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His Nervous Date With Mistakes – How To Make Her Want To See You Again

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If you really want a first date to transition to a second one, don’t just avoid mistakes, DO something different.

The first date is over and done with… She was feeling nervous and on the way to dinner called me up for a bit of advice. You can read about what went down here: Are You Nervous Before Your First Date? So Is She – Follow This Advice.

The question still remains and will become a VERY important lesson in dating and attraction.

Will she see him again? Will there be more than just a second date?

Yes… and NO!

There was a second date but the only reason it happened is certainly a helpful one:

He avoiding making a ton of mistakes guys are all too often guilty of doing.

There’s a list below so when you’re done reading make sure you study them so you too can avoid them and find yourself enjoying more second, third, or even fourth dates.

He closed the evening with the classic,

“I enjoyed it and we should do this again sometime.”

She mentioned how that left her guessing and she liked the mystery of it. How it made he almost look forward to “doing it again” sometime.

Here is how she described him and the date:

  • He was nice.
  • He paid for the meal.
  • He mentioned how he enjoyed the evening.
  • He kept the topics moving along so there was no uncomfortable silences.
  • She knew he was nervous too.

It may appear he did a lot of things right and in most circumstances since he didn’t shoot himself in the foot he’s practically guaranteed a second date BUT…

Just because you avoid making mistakes does not equate to attraction and exciting dates down the road.

Let’s use this poor fellow as an example so you can learn how to do it BETTER and assure you’re creating something more than “just another boring date”.

He took the risk free easy way into the date in the most typical… dinner. Not bad but NOT GOOD either!

He made a typical evening, even more typical and not worth remembering.

He left her with nothing that made him stand out or for her to even care to remember about it, let alone feel attraction and eager for another date.

If he had excited her she would’ve called me up to let me know about it but she didn’t so yes, you can assume she wasn’t left feeling anything more for him than the nervousness she felt on the way to her date.

The sad news for this guy is: When a woman feels her biggest emotion (nervousness) just before the date then be assured that NO ATTRACTION WAS CREATED during the date.

Emotionally… it was bland, straightforward, an not exciting at all.

Here’s the real shitty part you must remember as a guy…

She is an attractive woman and guys ask her out ALL the time. There’s a great chance, by the time they even have a second date she will have gone out several times with other guys.

If the next guy creates even the slightest bit of more excitement for her she’ll forget all about your boring dinner date.

She may see you again – just in case – but she may also agree for a second date knowing full well that even in the worst case she’s going to get a free meal.

Look at it from her point of view and what she “remembered” about it.

She told me he was nervous. Which is fine and all but that nervousness was dealt with by avoiding ALL uncomfortable silences.

He was definitely trying way too hard to make the evening “pleasant” for her.

He did everything in his power to make her so comfortable and feel “okay” he forgot (or completely missed) what the purpose of a date is:

  • Create attraction.
  • Get to know each other in a unique way.
  • Have FUN!
  • Build a real connection.
  • Increase or create some sexual chemistry or energy.
  • Make it memorable for both.
  • Emotionally charge her.
  • LEAVE HER WANTING MORE!

Sure that seems like a tall order but it’s not really that difficult at all even if you opt for a boring dinner date.

Honestly, and this is the cold hard truth my friend – IF you feel like doing all those things on a date (or during any meeting with a woman you’re attracted to) is way too much work – then stop dating women because it’s a REQUIREMENT which is unavoidable.

Okay – so maybe he DID make a lot of mistakes and the biggest one was obviously trying way too hard to NOT make a mistake.

He played it safe and (all physical harm and shit like that aside) – women don’t fall for guys who play it safe with them. 

It mat appear he took a pro-active role in dealing with the uncomfortable silences she was afraid of having (knowing what to talk about or how the conversation is going to go is a true source of nervousness) but it’s in THOSE moment a lot of chemistry and sexual can grow.

If you’re constantly trying to diminish those moments by making it all nice for you an her – what you’re actually doing is destroying sexual tension.

These are pivotal moments during a date which will separate the guy she wants and looks forward to seeing again from the guy who she just thought – “yeah he’s nice and all but…” and will never see again.

