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DiaLteG – Dating, Attraction, Relationships, & More…

DiaLteG™ is get laid spelled backwards but it means so much more. Yeah I know, clever 🙂 but this is what it actually stands for:

Dating – The opportunity to explore and interact with single people. Dating is about discovering who we’re looking to enhance our lives with many choicese. Dating is meant to be a fun way to qualify and connect with others. You can find all posts to help your dating life here –>Dating.

Inspiration – Driving our energy and stimulating our imagination to step above and beyond our existence. This helps us to take chances and risk life a little more to seek new experiences. Go here –>Inspiration to become inspired.

Attraction – An instinctual but sometimes misunderstood “emotion” which alludes too many men and women because of the complexity of our modern social lives. Learn all about –> Attraction.

Learning – The quest for knowledge and understanding how our personality and how we present it to the world can be a never ending but enjoyable process. This is where I get to show you –>Learning.

Teaching – Boring classrooms and bad lighting is not what teaching is about. Keep the cycle alive and teach what you learn. Give a little back and accept whatever reward, big or small that come your way. When you’re capable of giving women something intangible to remember and think about you, they will want to be around you. This is how it’s done and how I do it –> Teaching

Experience – No one can experience your life for you. When we share those incredible moments with those around us we help them join along in our pleasures. Choose your –>Experience and live it.

Growing – Becoming a more attractive person, enjoying a fun and successful dating life, and entering more fulfilling relationships requires each and every one of us to grow into a mature and complete person. You can do that here–> Growing forever and always into the person we are in the ever-changing present.

Dialteg was first conceived to honor the nice guy and his often excruciating plight to achieve success in dating and attracting women.

Today, it has grown into so much more and will continue to grow as I’ve separated into a few new sites dedicated to very specific things.

  • The Approach – Specializing in dating and meeting new people.
  • Why Do Guys…? – The name says it all. It’s where I answer lots of question about why guys do the things they do.
  • And the The Nice Guy Approach – How to attract women and become a more attractive man with becoming a jerk or playing games.

The nice guys approach is an attraction “system” for guys who want to attract women without guilt.

The approach is designed so you never have to worry about women finding out what you’re doing because they won’t care. There’s nothing devious or manipulative to try.

The The Nice Guy Approach is based on the principle that “being nice has little to do with attraction.” You can still keep your values and beliefs without having to compromise your integrity.

It helps you to realize your potential, tap into your true masculinity, and live a more complete fulfilling life.

Which will very early on and inevitably…. NATURALLY ATTRACT WOMEN.

…By the way – My name’s Peter White and thank you for stopping by.

27 comments… add one
  • Edonson D Great

    It’s really nice to find you again after so long. Happy to be back.

  • trissy

    hey Peter ☺
    I had a question about the start of a budding relationship. I have looked online for other articles but have only managed to find one website who answered what I was looking for. I met a guy and, because I have fears of being cheated on or being lied and hurt because of past relationships, the whole waiting to find out if we have a chance or move on concept is making me nervous and afraid that I am just wasting my time.

    I have known this guy basically a month and he is nice but he is very independent, focused on his work (he said he wants to sort himself out with his work before focusing on a relationship which I like because I am doing myself by trying to improve myself mentally and pyschologically), he isn’t really affectionate and said he doesn’t like to talk about feelings or his life but when he gets more comfortable then it will be different. There was also an incident where an ex-work colleague basically said he’s an asshole which makes me a bit nervous. He has had moments where he’s been sweet and called me babe, sweety and love and has even spoken about spending 20 odd years together like his parents and we even went on a date together to the movies, he paid and waited for my mom to pick me up and we even had dinner with her last week (it was purely coincidental since my mom picked me up and we all happened to be hungry).

    I’m trying my best not to be clingy and needy but I have faltered a few times but he came back anyway and has told me upfront to not be clingy and he’s just busy with his new job. So because of his job and because i have known him a short amount of time, I was wondering when would be the perfect time to have the talk or if i should wait it out and how long 🙁

    • Hey Trissy,

      You don’t need to have the talk. It will only appear to him that you are being needy and pushy. Besides, based on what you wrote, you already know enough to decide what comes next.

