It’s no secret I date younger women.
Some hate me for it.
Some love me because of it.
And I suppose some men even idolize me.
If you’re on my side I’ll give you some great advice on attracting the unpredictable younger ones.
“The first and most important mindset is that women LIKE older men.
If they’re driving you nuts here’s your chance to quiet your mind, challenge those younger ones, and secure your knowledge about those “available” women you’re trying to keep for yourself.
Rule number 1. Don’t get too wrapped up in how she’s acting.
It’s quite normal for a woman her age to be here one minute and there the next.
It’s probably just one reason you are attracted to her.
Younger women especially in their twenties may not be completely assured of who they are and what they want out of life.
You have to understand that, recognize it, and NEVER ever try to change that about her.
So she’s not “there” for you.
Instead of trying to NOT be there first understand this…
If you try to NOT be there for her this does not mean she will instantly see you as an indifferent challenge.
Notice what they’re doing to you – It’s challenging you.
They’re driving you a little crazy.
And on top of that you FEEL attracted to her.
Well that is exactly how you challenge them too.
“But John as a “sticking point” that he always seems to run into when he takes younger women out on dates: he has a hard time Closing the Deal.
You tell her SHE would make a great friend while you’re teasing her. You enjoy the moments with her and if you get busy avoid “needing” to contact her.
Not because you’re trying to play a”game” but because there are other women in your life too.
You challenge her in ways most guys are afraid of. By flirting with her and teasing her a little with a touch of humor.
When she tells you nicely you should find a girlfriend you tell her you’re saving yourself for marriage…
Or because you only like to sleep around…
Or they get too clingy around you…
Or they only want you for your body…
What you’re doing is not giving her the answer she is looking for and you’re having fun with her at the same time.
Then when she once again mentions the friendship or calls you out of the blue you accuse her of being like every other girl.
And perhaps a little too needy.
She may not settle that easily.
She may want to date around.
She may love the freedom and having minimal responsibilities.
That’s her choice and the only thing you can do about it is –
Give her even more freedom and space while at the same time adding a real challenge of getting YOU.
Which is going to mean following rule 1 first and foremost.
Don’t get too wrapped up in how she’s acting.
Women used to drive me nuts all the time but when I stopped myself from “needing” something from them, they stopped driving me crazy.
And in turn they started feeling more attracted to me.
When I stopped following them around and starting following my life around I began enjoying my stability more.
Do that and this makes you the stable “part” of her life.
The go-to-guy when she wants an escape, or a string free great time, or a real guy to hang with who’s not going to get overly emotional just because of her moods.
This leads you to Rule Number 2: Security, Patience, and Unwavering Confidence.
Secure in your ability to be a fun challenging guy and the security in knowing life is pretty, cool single or not.
The patience and strength to delay gratification.
She’s young, cool, and unpredictable now but in two years you might find her more stable and a little more predictable.
If you stay patient AND are strong enough to date around and explore ALL of your options – you just might find her being driven nuts by your charm.
And the tables will then be turned in YOUR favor.
Confidence in who you are… which is not easily affected by someone else’s actions.
A confident “real man” also doesn’t obsess about what other people think or do. He doesn’t take it as an insult if someone doesn’t like him, or disagrees with him. Above all, he isn’t needy, clingy, and always trying to be the center of attention.
You want a secret which helped me get past the stage of women driving me crazy?
When I put all the emphasis on one girl at a time, I felt like I was always going to miss something.
Or she was going to hook up with someone else. And wow, what a surprise… they did.
But when I learned how to attract many different types of women I found I wanted to explore more options.
I also found it was easier to be patient.
My confidence was growing and so was the security of who I was and what I could offer to lots of different women.
Younger, older or not even single… just for fun… of course.
Suddenly the girl who took 3 months to get back to me became the cool “chic” who was letting me date around.
I loved that we could pick things up exactly where we left off.
I loved how we both could go about our lives and somehow found our way back to each other.
To me – a girl like that meant I never felt pressured to commit early.
Now I know some of you might be thinking,
“But aren’t these women typically attracted to guys who live on the edge? Or the so-called bad boy type?”
Well of course they are.
But they’re not NORMALLY attracted to guys almost twice their age who act like delinquents because of some mid age crisis they’re suffering from.
Remember if she’s not sure what she want there’s a chance she will date one guy her age who is unpredictable and one guy that’s older who is patience, secure, and a little more stable than she is.
And that could easily be you when you follow these simple rules of attracting younger women.
Remember these words because they will help you gain the confidence to attract a fun younger woman…
With age comes many benefits. Experience, security, understanding, and social status are all byproducts of getting older.
Follow my rules above – make sure you follow the links I supplied because they are all about attracting younger women with some great tips to help you go as far as you want with them…
And please don’t let “other” people tell you it’s not possible, or how it’s immoral, or how it’s disgusting…