"Reason for failing with women #1-You Bored Her and/or You're A Boring Guy To Be Around."
First - we're going to about how I bored women so maybe you can relate to me and it better.
Then I will attempt to talk you our of not wanting to change your so-called boring ways with some awful truths which will hopefully also alter your mindset to something more productive and positive.
After - I'll give you some articles designed specifically to turn you from boring into fun, exciting, and attractive to women which center around two areas:
Those two areas will take care of it all.
The cold-hard fact was - even though it took me years to finally DO something about it - I was a boring guy as it related to men and women DOING generally accepted FUN activities.
The guys that were having no problems with women were always out riding their Snowmobiles, Four Wheeling, splashing on their Jet Skis, and whatever "man" stuff they could figure out.
I just wasn't into it at all.
AND what young single woman wanted to hang out with a guy who sat at home getting high, watching comedies, getting drunk with a few "guy" friends, and playing his guitar AND worse yet, on the weekends went golfing?
Really - Golf?
Love it, always will, some women do too, but is far from exciting to most people.
Women enjoy doing things around guys who actually DO something and are always looking for their next adventure.
If you feel like your life is boring - and if it actually is - women will think you're a boring guy... period.
There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with having hobbies and doing things you really do like, whatever they are; and don't listen to anyone if they say you have to give up on those things JUST to get a girlfriend or get laid.
What's being said or shown to you is:
Women are more likely to feel attracted to guys who do exciting things and have a lifestyle that is FILLED with some kind of adventure.
The CURE or quick FIX to this "boring" problem is in two parts:
Balance in some DOING other things in your life.
Take some risks.
Go outside your comfort zone once in a while.
It worked for me and I KNOW it's going to work for you too.
One of the very first things I did (after literally devouring every word of the famous book, "Attraction Isn't A Choice" <-- BTW that's my affiliate link so you can get the book for yourself) was to add a just a little more general fun into my life.
Yeah - I started getting out of the house more often and went places where the ladies were.
"EXCITING (IN THE RIGHT WAY). In other words, thrilling yet safe… passionate yet mature… unpredictable yet trustworthy.
No doubt about it… until a man is open and excited to try new things in life, he’ll never escape his comfort zone… including “daring” to connect in a meaningful way with women.
Building confidence means taking chances in life — whether skydiving or simply sampling new foods instead of ordering “the usual.”
So start practice “taking risks” both large and small… and watch how it translates INSTANTLY into new CONFIDENCE."
Okay... I hear you - not really the advice or tip that's going to change your world.
It's not the "holy grail" of having women start throwing themselves at you with their "arms?" wide open, right?
BUT you see, I knew it growing up.
I KNEW without a doubt my failures with women was (in-part) because I lived a mind-numbingly boring life (to girls) and my immediate goals were to write another song, program some cool art on the computer, become a scratch golfer, etc...
Yet - I DID absolutely NOTHING to change it because I wanted women to like me for who I was... boring!
If they wanted some macho-ass dude who spent all his money on man toys over the creative introvert type who enjoyed his quiet solitude life, then fine - guess that's the way my life was going to be, I had to take on the chin.
And then something drastic happen.
What got me to change my old unattractive mindset was some nasty story starting with 'young stripper' and the 'friends zone' AND you don't have to wait for something like that to happen because you're here today - so use it to your advantage.
Start thinking OUTSIDE the proverbial "vagina", here's something very serious to consider and you're NOT going like it hearing it:
What if you met this chic and the nice guy you are wasn't speaking that day and you thought, "Ewww - wow she's really ugly!" AND she starts hitting on you like crazy.
You might feel bad rejecting her but you'd get over it - after all you're not attracted to her anyways and that's not going to just magically change.
But she asked you kindly what she can do to change how you felt, what would you tell her?
Truth serum applied, you'd state:
"Be more physically attractive."
But she refused to do it because she wants guys to see past her exterior. She believes she's an awesome girl and if guys were not so "superficially" into looks, she wouldn't even have to bother.
Notice the words:
IF guys were different - SHE wouldn't have to change. Problem solved.
So in YOUR case - IF women liked boring guys, If women didn't like guys who were exciting, IF women didn't go for men who liked adventures... YOU wouldn't have to change either and problem solved.
Well unless you plan on changing the whole female race OR if you'd like to wait it out OR - (new mindset coming so pay attention) ...
You're hoping one day to meet a woman who actually LIKES BORING GUYS.
But think of it this way...
Any woman who falls for the mundane, any woman who is attracted to weak guys who won't get off their ass and instruct some balance and small changes in their lives, any woman who falls madly in love with a boring guy will forever and only ever be saying - each time that she says she LOVES YOU UNCONDITIONALLY with that sweet look in her eyes:
You're boring. You're mundane. You're weak.
And I guarantee you will NEVER be happy having to listen to that for the rest of your life!
I'm absolutely and positively SERIOUS.
THAT thought and concept occurred to me years ago and FORCED me to change just a little about me and the lifestyle I lived because I KNEW I was boring, and I KNEW any woman who would have me (just the way I was) and was into the lame monotony was in some strange way...
Would be showing, proving, and reminding me of that awfulness everyday I was with her.
I know for a FACT you want a woman to be so into you that NOTHING else matters.
