This guide is filled with examples, tips, a few downloads, and rules to get your “phone game” working for you and not against you.
Here is what you’re going to learn PLUS 4 rules to follow a few mistakes to avoid:
- You Really Like Her – How To Send Great Good Night Text Messages
- Women Love A Sense Of Humor – Text Message Jokes
- You Like Each Other – 6 Perfectly Sweet Text Messages to Send
- Cute Texts to Send a Girl Which Will Grab Her Attention
- Try These Romantic Text Messages To Send Your Girlfriend
- Four Steps To Get Her Interested – Even Desperate To Text You Back
- Creating Fun Flirty Messages – The Three Guidelines to Text Flirting
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Before you’ve had your first date with a girl, she won’t feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably not the only guy texting her.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they’re texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he’s getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.
The exact opposite is true!
The more texts you send before meeting up with girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her!
You Need to Immediately Establish Yourself as a Flirt Here is the thing… the longer you wait to begin flirting with a woman, the more resistance you are going to face and the tougher it is going to be to make the transition from ‘friendly conversation’ to ‘flirtatious conversation.’
In fact, you may never even get a chance to start flirting… because she might have already dismissed you as another boring chump.
You can’t blame women for this… they get hit on by so many guys that they have to make a decision pretty quickly whether or not they want to keep talking to you…
Is “Small Talk” Your Missing Link to Dating and Seduction Success?
Now you may be really confused as this probably goes against everything you’ve been taught by various dating coaches and pickup artists in the seduction community.
But hear me out…
I think we can all agree that small talk is unavoidable, right?
In fact, my constant need to avoid small talk “at all costs” was seriously detrimental to my success with women.
But I’m saying… not only should you not avoid it… but you should EMBRACE IT.
Embrace small talk?
How Mastering “Small Talk” Can Transform Your Conversations and Create Serious Attraction When You’re talking to Women
Now for the rules of texting girls…
There are some pretty basic rules to follow when you’re trying to flirt and get a girl to like you over text message.
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Rule 1: Be Inconsistent with Your Messages.
Women chase after men that they can’t figure out.
If you always text a girl back right after she messages you then you become boring and predictable.
However, if you are sporadic, and she is never quite certain when your next message is going to come she will find herself waiting for them.
When I first started dating my girlfriend she told me that she used to constantly check her phone to see if I texted her.
She couldn’t concentrate at work because she was always wondering if I had sent her a text message.
That is how to text a girl in a way that captures her attention and gets her mind glued on you.
Rule 2: Always appear to be having a good time.
It is important that whenever she gets a text message from you it comes as a welcome message. This means that you should always seem happy, fun, and upbeat in your messages to her.
Avoid complaining, seeming bored, tired, or uninteresting.
Instead, act as if whatever you are currently doing is the most possible fun you could be having.
This will make her associate you with good times.
Rule 3: Keep your messages short and flirtatious.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to write her your life story over text message. Instead keep the messages short and to the point. But make them fun.
Make them something she will enjoy getting from you.
You can do this by teasing her, saying funny things, or just keeping an overall flirtatious humor.
If you aren’t sure what sort of lines count as flirting, then check out the Teasing and Banter Line Cheat Sheet.
THAT is how to text a girl in a way that keeps the vibe fun.
Rule 4: Use SMS simply to get you in her mind.
Let’s face it, the more a girl thinks about you the more likely she will be to convince herself that she likes you. This is why it is great to use messages as a way to get her into your mind.
This means that you can send random text messages throughout the week. Each message should bring positive association with you in her mind.
However, don’t feel the need to respond back when she writes you back.
Remember, you need to be sporadic with your texts.
This means that you should always be the last one to text.
What to Message Girls.
Because SMS messaging is a fairly new concept, many of us have never been shown the secrets to texting a girl.
So naturally, most guys surely blow it when it comes time to craft the perfect message.
Most guys misjudge the reason that a woman seems to quickly lose interest in them.
One of the biggest reasons a man will lose a woman’s interest is over the “phone game.”
Texting girls is something that any guy can learn.
But it takes practice, knowledge, and the ability to recognize what kind of messaging women respond to.
In order to figure out what kind of SMS attract a woman and keep her liking you, you must first realize what proper messaging should be used for.
3 Reasons for To Use Your Phone.
Usually, a man will be using his phone for one of three purposes:
- He is trying to make an initial contact after meeting her out somewhere.
- He just wants to keep himself in the girl’s mind until the next time he sees her.
