Underneath their unsociable persona they are good people. They just don’t seem to get, or care, to take part on the so called “cool level” of social interaction.
So how does this affect your dating life?
Do those casual friends get in the way when you’re trying to get laid?
Do they hover real close when you’re talking to a girl saying something stupid which you feel ruins your chances with her?
How you handle those “not so cool” friends can affect your dating life positively or negatively. I suppose the choice is up to you more than it is up to them.
You approach this woman and things are going great. She’s definitely into you and just as you’re about to get her phone number your friend jumps in and interrupts the energy negatively. He hounds the girl, eyeing her, gives her compliments that make you sick…
All the while she is looking over his shoulder at YOU. Giving you the “Help me!” look.
When he turns to you and she realizes you know him, the look on her face suddenly turns bewildered and worse yet skeptical of who you are. You can tell she is disappointed that you know this guy and she is definitely wondering if this is the type of people you hang out with.
Now you’re getting nervous because you don’t know how to deal with the situation. I mean eventually he goes away but you feel rushed and hurriedly ask for her number… but she denies. Probably tells you she doesn’t give her number out to people she meets there.
The second outcome is much different.
As he approaches her and cuts you two off just at the peak of your interaction, you disrupt the conversation immediately. From your body language and positioning you skillfully position yourself between you and her.
You don’t allow him to get real close. You confidently introduce him with a small smirk,
“Hey. This is John. I think he likes you.”
He of course laughs back at you and attempts to play into it when you lead her somewhere else. You suggest to her (with your eyes) to move to a more personal space away from him.
You can even suggest leaving. Opting to more exciting place with a few less friends around. Making it easier to get to know each other.
You causally mention to him,
“Hey John. We really should get going…”
My best advice is that when a situation like this arises…
Use them to your advantage by acting as a masculine man which increases how attracted she will feel towards you, and use the apparent bad luck to your advantage.
Perhaps by suggesting and leading her to a more comfortable or personal space.
You see when she begins to feel attracted to you and shows interest, you should hint back that you are feeling a spark of chemistry, and lead her to a more comfortable state of being with you. She will love it! She will feel like it’s all just happening.
Being cool around those not so cool friends is a great opportunity to show her how well you act in the moment. How you excel at making solid conscious decisions to repel a bad outcome by steering things in the direction you want them to go.
This ability or skill is a highly attractive trait and if you want to succeed with women more easily learn it!
Just because that not so cool friend (who’s probably just a good guy anyways) seems to be ruining your chances with women does not have to mean you have to act in a way that makes it worse.
Remember, that friend is just another guy is only acting from his own reality. If he’s a decent person who just lacks social skills, try to keep that in mind and never let him upset you or dictate your mood negatively.
It’s not worth it and it will make you less attractive to any and all the women around you.
Stay positive and react in a positive masculine manner and use every advantage you can even if it may appear to be bad luck ruining your chance again.
The truth is, women “dig” men who can handle those situations maturely and with ease. Not all “wingman” have to be good at attracting women for you to succeed.
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