This is a great question a reader asked me and I couldn’t wait to answer it.
Are these women hiding their attraction towards you?
In this post I will explain:
- How even asking questions like this can lead to attracting less women.
- How this type of thinking led me to the friends zone.
- The two reasons a woman will hide her attraction for you and why this is a good thing.
- Through related posts you’ll learn the basics of the signs of attraction a woman gives and what’s really going on inside a woman’s mind.
1. Asking if a woman is hiding her attraction can lead to attracting less women.
I imagine if you’re reading this right now you are looking for signs of attraction a woman gives. You want to know how she feels about you, so you can act accordingly. You may also be looking for body-language clues so you know which girl to approach and which to stay away from.
But most of all, I bet you just want to know if she is hiding it from you either as a game or because you feel the same thing I have thought many times before,
“I know she likes me. I know she wants me. But she still refuses to admit it. She hides it from me and she will not get physical with me because I don’t fit the perfect guy mold she is looking for. She would rather be with a hot guy and she’ll put up with a ton of shit or abuse to be with him. And nice guys like me get screwed because of it. “
In the case above (which by the way took me years to get past,) I was living a dream. So if you’re looking for that answer to my old thoughts above you don’t have to look any further because…
2. How this type of thinking led me to the friends zone.
Women don’t hide their feelings of attraction to men they have chosen to be friends with.
That was tough for me to admit but it had to be done. Once I understood and believed it I was able to form a new way of thinking. This attractive perspective which was taught to me originally by David DeAngelo allowed me to get over worrying about if she likes, and more importantly, stopped me from acting needy and seeking her approval.
You see when you are constantly asking this question it will come out in how you act around women. It has to. Your mind and your thoughts will ultimately control your body language without you even realizing it.
Here is my new belief which proves to bring out a confident body language:
If I interact with a woman long enough to create attraction, I assume she is attracted to me.
She can try and hide it all she wants. She can deny it until the end of time. My assumption will still be there. However if after some time if our relationship does not progress the way I want it to, I move on. While all the time keeping my options open to dating many other women.
- If you’re still asking if she likes you please read my Nice Guy Tip 12 – Do You Like Me?
3. The two reasons a woman will hide her attraction for you and why this is a good thing.
The Woman’s Test
Women know what a nice guy struggling to find a girlfriend does when he feels a woman may be interested in him…
He immediately responds by making his intentions clear. He does not present himself as a challenge at all. At the first sign she is interested he turns into a yes man. He agrees with her constantly. He wants to date her NOW and he just can’t wait to do it. This lack of confidence in himself proves to her without a doubt that his insecure sense of urgency means he does not understand her real wants, desires, and needs. He’s an easy to figure out and not a real challenge at all.
Women also know what a nice guy can do when he doesn’t know if she’s attracted to him.
She senses his real intentions towards her are hidden behind his nice guy mask. He tries to hide it hoping to be different from every other guy but it only proves to her he is not a real stand up guy. It’s feels like she is being manipulated and she won’t often feel attraction for a man like this.
Her test of watching his reaction when she hides her feelings towards him will rule out tons of men for her.
(You can read my entire page a woman’s test – You’ll find out everything you need to know about her tests Understanding A Woman’s Test, How To Pass It The Attractive Nice Guy Way.)
She knows if he’s not sure about himself, or her, he can not possibly be a decisive confident man. She also knows by showing him a little attraction at first and then hiding it, the man without the confidence will act as the first example above does, with a needy sense or urgency.
Her Challenge
A women who has many dating options must learn how to challenge men either through trial and error or through her past experiences. Her challenging attitude is another form of testing but not entirely the same. Her challenge can accomplish bringing out the two types of men listed above:
- The man who directly makes his intentions clear but is not a confident challenge.
- The man who indirectly proves his intentions are hiding behind a nice guy mask and therefore not confident enough to put his real self out there, and fail or succeed by his actions.
There is no reason for any single beautiful woman to offer herself to a man who is not confident and challenging.