- He is using texting to escalate his relationship with the woman to a more playful or sexual level.
Biggest Mistakes You Might Be Making
In a minute, I’m going to talk about how to text girls the right way… but first, I want to talk about some of the big mistakes you might be making with your cell phone.
Once you overcome these errors, it will be a lot easier for you to reach your “phone game” goals.
Blunder #1: Sending a boring message serves no point. These sort of messages include:
“How you doing?” or
“What”s going on?”
Texts like these DO NOT distinguish you from the hundreds of other guys that are also messaging the woman you’re talking to.
Blunder #2: The second big blunder is messaging a girl too much and too often.
SMS messages should be used in limited doses in order to create mystery, suspense, and intrigue.
If you are texting women all the time, they will stop looking forward to your messages.
Blunder#3: The final blunder guys make is they try to have a conversation over SMS.
Messaging shouldn’t be used as a way to get to know a girl.
Some other big blunders are:
- Always messaging her back too quickly and appearing needy.
- Trying too hard to get her to like you.
- Letting the woman control the flow of messaging (ie. Is she always the one to end it??)
- Not getting playful,”flirtatious,” or sexual in your messages.
Flirting Over the Phone.
Every message you send should have some type of playfulness and flirtation.
You should always aim to demonstrate a fun side of your personality every time you are texting her.
During the first few messages you are just trying to show her that you can be fun and social around girls.
Your texts should always present the impression that you live a fun and adventurous life.
Stay light and playful, then jump into serious topics, and then back to being playful and flirtatious.
The technique is to banter with the girl back and forth and leave the interaction on a high note, by either stop texting her back, or by finishing it with a message like “talk later…”
It is also important to display small chunks of your personality in these messages, and avoid being boring like the plague.
This means you never make statements like “I’m bored,” or if she ask what you’re up to texting “Nothing special.”
Instead answer by being interesting, playful, and intriguing when SMS with a woman.
#1. When You Really Like Her – How To Send Great Good Night Text Messages
You’re getting the number of some girls, making everything work right, and you’ve even got a few that you really like.
You’re talking to more and more of them, and suddenly you decide that you want to text them.
You want to text them good night text messages.
So firstly, you want to make sure that you’re on good enough grounds with her emotionally that you can send her a text message before you go to bed.
If you’re being the guy who’s too needy – hold off.
If it’s something that’s in character and not too needy, then by all means, go ahead. Send a girl some good night text messages.
Here are a few you can bounce around until you start coming up with your own.
Best Good Night Text Messages
1. Good night.
The kind of thing you’d send to somebody that you care about – and if you care about the girl, don’t get all fancy.
Don’t try to spike her emotional buying temperature with something that you’ve spent days thinking about, don’t try to tickle her fancy with anything that you’ve been saving up – just wish her good night.
In fact, if there’s a girl that you think could use a good night on your text message list, wish her good night.
2. Tell her something horrible as a non-sequitor, then wish her goodnight.
This is one of the more advanced ones.
You tell her something that you’ve noticed in life, that doesn’t really relate to her going to sleep, then wish her goodnight.
Sound confusing? It’s not.
Here’s an example that you can go by.
‘Isn’t it weird that people never know the names of 80’s one-hit wonders? This is my way of telling you goodnight.’
Over and done with, and you can stop worrying about what else to say to her.
3. Funny Good Night Text Messages
I’m a huge advocate of stupid jokes – they help alleviate certain situations, even if they’re atrocious, they can still get a laugh, and everybody likes them.
How many stupid jokes have you heard being told over the years?
How many times have you laughed at them and found some enjoyment deep inside yourself, despite knowing that they’re terrible, terrible jokes?
Probably a lot.
So text her a dumb joke, then tell her goodnight.
One of my favorites?
“Why did Mickey break up with Minnie? Because she was fucking goofy.”
Also an easy way to see if she’s into you and tries to start sexually escalating.
4. Sweet Good Night Text Messages
Here’s a sweet text message,
“I’ll never be able to fall asleep if you don’t wish me good night.”
This one, you have to make sure that you’re not a guy who she perceives as needy.
Otherwise, you’re harassing her to text message you back – a situation that would annoy any sane and rational person.
So you don’t want to be annoying the sane and rational people in your life, so just back off if you’re the guy who always is blowing up other people’s phones.
Don’t be that guy.
Women hate it, it comes off as needy, nothing good comes from being the guy who is blowing up people’s phones.
