You're not the loudmouth at the party. Your social life doesn't include a hundred friends. You have a good close family and a few great friends you're actively involved with, and that's all you need to enjoy life.
You're a little quiet, somewhat shy, and you like to take things at your own, slightly slower pace than average.
Yet, for some reason it feels like women don't like you all that much because of your somewhat soft demeanor.
Is this the truth?
Could it really be the reason why or is something else going on with your non-existent relationships with women?
In today's post I'm going to give you every opportunity to get past your shyness and break out of your shell, if that's what you want.
A real plan so this is never a problem again.
And of the reality behind what is really going on.
Guess what man?
Lots of great women DO fall for shy and quiet guys ALL the time.
If you're thinking that it's because you're shy or a little timid and this is why you're failing with women, you're only partly right.
I can guarantee it's not happening for you because of these two main reasons and of course an obvious third reason.
- You failed to make some sort of intimate move on her at the right time.
- She felt rejected by you because of it.
It’s not the necessarily your shyness that pushed her away. It’s because when you’re overly timid or hesitant in this area, she doesn’t know where you at, how you feel about her, where you’re going with her, and because you won’t take the necessary lead.
You're waiting around for her instead of taking charge and you're not being realistically proactive, plus you're holding on to a false belief that women don't go for the shy guys.
Something I cover extensively in my online book specifically in this chapter:
You're rejecting yourself before it even happens. Before you even know if she actually does like you or not.
And as stated above, some women are actually feeling rejected by YOU!
And the all-too-obvious number three:
- You're not meeting and interacting with enough women to give yourself a even half a chance of attracting one. You're not communicating to women in a way which makes you a sexual option so the friend's zone is where you find yourself often living.
The solution to this "shy and quiet" problem might seem like a no-brainer and it's probably the reason why you haven't tried or failed to get past it:
Overcome your shyness and problem solved, right?
There's unfortunately no direct correlation between being quiet and shy and not being good with women, therefore fixing your shyness or suddenly becoming the life of the party is not a guarantee women will automatically become attracted to you.
I mean, sure, it might work a little because you're doing something different and in the very least giving yourself the opportunity for a change to happen, but it's still not a guarantee.
It's much harder to overcome being shy and social awkward or anxious in a crowd than it is to learn how to attract women which is why so many men and women struggle getting past it.
The real solution does (in part) make it easier to achieve success when the shyness is taken care of ONLY because it can help as in meeting more women, feeling more confident, and being more free to communicate attractively.
A real plan you can start using today to use your shyness attractively and/or overcome it entirely.
Constantly and consistently work on your social nervousness or shyness through confidence building techniques, re-framing your beliefs, all the while learning the ability to start seeing things from other people perspectives.
Members of DiaLteG™ get this as part of the whole package to help you out:
You can also buy it as a single page if you like.
A few small steps a day can go a very long way so don't push too far ahead because it can be overwhelming and discouraging too.
You must get out and face your fears for it to happen.
You can do some things at home however finding the courage to face your fears MUST be practiced as often as possible.
As you're working on your shyness and social anxiety, make sure you give yourself a real boost in confidence.
This will help you with the shy thing and also make you naturally more attractive to lots of great women who deserve to meet someone like you.
Here's a few posts to look at:
While you're doing all that you MUST find a way to get past this negative belief that women don't fall for or feel attracted shy and quiet guys because they do... a lot!
Read these two posts and I promise to help and convince you that despite your shyness, or even some of your anxieties - you can use it to your advantage.
That's the whole plan.
Very simple, isn't it?
Do your limited beliefs exercises to overcome any and all social anxiety you have, which may or may not include being shy.
The more important part is the social anxieties which are holding you back from meeting women.
The shyness - not a big as deal you might expect.
Convince yourself one way or another through learning and real-world knowledge, something I show in the posts above, that despite being a shy and quiet guy you CAN certainly attract lots of women.
Work on building your confidence and self-esteem because without those, all may be lost and useless as you're interacting with women.
Yes - you can and must NOT avoid this step. I won't apologize. It's a MUST!
Learn why and how you might be rejected YOURSELF before a woman even does, because I've found lots of shy guys do that way too much.
Here's your assignment - so to speak:
In other words, you really have to get over the fact that you may not feel good enough or capable because you ARE!
On the side - I understand your fears and anxiety of rejection may hold you back from making the first move and taking the lead, so read these:
If it's not obvious, you're probably not meeting enough women.
Although this will be the toughest part for you, aside from learning the skills that actually do attract women - which is a necessity for ANY man, shy or not... something you can learn easily get here:
It's not an impossibility and if you've gone this far, you're going to be just fine.
Here are my links to help you meet more women:
Time for the conclusion and some final words.
This reason - being shy and quiet - is just one reason why you (or any other guy) might be failing with women, but it's a solvable problem once you have a plan that works and you actually follow through with it.
Sure - getting past the social awkwardness can help but it's NOT the main reason because women DO like shy and quiet guys.
You most likely (if you're meeting women) failed to make a clear intimate move at the right time, and women are feeling rejected by you.
You're not taking the lead and following through with it because of fears and doubt in yourself coming from many different areas of your life.
You're waiting too much and for too long hoping a woman will do for you, what you are expected to do as a MAN.
So make sure you read this chapter:
Obviously, if you're not meeting women because of this problem, then your chances of success go down...
BUT even if you did charge all that, it's not a guarantee because you STILL need the SKILL of attractive communication.
Something you can get here right here:
Do your limited belief exercises.
Follow along with each and every step and this problem goes away... Period!
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