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Do Women Hide It When They Are Attracted to You?

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Love and attraction are not as blatant as this. Women will attempt to hide their attraction.

Some say it’s in a woman’s best interest to hide her attraction to us. Is that true?

How about some common examples where it felt like it was happening…

Maybe you caught her staring but when you approached her, she blew you off like you didn’t even exist.

Was she hiding it because there was other people around?

Maybe you’re good friends and always flirting but for some reason when you get too close, she pulls away. You hang out a lot and she’s always contacting you… But is she hiding her attraction, hoping and waiting you’ll make a move?

Perhaps she’s extremely shy around you. Barely says a word. It feels like she’s “into” you but you’re just not sure. She’s tough to read yet you have great conversations where she opens up completely to you making her that much more confusing.

Is her confidence so low she hides liking you because she can not believe you’d ever like her back?

And the real kicker – You get along extremely well and you “click,” but she talks about other guys and how it’s so hard to find a good one. All the while you’re thinking she must be blind because she’s not even noticing you.

Is she hiding it from you because she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship?

It’s been my belief that although it may be in a woman’s best interest to hide major emotions of attraction, unless she’s the best actor in the world, actually doing THAT is practically impossible.

You might have read her “signals” wrong when you approached and she blew you off or maybe she was just a bitch who needed the Ego boost.

Or… which is probably the most believable answer – she was testing you.

She wanted to know how easily you crumble. She wanted to know just how confident or experienced you are with women of her believed “caliber.”

Good friends flirt all the time. ( When they’re a man and a woman. ) But when one friend crosses that line and the other is not feeling it, the “pull back” is often immediate followed by more than a few awkward moments.

For the guy it feels like she’s choosing NOT to feel something like she’s hiding it because of reasons beyond our perception.

But to the woman, the only thing she is hiding is the fact that she isn’t feeling attracted and does not want to reject a good friend. She’s hoping he’ll get the point without having to “let that cat out of the bag” and make the friendship awkward and weird.

A shy woman will almost always attempt to hide her true feelings.

If she’s extremely insecure ( more than average ) she will try even harder not to let it our that she’s extremely attracted to a man. Doing that will make her feel even more attraction making her even more closed off and the cycle continues to confuse the hell out of some men including me sometimes.

I’ve found “clicking with a woman” or getting along almost like it was meant to be is NOT a sign she’s attracted. Men seem to relate this great connection to love or attraction but women don’t seem to work that way.

The opposite is actually closer to what is going on…

If she’s opening up too easily, sharing all her thoughts especially about what she wants from a guy or what she struggles with in getting some guys, or feels no reserve about telling anything and everything she’s thinking…

She’s less likely to be hiding her attraction because it’s just not there.

Again, the connection might look like attraction to us because we’re feeling it but opening up is what she does with close friends that she DOES NOT want sexually.

If she wanted a guy sexually it’s highly unlikely she won’t be telling him about other guys. That could scare him away. Make her look slutty. If she does do it it’s often done as a casual test.

With regards to all this we seem to have a problem…

The problem being most guys get so wrapped up in trying to read the wrong signals they miss the moment when something was supposed to happen or they waste their time “trying” to get her to feel something which is just not going to happen – normally.

This means during your first interaction with a woman she will give you all the clues and signals you will ever need BUT they will disappear quickly and if something didn’t happen to amp the attraction or if her signals were only friendly then trying to read her after is all about your interpretation based on what you’re feeling. Not her.

The signs of attraction she gives which are beyond her immediate control are done through her eyes, how and when and where she quickly glances.

David Wygant even mentions all that happens in seven second and how our seduction relies on knowing it and knowing how to use it to our advantage. You can read his ideas here –> 7 Second Seduction.


Her body language, where it faces, how she moves, and where she positions her body which changes the closer you get.

The tone of her voice, sometimes the nervous laugh, the seductress flirting, the lump in her throat, or even a slightly sarcastic but playful tone which just keeps going and going.

