It’s easy to be confused when it comes to advice on creating attraction and escaping the friends zone. A reader wants to know why in a famous book it’s suggested that when the attraction isn’t there, it might never be. Yet the advice on getting out of the friends zone says it is possible. Why the contradiction? Is it really possible to trigger attraction after you’re in the friends zone and what’s the best possible way to make that happen?
Are you really a creep for starting a conversation with a woman in a grocery store or coffee shop? Do most women believe they are being hit on in these places or any public place. Should guys be afraid to talk to women because of a few women who believe it’s inappropriate to chat her up anyplace outside a bar or club? This woman thinks so, I absolutely do not.
In dating and relationships things can easily turn into a power struggle between men and women. Who has more power before they have sex? What’s real attractive power? What type of man does it make you if you think power means absolute control?
Maybe that makes me a pig. Maybe it makes me a bad guy. Maybe it makes me normal – although that’s highly doubtful because everywhere I look, I see average looking guys with average looking women. I see the not so perfect women with the not so perfect guys… And some of them are actually happy. Relatively speaking of course. Does it really make me different because all my life I’ve only fell for women who I found highly attractive to ME? Not to some other guy. My standards compared to them might seem a little high. To them or others they will say I’m expecting too much. To some other guys my definition of beauty is definitely different.
My current personal “selective sight” has driven my most recent desires to bed the most beautiful and seemingly hard to attain women and sure following the negative or positive path has led me somewhere – specifically to study the mostly mundane life of the “Twitter Hottie” BUT inevitably I can see where “that” will lead me in the future will come down to how I feel about myself doing, or following, or the belief in myself, which will ultimately determine the next step…