His insecurity tells her he’s needy and will most likely be jealous and possessive. His lack of confidence to stand up and be a real mature and masculine man proves to her that his personality is not strong enough to handle a woman of her status. So she ranks him lower. Putting him in the friend’s zone or even worse, the pathetic zone. That is the place where hot girls put unattractive personalities; otherwise known as being creepy.
Unfortunately for me, I’ve been in both places so I know how each feels.
So yes. It’s true.
Women with lots of choices in dating will often attempt to hide it when she is attracted to a man. She will then increase her tests and challenge him more. And the man who initially makes its clear that he is trying to figure her out often fails to attract her.
Is there any good news to all of this testing and challenges a woman gives you?
And can anything good come from knowing if a woman is hiding her attraction to you?
You’re going to love this guys because the answer is a definite YES.
If a woman is hiding or at least trying to hide her attraction towards you it is because she is does in fact find herself attracted to you.
The greater her challenge, respectively speaking, the greater her attraction.
The more elaborate and well-defined tests she tries to put you through, simply means she has a ton of experience in getting guys to show his attraction early on. And if she keeps turning up the tests she is only proving to you, how badly she really wants you.
Or how badly she wants you to be the guy she can fall for.
When you recognize and understand why these tests and challenges are being shown to you, think of yourself as lucky. Because out of all the guys she has learned to rule out you are proving to her you are a guy, than can win her heart.
A close friend of mine commented on one of my pages a while back which supports what I’ve written.
Ok. as a woman reading this I feel like you are piecing my puzzle together and I want to thank you!!! Maybe men will read this and pay attention!! Oooh yeah, I consider myself an attractive woman so if I’m putting you threw the tests bear with me it means your worth the time to figure out.
4. Through related posts you’ll learn the basics of the signs of attraction a woman gives and what’s really going on inside a woman’s mind.
There is only one woman who gets paid to teach and show men what women are thinking, why they are thinking it, how they feel attracted to men, and how you can be that guy…
Her name is Marni and she runs the Wing Girls.
- Here is my page on Marni – The Wing Girls. You can find out how I came across them and their links to their products and newsletter page.
- You can sign up for newsletter service for free and she’ll send you a free report or find out what the Wing Girls can do for you. The WingGirl Method
Here is a review I wrote on How To Become A Man Women Want. Sure She’s Hot – But Can She Teach Nice Guys To Become a Man Women Want (Attraction Transformation – dialteg.org)
Signs Of Attraction Related Articles:
I wrote a post some time ago to help you determine If there a way to determine a woman is interested, attracted, and is really into you?
“In the often unpredictable world of dating, nice guys who find themselves slowly climbing out of being dateless often run into situations where you felt attraction, there was a definitive spark and chemistry, but for some reason she is just not interested enough to bother.”
We all have met women who feel it necessary to constantly mention her other half. If She Keeps Mentioning She Has a Boyfriend you’ll want to read this to find out why and the type of women who will do it.
“I know it would certainly depend on how you felt about her. If you wanted to date her you would think she is turning you down. If you didn’t care one way or another about dating, her would you still interpret her words the same?”
Steve Scott has been giving guys great advice on flirting and becoming an Alpha Male and has allowed me to post up his article on How to Understand What Women are Thinking You’ll find it at Attraction Transformation (dialteg.org)
“The actions of women can be extremely frustrating! It seems like they enjoy saying one thing then turning around doing the EXACT opposite.”
I read this post by David DeAngelo before I bought anything from him and you’ll notice how it changed the way I thought about a woman hiding her attraction for me. He will not only show you How To Tell If She’s Interested but will also change your beliefs about asking a question like this. (As I mentioned in the beginning of this post.)
“So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested. And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books.”
Okay. Fine. You want signs of attraction and you’re not convinced what I have taught you today. I understand it’s your choice to make…
- Here are the actual Physical Signs of Attraction(buzzle.com) I didn’t write it but it seems to have the basics down.
- Here is another one I found to read her Body language: Female courtship signals (syncrat.com)