      He said he doesn’t want a relationship. He’s sorting himself out. That’s his way of saying, “I’m not sure how deep I feel about you BUT I’m willing to give the beginning a shot and the getting to know each part too.” Remember you’ve already gone on a date. It’s clear he attracted to you and interested.

      You can’t just jump from a date to a relationship. Now is the time to find out if he really is an asshole or if you would be good together BEFORE anything more like a relationship happens.

      It’s clear you’re both on different paths right now anyways. It’s clear neither of you want a relationship either. So, it’s best to casually date, discover each other,and give it some time. It’s also recommended to date other men too. There’s no need to focus on just him.

      Have fun. Enjoy it for what it is. Stay in the present. Allow things to develop naturally. When (and if) a guy is ready to take the next step he will let you know without a word from you. If that’s not happening within a reasonable amount of time (based on both of your schedules) and it feels like he’s never going to commit to you THAT would be the perfect time to walk away.

      All the best,
      Pete

  • Kevin

    Hello Peter,

    I stumbled upon your site and let me give you a huge Thank You for the content you are pushing out. Something about your writing style makes everything seem real and personable. Keep it up!

    • Thanks Kevin and I will keep it up.

      You’re welcome and I do hope you learn something from my style.

      Pete

  • Daniel

    Hey Peter,

    So i signed up for this site mainly because I have a burning issue that I think I need someone with experience to help with. Ok so here goes:
    About 2 months ago I met an amazing girl, about 2 years younger than me(I’m 24) and was really outgoing and friendly. The only issue with her going into this friendship with me was that she just broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years about half a month ago prior to meeting me. Now when we started talking, we hit it off. We texted everyday and she even gave me a nickname; “My sunshine”. She would be excited to get texts from me and would even initiate conversations in the mornings. I would make her laugh and smile as much as possible through texts or even phone calls. When we started going out; (to movies, ice skating etc), she would even clear her schedules just to meet up with me. She started to open up to me about her problems and I was always there to solve them, be it friendship or school. Likewise whenever I was unhappy or angry, I’d come to her to lift my spirits. We even had a pact that we would have each other’s backs no matter what and that it was just the 2 of us against the world. We had so many things in common and we seemed perfect for each other.
    Now this is where everything starts to go downhill:
    One day I received a really bad piece of news from my school that left me devastated. To the point I just broke down. She couldn’t meet up with me because she had some issues of her own to deal with, but she could still text. As i poured out my emotions to her. I started questioning everything. Not being in the right state of mind, I said something along the lines of “Was all the texting and outings just to accommodate me? Do you really even care about me?” I think after I said this, something snapped in her. She got really mad at me and said “I go from friend to friend”, “she’s been “dreading opening her whatsapp recently” and that she needed “time on her own”; also that she’ll never tell me anything personal ever again. Going through what I’ve been through with her obviously left me with feelings for her, but ultimately I just wanted to be friends with her, and she’s told me multiple times she wants the same thing for now. Currently, she ignores me almost completely, even after I’ve reduced contact with her to about 1 text every 2 days. I’ve asked her whether she’s free for dinner and typically her reply would be “hell yea! etc etc” but now it’s just “probably.”, which gives me a very hesitant vibe. Since we don’t text as much as we used to. My only way of actually communicating with her are through Instagram stories, where I’ll (indirectly) update her on what I’m doing and sometimes she’d reply (indirectly) through hers. Her IG story frequencies and moods also tend to mirror mine.
    What makes the heartache even worse is that she watches my IG stories religiously, typically being the first 5 views, but ignores every other method of communication, though I’m pretty sure she views my texts almost instantly (just doesn’t reply). A small part of me keeps telling myself that maybe i’m better off without her, but majority of me keeps pulling me back, telling myself that maybe I could rekindle our friendship, that this is just a phase and it’ll pass and I could once again be her sunshine again though it seems highly unlikely. I know I sound pretty whipped, but I had an extremely rough and traumatic childhood; same as her, and I’ve never had such a close friend as her. So you can understand why I don’t want to lose her. What should I do? How much space should I give her and for how long? If she does go out with me, what would I say to facilitate rebuilding of our friendship?
    Just a helpful note: She’s downright gorgeous, and she has truckloads of dudes(who she calls ****boys) trying to get with her (which she always ignored in favour of hanging/talking with me).
    Also she’s extremely harsh when she breaks off contact with people. She blocks them off/ unfollows them but she isn’t doing it with me. It gives me mixed signals that maybe she too wants to rekindle our friendship, but her complete disregard for any of my texts says she doesn’t care about me anymore. I’m at a loss here and I’m trying to distract myself, but everything I do kinda pulls me back into the gutter (because it reminds me of what I used to do with her) and I start hurting again.