She has lots of “tells” and most women think you know what they are. They feel obvious to her even if she doesn’t know she’s letting them out.

Look at this way:

When she’s testing you, or “trying” to hide her attraction, and when she is focusing on all that stuff  – her unconscious mind WILL find a way to let you know.

When she’s done testing she’s not feeling that spark any more.

And when she’s constantly upping her tests to new levels, this means she is highly attracted to you.

Here’s a perfect and very simple article explaining exactly how to read her signals early –> How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You. Written by Carlos Xuma and posted here at DiaLteG TM

The real answer about thinking or believing a certain woman is hiding her attraction to you comes from the best there ever was on this whole attraction thing.

It works practically flawlessly.

If you interact with her long enough to create that initial spark of attraction, don’t question it – just go with it.

Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you. Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.

Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!

How To Tell If She’s Interested – Posted here at DiaLteG TM compliments of David DeAngelo.

This WILL keep you in control. Not in control of her or better at trying to figure her out.

Better in control of yourself your actions, where you want things to go or even how far you’re willing to let things go.

That makes you the leader of your destiny with women without having to worry or wonder if she’s hiding her attraction.

If you’re not in control you just might ask the worst question in the world either consciously by saying them –> Do You Like Me? or subconsciously telling her you NEED her to like you.

Both of which can and will destroy the attraction she might have been hiding in the first place.


Do Women Hide It When They Are Feeling Attracted?

Yes and no. :)

Yes, depending on what she follows it up with. Meaning she won’t hide it by telling you about her past and or present relationships.

No, her subconscious signals are almost impossible for her to stop happening. More precisely in the first few moments we meet.

Yes, it just may be in her best interest to not let it out too quickly how she feels. Especially early on when she’s not entirely sure how she even feels. Women believe, and some of us may agree, men don’t go for women who come on strong or too quickly.

No, her tests may be hard to pass or detect, but if she’s doing them, she’s feeling attracted to us and there’s NO hiding it…

When she begins to test, she’s revealed her attraction.


Peter White. Intelligent ideas with a simple goal… Turn you into a more attractive man with my Nice Guys Approach to Attraction. You can also visit The Approach… Dedicated to Meeting and Approaching the opposite sex. Please visit my Facebook “Fan” Page. Lastly… Introducing for women only, Why Do Guys…?. Thank you for everything and the best of luck to you.


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15 comments… add one

  • franko

    there are just so many no good women anymore unlike years ago when they seem to be looking for men. but today, many of the women now don’t even want to be bothered at all. i seem to meet the nasty women that have an attitude problem, and are so very hard to start a conversation with. so how can a good STRAIGHT MAN these days meet a decent woman, now that many of them are like this? i am not doing anything WRONG on my part, and i just hope to meet a woman that doesn’t play games, and just hope that she can accept me for who i am. now many women today are looking for the RICH men instead, and it is very sad that the women have changed their attitude and many of them think that they are all that. since many women have very high paying jobs now, they think that they are high and mighty. that is why it was certainly much easier meeting women years ago, and they did not have the advantages that they have now.

    • Heather

      Wow! “Advantages”?! “We act all “high and mighty” if we have a “good paying job”? Gee I wonder what your problem is (sarcastic). Most women don’t want to date a sexist jerk so that is more than likely your problem.

    • Autumn

      Franko, reading your post made me want to respond with a few thoughts… I’m wondering a couple of things like what your age range is and the age range of the women you are interested in meeting? (You mentioned how dating used to be compared to now and the games women play/attitudes, etc). There may be some women out there who play games and read what they believe are “The Rules” to finding a certain type of man, but please don’t think MOST women are like that! Honestly, women who are ONLY looking for a wealthy man and who think they’re “all that” and who are difficult to talk to, and who play games probably aren’t the kind of woman you are looking for, IF you are looking for a relationship. There are plenty of nice women out there who are easy to approach, who want to get to know the man himself, (rather than the kind of car he drives or size of his bank account) and who won’t play a bunch of silly games. I think Peter has a very good point when he asked where you are going to try and meet women….that sounds like it would be a big factor, based on what you described.

