Girls test you. They really do. Except this is not the kind of test you get in school and if it was, you’re not graded based on a percentage or letter.
It’s not even a pass/fail thing although if you fail some specific tests, she will you fail instantly.
Most of these tests are done subconsciously.
Meaning a girl might not even know she’s giving them.
There are a few conscious tests she might give you and using another guy to test might be one of those.
When the test is more conscious, done to get an often negative response from you, and/or uses someone or something which causes unnecessary drama, then THAT is when it’s an actual game.
It’s no longer a test so be wary about girls who do this when you first start interacting with her.
Girls who play games are no worse or better than a guy who play games with women.
Today’s question must be answered because it’s an important one in dating and attracting what some call “higher quality” women or girls.
Can or will a girl actually use another guy to test you?
You’ll find the jealousy angle is popular. She’ll watch you as she hangs all over another guy. She’ll take note to your reaction.
If the reaction is nothing or small, she’ll even go so far as to physically touch or “play” with the guy to see is she can get an emotionally response from you. Some will keep upping the intensity until she finally gets a reaction.
Another “trick” would be to bring up a guy friend in the conversation.
She’ll talk about him and see how you respond or contribute to the conversation.
It is usually just a friend or some guy she knows and normally it’s nothing sexual.
On the very bad end of the spectrum of bad girls – she may even mention her boyfriend – whether he’s real doesn’t seem to matter much. Just saying “my boyfriend” is enough for her to see how you react to it.
“You’re talking to a woman when all of a sudden she mentions she has a boyfriend. (…) all the reasons why some women feel the need to mention their boyfriend more than just casually.” – You Meet and Suddenly She Mentions Her Boyfriend
She may even mention other guys she likes or the type of guys she is into which is normally far from the guy she’s talking to, and this could be any dude – from the rich, famous, to even dare I say – the freaking bachelor.
All to get you to do or say something which will disqualify you, (reject yourself so she doesn’t have to), prove to her you have feelings for her (like, love, sexual attraction, etc.. ) and to take notes or figure out how you handle the “other” men she may or may not have in her life.
How you respond or react to her test will tell her practically all she needs to know about you, your character, your experience, your temper, your “coolness”, AND your feelings towards her.
It may seem easy once you know it’s happening to pass these tests but for a lot of guys it’s not because it plays on your emotions, your strength, your ability to live in the present and make appropriate responses, and without practice and knowing how to respond ( if that’s what you want) the test can be so subtle or random you won’t even see it coming.
The more experienced she is at giving them, the more likely the guy is to fail.
because he might not even realize it’s happening.
He might just see it as a normal conversation.
(Keep in mind some girls want you to fail so it’s not the end of the world. Not saying those are the good ones, but nonetheless, failure may be what she seeks from you IF she’s looking for that type of guy.)
The less experienced you are as a guy in not recognizing them doesn’t always mean you’ll fail.
Depends on once again – your character, temper, coolness, attractive conversational skills, and not lastly your overall demeanor.
Something equally important to passing or failing these tests (which have little to do with your experience) come down to how attracted you are to her.
If you’re feeling nothing – you’ll pass easier. The more you feel for her, and are unaware, the more likely you’re going to fail.
Passing these “girl-tests” is not difficult but since the tests are numerous and vary, makes it difficult to just give you one answer to pass them all.
You’ll also find some who are quite clever (knowingly or not) at giving them and once you pass one, give you another harder one in a slightly different way then just using another guy.
Now I know this all seems like a game but under normal conditions it’s not. It’s actually part of the human mating ritual helping her decide whether you’d make a good match for her AND if you are who you say you are.
It’s when it crosses the line to game-playing when it supersedes the normally dating ritual and leads to problems. As a guy it’s your responsibility to learn and know the difference if you want someone who isn’t going to the extreme.
There are four types of tests women give and this one is the conversational one mixed with a little emotional. They are sight, conversation, physical and emotional.
You can find an entire page at DiaLteG TM dedicated to helping you recognize and pass her tests right here:
The answer from the beginning:
Can a Girl Use Another Guy to Test You?
The answer is a resounding YES.
Would a girl use another guy to test you? Of course, if that wasn’t obvious by now.
Why would she do this comes down to who she is, her intentions, and the severity of her test.
A simple one is mostly harmless and probably appropriate. A more complicated one to invoke jealousy and to hurt and harm others OR to even attract a jealous guy, (yes, some do want a jealous guy) definitely falls more on the “game” end and it’s best when you meet this type of girl BE cautious!
If it’s not a big deal and she’s seems legitimate then make sure you learn how to pass this test or better yet, make passing her tests a part of your personality so you don’t have to worry about it anymore.