So… You Like This Guy…but He’s Just Your Friend.

Yes! Women are still searching for answers about the friend zone they feel they are in. The most common question being…

“How do I get out of the friend’s zone with a guy?”

Those are the actual top search results through Google of people visiting my pages this month. By the way, the nice body guys search..nice.

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That means about 29% of all searches made to my page are from curious women, asking, what in essence the title of this post. “So… You Like This Guy…and He’s Just Your Friend.”

I recently wrote an article for women, “”Ten Secrets to Break a Guys Heart, and I feel you will find, contained with the absurdity of the list, is a stripped down version of what men are attracted to.

Ten Secrets on How to Break a Guy’s Heart.

1.) Shower him with attention and then suddenly take it away.

2.) Let him know how much you enjoy listening to him speak about his life, and then stop asking about it.

3.) Be his lover. Be his friend. Pull back sexually and then… just be his friend.

4.) Agree to being in a committed relationship with him but then get scared and act fearfully.

5.) Shower him with affection and gifts the last day you plan on seeing him as a lover.

6.) Tell him you don’t believe that he will miss you or you can not understand why he even would.

7.) Always widen your eyes and give him a big smile when it has been some time since you last saw each other. Then turn that smile to a frown and a look of being unsure about where the relationship is going.

8.) Tell him how much you care about him but that you don’t believe in love.

9.) Enjoy wild nights of sexual gratification and be open in bed to exploration of each others desires. But then let him believe you are not good enough for him.

10.) Be sweet. Be fun. Be caring. Be sexy…

Be loving. Be supportive. Be daring. Be “sexty”….

And then one day, just stop being there.

How do I know this?

Because that list about my last relationship with an incredible woman. And sure she broke my heart. It happens. But sometimes the circumstance of a situation just doesn’t work out…and it sucks. Be we can always learn something from any experience if we know how to look at it.

So I poured my heart out for you. I gave you a rare glimpse into the mind of a masculine man who is just short of his limitless goal of being an expert on the dynamics between men and women.

Oh no…What will the others think of me? Will the experts I faithfully endorse respect my decision to, what some may see, as being a wussy move, to air out my dirty laundry on my blog on how I feel about one woman.

I highly doubt it. For you see when it comes to dating and relationships and helping others it is so important to be honest with ourselves and those around us. From honesty we can gain invaluable knowledge. From deceit we can only learn trickery.

Have I ever told you how much I love to tease?

I’m getting the feeling you\’re a woman reading this and thinking by now,

“You bastard. Get to the point. I have this guy friend. I want him…now! How do I get him?”

Patience…

I will only go through one item on the list. If you liked it and you want more, just leave a comment or wait around for me to post another. Consider this my gift to you for reading my material because I do appreciate it.

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1.) Men like attention. But give us too much we will take it for granted. Give us too little and we lose interest. We feel you are not interested or you just don’t seem to care. Every guy has their scale of what level of interest they require but I wouldn’t be worried about that.

Guys that need too much attention you probably wont want anyways and the ones that always chase when you walk away and show very little interest, will eventually treat you like a prize, and not a person.

Your best bet is to mix it up. Never show the same two times in a row. Never go too long without showing any interest. Keep us guessing a little.

Don’t make it a game though. Because it is not.

Do you want to know what I mean by it is not a game? Read this,

5 Ways To Become Instantly More Attractive Through Lifestyle,

I want women, and men to understand that game playing is wrong! Becoming a more attractive person can always be done through your lifestyle and I feel David Wygant can show you how. So you can click on the link above or better yet, read my short review here of  The Art of Attracting Men, and then you can decide where to go from there.

Back to the attention giving…

You need to look for those moments where it will affect him the most. You will want to increase your awareness of those moments. And that’s easy. Just pay attention and learn to live more in the moment,

Here is what I mean.

Your guy friend might come to you when he is feeling down. He wants a friend to lean on. He might have had a terrible day or some other woman he is dating is not working out. He wants to use you to make him feel better. After all, you are good friends.

You can be there for him but I will warn you. Just be there. That is not the time to shower him with affection. That is not the time to hope it can lead to a sexual moment. That is not the time to progress the relationship from just friends to lovers. He’s not coming to you because he feels attracted to you. He is coming to you because he feels comfortable talking to you about his personal affairs. That is not attraction!

I remember during my last relationship she was there when I wanted someone with me. But she never used those times to all of a sudden shower me with attention. Whether she knew it or not, that does not create attraction. It creates a friendship bond. Which is great for a relationship. And I appreciated that about her. But to make a guy want you want more, or feel more attracted to you beyond the friendship, it won’t work. If you assume,

“He is feeling down or having a bad day I want to give him lots of attention. Then he will finally like me.”

will work to create a sexual attraction then you are wrong.

Have you ever had sex during one of those weak moments when one of you was feeling terrible and you were both there for each other and it just kind of happened… But then the next day it was awkward and weird. It is because it wasn’t created out of chemistry. It was created from the emotions of security and comfort and usually it’s an avoidance of having to deal with the situation. It’s a wonderful distraction and it feels good. That’s all.

You need to use the element of surprise to first hint and then shower him with attention. Just like you want to feel special, believe me, we do too.

Just make sure when you do it, he’s already in a great mood. This is so important.

• You want to make sure he connects you with being in a good mood.

• You want to enhance his mood through this attention and not fill a need of security.

Those women that can do that successfully are the ones I become attracted to more and more over time. Those are the ones that when I am out having a great time she out of the blue shows up and joins me. Remember enhancement of each other can create great relationships. Filling a temporary need wont.

Now will this one piece of advice get you that guy you’ve hoped for?

Probably not.

Will it help?

Definitely!

Because if you keep showering attention at the wrong time you will go deeper and deeper into friendship with him.

Thanks for stopping by,

Pete

Again please check out my review of The Art of Attracting Men. I feel David Wygant has some wonderful advice for every one.

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