Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
Women Are Not Perfect
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I use to see women as perfect. At least I use to see those particular women where my attraction controlled me, as perfect.
And as the old saying goes “I would put them up on a pedestal”, and attempt to climb into their hearts by, being so nice it was sickening.
I also believed everything they would say and took it literally. Here are a few common sentences by the women and I would want, secretly, and what I was thinking after she said the:
“He’s not right for me.”
My nice guy thinking, “Finally, she’s going to dump that loser.”
“I am not ready for a relationship.”
My nice guy thinking, “Great. Now she going to go out and sleep with a bunch of scumbags!”
“He only wants me for my body.”
My nice guy thinking, “Should I just tell her that I love her for more? Maybe then she will like me.”
“All men are full of shit.”
My nice guy thinking, “But I’m completely honest with you. I can’t lie. I won’t ever cheat on you.”
“Men are pigs!”
My nice guy thinking, ” I’m not a pig. I will treat you with respect. If you will only give me a chance to prove you wrong.”
“He’s such a fucking jerk.”
My nice guy thinking, “YES! She realized what I already knew. Now’s my chance. I’m not a jerk. YES!”
And guess what? The next time I saw her…
She would have her lips pasted on the same guy that caused her to say it all in the first place.
And why is that? Is is really because women are not perfect?
Or is that I never understood that women were no more perfect than me. They often struggle with relationships just like I did, but only in a different way.
They also spoke on how they felt that very second. And since I didn’t understand them I would often take it literally. In my mind those women were perfect so anything and everything that come out of their mouths, was perfectly stated and absolutely meant.
My intentions are to help us men stay out of that trap we nice guys fall into. It’s a long deep trap and like many traps, we often need help to get out of them. After all we are not all MacGyver. That trap involves believing women are perfect and trying to logically interpret what they are saying.
“Why do women say one thing, but then do something complete different?”
Interpretation is unnecessary when you’re being clear about your confidence, your Alpha masculinity, and your comfort with your sexual desires.
Unfortunately most guys never really learn what it takes to do this the right way…
Women keep their secrets well, but once you understand and decipher what it is she’s looking for in a guy, you’ll have no problems translating her words into what she’s REALLY saying.
I have included that quote because in reality when we fall into those traps it is because we are focusing way too much on what she is saying and then interpreting it wrong, based on our own feelings at that time.
It took me years to figure out that just because I felt attracted to a woman, doesn’t mean she was perfect. The more I began to focus on my own self esteem issues and my masculinity, the clearer I would see what she really was saying.
And yes she can say one thing and act differently. But when you think about it, how different is it from me consoling her as a friend, but thinking I wanted her so bad?
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