  • jay says

    i seem to meet all the low life ones myself, and many of them are into other women now.

  • I understand. Playing games seems to be a big part of dating. But it’s actually always been that way. You have the good games and the bad ones too. It’s also my opinion that money – or security has always been on the top of a woman’s list with regards her future.

    And I used to let it get to me the same way Franko mentions above.

    Of course I will admit I never met too many “low lifes” as Jay mentions. Maybe I just saw them as not an option anyways so I never classified them as a dating option. Far as I’m concerned they could have been gay anyways.

    Now I’ve come to the conclusion or realization that “where” I meet women seem to make the difference in who they happen to be. Generally speaking of course.

    Where are you meeting all these women Jay? Maybe I can help you out.

  • epf

    Games, games, games… I don’t buy it. Maybe I’m too old for it, or realize that time is so short.. Or both. But I think if 2 people like each other, they should just be honest, express it and get on with starting a relationship. I don’t see the benefit of game-playing, aside from the sado-masochistic pleasure of mentally torturing yourself and/the other person. I think when you get older, you want to cut through the bullshit and get to the point. I like you, you like me, let’s get together and see what happens.. Simple. Life is too short. Carpe Diem.. Ditch the games. Just my two cents.

  • Thanks for sharing Epf.

    Always great hear everyone’s two cents.

    Since I’m a huge fan of “My Name is Earl” your comment reminded me of this song….


    Simple and to the point.

  • Tenshi

    Obviously, there are waay too many guys on this website and, for that reason, they can never truly get an objective understanding of woman hiding attraction. The truth is: she doesn’t have to be a horribly shallow and manipulative woman to hide her attraction. Perhaps she is emotionally insecure and does not truly wish to strike up a relationship because she does not feel confident in her abilities. It’s very narcissistic to think that she must be testing you or have some hidden motive for her to hide her emotions. Maybe she wishes she didn’t like you because she feels she’ll never be truly happy with you or because she’s not ready for a relationship. She doesn’t have to be playing games. By the way, many people are schooled in the art of self control, perhaps from meditation or even government regulations. Controlling one’s self is the best defense against traitorous emotion. Also, these men are also forgetting to analyze themselves. There may be something about you that makes this particular woman not want to pursue a relationship. I ask, please, that you think about all the negative things you may have said, especially the ones that implicate you as being a less-than-good person. Also, the advice you give about waiting for the other one to make a move is the same advice girls give to other girls. If they both do it at the same time, then I suggest no one even try to form a relationship; the advice would just be too futile. I don’t think any of the people mature enough to realize that people don’t just do things for games; reasons can be deeper and may not even be fully conscious. These horrible woman are called sociopaths, maybe even psychopaths; plus, you don’t seem so far off. Not everyone is a sociopath or a psychopath. If you truly aren’t fully there yet, would you consider some sort of psychiatric help?

    • Raul

      Ouch kindy mean girl. Women are no low life or bitches. I have notice that all women are more insecure than men. I had a few girls who have come up to me maybe 5 in my life. They were straight up, and new what they wanted and they got it. The other hundreds of girls i met. Were insecure. They would not get what they really want. Instead they waited for some guy to approach. Some play those stupid games. I would tell them i like to be with them. They come up with i dont have time right now or other bulshit excuse. I would politely tell them. To have a good night and im out. A few weeks later they will be calling and saying why i do not reach for them anymore. For all women reading this a true man will not fall for shit like this. Because by the time they call wondering what happened. Im already dating other girls. In conclusion. I feel sorry for most girls they do not get the man they desire instead they settle with the first guy who ask them out. For the guys do not focus on 1 girl. Date many at the same time and pick the best. Remember girls outnumber us 3 to 1. One more thing girls do not care if u have money. They care if i have balls to ask and get what u want.

