Are You Qualifying Her? – Attracting Women & Better Relationships

Learning how to attract more fulfilling relationships with the right woman is in one way about knowing how to qualify her.

When you qualify a woman the right way you do several things:

  • You create attraction in many ways up to and including getting a woman to qualify herself to you.
  • You're showing her you have high standards minus the arrogance.
  • Your assurance to yourself that she is the right type of woman you're looking for.
  • You're looking deeper into who she is in a way that is hard to fake. You're seeing past and beyond her persona, and looking for any real character flaws she may have which can be problematic in the future.

If and when you decide to further a relationship with her, through better qualification techniques...

You're giving BOTH of you the best chance in developing a longer-lasting, happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.

Qualifying a person is an integral part of the human mating ritual.

Imagine a male and female bird and how the male flamboyantly shows off his colors as the female "inspects" his goods. She scrutinizes everything about him from the way he displays his colors to the actual colors to how he moves.

What she is doing is qualifying her future mate. She wants to be more than sure he is worth her time and more importantly in the animal world, worthy of her future offspring.

Men and women are not much different except our rituals are a little more complicated.

We've developed some pretty elaborate forms of qualifying each other to find our best mate, although some might argue that in the modern world - we're failing at it.

(What do you think? Are as humans dumbing ourselves down? You can leave your answer in the comment section below.)

When a woman is qualifying a man we typically call it a "test" and you can read all about that in this amazing page I wrote:

Understanding A Woman’s Test and How To Pass Them.

BUT those tests  are only a piece of the qualification process.

Men do test women too but there's less known about exactly how it happens and if you look closely at the early interactions of a guy - you could miss it entirely because, just maybe, he's not as good at it, doesn't do it much at all, or doesn't want to do it because he's more concerned with passing her tests.

For example:

I've been giving advice to a friend who is constantly worried about making mistakes.

He spends way too much time thinking about what he might do wrong that he completely forgets about qualifying her first.

It's as if he'll almost accept any behavior from a woman just as long as she likes him or accepts him and approves of him.

Which is wrong on so many levels and does little to building a real relationship with a good woman. This imbalance often leads to major  problems in the future and many dating problems along the way.

All in all - learning and knowing HOW to qualify a woman to meet your needs and desires is extremely important part of dating and should never be avoided IF you want to attract better relationships into your life.

The sad but truth is:

You will NEVER find a better woman unless you first qualify her.

You might get lucky, sure. It "could" happen. But why rely on luck when you can rely on something proven to work.

For now:

Stop worrying so much about passing her little tests and START testing her and the rest will fall in place much easier and much more efficiently.

More on her tests later.

Get a Girlfriend Tip #2: Adopt the attitude of the Interviewer…

QUALIFICATION, Qualification, qualification.

It’s all about qualification, my friend. The only way you can maintain a strong and confident attitude out there is to be the chooser – not the chosen.

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How do you qualify a woman?

Couple Better Relationship Qualify

First thing first - knowing the type of woman you want with the knowledge that she is actually the right type for you. This basically means, sure you might have an idea or a vague image of her - but then you must also be objective enough to know if her type does indeed match your type.

Very generally - couples often fill in their weaker areas. You're good at some things. She's good at other things. Together you make more than one plus one.

BUT the secret most people miss is that, within your own self you MUST be capable, satisfied, happy, and feel good about yourself.

You can NOT USE your partner to fill yourself up to make you feel better about yourself.

The pieces you add only ENHANCE your already magnificent self.

As it's said:

"If you’re not happy being single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

You may be too eager to find a girlfriend. Sure it feels good. Regular sex. A woman to hang out with.

But it doesn’t make you a happy couple.

Spread yourself.

Date many women.

Make yourself secure and happy before you get into a relationship."

Being Single is Just as Good! Do You Need a Girlfriend To Be Happy?

Know yourself, your stronger points and your weaker areas, and know what kind or type of woman you're looking for that will enhance, not fill or generally complete your life.

The qualities most men look for in a woman tend to be very basic. There are not many men out there who are actually looking for a miserable woman who treats people like shit.

With that said...

Go ABOVE those basic items and search for true compatibility in relation to your personality type.

Sure, qualify her for the good stuff, nothing wrong with that and it's a good thing BUT also look beyond the basics.

Look for more than just a pretty face, a nice smile, and a kind demeanor.

Since this isn't an article on finding your perfect woman I'm going to skip forward.

If you want to read a little more about knowing whether a woman is right for you, try these two articles I've posted here at DiaLteG TM:

7 Ways to Tell & Test If You Are Settling For the Wrong Person and...

How Do You Know If You’ll Make A Good Couple, Become Exclusive Or Not?

Onward...

Five Steps to Qualifying A Woman Which Can Lead to a Better Relationship For You AND HER.