5. A quiz question, or an interesting fact.
There’s a ton of great websites that you can draw interesting facts or trivia from, including omgfacts.com.
They list things that you might not’ve thought of, or may be surprised to learn.
Having knowledge about a certain topic of interest is the same thing as adding value to someone.
If you know something that’s interesting, pester them about it.
‘I bet you don’t know why pirates wore eye patches on their heads.’
If they respond positively, tease them. Tell them that you’ll be able to tell them more in the morning.
It’ll infuriate them, as they’ll be invested in you all night, and be waiting to get an answer in the morning.
Pretty cool, right?
Creates all sort of investment headed back towards you.
Good kinds of investment.
6. Think of how many people are all looking at the same sky right now. And we’re two of them. Goodnight.
This one’s a bit poetic.
If you’ve got a girl that you feel strongly about or makes you feel poetic, what you want to do is express that instead of holding it inside.
Holding it in never makes for an interesting story or a good emotional release – if you want to know what’d be the best idea for any course of action, go for the fun story.
But these are all just ones that we’ve come up with – the beautiful thing about social interaction is that every person’s will be different, everyone’s will have nuances that other people won’t have – so it’s the most important to figure out your own good night text messages to send to your girls.
#2. Women Love A Sense Of Humor – Show Her With These Text Message Jokes
One of the best things that you can do to get better with girls is get yourself a nice sense of humor.
A lot of material glosses over this fact, instead talking about how you’re going to break rapport with someone and do all these magical things to win them over when you could instead be using humor and getting essentially the same results or better.
That is not to say that you should turn into some kind of dancing monkey, but as they say in ‘Sex in the City’, sometimes girls want to be with the guys that make them laugh.
If you don’t have a bit of humor in your courting process, pick-ups, sarges, whatever you want to call them – you’re doing it wrong and could be doing it much, much better.
So here are some fun text message jokes to send someone whenever you want to get a little bit of emotional investment out of them.
Some of my favorite text message jokes
1. Why did Mickey break up with Minnie? Because Minnie was fucking Goofy.
I like this one.
Not only is it a goofy joke to send, a funny text message joke, you could very, very easily move from talking about how stupid the jokes you send to people are to talking about sexual escalation – cartoon characters going at it, who was the hottest cartoon character, all these things are conversations that’ll spike her emotional interest and get you gossiping together – cementing your bond and making you that much closer to your goal of getting her to like you.
2. What do you do when you come across a tiger in the jungle? Wipe him off and apologize.
This is a gross one. Sometimes people don’t get it, and you can quickly turn that conversation in the direction of sexual escalation as well.
Some people get it, and love it – as girls are more partial to sex and dick jokes than a lot of other people. More partial than you think.
So don’t be afraid of sending them dirty jokes. Which’ll be important for the next few items on the list.
3. How does Lady Gaga like her meat? RAH-RAH-RAH-AH-AW.
Most girls like Lady Gaga.
Granted, this might not be the most timely of punchlines, but for the next few years that Lady Gaga is relevant, it might be of some use to you to milk this before she’s relegated back to an apartment in New York, releasing increasingly preachy message albums that sell incredibly well, but are far too annoying.
If you can communicate sounds via text, too, you’re golden.
4. When does Sean Connery like to hit his balls? Tennish.
Everybody has done a terrible Sean Connery impression.
This makes fun of terrible Sean Connery impressions – the likes of which reportedly drove him off the set of The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen.
Also, if she visualizes Sean Connery hitting his balls, she may become rabid with desire. Maybe? Not really. It’s more of a goofy image.
5. What does Snoop Dogg put on his whites? Bleeeea-tch.
If she likes gangsta rap or knows the cultural icon that Snoop Dizzle is, she might get a good laugh out of it.
If you have to explain who Snoop Dogg is, you should run far, far away, and not text that girl ever again.
You can do better than date a person who has no idea about musical culture for the last twenty years or so.
6. What’s Snoop Dogg’s favorite kind of weather? Drizzle.
Another Snoop Dogg joke.
You can’t hate the man.
He’s intrinsically hilarious and given his intrinsically hilarious state, you can’t help but transfer that through jokes about the man.
Again, if she’s not privy to knowing about how Snoop Dogg talks, there’s an easy solution to that. Invite her over to watch Snoop Dogg music videos on your computer.
Then you have a date, you can educate her, all because she didn’t get your stupid jokes.
7. Haha, I made you look at your phone.
This one is probably the most infantile, but it’ll occasionally get a great response.
