Let me know if you have experienced a “sudden” loss of attraction from a woman. Almost as if she’s trying to hide it from you…
Maybe you caught her staring at you but when you approached her, she blew you off like you didn’t even exist.
Was she hiding it because there was other people around?
Maybe you’re good friends and she’s always flirting but for some reason when you get too close she pulls away. You hang out a lot and she’s always contacting you.
Is she hiding it, hoping and waiting you’ll make a move?
Perhaps she’s extremely shy around you. Barely says a word. It feels like she’s “into” you but you’re just not sure. You have great conversations where she opens up to you.
Is her confidence so low she hides liking you, because she can not believe you’d like her back?
And the real kicker – You get along extremely well and you “click,” but she talks about other guys and how it’s so hard to find a good one. All the while you’re thinking she must be blind because she’s not even noticing you.
Is she hiding it from you because she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship?
It’s been my belief that although it may be in a woman’s best interest to hide major emotions of attraction, unless she’s the best actor in the world, actually doing it is practically impossible.
So you might have read her “signals” wrong when you approached and she blew you off. Or maybe she was just a bitch who needed the Ego boost.
Or… which is probably the most believable answer – she was testing you. She wanted to know how easily you crumble. She wanted to know just how confident or experienced you are with women of her “caliber.”
Good friends flirt all the time. Well I suppose when they’re a man and a woman. But when one friend crosses that line and the other is not feeling it, the “pull back” is often immediate followed by more than a few awkward moments.
Now to the guy it feels like she’s choosing not to feel something. Like she’s hiding it because of reasons beyond our perception.
But to the woman the only thing she is hiding is the fact that she isn’t feeling attracted and does not want to reject a good friend. She’s hoping he’ll get the point without having to “let that cat out of the bag” and make the friendship weird.
A shy woman will almost always attempt to hide her true feelings.
If she’s insecure more than average she will try even harder to not let it our that she’s extremely attracted to a man. My bet is that will even make her feel more attracted making her even more closed off and the cycle continues to confuse the hell out of some men.
I’ve found “clicking with a woman” or getting along almost like it was meant to be is not a sign she’s attracted. Men seem to relate this great connection to love or attraction but women don’t seem to work that way.
If she’s opening up too easily, sharing all her thoughts especially about what she wants from a guy or what she struggles with in getting some guys or feels no reserve about telling you anything and everything she’s thinking…
Again, the connection might look like attraction to a guy because he’s feeling it, but after knowing women my entire life that is what she does with close friends she’s doesn’t want sexually. If she wanted a guy sexually it’s highly unlikely she won’t be telling him about other guys.
What we seem to have here is a problem.
The problem being most guys get so wrapped up in trying to read the wrong signals they miss the moment when something was supposed to happen or they waste their time “trying” to get her to feel something which is just not going to happen – normally.
This means during your first interaction with a woman she will give you all the clues and signals you will ever need BUT they will disappear quickly and if something didn’t happen to amp the attraction or if her signals were only friendly then trying to read her after is all about your interpretation based on what you’re feeling.
The attraction signs she give which are beyond her immediate control are done through her eyes, how and when and where she quickly glances.
Her body language, where it faces, how she moves, and where she positions her body and that changes the closer you get.
The tone of her voice, sometimes the nervous laugh, the seductress flirting, the lump in her throat you hear, or even a slightly sarcastic but playful tone which just keeps going and going.
She has lots of “tells” and most women think you know what they are. They feel obvious to her even if she doesn’t know she’s letting them out.
Look at this way:
When she’s testing you, or “trying” to hide her attraction, and when she is focusing on all that stuff - her unconscious mind WILL find a way to let you know.
When she’s done testing she’s not feeling that spark any more.
And when she’s constantly upping her tests to new levels, this means she is highly attracted to you.
Here’s a perfect and simple article to explain to you exactly how to read her signals early –> How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You. Written by Carlos Xuma and posted here at DiaLteG TM
The real answer about thinking or believe a certain woman is hiding her attraction to you comes from the best there ever was on this whole attraction thing.
It’s basic and simple and it works practically flawlessly.
If you interact with her long enough to create that initial spark of attraction, don’t question it – just go with it.
Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
This will keep you in control. Not in control of her or better at trying to figure her out. Better in control of yourself your actions, where you want things to go or even how far you’re willing to let things go.
That makes you the leader of your destiny with women.
If you’re not in control you just might ask the worst question in the world either consciously by saying them –> Do You Like Me? or subconsciously telling her you NEED her to like you.
Both of which can and will destroy the attraction she might have been hiding in the first place.