I really want a girlfriend. What do I do?

It’s takes a lot for a man to say and admit that he wants a girlfriend. More men will say this to themselves than they will to others. They will not even consider saying the word girlfriend in front of anyone mostly for fear his lack of success will be made known to everyone. Perhaps he will discuss it with a close friend but that’s about it so I appreciate the question and decided to talk a little about finding that girlfriend.

I certainly know where you are coming from. I certainly feel what you are saying. I was there for so long I had given up on the what do I do part and just buried myself in seclusion with my hobbies and a few close friends. Then as my knowledge and skill increased I felt my self suffering from a different dilemma. I don’t want the ones that are throwing themselves at me. I didn’t want them to be my girlfriend at all. So it wasn’t an easy journey but it’s certainly been worth it.

I am mentioning that last bit because it’s very important to figure out what type of girlfriend you want. This clearer image in your head gives you a more attainable goal than just a vague question. Take the time and think about it. Don’t be afraid to aim high. Don’t worry about whether this actual woman exists. Just try to be as specific, right down to the last detail.

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You’re going to want to avoid attaching the outcome to this exercise too. No thoughts of marriage or anything along those lines. Nothing like you two holding hands or how you would act as boyfriend and girlfriend either.

Okay. So now you have a clear image of who she is.

Next step.

Meet her. Attract. Connect. Rapport. Meet again. Experience more connections. Increase the attraction. Build higher comfort and rapport. Build the relationship.  Etc…

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I understand if you’re shaking your head now because that’s what I did when I seriously thought about it. I honestly wish I could just give you a magic formula or some pill to just make it happen but I can’t. I can tell you that if you go through each step and objectify your situation, you can find a girlfriend that you desire. But being honest with yourself is an important  first step.

If you’re not sure exactly how to do that, then write me, tell me a little about yourself, you can also take my friend’s zone survey. Leave your name and email and I will post an assessment for you as quickly as I can.

I knew right away after going through those steps of getting a girlfriend that I just wasn’t meeting them. Then I realized what few I met I wasn’t creating attraction. I could connect and create rapport. I could even experience more connections with her but since there was no attraction there was nothing to build on.

I’m going to go out a very big limb here and claim this…

The reason most men struggle when they just want a girlfriend is that they just don’t understand how attraction really works and on top of that, they don’t go out and meet enough women. I began my journey in understanding attraction by first subscribing to David DeAngelo, (let me introduce you to him by clicking here on this site). You can find your own mentor or use my first.

Once I began to learn about attraction I got myself out there. I made some new friends. You get where I’m going there.

So here is what you when you know what kind of girlfriend you want:

• Figure out what you want exactly.

• Be honest with yourself and determine where you are failing.

• Find a mentor to guide you through it those areas you know are holding you back.

• Get out and get the girl you want.

• Meet Her.

• Create attraction.

• Connect with her closely.

• Create rapport and comfort.

• Have her build a greater investment in you.

• Repeat once or twice a week.

Of course I’m going to introduce you to a few programs which can take you step by step. You can go through them and choose the sections you need help on and work on them first. It should all come together in the end. Now these programs are not really expensive and offer great guarantees but I want to warn you, based on my own experiences with this sort of thing; It can and will cost you a lot more in the end.

For me, it was shedding the old rags I was wearing. Getting a better more consistent haircut. Maintaining more aspects of my life which cost a little more, but it was worth it. So those dollars I spent got me a ton of material but I wasn’t prepared to spend a little extra on myself to make it all happen. Once I did that, things started to change.

From my experience try to balance your livelihood, your earnings, and what you practice. Don’t go all blitzed on dressing up and looking good when you still have trouble with being an Alpha man. Dress a little better, then focus on the inner game. Don’t let your job or health suffer putting every bit of energy into it either.

Just maintain balance. Use your smartest judgment and before you know it, you’ll want to know what to do when your current girlfriend wants to know about your last relationship. Yeah for many of us the journey never ends of learning but that’s the best part of it, there’s always something new and exciting waiting around the corner, the good and the bad.

The first one is for guys that feel the are real close. Perhaps you feel if you could just one or two more things right when you are dealing with it could change everything. Well then Carlos has created this inexpensive course,  just for you. You could start from the beginning with it, but I feel it’s going to benefit the type of man I mentioned above.  Included are some great tools tips and advice on How to Get a Girlfriend Fast, and it’s going to do exactly what you expect or he will refund your money. Go check out Carlos’s  Page here on my site for more info on him and what he offers. Still not sure? Read this short article by him,  How to Get a Girlfriend – The 4 Core “Seduction” Skills at Attraction Transformation, then you can decide later.Get a Girlfriend Fast

Carlos really wants to help you out so you can go to his free assessment page on how to meet hotter women and finding girlfriend by taking his Quiz on how to meet Hotter Women which should help you figuring out where you are failing or which areas you are succeeding.

The next one is for any guy, to put it in Scot’s own words, that feels they Deserve What They Want out of a girlfriend. He honestly believes everyone does. He’s a great guy and I think you’ll really like his refreshing and unique perspective on the whole thing. I regret to say I don’t have a page for him here yet but you can go directly to his homepage, Scot McKay X&Y Communications. Scot and his wife Emily not only run a great business but they did it by helping men just like you and me and their appreciation truly shows in all their work. I do have one article that I felt you can might want to read. It’s similar to what is discussed here and it will give you a great insight into how Scott teaches. It’s called Are You Still Getting Rejected by Average Women? This Could Be the Problem. You’ll find many more articles there also.  Again, Deserve What You Want, is the link to Scot’s program.

The last one, honestly I don’t know much about.  It’s the How to Get a Girlfriend Ebook. Again though it’s not expensive and it can guide you through the looks department if you need assistance with that. But keep in mind you will have to spend more on yourself. just purchasing it and going through it won’t be enough. Putting things into practice may not cost too much, but it will cost you more than just the advertised price of the ebook. If you’re not sure sign up for Steven’s  How to Get a Girlfriend, 10 Lesson  Master Class.

The author Steven Nash is well known and I find it quite honorable that he mentions when he was living with two other top pickup artists they were miserable because they could pickup women, but they couldn’t keep them. So he decided to work on getting girlfriends through proven transformations techniques and not just quick fixes. Great job Steve.

That about covers all I’m going to say on this post. I hope all yo guy everyone enjoyed and that you leave this page a little closer to finding that girlfriend you want, and what to do about it.

Later,

Pete

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