But it's a dream. Sure you might get lucky but as in the case above, it's most likely not going to work out the way you intended it.
Here's the reality and you know it:
When you BORE a woman, she's going to reject you because women are not going to throw themselves at you and give up every other guy in the world for anything less than the one guy who makes her feel excited, alive, attractive, and has dreams beyond playing games, getting high, and hanging out on the computer.
Did down deep and you know it - whether you care to admit or DO something about it is a choice you must make and I believe making it today would be a great start.
Not only will you be fixing this problem with women - you'll also feel better, be happier, live a more productive life you enjoy showing off, AND in the process you'll make me happier for helping you and make me feel good about what I do.
Here's the fix so you can begin to communicate excitement to her - get her excited to see you AND have fun while doing it.
There are two parts to this: Conversationally boring and Lifestyle boring.
You don't need to excel at both (although it doesn't help) but having a good balance of the two can make all the difference between women liking you or not.
If you're not that interesting to talk to OR you don't know how to talk to women in a way which excites AND attracts them - THAT is something which must be taken care of IMMEDIATELY because even if you're not living a movie-star lifestyle or hopping on your Jet Ski every weekend or climbing Mount Everest on a dare...
Through your conversations with women you can make it FEEL and look like you DO live an exciting life and they'll want to join you. Remember - when you're excited, invigorated, and passionate about what you do - others will get it AND they'll want to listen to you.
If you don't have a lifestyle or living some kind of life that a woman would want to be a part of, then of course THAT needs to be addressed too.
Do NOT let this one pass because it's somewhat easy to fix for ANY guy.
As David DeAngelo once wrote to me un-personally,
"If you want to keep her interest, then you have to be INTERESTING."
The first step is to become fascinated or interested in YOURSELF. Right now, as soon as you can.
You must admit that if you don't like yourself all that much or find yourself boring - women will too.
Here's where I show you exactly how that's done:
Boring also goes hand in hand with being a little too predictable so go here next:
Then - get yourself a social life that includes it all naturally:
In the section below of the "quick view of why girls don't like you" you'll find lots of links to have better, more exciting, and less boring conversations:
I'll change that link once the full write up is done but for now, it will help you.
Learn this conversation technique (cocky Comedy) as quickly as you can and put it to use with each and every interaction you have with a woman - just use sparingly and the right way. Don't worry, you'll probably screw it up a little at first but you'll get better at it with some dedicated practice.
The LEAST BORING conversational style that has it ALL is called cocky/comedy:
- How To Create Attraction In 4 Minutes By Watching Ghostbusters
- Cocky Comedy – The Difference Being Confident & Acting Like a Jerk
If you want to skip the quick help and improve your conversational ability to be the right blend of cocky comedy as fast as humanly possible - so you can use it to attract women right away, then use my link below, buy the full course and you'll instantly see how no woman would DARE accuse you of being boring EVER again!
For a complete LIFESTYLE overhaul - this is one inexpensive POWER PACKED solution I've gone through myself - follow the rules - live the life - no more boring lifestyle - which means more confidence, more dates, happier life, positive attitude and "boring and being bored" will be in your past... forever.
Here's a sneak preview on the course I set up for here are DiaLteG TM:
Now it's time for the conclusion of today's (hopefully) not-so-boring post...
Women find you boring and maybe, like I was told several times, they've actually said that was the reason you were rejected or not given a chance with them.
You CAN change that IF you're willing to look past and get over your, "I want girls to like me for who I am!" mindset.
You wouldn't date a woman you were not attracted to unless she became attractive to you AND women will act the same way.
Do NOT let a woman settle for you because if you do, she'll only ever continually show you THAT is how she thinks of you and you will NOT like having to hear it everyday.
It WILL sooner or later make you miserable and unhappy with your selection of her.
There are two easy and simple ways to become less boring and more exciting to women:
Your lifestyle and your conversations with them.
Your lifestyle - find a better balance. Start doing things that ARE exciting. You don't have to go out and buy a motorcycle and bust your head up BUT you do have to make a few simple adjustments to your life and your attitude about living life with passion.
Here's something else I didn't mention above which you might want to look into:
Woman LOVE a bad boy because for many reasons. You can read about that in the last post I wrote:
Give it a try if you like and it's practically guaranteed - women will never call you boring again.
There's a great read from Carlos Xuma on that page but you can also access here for free:
HOW you talk to women will make a huge difference in how women see you.
You might like doing stuff they don't find exciting and that's okay, BUT you must find a way to make your conversations with them BETTER than just lame talks about that cool stuff.
Women are big on having strong passionate and sometimes sexy exciting conversations with guys and they will always choose THAT guy over anyone else - no matter WHAT he does.
So learn it from the links above.
Flirt a little, okay, a LOT more.
Show some charm, wit, intelligence, confidence, and humor.
Get them EXCITED to talk to you and you will forever be seen by her AS THAT GUY who does it for her in more ways than one.
The cocky-comedy works great but it's just a spice so learn some other techniques as well so you're a full well-rounded man.
You'll enjoy yourself more and so will women.
Here's some quick articles to get you started and more:
Don't forget about the two offers above too:
Images by Marcelo Chagas at Pexels.
This was reason one from the quick versions you'll find on this page: