Learning how to attract more fulfilling relationships with the right woman for you is ( in a huge part ) about knowing how to qualify her.
This is because when you qualify women the right way – you’re pre-selecting her and assuring you and her are more than just compatible but can succeed in developing a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Oh yeah… it also just happens to create an enormous amount of attraction.
I’ve been giving advice to a friend who is constantly worried about making mistakes. He spends way too much time thinking about what he might do wrong that he completely forgets about qualifying her first.
In case you are not clear with the definition, qualifying is part of a typical human mating ritual.
Let me explain with the “birds but not the bees” and how they mate…
The male flamboyantly shows off his colors as female inspects his goods.
She scrutinizes everything about him from the way he displays his colors to the actual colors themselves.
What she is doing is qualifying her future mate.
She wants to be more than sure he is worth her time and more importantly in the animal world, worthy of her future offspring.
Men and women are not much different except we add higher levels of qualifications to the list. In other words we’ve developed some pretty elaborate forms of qualifying each other to find our best mate although some might argue that in the modern world – we’re failing at it.
When a woman is qualifying a man we typically call it her “test” and you can read all about that in this amazing page I wrote –> Understanding A Woman’s Test and How To Pass Them
Guys who don’t have much success with women and are often quoted as “being too much of a good guy” don’t really do this at all which ( since qualifying a woman can actually create attraction ) either leaves him single or just happy to “mate” with any woman who will have them.
This leads to major relationship problems and I would dare to say – not the happiest most fulfilling sex and home life.
If you’re one of those guys I will ask you this,
“Who is qualifying who?”
If you are constantly worrying about making mistakes or not screwing up then you are letting women qualify you AND you’re constantly failing her tests.
You become that male bird I mentioned above.
You are merely showing off your colors and hoping she will pick you.
Don’t get me wrong that works great for birds.
However for us nice “humans” it just doesn’t work as effectively.
Even if we get lucky and it does it usually ends up with her always being in control. We often wind up with women who have all the power and lose a piece of ourselves in the relationship.
Not to mention she’s more likely to look elsewhere to fulfill her sexual desires and needs.
She might even marry us for “the family” but since it’s not a complete relationship she’ll look for that from some other guy who DOES qualify her, turn her on endlessly, train her appropriately, or completes many of her needs.
If you’re feeling adventurous, read this for some amazingly simple but true facts about women –> Girlfriend Training – Facts About Women
So let it be said blatantly…
If you want to attract more women and attract women who you feel are better than average you must learn how to qualify or as a woman would see it test her too…
This actually can be done through your conversations because women feel more attraction over time during the “talking” phase of first interactions.
As for those mistakes you’re constantly worrying about making or are stopping you from passing her tests and so on…
Once a woman feels attracted to you she will let you get away with a reasonable amount of smaller mistakes. She knows you’re not perfect. In fact if you were she might feel you’re actually too good for her.
If you’re confused about how to qualify a woman and are looking for exact examples on how to do it you’re looking at this problem the wrong way…
It’s not your answers to her… It is HER ANSWERS to you and knowing how to proceed from there.
Here’s a simple explanation on how your conversations should go with women which create more attraction –> Create Instant Attraction So She Calls You First, How To Talk to Women Read it when you can. It’s written by a master at it, David Wygant and it’s located here at DiaLteG TM.
Be more concerned with qualifying her first and the rest WILL fall into place.
Since we are dealing with a woman’s ability or need to test let’s assume she’s already feeling a little attraction towards you. Otherwise she would not be testing you anyways.
Yes, it’s true – if she’s testing you – it means she’s interested. She might also assume that of you – if you’re testing her or qualifying her then you must be in the very least interested in her. ( No need to show it or say it or prove it to each other. )
Women will give you many chances and more often than you might even believe. Women have insecurities just like you and I. They want to be liked. They want to feel you are liking them back or else they get caught up in their head trying to figure it all out which, in a weird way, actually stimulates her attraction even more.
Knowing what questions to ask that are fun, creative, and demand qualification.
How do you know if your questions are qualifying her or not?
Well the easiest way to tell is…
Do they challenge her?
Do they, in a fun sometime flirty way, show her you don’t just settle for looks?
Do they lead to more than one word questions from her AND at the same time can be simply stated in as few words as possible?
There is actually a product designed to show you how to do this in as few words as possible which more often than not leads her to feel uncontrollably attracted to you – watch this video as Mehow explains it further with his clever and definitely humorous manners –> 3 Second Attraction. Personally I find it quite amazing and definitely worth looking into because I was doing it with women without even realizing it.
