I have found so many nice guys do not truly understand how a woman feels attraction. Therefore when they run into a woman and see her flirting or dating a man who may not be suitable, they shake their heads and often assume he is either rich or a jerk. He could be too old, too short, too young, or not good-looking.
I can not blame these men for their assumptions. After all, they don’t teach you in school about attraction and to actually learn how a woman feels or experiences those her emotions requires research and knowledge. But I do believe any man should, and can learn how a womans attraction works. One quick way to gain some helpful knowledge in learning what women feel is to find an open honest woman, one that is similar to what you look for as a compatible personality, and explore those issues with her.
I was at this event last night with this woman. We always manage to have great conversations about men and women and yes; we voice our opinions to each other about everything from dating to great sex. She comes running over to me halfway through the evening and whispers in my ear,
“Is it strange that I am so attracted to that guy and why do I feel this way? What does he have that most of the men here don’t?”
Let me explain the man to you.
He was short. At least in his late fifties. About twice her age. Had a small yet noticeable beer belly. He was almost completely bald with a gray receding hair-line. His shoes were dirty old sneakers. He wore old man jeans pulled too high and a clean white t-shirt on top.
I thought for a minute about who he was. He is a casual acquaintance of mine so I know his personality. And that definitely helped me greatly in figuring it out for her. We turned away from everyone else so we could speak more openly and I stated this,
“Well, he is quite confident but I don’t think that is it. There is something more to it than just pure confidence. Sometimes pure confidence can seem arrogant. But he’s not arrogant. And why isn’t he arrogant? Because he has this attitude:
I’m a strong confident man. My head is naturally held high when I walk. I know what I am doing at my skill and quite honestly, I am extremely good at it.
(and here’s the extra part that really did it for her)
I am more than willing to share with you my knowledge so you too can learn from it. You’ll never be as good as me, said with a cocky smirk, but I will modestly teach you everything I know because I honestly want to share my experiences with you, and then allow you to benefit from it.
It is often the a sign of a great man who not only spends much of his lime learning or mastering a skill but also spends much of his time teaching it to others. He does so in a modest way that puts you at ease and makes you feel comfortable about the mistakes you might make along the way.
What she was feeling was a magnetic pull coming from a deeper instinctual desire towards a man who proved to her subconscious, without a doubt, that this is a real man. A man who is stimulating and satisfying in bed through his passion and confidence, but also has the qualities associated with teaching and protecting any future offspring. His social value, as seen through her eyes, was greater than hers and her subconscious triggered her attraction because of it.
Understanding how a woman experiences these feelings is a giant leap in any man’s quest in becoming a guy many women will find themselves drawn towards. Exploring the hows and whys of those attractions with her allows your mind to broaden its view and expand it’s knowledge. And this is much more beneficial than limiting yourself to just books or videos.There are some warnings to this advice though, and I feel they must be made clear. When you do start talking to women about their feelings you must have some knowledge first, about attraction, your and hers. Otherwise the reasons you come up may not be at all on the right track. If this same woman asked me this question ten years ago my explanation to her would have been completely different and far off from the truth. Because my mind would have reasoned through a tangled mess of misunderstanding and feelings of resentment. It would have been extremely difficult to think clearly at that point in my life.
The second warning is you always must keep in mind that women do NOT think like men. In other words, when you ask a woman why feels something she will tell you her reasons from her emotional perspective. And this may not be very logical at all. If you don’t believe me ask a woman why she seems to prefer a dark handsome man. She may respond with he’s good looking. He seems nice. And I just don’t know, He’s just really sweet to me. All good reasons in her mind but logically for attraction and for your benefit, won’t lead you in the right direction.
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I can almost guarantee that a woman feels attracted to a dark handsome man because…
He’s good looking -> translates to a comfortable feeling.
He seems nice -> Good looking people have an affect on us that trusts them. We trust nice people.
She just don’t know, He’s just really sweet to me-> I don’t him. He’s mysterious. He’s sweet to me even though he could have anyone. But I think he likes him. Her uncertainty peaks her interest in her.
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Good luck guys and I hope after this you re one step closer to understanding how a woman feels attraction for men,
Pete
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