If it doesn’t get a great response, know that we warned you that it was probably the most infantile.
Again, you’ve been warned. Know which people to use infantile humor with, and which people you should use high-brow humor with.
Basically, if you don’t know your audience, it’s going to make it much harder to communicate with them in a hilarious way.
8. Why can’t Smokey the Bear’s wife get pregnant? Because when she’s in heat, he beats her with a shovel.
Hey — violence against lovers. Not necessarily the best thing to mention when texting somebody you like, but it usually gets a laugh regardless.
As you can see, any joke that’s structures with a short two-lines is perfect to send via text message.
Text message jokes will spike any person’s mood, and it’s a great way to communicate with people you like.
#3. You Like Each Other – Here Are 6 Perfectly Sweet Text Messages to Send
Now, before we run down a list of sweet text messages that you can send someone, here’s something that you have to consider.
A lot of women aren’t comfortable with someone being overtly sweet without any form of investment back at them.
So if you’re sending messages to a woman without any cues or inclination on her part that she’s into you – guess what? You’re doing game wrong.
If you’re spilling your heart out to someone and she’s not into it – you’re probably never going to talk to her again. Learn social cues and learn them well, my friend.
That being said – here are some cute text messages you can send to someone who deserves sweet text messages.
Sweet Text Messages
1. Just wanted to tell you, I was thinking of you.
I think that when you have a really good connection with someone, it helps to know that you’re thinking about them.
Provided that you’re not texting them constantly about how you’re thinking about them.
It helps if you’re detached, but the minute that you want to show a little bit of sweetness, it helps if you let them know. This is the most direct way of doing it.
If you want to make it funnier, tell her this after something that wouldn’t particularly remind someone of anybody.
Like, ‘I finally saw My Little Pony.’ It’ll break up the sweetness of the text message. You know – to keep her guessing.
2. Send her a picture of some flowers.
I’m a giant proponent of this one.
The thing about technology is that it can be used to either expedite interactions and make them more eventful, or make things more terrible and cold.
How would you like to use it?
Personally, I’d want to use our newfound powers for good instead of evil, so I like doing things like taking pictures of lovely things and sending them to people who want to get sweet text messages.
If they’re deserving.
So, one of the sweetest things you can do is go to your local flower market, take a picture of the goods there, and send them to the ladies you feel like being sweet to.
It’s a creative way to send sweet text messages.
3. Send her a picture of some dessert or something you’re cooking.
There’s something about actual physical pictures instead of words that helps build up emotional investment in a person.
It’s the same thing as matte backdrops and animatronics instead of CGI.
CGI is soulless and doesn’t look right – text messages are the same. They require the least amount of investment to write and make.
Now, something you’ve cooked, on the other hand, takes a while to make – and women are always into someone that can demonstrate a lot of male paternal investment – that thing that makes women think you’d be good with babies… it attracts her to you.
So send her a picture of anything that you’ve worked on, including dessert, cooking, something. And offer her some.
4. If she sends you a picture of herself, compliment her on it.
First off, if a girl is sending you pictures of herself, it’s a definite sign that she’s interested.
And oftentimes, it’s a chance for you to say something sweet other than, ‘Aww lawd, girl, show me them titties.’
So compliment her on the way she looks.
Unless you feel like she’s shooting for investment just by sending you a picture – in which case you make her work for the compliment.
But in any case – it’s a sweet thing to tell a woman she’s looking good. Especially when you need it.
5. Let’s go out and do something!
What’s the sweetest thing in the world? Not staring at your phone all day.
Going out, enjoying life, and doing it with someone you want to be with – for that day, for that week, however you want to do it.
You can do a lot more in person than you can via text or through technology – we live in a time period where sometimes technology can be the easy way out, but you want to be good in person.
You want to be able to seduce women when you actually see them.
6. Miss ya.
Realistically, we miss human contact whenever we don’t get it.
Because we’re so caught up in technology and social networking, we oftentimes forget that there are people outside, in real life, who are waiting to meet up with us if you give them a chance.
So instead of missing them, as you could send with this sweet text message – what you could do is use that as an impetus to meet up with them.
There’s nothing sweeter than actual human contact.
So send out some sweet text messages, and before long, you’ll be able to understand when to give good investment, and when to limit it.
#4. Cute Texts to Send a Girl Which Will Grab Her Attention
Let’s think of a hypothetical scenario. You’ve got a smartphone.