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  • ME

    How about this: Is your inside beauty more prettier than your outer one? If she says yes, well, she may likes you, or just telling the truth, and if she says no, than you are rejected, but she said basically that her inside beauty is not so nice, so that rejection could not be bad…although some of them respond with maybe, to avoid an answer, but then, again, you could joke like it’s a tough question for her, so you will still have an edge.

    • Hey ME – The concept is good but women generally want you to find that information out for yourself. Just asking won’t give you a real response.

      Also it implies something negative like – “I hope you’re better looking on the inside than you are on the outside.” and without humor attached would probably just seem mean.

      Either way I don’t think it’s good at qualifying a woman.

      The concept is good because while her outward appearance might draw you in, her “inner beauty” will keep you around.

      But again, finding that out must be done by other means because for one:

      Most people believe, deep down their intentions are good and will take offense.

      Two: Saying something is one thing but “actions” are more reliable. I can tell you what a great guy I am until I’m blue in the face but it won’t make me a great guy. See the difference?

      Read the key points above again:

      Are the challenging her in a fun way?

      Are they flirty and show her indirectly you might be into her looks but it’s not ALL you’re into?
      (…)
      NOW LET’S ADD – Do they create emotionally charged responses?

      Whereas your question might create an emotionally charged response it’s not done in a fun flirty way, which indirectly tells her you’re into her looks but you’re looking for more.

      Yours is a direct question with no humor attached.

      Again – it’s a great idea – it shows you’re looking deeper and you’re trying this whole “qualification” thing and you’re looking for some great questions.

      And yes, for some women you’ll get some charged up emotional answer depending on how she takes it.

      Just keep in mind – what you’re asking is what you’re trying to find out and doing it directly like this doesn’t create attraction in the literal sense.

      It would be better to tease her or lead her into something where she’s acting a little mean on the inside ( humorously ) and the bust her ass over it.

      That way her response would be more genuine, you’ll get her charged up, laughing, she’ll show her real self, she’ll have more fun with it AND you’ll be creating attraction at the same time without trying.

      Something like – “Wow, you’re eyes are mesmerizing. Is that why I’m detecting a little devil inside?”

      I believe the idea is to lightly and playfully accuse her of being bad.

      Turn it around and have fun with it.

      Thanks for writing ME and hope this helps you figure out this whole qualification thing better.

      Keep going with it,

      Pete

  • Michael

    A quality that i would say i’m looking for specifically in a woman is LOYALTY. Loyalty is probably the most important trait in a relationship(of any kind) that really tells you all you need to know about a person,and weather they should be in your life,and if you can trust them or not…..

    • Loyalty is a tough one because women know without a doubt when you’re testing her in this area. She will begin to question your past relationships and she’ll question if you have jealousy issues or if you’ve been cheated on too often. (Making her think you must be doing something wrong if all these girls are cheating on you.) That is why qualifying questions may not work in this area unless you’re a master conversationalist. The last thing you want her to do is to start dumping on you her problematic past relationships because if you find you really like her she’ll probably just want to be friends.

      If you really want her to qualify her loyalty to you you give her more space than she can take.

      Set yourself apart from other guys by being way too comfortable letting her do her own thing. You test for loyalty by letting her understand you’re okay if she decides to be with someone else. In fact you’re so confident about it other men don’t even matter to you. If you can do that and stand by your convictions, in other words have a totally congruent attitude, when this woman falls for you, you’ll see just how many women would never consider cheating on you.

      Also think about how many women you’ve known who chose the worst possible guy for them yet they keep giving him a second chance without ever straying themselves.

      Try to think of this loyalty issue from another perspective. You give a woman every reason to be with you and I’m willing to bet you can trust her to the end of the earth and she will never cheat. Especially because lots of women don’t put sex as that important of an issue in their lives. As least not as much as men do. Generally speaking of course.

      If you must qualify her in this area make sure you do it separately from relationships. Try telling her a cute little secret and tease her about keeping it or not,

      “You caught me. I’m a nice guy but it’s our little secret.”
      “Can you keep a secret…I think you’re falling for me. Don’t worry I won’t tell anyone.”
      “If you let my secret out I’m going to call your Mom and find out all the skeletons in your closet.”

      I still think it’s more important to understand that when you’re confident enough to get and keep any women attracted to you, this loyalty thing won’t be a problem at all. And as long as you keep doing what was working with her she will have no reason but to be loyal to her new man, Michael.

      Hope that helps and if you struggle in this area go to work immediately on being indifferent by always raising your self-worth.

      (There are also cute little trust games you can play with her which are fun…like “close your eyes I’ve got something for you.”, then walk away leaving her wondering. This proves your indifference and says you’re a fun guy.)

      Let me know what you come up with.

      Later for now.