It happens. I’m not perfect… I got caught looking at her ass!
Here is how it went…
I felt an attractive presence around me. You know what that feels like, right?
My eyes turned around quickly and there she was…
An incredibly beautiful woman with a short skirt, leggings, and long gorgeous chestnut colored hair.
I turned to look and my eyes were frozen.
Instantly locked on her.
Her head began to swing in my direction as if she was turning in slow motion.
I recall thinking how much time I had to stare at her ass before her eyes caught me but I was wrong.
I quickly looked up and her eyes met mine.
I was dumbfounded, surprised, and shuttered my eyes down.
I was caught staring at her ass!
It may not seem like a big deal to most men and women. Right?
Men get caught staring at “Chics” all the time.
“When I didn’t respond favorable, or just gave him a look of disapproval, he felt it necessary to mention a woman’s legs. As if to prove to me he wasn’t just sizing up a particular slab of meat, he was eye-ing all parts of them. 4 Ways Checking Girls Out Gives Up Your Status.
But to me it is a big deal so let me explain…
I was that guy we all knew who was against the wall in junior high. Stuck staring at girls, hoping to dance with one of them.
But I grew up…
Then I was that guy in high school who would go to parties, have a good time, and meet new people.
When I saw a hot woman I would “check” her out.
Every time she would look at me I would try to hide the fact I was checking her out.
I would turn away quickly and try to act all cool. I was that creepy guy who seemed nice, but had a clear almost addictive agenda…
It was only on a rare occasion that I would actually meet those women I stared at.
Sometimes I would get so drunk that I haphazardly approached her.
My drunken mind would allow my mouth to speak some pretty stupid shit and it was a guarantee that I was going home alone.
But then I grew up more…
Day after day, year after year, I learned to control those creepy urges.
I learned to see the difference between checking out a woman and admiring her.
Checking her out is like walking through a supermarket’s meat case and finding that perfect piece of beef. When I do it to an attractive woman, it’s creepy and objectifies her.
Admiring her is seeing a woman who is attractive, catching her eyes looking back at you, and just smiling back. And when we do this we are approachable and inviting.
I have learned to project a powerful image of myself and by doing so, women notice.
You see, it wasn’t that I got caught staring at her, it was the feeling or realizing that the wussy guy is still a part of me long after I thought I had destroyed him.
“When we prop her up, do things to gain her approval, respond out of fear that she won’t like us, or even assume her femininity makes her too weak to handle our masculinity, then we’re acting like a wussy. Are You A Man or A Wussy?
Apparently Mr. Wussy lingered deep inside just waiting for me to give him a second chance to get out… the little bastard.
And this is something I can NOT stand.
Some time ago I decided that I wouldn’t let myself get caught staring in that “creepy” way.
When I admire a woman and she turns to enjoy her mild ego boost I don’t look away quickly. I don’t stutter. I don’t shake.
I hold my own gaze confidently and just smile back at her.
Slipping back to my young wussy, or my “creeper” ways, will, with a doubt, happen But I recognized it immediately and recovered enough to tell you about it today.
With good reason of course…
I’m suggesting to you, as a “nice guy” to do the same.
Don’t get so down on yourself when you slip back to something else… Catch yourself quickly, acknowledge it, and move on immediately.
There is nothing wrong with fucking up once in a while but to grow ( as I believe into an attractive masculine man ) we must do three simple things:
- Acknowledge the mistake.
- Recover quickly.
When we have those “slip back moments” just keep telling ourselves,
Recognize, Acknowledge, and Recover and make sure we React differently next time.
Getting caught staring is one thing – but backing away nervously, acting like you’re picking out a piece of meat, not knowing the difference between staring and admiring – well that’s something we CAN learn to avoid doing because it leads us right back against the old high school wall.
And we’re not freaking wallpaper!!
Some women dress up and it’s definitely fun to notice them.
“The truth, which can be either GOOD news or BAD news if you let it, is that the vast majority of women out there ARE indeed VERY, VERY sexual beings. Are All Women Teasing Us Guys or What?
We’re going to get caught staring at her ass.
In fact it just might be in our genes… practically unavoidable to fully admire every woman who walks the planet and fits the perfect attractive model we have inside us.
It’s not being caught, it’s how we handle it and what SHE means to us…
Did she become a SUBJECT of our desires?
Was she an undeniable OBJECT of the past?