You’ve got an interested party that you’re texting on this smartphone, someone of the opposite sex that you’ve been successfully interacting with thus far.
You want to take it up a notch and fire her some cute texts that’ll spark the interaction to the next plateau so you can capitalize off of all your positive momentum, but are freezing up.
You have no idea what consists of a cute text, how to go about grabbing her attention and what’s in the realm of propriety for someone that you just met.
Or you might want to send cute texts to a girl that you’re already halfway seeing or in a relationship with.
The medium of text isn’t limited in any way – you can steer interactions the way you want to, once you actually know how to use it.
Here are some easy ways to do that.
1. Send her cute jokes.
The medium of text is paced out so that you send a text, she sends a response, and generally you’re not going to be writing novel-length dissertations.
They’re going to be short, fun, and flirty.
So with abbreviated jokes, such as knock-knock ones or things similar in structure, you’ll not only have an easy tool to brighten someone’s day, it’ll keep the energy moving forward.
You always want to be moving forward in an interaction, never having that awkward lull. Fun little jokes.
They make any conversation better when you’re face-to-face with someone, why wouldn’t they make them better via text?
2. Pictures are flexible and easy.
There are some tactics that PUAs circulate and use like a charm, over and over again, other ones that are lesser known.
Here’s one of the ones that is currently under the radar – your phone, provided that it’s a smartphone, and not an ancient candybar, is capable of taking pictures.
You’re not going to take pictures of anything lewd, though, instead, simply take a picture of a food item you may have cooked, something interesting you saw, a bit of flowers that you saw on sale in a flower shop, and offer her some.
It’ll be enough to get the conversation stimulated – all with the stunning ease of technology.
Much easier than carrying a notepad in your pocket to scrawl down cute notes, eh?
3. Notepad is your friend in loud clubs.
While admittedly, it’s not an SMS, it has to do with cute text.
One of the biggest issues guys have starting out in this is that they don’t know how to talk to girls in a venue whwere the music is fary too loud.
That can easily be fixed.
Whip out your smartphone, if the girl is showing enough compliance to you, and open up the notepad application, or any other app used to take down text notes.
What’s the purpose of it?
So you two can have a conversation in the crowded club without having to shout or actually have a conversation.
Personally, I’ve known many people who have implemented this simplistic fix into their bag of tricks and gotten a lot of results because of it.
You have to make sure your text game is good, though.
If it’s shoddy, and you write like you’re leaving a message on a friend’s ancient MySpace wall, filled with emoticons and textspeak, she may be much less likely to respond positively.
4. Seed future events that you can take her on.
Yes. That’s right.
There’s no easier way to get somebody thinking about something than just mentioning it outright – but if you get someone’s number, there should always be a purpose behind it.
There should always be a reason why you’re doing it – hence, you text her when you see something interesting and drop the idea the two of you should go to it.
If she responds positively, you have a date set up, if she doesn’t respond well to it, oh well. You can try it on the next girl that you meet.
But I guarantee that the act of her seeing that you’re going around town to engage in activities that are fun, coupled with you mentioning them to her will be enough to get her interested.
5. Exaggerated roleplay.
One of the basic tenets of humor is comedic exaggeration.
One thing a lot of PUAs like doing when they text people, inventing fantastical situations or taking something the girl just said and blowing it out of proportion.
If she play along, that’s a bit of compliance building momentum forward for you.
Keep in mind, no rules are written in stone.
If you want to experiment with what’ll work the best with your personality and situation – you’re going to have to experiment.
Thankfully, you have the time and willpower to do just that.
#5. Try These Romantic Text Messages To Send Your Girlfriend
You’re in a happy relationship. So first off, congratulations.
You are doing the thing that the media sells most of us on being one of the pinnacles of existence – found someone special to share your life with.
You don’t have to troll around the bars looking for a woman, you’ve got one to come home to.
Or, you’re juggling several girlfriends and you want to find sweet things to text them to keep them off your back and finding out about each other.
Whatever the case may be, you want to text sweet things to people that you know.
So good on you. You’re a good spirit.
Here are some sweet text messages to send to your girlfriend, a special someone you’re in a relationship.
1 Pictures of Flowers.
I’m dead serious. You know what one of your phones’ functions is? It can take pictures.
A lot of pictures – of whatever it is that you want to take pictures of.
So something that you can do that’s the simplest thing in the world to spike a woman’s emotional investment is go to a flower market, and take pictures of all the flowers there.
It’s cheap and you can send them to whoever you want at any time, with NO CHARGE.
