hoping there’s some guy out there, getting his first real great girlfriend!

It’s a really big world man. It really is. And outside this world lies our universe…(and that is not too small itself.)

So you’re tired of being nice and not finding a great girlfriend. Is this changing the world around you? Not a chance. It’s really is only changing you.

My whole point is that us guys and people in general, get so tired of  trying to change the world, they won’t even admit to themselves that it’s just not going to happen. At best we affect the people around us in a good way. We affect those who rely on us for support. But we only affect our surrounding by who we are. Changing the person inside us affect others differently, but it doesn’t change them. They make that choice. It’s like sun coming up everyday. Sure, it is in a very small sense but we affect the sun with our presence. We absorb the rays into our skin and it help us survive. We absorb those rays into our bodies and stop them from scattering some place else. Yet the sun will not ever change if we stop showing up to gather its heat. We affect it but we do not change it.

But this is great news man! It really is. Think of all those awaiting girls out there who won’t change. They still want a great guy. Someone to be nice to them but still create these powerful emotions inside them. They want us to affect them in that positive sexual way. And they don’t want us to change them.

It’s not a matter of being nice and failing to find that girl, it’s the impact of allowing her, to let us,affect them sexually. Being our usual nice ways only allows her to friend us. We affect them in a positive friendship kind of way. To allow them to accept us as a strong sexual man requires us to be that man, otherwise it won’t affect things that way at all.

I honestly hope you see where I am coming from here. I realize it can sound like a load of bullshit and just some stupid saying that always is easier said than done. But it’s much more than that. Becoming that man who has many choices when it comes to girlfriends is first, about giving up those old habits and negative thinking. And to me that is a much easier accomplishment then trying to change the world around us, to meet our expectations.

Whether you came here for answers or just someone to relate to about finding that girlfriend in your life and thinking it has something to do with your niceness, you’re here right now. So make the best of it. Read an introduction of mine on an accelerated course in finding a girlfriend. Or go at a slower more pronounced pace, by becoming an alpha male through Virtuosity,or learn to eliminate those nice guy traits that are not attractive through a bad boy formula. You can also learn to become the man women want that I asked you to dream about above, but from a woman’s perspective.

Or you can just stick around here for a while and see what happens. I have tons of material you can flip through. Mostly encouraging and mostly right on target with women. After all I couldn’t make up all this shit.

Good luck on all your journeys man,

Pete

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