"Reason for Failing with Women #35 - You Did Not Challenge Her Enough Mentally - You Don't Flirt Enough - Use The Right Humor - You Lack in Wit and Are Afraid She Won't Like You If You Disagree With Her."
Intelligence is attractive but it alone will never be enough to create attraction. This "good and bad news" is great because no matter how you look at it, something beneficial can be learned here from both sides.
The bad news is - If you're not mentally challenging a woman in many ways is a valid reason as to why you're failing with women but, now that you know the answer, you can fix it.
The good news is - Intelligence can be used to your advantage in creating attraction because you're smart and can learn how to use it the right way.
For those of you who don't believe you're intelligent enough to learn something new, different, and exciting to women, you're wrong and you have to believe me... because I'm smarter than you.
"The ability to use words in a smart and humorous way."
Here's the now not-so-secret formula you MUST learn and start practicing with women immediately:
Personality Triggered Attraction.
Women GO CRAZY for a genuinely confident, funny guy who knows how to make them laugh.
And, as I studied more and more men who were HUGELY successful with women and dating, I noticed that they ALL shared 2 traits in common:
- They weren't afraid to "have fun" with women.
- They always came across as cool, confident and assertive right out of the gate... but always in a smart, funny, sensitive way.
"Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism."
Getting her to THINK with an emotional and sometimes sexual edge to it is a great way to connect with a woman.
Having her smile and laugh creates a level a feelings needed to create attraction and makes the feeling that much more powerful.
Challenging a woman "mentally" is a game women love to play because it's a win-win situation.
You learn about each other. You're building a bridge of commonalities.
You engage in a verbal sparring event that can last a lifetime.
It also displays to women something most women say guys just don't have and that's CHARM.
It's a wild mix of everything you got and on top of all of it is done in a masculine way which brings out her femininity:
"That is 14 different ways women would define you as a man, as being the kind of person who provides sexual polarity when he is in front of her. This is very important, of course, because two neuter creatures cannot attract each other.
And therefore, if you want to attract women, gentlemen, you've got to come off as masculine."
Heed the warnings below. Challenges can create friction.
Don't over do it. This is a spice. Use often but sparingly to add flavor, heat, and to separate yourself from all the other "boring" men she meets everyday.
Don't play smarter than her. Maybe you are, maybe you're not. The point is to not prove yourself or intelligence. You're not doing it to beat her in a mind game.
Disagreements will happen and the will occur more often when opinions clash and smartasses spar when they're mixed with deep-seated emotional views.
Let them be. Don't try to force them on to her but also don't allow her to force hers on to yours by being coy and pleasant in your exchanges.
Don't ever be afraid to share your opinions especially if they don't match up to hers. No woman likes a man who rolls over "just to get laid" or appease her.
She WANTS the challenge.
She wants a STRONG man.
You can do it all and still be kind, courteous, respectful, mindful, and sensitive too. Trust it's a balance achieved easily with a little patience and practice.
Don't waste your time trying to change the ignorant, blind, or stubborn. Walk away and don't look back. Move forward and seek out another as quickly as you can.
The mental challenge is not to be taken lightly or dismissed so easily.
Use the links and secrets above to learn how it's done correctly and practice often. She doesn't have to be a date or some singled-out hottie you have your eyes on.
Women are WOMEN in all their feminine glory.
Mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually, and spiritually... they all love a guy who knows how to bring out the best in them.
Thanks again and let me know how it goes below.
"The Genius Failure Paradox" is the tendency for UNUSUALLY intelligent men to have very LOW levels of success with women and dating.
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Photo of woman smart challenged and smiling by Andrea Piacquadio.