There’s no charge for sending text flowers. Real flowers, they charge you for those.
You’ll get points for creativity, and that’s never bad when you’re in a relationship with somebody.
Creativity is what’ll keep things fresh and moving.
2. ‘Want some dessert?’
Women are perpetually hungry. Because they’re perpetually on diets that are purportedly going to help them get everything they want in life – better jobs, better lives, and better men.
It’s one of the easiest things to internalize, that skinny is good and big is bad.
Consequently, they’re constantly hungry for food that’s forbidden.
Ice cream, frozen yogurt, chocolate covered red-velvet twinkies – women love dessert.
But they can never have it when they want it.
So when you’re out and happen to run into a good dessert, take a picture. Send it to her. Offer her some. Chances are you’re going to get a positive response.
The best part about this text?
You can send it out en masse, same with the flower text.
Especially if you’ve got several girls that you want to emotionally charge and keep tabs on.
It’s a perfect sweet text message to send your girlfriend.
3. ‘Good morning. You should have the most amazing day you can possibly have.’
Send it out in the morning.
In fact, when you’re saying ‘good morning’ back and forth to someone, it’s virtually impossible for them not to form some sort of emotional connection and bond with you.
You’re starting out the day with them.
It’s an amazing thing – the more time you spend with someone, the more they bond to you emotionally.
Wonder why cast-mates in movies eventually wind up hooking up with each other?
They’re put in emotionally pressured situations and spend long hours together.
You can simulate that kind of emotional connection with little messages in the morning or at night – it’s the easiest way to build something up special.
4. Pictures or things you notice throughout the day.
People like knowing that they’re being remembered throughout the day and the duration of the relationship.
Because that’s what relationships are – a mutual exchange of emotional investment for the benefit of both parties.
Did you notice something goofy during the day?
Let her know about it.
Did you run into the craziest person today at Jamba Juice or find some event happening around town that she might be interested in?
Let her know.
It’s wonderful when you’re reminded that someone’s thinking about you – possibly the sweetest thing that you can do.
5. A meet up.
Text messages are good and all, but you know what’s the sweetest thing you can possibly do for your girlfriend?
Go out with her.
Take in some culture.
Go to an event and let her accompany you – it’d be the best time both of you have.
Text messages are a good form of communicating, but here’s the funny thing about them – they’re not exactly romantic.
Which would you rather have, a woman texting you her naughty bits, or meeting up with them in person to show them to you?
Personally, I’d much rather have the second one, and unless you’re afraid of real, live women, so would you.
What’s romantic to one person can be completely unromantic to the next.
One man’s meat is another man’s poison – so the best thing that you can do is see what your girlfriend finds romantic, and make sure that you’re doing more of that throughout the day.
And let her know you’re thinking about her – it’s the best thing to build up a stable relationship.
#6. 4 Proven Steps To Get Her Interested – Even Desperate To Text You Back
So you’ve got a girl’s number?
You’ve got an interested party on the other end?
You’ve got the wherewithal and ambition to push the interaction forward to a place where both of you want to go?
So you’re ready to make the first move, put yourself on the line, throw down for the things that you care about or the developing relationship that might be happening because you are in contact with this new person.
But you have no idea how to get her to text back.
Like most things, though, you don’t have to fear, because the internet was built as a compendium, a resource to help people who want information but don’t quite know how to get to the spot they’re trying to get to.
We at TSB mag are part of that compendium, so this is the definitive guide as to how to get a girl to text you back.
4 Steps to Get Her to Text You Back
When you’re talking about people texting back, you’re essentially talking about preventing flaking.
Flaking is anything that’d happen inan interaction to stall the forward momentum, so you want to meet up with a girl, she’s not showing, you try to initiate a text conversation, she’s not biting, she avoids talking to you when she sees you out on the street, is heard cursing your name under her breath.
Those type of things would all be consider flaking. The very basest form of not flaking is returning the text messages you send out.
Ideally, you’ll be texting her to continue the interaction, shoot for a meet-up, that kind of thing, but if she never responds, you’re toast. Here are some easy ways to cut down on text flaking.
1. When you get her number the first time, have a really, really good interaction.
The funny thing about people is, usually they don’t flake when the stakes are high and they have something to lose.
If you had a really good first interaction with a woman, then she’s going to want to see you again. It’s as simple as that.
If she wasn’t sure about you, and decided she wasn’t going to chase you and suddenly, you’re blowing up her phone – that’s a different matter entirely.
