Has a girl ever told you that you’re not her type?
Like what – she’s into girls.
She said you were TOO NICE or she “claimed” you’re a nice guy BUT she doesn’t feel THAT way about you.
Now if that didn’t piss you off and make you swear off women forever then you’re obviously numbing the pain to avoid yet another let down.
You can stop making excuses for her and you can stop believing your “type” has anything to do with love and attraction because I’m going to clear up for you what she is really saying.
You can once and for all understand her.
And with this advice you’ll also understand…
- You don’t have to become a jerk to get a girl.
- You don’t have to become her type to make her feel attracted to you.
You can finally laugh off her excuses for not dating you because you’ll know without a doubt what she really means.
Any woman who has a modest amount of self-esteem will always choose to date a nice guy over a jerk.
Every woman walking around does NOT choose to feel attraction. Just like you don’t choose what women you find attractive.
You just feel it and her attraction works on the same instinctual level as yours does.
When she say’s you’re too nice and she has some security or high self-esteem this will almost always mean she finds you’re either or:
- Too needy.
- Too accommodating.
- Too over bearing.
And as much as it pains me to say because I’ve been here: You’re probably acting like her girlfriend and not a “man”.
Women feel attraction to ANY type of guy who makes her desires and fantasies race from her body to her mind.
I can not tell you how many women I’ve dated who said to me,
“Wow I never believed in a million years I’d be with a guy like you. You are SO not my type.” 😉
You see when women tell you you’re not her type it means again you’re not creating a deep needed instinctual urge of attraction.
It also means socially she can not get past your life and see herself in it.
Except not because your social life is not what she’s looking for… It’s because your life either revolves around women (or her) or you lack in some very important social skills.
You see women can feel something for you in the beginning but when they realize you don’t have much of a life outside it all, the feelings can and usually do quickly disappear.
The truth is women want men who have lots of friends and this includes other women. They want a man whose not always available at her every call. They want a man who does anything and everything he likes.
And I do mean anything.
The details are not overly important.
She just wants to know the man she’s attracted to will not be up her ass every minute of every day.
If you hear the word “type” and “nice” from women who are rejecting you I can almost guarantee what you read above are the real reasons she won’t date you.
Knowing what is causing the problem will certainly help you get past this problem and get you headed in the right direction.
If you insist on labeling what women say they want as having anything to do with attraction you’re only going to drive yourself crazy trying to be someone you’re not.
Forget about “the jerk” or that you’re too nice.
The fact is being too nice is not what’s turning her off. What is turning her off is that you’re either acting like a woman would (for whatever your reasons are) or you put her needs in front of yours before you’re in a relationship.
Focus on developing high social status in anything you find enjoyable.
At this point it doesn’t matter what it is. Even if it’s the geekiest thing in the world. Those “nerds” or “geeks” are not getting their fair share of women for more reasons than the fact they like to dress up at some convention and pretend. ( Thespians are VERY attractive!)
The guy who is actually running those conventions or “comi-cons” AND who has a few other things in his life handled are getting their share of wonderful girlfriends despite it all.
I realize this advice is getting simple and you may have heard it all before but I’m not here to bullshit you or waste your time with useless tips.
I’m going to go a little deeper because I know for a fact attracting even the hottest women in the world is NOT beyond any man’s capabilities.
So if you’ve heard it before, then today’s the day to start taking it seriously.
The only type of man you need to be is a sexy guy with a life outside of chasing women or one woman.
*. Download this and memorize it – Sixty Minutes to A Sexier You
You don’t have to stop being nice, you just can not let women control you just because you’re attracted to her.
You can not let her “choose” for you. Sure it’s okay to compromise a little because being a stubborn prick is not very attractive at all.
Stop putting off your social skills. They are invaluable to women. They are invaluable to success in any area. I’m not asking you to conform to society just to get laid, that’s not fair and only works on the worst women anyways.
* Open a new tab and read this post on Social Awkwardness
It’s about the games people play, being shy, and how to create real social connections. It will teach how to connect with other people and how to develop a better social awareness. (Which by the way that is a trait women find highly attracted to.)
* Watch this video to overcome shyness and social awkwardness – Free Social Skills Video Presentation
*Stop taking this stuff so seriously.
If there’s one thing I know you understand about women is they can get a little emotional and some of their drama is truly serious… at least to them.
So what makes you believe women are looking for a guy who takes everything she does and says so seriously. She probably already has that part of her life handled anyways.
Women want a guy who can make her laugh and feel good.
They want a man whose not going to get all bent over something she said or did or gets all freaked out every time she acts out.
They want a man who is strong enough not to move or break at her every demand.
And they want a guy who sure, knows when life is serious, but also knows how to laugh off the small stuff possibly better than her.
If a woman is telling you “you’re not her type” or how “you’re too nice” is a serious matter to you – and you take it so personal you become frustrated and distant from other women – you’re not doing yourself a favor at all.
I’m giving you permission to laugh it off because let’s be completely honest here – if a woman is actually turning you down because you’re too nice that is some pretty funny stuff – if you ask me.
It’s a lot like saying,
“Sorry. But I prefer to be treated like shit and you’re just too good for me.”
Now that you know what she’s really saying you can smile back at her confidently and say,
“Yeah. I know I’m too nice so I guess you’re not MY type. I prefer a woman who values herself more than being treating like shit anyway and are actually attracted to anyways. After all – They’re better in bed. 😀 “