Do they come from a place of scarcity or abundance?
If you can satisfy those answers and still have fun doing it you’ll have no problems getting her to qualify herself to you.
The key points again so we don’t forget them:
- Are the challenging her in a fun way?
- Are they flirty and show her indirectly you might be into her looks but it’s not ALL you’re into?
- Do they lead the conversation someplace beyond her word answer AND you’re doing it in as little words as possible?
- Do they come from a place of scarcity like you have to have her because you have no options?
- NOW LET’S ADD – Do they create emotionally charged responses?
Once you’ve got a handle or understanding on all that you’re ready to follow to five step “qualification steps below to start attracting not only better women but better most fulfilling relationships too:
1. Admit to yourself right now you CAN be the selector!
You CAN be a man who has choices with women.
This is just “word play” but it’s a good start to actually believing it.
If you feel you have no choices you will in fact give yourself no options.
2. Learn everything you can on how women test you and every guy she’s feeling attracted to whether she knows she’s doing it or not.
Again there’s a great page here at DiaLteG TM to help you learn all you can on these often called “shit tests” and it’s right here –> Understanding A Woman’s Test and How To Pass Them.
Once you study that you’ll notice the patterns and you’ll begin to see it happening in practically every one of your interactions with women.
Remember this just doesn’t happen between men and women – socially speaking it’s a big part of each and everyone of our lives – from your boss to your best friend to the guy who wants your job or respect and even at a supermarket – everyone’s jostling for validation, approval, qualification – call it whatever you like and often they form or come out in tests between us.
3. Test women right back.
This is where you get to create attraction and at the same time be fun and creative.
This is where you learn to challenge her on may levels.
This is where you establish yourself as having a high enough value to expect more than just looks or an average woman in your life.
You want more – learn how to get more. Expect more. Demand that you won’t settle for mediocrity in your life especially when it comes to a woman sharing your bed.
Trust me – women have higher respect for men who want more than just a quick lay or an easy relationship because one bows down at every whim.
They WANT to be challenged fully. They want emotional charges. They don’t want to sit around bored shitless because the main character in their lives is just a guy who felt like he setteld for her. THAT only makes her feel worthless and unappreciated.
4. Practice and refine your conversational skills until they are beyond natural and competent.
You probably will screw it up at first but that’s a good thing because it means you’re learning.
Failing is just another way to show you what works and what doesn’t.
If you’re like me – you’re also going to piss off a few women but as long as you’re not an overly rude bastard – she ( they ) will get over it.
Remember if she’s getting upset superficially – for one – that a test of how you handle her emotions and two – you’ve just “disqualified” one major pain in the ass from being let in your life. One less possibly failed and miserable relationship.
For some – this stuff does take time – for others – you’ll catch on quickly. I have no way of telling from where I sit how it will happen for you. I can only guess based on my experiences.
5. Integrating it seamlessly into your personality.
No real attraction expert will tell you to change who you are. ( Within reason of course. )
The easiest way to understand how all this works is who you are, your inner-self, the guy inside you who DOES know how to attract women whether you let him out or not simply needs to be brought out to the surface.
Practically every man walking this planet are born with a natural ability to attract their best possible mate or our species probably would’ve died out long ago.
Unlocking it is key. Letting it out to flourish and grow is another piece.
Not getting in your own way or so stuck inside your head you squash it is another way of achieving all kinds of success with women.
Qualifying women IS a little about knowing how to play her “mating” game a little better than her – but’s it’s also about attracting better relationships by assuring you’re meant to be together
There’s a ton of great advice on this post so make sure you follow ALL the links and learn as you go along.
The five steps I’ve laid out for us are not exclusive definitions but more of a guideline to assure we stick to a path which can guarantee results.
Just knowing what “qualificating” is and what it means and how women use it to their advantage is helpful but what is more useful is knowing how to put it all to real practice with real effort with real women – and as I’ve been told and experienced – being more than willing and able to burn a few bridges to gain a complete understanding on how it all works.
Any other way – we at some point must admit – we’re settling and as little as fair as that is to us – it’s certainly NOT fair to HER that we feel we settled for a mediocre relationship with her.
Begin to qualify ALL women and start attracting better more fulfilling, fun, and lasting relationships because it’s the least of what we deserve especially if we’re willing to go to these lengths to get this SHIT HANDLED once and for all.