  • rlsmith

    all these guys today moaning about ‘no good women left’ and ‘don’t like game-playing’…it’s a game, games are supposed to be fun. the only games you hate are the ones you always lose. stop losing and start winning. you guys are giving up before the game has even began. I used to be like that, until I acctually started to play the game and realized it’s super fun lol…the ‘no good women left’ mentality is cognitive dissonance, women are sexier today than ever before in human history, thanks to waxing strips, Chanel No5 and lipposuction :) x

    • peter white

      So true Mister Smith. Let’s not forget about Yoga pants and leggings too.

      And yes, games are meant to be fun if you play the right ones. But I would have to say stop focusing so much on winning and start enjoying the moments they happen more.

    • Raul

      I disagreed games are for kids. U like playing games u need to grow up dude. When girls play games they seem so inmature a big turn off for me. I move to the next. The funny thing is they call u like crazy after u give them the cold shoulder. By that time is to late or if she is a babe fuck her and then dump her and date a woman not a girl.

  • Pauline

    Hi Peter, hi everyone,
    I think my testimonial is quite relevant here. I am a girl and have been living with a guy for more than a year now. I think there was mutual attraction from the start but no one said anything to the other. I didn’t dare because we are living together and I always feared that all was in my head and that I would be rejected – and then having to deal with the consequences as we are living together. I also saw him interacting with other women and seeing that he was flirting with them, I was kind of turned off and left wondering… if he really liked me he wouldn’t do that in front of me. So this also contributed to just make me want to keep everything for myself. The trouble is… my feelings haven’t gone away. I am trying to rationalize things and tell myself things like: well if he really liked me he would have done something now. Or: do I want to be with a man who isn’t even courageous enough to disclose his feelings?… But I think I know that the truth is he is not self confident enough to take that risk. So we’re both stuck, in limbo…
    In the meanwhile… I got to know one of his good friends who – I discovered recently – has had a crush on me for months but didn’t dare telling me – and finally did. A tall, good looking guy. I wanted/needed to “rock the boat” a bit so I started to go out with him. It is so simple… he is crazy about me and is already calling me his girlfriend after a month. I want to give this relationship a go as I feel it could lead to something but my feelings for this guy are nowhere near as strong as the feelings I have for the other guy.
    So yes, it’s true in my case anyway… I hate games, and the only reason I haven’t said anything is because I am shy and afraid of rejection. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to make the first step with a guy – the only time would be when I am 200% sure that the guy is interested and I have the absolute certitude that I won’t get rejected. Otherwise, no way…
    So now, people who see us together might think: it’s always the good looking guy who gets the girls, it’s not fair… but the truth is we’re only together because he made it clear he liked me. Otherwise I was happy to keep him as a friend as my focus was on someone else.
    Which leads me to a last thought I wanted to share… I find clever/smart/witty guys extremely sexy, even if their appearance might not be sexy at all according to today’s standards. I know one in particular. I think he thinks he has no chance with girls as he is not tall and not very good looking according to these so called standards… but he is one guy I’d be really happy to date if he had the courage to ask (if he were interested in me of course!).
    So it’s only my point of view and as you can see I am part of the “insecure” bunch of girls (and all the compliments I get from guys are not able to change that). I wish I were more self confident and able to tell a guy when I am attracted to him but it just doesn’t happen. And it’s a great source of suffering for me…
    Hope this helps!

    • peter white

      Thanks Pauline,

      It certainly does help. I appreciate you sharing it with us.


  • Charles

    Hi everyone :-)

    Life is a toss of the dices for men and women both! Truth is men and women today are both of poor character and are not ready to care for someone other than themselves. I say to the men, get your life together so you are ready to give your female the security she wants and needs and be respectful to her feelings and she will return everything her man needs and much more! People are only half a person without their soul mate, there is only one in this life that can give you the deep connection and fulfillment we all long for. When you think you have it figured out something unbalances you to question it all! Everyone is looking in the wrong place for their mates these days, the source of all love comes from God :-) He is the answer but people want to do it on their own and why we make a mess of things. We all jump ahead, timing is Key! Above all things love is patient :-)

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