Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
Do Women Hide it When They are Attracted to You?
How would these attractive women test and challenge you?
This is a great question and I couldn’t wait answer it. You don’t need to understand women to answer this. You only need to understand how being a challenge works is a very attractive trait.
What does the typical nice guy that struggles finding a girlfriend do when he feels an attractive woman may be interested in him?
He immediately responds by making his intentions clear. He does not present himself as a challenge at all. At the first sign she is interested he turns into a yes man. He agrees with her constantly. He wants to date her NOW and he just can’t wait to do it. This lack of confidence proves to her without a doubt that his insecure sense of urgency, means he does not understand women. He’s an easy date. Therefore his lack of challenging personality blends him into the background.
He immediately responds by proving indirectly that his intentions with her are hidden behind his nice guy mask. His intentions of getting her are, not skillfully done. She knows instantly what he is really all about. He tries so hard to be so nice, hoping that she will see him as a good person that is worth dating; and in doing so sets himself up for a guaranteed membership into the friend’s zone.
An attractive women that has many dating options must learn how to be a challenge. She must learn how to test a man to prove through his inner game, that he is worth dating. Her challenging tests rule out any man who does one of those two actions listed above:
1.) Directly making his intentions clear and not being a challenge.
2.) Indirectly proving his intentions behind the nice guy mask.
There is no reason for any single beautiful woman to offer herself to a man that is not confident and challenging. His insecurity tells her he is needy and will most likely be jealous and possessive. His lack of confidence to stand up and enter real man status proves to her that his personality is not strong enough to handle a woman of her status. So she ranks him lower. Putting him in the friend’s zone or even worse, the pathetic zone. That is the place where hot girls will put unattractive personalities. Otherwise known as being creepy.
So Yes. Women with unlimited choices in dating will often attempt to hide it when she is attracted to a man.
The man that initially makes its clear that he is trying to figure out if she likes him will fail with her. Marni from the Wing Girls calls this type of behavior a shit test. But this test is there for a reason and if you’re an attractive woman you learn how to do this very early in your life. Not only is it a time saver but it also can thought as a cheap but highly effective weed killer. Weeds grow everywhere. They are common and plain. They are boring, unattractive, and can be seen as a giant pain in the ass when they take over a beautiful garden. So they must be removed quickly without destroying the unique subjects they surround. Shit tests do this exactly.
My dating advice or a great tip to all the nice guys is to learn to turn the tables on these women. Beat her to her test and nullify her outer game. Learn to become a challenge yourself. But remember, becoming a challenge is not just saying no when she expects a yes. It can be a simple funny answer to her testing questions like when she asks,
“You want me, don’t you?”
“Depends. Can you cook and clean? I could really use a maid.”
It can also be making sure that you are selfish with your time. In other words, don’t give up all your time for someone you just met. Live your life and let her get to know you slowly.
You must learn to respond in a cocky and humorous confident way. And you must learn to do it without breaking into a nervous sweat. Because that is challenging to women.
Another point to always keep in mind that when a woman is trying hide her attraction towards you, it is a good sign that she is interested. Don’t screw it up by asking her if she likes you. So be challenging yourself and let her prove to you that she is worth it.
The next time you feel a woman is hiding her attraction I want you to keep saying to yourself, “Yeah…” (inner smirking) “She wants me.” But don’t say it. If anything, only hint at it, otherwise you will come across as arrogant.
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