So in order to make sure that you have the easiest time possible getting her to text back, make sure the first interaction goes seamless.
Get her number based off of an event that the two of you would enjoy going to, make sure that there’s some unfinished threads in your conversation that you can wrap up later, and generally pace the interaction into seeing her again.
2. Once you have her number and start texting — end with a question.
Most things that people text girls don’t end in questions.
Most things people text girls don’t always get a reply from the party intended – oftentimes because they don’t end in a question.
The whole point of that is to build up a mini-compliance ladder so you can start getting more and more compliance from a person, eventually leading to a meet-up.
If you don’t text a question, you are allowing the interaction to partially die right away.
So don’t do that to yourself. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot or cut yourself off at the knees even before the interaction starts.
You owe it to yourself not to.
3. Keep the interaction light and flirty.
People are much more inclined to keep a conversation going, via text, in person, or anywhere, if the tone of it is non-threatening and contributes to an overall sense of well-being and fun.
If you can do that, even in short bursts like text messages, doing it in person is going to be much easier for you.
So, keep it flirty.
You’re much more likely to respond to someone who brings you good news or fun times, and women are no different.
Don’t go overtly sexual, don’t be bringing up topics that are hard to comprehend, keep it simple and sweet.
4. Don’t be too needy.
I’ve heard instances of guys blowing up women’s phones to the tune of over 30 times a day.
The easiest way to get a girl to text you is to appear like you’re already doing better things, and then they’ll emotionally invest and chase you.
It’s an old cliché, but people generally want things that they can’t have.
If you come off too needy via text, you’re giving her reasons not to respond instead of good reasons to see you.
And you don’t want to be doing that.
Fortunately, people usually reciprocate, so unless you had an entirely terrible interaction that is next to not recoverable, you’re solid.
That’s how to get her to text back.
#7. Creating Fun Flirty Messages – The Three Guidelines to Text Flirting
1. Every Message Should Offer Something
Look in your phone ‘sent’ texts and see how many times you sent a girl a message like “what’s up?” or “How you doing?”
Now erase those messages, and vow to yourself from now on when your texting a girl you will never send these dull, personality-less messages. You need to employ SMS flirting.
These messages do nothing to highlight any of your unique, fun, and playful personality, and they totally put the woman on the spot to keep the texting going.
You’re handing her control.
And since a sexy girl is probably getting hundreds of these messages from different guys every week… they begin to repel the woman.
Every text you send must offer some value to the woman getting it.
It must also include elements of your unique style.
A much more playful and fun message to text a girl would be “Stop thinking about me!:)” or “You just popped in my head and I just wanted to say hi”
These messages don’t force her to keep the conversation going…. But they make her want to message you back.
And they get her text flirting you.
Remember, every message should offer value.
2. Keep it Short, Flirty, and Fun
Texting girls is not the way to really get to know a woman.
Instead, think of it is an chance to give a girl a “sneak peak” look at what you’re like as a guy.
Show her a “movie trailer” version of your sense of humor, interests, and personality.
And flirt, A LOT.
When you’re texting a girl use the same flirtatious tone you would when you’re with her. This means tease, neg her, and get her smiling.
Make her laugh.
Make her crave getting a sms message from you.
If you’ve just met a girl at a club and you plan on sending her a message the following day…forget messages like “Hey, it’s Chris, it was good meeting you last night. What are you up to?”
Instead, start the conversation off with something playful and flirtatious, that gives her a “sneak preview” of your unique personality.
So a much more appealing sms for sending a woman would be
“Do you speak text?” (credit Sinn) Or
“Is it too soon for casual text? I mean, I just met you. Maybe we should wait!”
I’m sure you can see how interesting and fun it would be for her to get one of those messages as opposed to the first type?
3. Use PUSH/PULL
Have you sent a woman a text and she didn’t message you back for a few hours?
What went through your mind the entire time you were awaiting her response?
You probably couldn’t stop thinking about HER.
You must build intrigue and mystery when messaging women. It creates the roller coaster effect in your texts.
You want to be spontaneous, vague, and always unpredictable.
So if you are usually texting a woman back a few minutes after she messages you… every third or fourth time wait thirty to ninety minutes to return her sms. Sometimes wait till the next day.
This gives her the chance to think about you in her head. It lets her experience the pleasure of eagerly anticipating your next message.
This is probably the most important concepts to remember when using your mobile phone to flirt.
What should you Message Women?