  • Wareesha

    Hey Peter
    I have a question
    There’s a guy in my university
    We were friends not that good, just classmates
    I was not that much a good In studies so I decided to focus more and study hard and yes I did got the results !
    But one day in my anatomy class the place where I used to sit in the front I notice this guy sitting right behind it ! Which made me nervous so I sat on the other row instead of that one
    I didn’t gave much importance and ignored
    Later we had groups in our class so I choosed to be in his group as he is good in making presentation
    During our conversation I noticed he made a joke and it was a bit funny but he was laughing more when I started to
    We had conversations but I felt he’s almost staring me every time during classes which made me to less focus on my study and I did my best to ignore him and still I do the same but now he is getting on my nerves last time I was with my other batch mates boys they call me to ask something and this guy he eventually joined the convo so I replied to them soon and left
    Our exams started and I noticed some difference in his friends like they were making fun of me while I was sitting on the bench and revising my work for the paper
    After my exams our new semester was started and I noticed him staring me more and more , he even tried to break my personal space by sitting close behind me and I could feel his breath or it was like he was giving warm blow back to my neck ,
    He even tried to get slight touch by pushing (slight push ) me
    He started groaning himself wearing good shirts and pants and good hair do , pretending to be a good student and sometimes making jokes to make the whole class laugh
    He also copies me now !
    I had one presentation and i was well prepared for it but when I enter the class after watching him my heart beat increased and I felt like crying not to explode I tried my best to remain calm but I was still shivering as he was sitting in the front not looking at me what I felt ,
    I think he always makes me feel judged
    I was never the quiet type of girl but I did became because of him
    I need help I don’t want to go away from my goals just because of this boy please help me
    I really don’t like him but sometimes I feel like I have feeling for him though in reality I don’t have !

    • Wareesha

      By the way I m girl not a boy *

  • Liviya

    hi peter, i really really need ur help. i am liviya, and i from kerala. And i really really like a guy. We studied in same college. He was my senior.During the college time, he always stare and smile at me.and that for a more than 15 seconds,usually i break the contact. but he graduated. after 2 yrs i contact him through facebook. so i create account on facebook and send a request. so on my birthday he wish me on time line ( nearly 6 pm). so i say thankuu through facebook. but he didnt replied. so i again chat so we chat for few mintues. he is very very friendly to me. actually we chat for only a few mintues. and i always initiate chat. but he reply immediately. after few days, he always giving answer to my text,not asking how was my day just like that.. but intially he asking all these . so one day i ask him do u feel any uncomfortable or am i disturbance for u. he replied he never feels like that way. but after he little bit changed making fun of me ,and reply in a funny manner. but now .. i don t know . he giving reply immediately and may spent for 2 or 3 conversation . then he didn t spend time with me. may be not looking my message. 2 days i visit his place where he is living. so i post picture on face book, after seeing this picture he ask me u visited my place, and he made 2 or conversation with me. that was the last conversation .then we don t chat. i don t peter why he is doing this way? its really really hurt me. ur only last hope. please help me…….

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