Did you know you can take the qualities of a jerk and use them to attract women – without turning into a jerk yourself?
As long as you’re open to what women do see in a bad boy.
I used to hate the jerks for stealing my potential dates. They showed total disregard for me and the life I was trying to lead. I believed everything below is what was attracting women:
- Women only like jerks so women will never like me.
- I guess have to become a loud obnoxious jerk to even get noticed.
- I guess have to break the law to be a bad boy, move to Hollywood, get a tattoo, or wear more leather.
- If I stop respecting others hot chics will come to me easily.
- I guess I must blow off women. I won’t show up on time. Who cares about her time or her money. I won’t call her when I say I will…she’ll probably think I’m cheating on her but that will make her want me even more.
- I guess I have to act out. If a guy messes with my girl he’s done for. I’ll threaten his ass and if I can’t beat him up I’ll find someone who can. Because I know any dude that talks to her is trying to get in her pants. And I know she wants to cheat on me.
- I guess I have to make women understand that I am the man in the relationship and she will do what I ask, when I ask it.
You see it never really occurred to me to use my brain to figure out what was really going on. Until now that is.
And I’m going to show you how to do it yourself. It’s very easy when you try it a few times so don’t get disgusted with it too quickly because this stuff does work.
Here Are The Four Steps To Use Any “Bad Boy Trait” To Your Advantage and Attract Women – “Nicely 😀
First Step: Discover or find your limiting beliefs.
I listed some great examples above to help you get started. All you have to do is understand a “limited belief” is something you believe which stops you from getting what you want.
I’ll use this one to get you started.
“ I guess I must blow off women. I won’t show up on time. Who cares about her time or her money. I won’t call her when I say I will…she’ll probably think I’m cheating on her but that will make her want me even more.
Second Step: Find out why any “respectable” woman would be attracted to a guy who acts like that.
An example: Well women do like to date men that are mysterious. They love a challenge and they want men who can get other women. They are also highly competitive.
If women believe she will lose you to another if she doesn’t act quickly, she’ll be more likely to chase you.
Third Step: Filter out the jerks rude behavior.
In this case it is blowing a woman off, being disrespectful, and making her think you are cheating on her.
Fourth and Final Step:Take those filtered results and turn them into an action you can easily do.
Blowing a woman off becomes -> setting up dates in advance so she understands you are a busy man.
You can do this by making sure you are a busy person and not revealing too early on any information about yourself which she does not need to know.
Especially if it’s just cleaning your bathroom on a Wednesday night. Then again… I bet that will actually work better by just saying,
“We should go out soon. We’ll have a good time. I’m free Wednesday…no….wait…I’m not. I’m cleaning my bathroom that night. But I’m definitely free the following Thursday. So you should make sure you don’t have any plans.”
(hint hint WOMEN LOVE CLEAN BATHROOMS hint hint)
Who care about her time or money becomes -> understanding her time is her time and her hard-earned money is something she may want to share.
Lots of women do work hard for their money. Do not assume you have to pay for everything. And if you have to cancel for reasons beyond your control, call her and clearly state the reasons why.
“Hey Lisa. I know I made plans with you next Thursday but I failed to realize I already had a previous engagement. I’m getting married.”
Let her respond then come back with,
“Of course I’m not getting married, you’re so gullible. What if I were to tell you I was really a woman named Paula? Would you believe that too. Honestly though, I made plans to go shopping with a good friend. You can come along if you like, but I must warn you I think she’s gay.”
Letting her to believe you are cheating on her or dating around becomes -> don’t cheat if you are in a committed relationship or date around if you’re not committed to her.
That should be an easy one if you truly are a nice guy. Women respect a man who is strong enough to resist temptation.
But it also means if you feel the relationship is just not for you, stop, step back, and let her know immediately that you want out.
Don’t screw around or attempt to fuck your way out because that is what jerks do.
- Real men know how to reject.
- Real men know when it is time to say goodbye and leave as a close friend, and not an enemy.
- And real attractive men are not afraid of being single.
Letting her believe you are seeing other woman when you not in a committed relationship, is actually not a bad thing. Just make sure you are seeing other women and have several different dates lined up.
Just don’t advertise it. Don’t throw it in her face or it will backfire on you.
Do the opposite.
If she asks how many women you are seeing give her a cocky and funny answer. Something like this:
“So Pete, how many women ARE you seeing right now?”
“Does that include my Mom?”
“Do you mean today, or this week?”
“Did you say seeing, or sleeping?”
“How high can you count?”
Then play into a flirty conversation with her. You don’t have to answer a question directly if you mix in good humor. If she really wants the answer she will keep trying and in that case, keep turning it up, but make sure she’s laughing. Trust me she will eventually give up. Sure you might frustrated her but don’t let it get to you.
“What do you do for a living?”
“I run an online dating service for little people. It’s called Midget Match.”
“I breathe deep. Eat wonderfully exotic foods. Sometimes I even enjoy dancing the Samba.”
Yes. I hear you. This is work! But you know what, the reward is attracting more women while not losing your “niceness.” Trust me or not – I think it’s worth it.
I’ve used them myself and saw quick results and gained a perspective which opened up so many more possibilities. (Of course when I used them I didn’t know I was doing it.)
These four steps can be used to turn yourself into a man most women will be happy to choose over some punk who is hiding behind an over blown ego because he thinks that’s what real women want.
Do this for at least five of your worst case beliefs. You will see women reacting to you differently. Except unlike the jerk or bad boy, you’ll make her happy and not depressed, angry, or bitter.
You’ll be creating attraction without treating her like shit. I hate to use the old cliche but it’s a “win-win situation.” For you. For me. And women will thank you for it… in her own special way.
What I’ve shown you is a quick way to learn and it will only help those who are close but not quite.
If you have serious “nice guy” issues and you’re totally fed up with it all, AND you want your manhood back… this is what can you take you as far as you want to go. Yes. The ever popular “Bad Boy Formula” is back and upgraded from my old teacher… Carlos Xuma.