During your first few of exchanges you’re not trying to set up a get together.
As I mentioned earlier, you are just looking to display to her that you’re a flirty and fun guy.
So you’re initial couple texts should be sent to show this side of your personality… and also, to see if she is a girl that you have any sort of rapport with.
Remember, the point of using your phone is to flirt, create a little rapport, and get her thinking about you.
You’re objective is to get her to feel like she is missing out by not being with you.
Avoid answering several of the questions she asks.
Keep your messages short and sometimes mysterious, but exploding with personality.
So, if you’re just texting to keep in touch with a girl you could send a message like:
“I just bought the most fly pair of sneakers ever for $12. I’m pumped”
Something else should do is assume rapport. This means that you jump right into texting her without explaining every aspect of your life.
“My kitten is ridiculous”
So when sending a girl a message for the first time you can send something like:
“Hey what’s up dork?”
Sometimes, getting the girl isn’t the most important thing.
Sometimes that’s only one of the things that’ll make you the happiest, and you need to participate in the principle of self-amusement.
That dictates that you have the best time doing the silliest things and not worrying about the rules and the principles that govern the realm of pick-up artistry. Sometimes you just want to be silly.
The problem is – a lot of people don’t know how to be silly and a lot of people are unsure about how to be funny.
Most people who look for information about this kind of thing aren’t very good at anticipating and picking up on social cues – so here’s some hilarious things you can text people…
Some funny text messages to send.
1. Hilarious pictures.
Smartphones can do a variety of things – from locating the nearest location of shoes and working as a GPS, to acting as Ocarinas if you blow in the right area of them.
The other magical thing they can do is save every text message you’ve ever gotten and send pictures back and forth between parties.
Which can either lead to awkward pictures of body parts being exchanged.
Or – hilarious pictures.
There’s a compendium of hilarious pictures that you can just download at any time and save onto your phone – so take the time to do that.
How many girls do you know who hate receiving pictures of cats? The same amount who hate happiness and ice cream. As in, none.
So get pictures of memes, funny captioned things, make your own if you have to – for any response that might encounter. It’s just one of a myriad of funny text messages you can send.
You might’ve noticed, but jokes are short enough to be told via text message.
Additionally, the communication is short enough that people don’t get bored with jokes – even with really short and stupid ones.
In fact, the shortest and stupidest jokes you can muster usually get SOME kind of reaction via text – just make sure you’re on good enough ground with the person that they don’t care that you’re texting them stupid jokes.
Knock knock jokes, stupid short two-liners, anything that you have that’s been called back before – all these are possibilities of funny text messages that you can send to the army of women that you’re trying to seduce.
If you can make a woman laugh, then chances are you’re going to be able to get her to do what you want.
3. ‘Made you look.’
If she gets it, chances are she’s got a good sense of humor.
If she doesn’t, explain to her that you made her look at her cell phone, and never contact her again, because she isn’t quick on the uptake.
But it’s one of many stupid and funny text messages you can send to a girl.
If you can’t joke around with a pretty lady, what can you possibly hope for?
Getting a funnier lady.
That’s the only thing that you can possibly hope for.
4. ‘Help, my apartment is being invaded by Smurfs. How do I kill them?’
This text message does a variety of things – first, you’ll be able to see if she’s got a knowledge of 80’s cartoons that were invented overseas.
Or if she’s seen the recent movie starring Neil Patrick Harris.
More importantly, you can send this message out en masse, and you’ll be able to see what responses you get and be able to capitalize off of those responses or if none of your friends actually know what to do with Smurfs.
Some schools of pick-up call it ‘Zombie Texting’, where you text old phone numbers that haven’t been responding anymore and see which ones respond.
If one responds, you can invite them out again and capitalize off of it – if they don’t, it’s just another funny text message that you’ve learned how to send. Pretty cool, right?
5. ‘I saw an eagle fighting a shark today and thought of you.’
Again, something that you can easily text people en masse to see who’ll respond and what’s going on in your social circle.
If you get responses back, they’ll be asking questions like, ‘What?’ ‘Really?’ ‘What’s that mean?’ or people with good senses of humor will be like, ‘Awwwww.’
Just another zombie text you can send to people to be goofy and try to brighten their day up.
These are just suggestions, bear in mind.
A lot of humor is based off the individual, and if your demeanor is drier than a sherry, you’re not going to sound right saying lines that somebody else has invented.
Which is why it’s so important for you to get out and practice being funny on your own, instead of taking lines.
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