Mia Wallace: Don’t you hate that?
Vincent: What?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don’t know. That’s a good question.
Mia: That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

So by the very nature of just projecting a level of comfort during the silence, using the time to take a breather rather than yakking about nothing, you are turning something that could have been “awkward” into something that demonstrates a deeper level of rapport.

How to Avoid Awkward Silences with Women – Conversation Techniques

Here’s The list of REAL mistakes he made that YOU must avoid doing if you want to start enjoying better dates:

Don’t do the dinner date PLEASE. They’re overdone, boring, lack any imagination, cost way too much money, AND they don’t allow the evening to really take off.

Read this and you will NEVER make that mistake again… promise:

“No longer will you settle or put up with a traditional date trying to follow dating rules which to little create what a date is supposed to be. Getting to know each other and deciding if you want to see each other again while you’re having fun. Build excitement mini adventures which are inexpensive and amazing.”

STEP 9: Throw Out  Dating Rules Book – Focus On Excitement and Fun

Stop TRYING so hard to make her evening so comfortable and nice that you miss the point of the date in the first place.

  • Create attraction.
  • Get to know each other in a unique way.
  • Have FUN!
  • Build a real connection.
  • Increase or create some sexual chemistry or energy.
  • Make it memorable for both.
  • Emotionally charge her.
  • LEAVE HER WANTING MORE!

Instead of doing everything in your power to erase her nervousness – let her wade through it – REPLACE her nervousness with another emotion that is much more exciting and make her desperate for another date with you.

Lastly – USE every seemingly awkward moment to YOUR advantage.

Use them to show her how cool you are, how you handle things “matter-of-factly” and how you’re not at all worried or even care about awkward silences or those odd little moments which will ALWAYS creep up on a date.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to erase or eliminate all of which are essential in creating attraction:

  • Tension.
  • Strong sexual tension.
  • Chemistry.
  • A little friction.
  • Anticipation.
  • What if moments.
  • It just happened moments.
  • Curiosity.

Women are intrigued and drawn in emotionally to things because there’s some mystery involved in it. Downplaying or trying to eliminate it only leaves her complacent and often bored.

Do anything even close to what’s been covered today and both of you will enjoy the date and want to do it again (even if you’re not compatible long-term) because aside from relationships and such – casual sex is ALWAYS an option for a guy who does these things right.

Here’s a few posts to help you avoid making lots of mistakes on a date but NEVER forget – making mistakes (within reason) might not hurt you as bad as making a few big mistakes this guy did with her.

This will do two things – eliminate mistakes and create ATTRACTION:

“Being too nice. Trying to convince her. Looking for her approval. Trying to buy her affection. Sharing how you feel. Not getting how attraction works. Thinking it takes money or looks. Giving away all your power. Now knowing what to do in each situation. Not getting help. Avoid all these mistakes with women.”

Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women – Common Mistakes to Avoid

These may seem obvious but there may be a few you’re missing:

“To get an easy second date you just have to avoid making simple mistakes. Memorize this list to avoid the easy stuff to assure another date. From showing up in a messy car to not kissing her, just a few of the many you can mess up your first date with girl.”

11 Ways To Screw Up Your First Date

Topics to avoid or common conversational mistakes:

“Men will often say the wrong things or ask the wrong inappropriate questions to girls which are considered highly unattractive. Never ask a woman, or say these things to a woman during your conversations with her if you want her like you. This list is to help you avoid common mistakes made when talking to women.”

17 Questions You Should Never Ask A Girl If You Want Her To Like You

This will show you if you’re creeping women out and is a very common mistake a nice guy will make without even knowing it’s happening:

“You’re not a creep, you’re just a nice guy but some of things you’re doing around women might be creeping her out and you’re not aware that it’s happening to you. These nine questions will help you determine if women are feeling strange around you. Tips and advice included to show you how to stop doing it.”

9 Questions Reveals Why You’re A Nice Guy & Women Feel Like You’re A Creep

In conclusion:

There’s no need to start worrying so much about making mistakes and you certainly want avoid getting stuck in your head trying to avoid the inevitable.

You WILL make mistakes.

Handle them humbly and attractively and it will be okay.

Focus more on WHAT needs to be done because women will let you get away with a lot more than you think IF you create attraction, make it a fun memorable evening or day AND you leave her wanting to see you again.

Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope you’ve taken away some really great points today on dating and attraction.

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