This reason for failing with lots of women may not be apply to lots of guys BUT the underlying cause of it happening definitely is...
It's called INSTANT RELATIONSHIP MODE and it's an attraction killer for women and men.
Leave the parents out of it for a while.
I understand how you want to show her you're "relationship" or "boyfriend" material.
How you're not just some douche-bag guy trying to fuck her, BUT there are many other ways to slowly bring out your better traits WITHOUT introducing your parents so quickly or by going into instant relationship mode.
The INSTANT RELATIONSHIP is a huge problem for lots of guys which is why it's on the list.
Let me know if you can relate to any of this:
Way back in my, I call them "dark days with women", the moment I met one I was highly attracted to my mind would race to all sorts of conclusions.
I'd actually come up with scenarios in my head while laying in bed how she'd be my girlfriend, every detail of how it would happen, how it would be some sweet romantic gesture and she'd instantly toss away every guy to run into my arms and we would be... in... love!
That's how bad Id go into an instant relationship and it never changed. From woman to woman, the details would vary, but the outcome was the same - she'd fall madly in love with me.
And so of course I'd actually try some of those things and they NEVER worked because no woman can be convinced or romanced into feeling attraction. It actually creeps them out more than anything.
This is how you act when you go into instant relationship mode and what it does to women:
- Urgent - as if you have to have her now before another guy gets her, which actually pushes her away because she feels chased.
- Calls too much too often with no reason for doing so making her believe you don't have a life.
- Texting her useless info which shuts her emotional brain off to you.
- Don't give her the opportunity to think and begin to feel something so she puts you in the slightly annoying friend category.
- Use gifts and romance as a means to create attraction which makes her feel like you don't believe in yourself and are resorting too buying her affection - which in turn makes her feel cheap and manipulated.
- Immediately stop looking and dating other women which means you start acting out of scarcity and not abundance putting way too much pressure on a woman to be perfect for you.
- Act clingy, needy, and desperate for her approval and she's loses all respect for you plus any attraction she might've felt early on.
Dating is there for a reason - to get to know each other - discover some compatibility - qualify each other - find the most suitable partner AND have fun while doing it.
So unless your parents are rich and famous - how much fun is it to add to the anxiety and drive up the pressure on you and her, all because you want her to meet your parents so early on.
It's not fun for her. I hope it isn't fun for you because that's just kind of weird man.
Let the relationship develop naturally.
Date several women at a time.
Don't ACT like you're in a relationship until you actually are in one.
The parent meeting time will come around on its own timetable - don't rush it.
There are several immediate fixes to this problem but in the end, it will require some long-term work on your part but it's worth it.
Let's quickly go through the list above so you can get right to it:
Urgency: A gnawing feeling which causes you to believe that any woman you meet must be immediately GOT.
Rather than get into all here, if this is your problem then this page I set up will help you fix it so you're not pushing women away and so you can give a woman all the space she needs to grow even more attracted to you.
"It’s a major insecurity issue mixed with fear and combined with a low self-esteem making it a tough one to get past"
The three major issues which causes it are:
- Low self-esteem
Work on those problems and it all goes away... guaranteed!
Here's the absolute best program by David DeAngelo (of course) to literally erase all that junk from your brain so you can be more free and easy around women:
Calling her all the time with no reason for it and texting her useless info.
Make yourself some simple and easy rules to follow.
- When you meet a woman, call and text her half as much as you used to, sometimes even less.
- Don't text or call unless you're setting up a date or catching up with her because it's been a while.
- Don't send random texts - make each and every one matter.
- Put yourself in more natural positions, like doing things you like doing outside of woman so you're less likely to be able to call or text her.
If and when you do contact her - make it count. Here are two great pages to show you how it's done from the master conversationalist himself:
Trying to buy or romance your way into her heart.
Since instant relationship guys tend to overdo the romance and gift giving or buying thinking that it will create a quicker attraction - these habits must be stopped as quickly as possible.
It feels like you want to show her you're a great provider thus making you appear "boyfriend" material but that's not what most women want.
The few articles below will do everything in my power to get you out of this "myth" mindset so you can stop doing it.
"A great provider provides strength and stability in a relationship, and not money."
"When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.”
“A lot of guys feel there is a financial ‘price‘ for playing the dating game.
They figure, if you’re going to get a girl you’re going to have to wine and dine a bunch of different women”
When you meet a woman - you instantly stop looking and dating other women.
Again - it's time to make a few rules for yourself that you can stick to and give yourself every reason to believe in them, or else you won't do them.
- Admit to yourself you CAN be a selector - you DO have choices - you don't have to settle.
- ALWAYS date more than one woman at a time and spread out the dates accordingly.
- David DeAngelo taught me this: "When you meet a woman you really like, immediately go out and find many more just like her."
No one is asking you to become a player. You don't have to engage in one-night stands (although they would certainly get you out of relationship mode quickly).
BUT you must find a way to believe in yourself that you do have WORTH and something substantial to give to women the right way.
As they say, ACT from ABUNDANCE and not from scarcity because not only does it positively affect your mindset, it takes you out of relationship mode AND makes you entirely more attractive to women...
Which in turn - gives you more opportunity to date many women at once.
Here's an amazing book I used myself and notice the name - it will help you in all these areas and give you (not only the confidence to attract and date more women) but a clearer understanding AND the skills to be a VERY successful man in dating women.
Acting clingy, needy, and desperate for her approval.
There is NO quick and easy fix quick for this one. I'm not going to lie to you about that BUT it IS fixable and worth it too because it's not an isolated thing, it's part of what makes you therefore affects EVERY aspect of your life.
Which to me is a GREAT reason to work on it because you'll be happier, more productive in every you like to do, and you'll feel better too.
The good news is that this is inherently a major nice guy problem and you'll find EVERYTHING you need here at DiaLteG TM so you can start working on it today.
Start here and follow along:
They are more than just "tips" and by the time you're done with all 21 pages you WILL be finally free from this nice guy affliction.
For those who like to read off the web - download the pdf I made out of it: How You Can Be More Attractive To Women: You’re Not A Nice Guy Anymore!
When you're at a point in your life that you're sick and tired and trudging through all the "free" advice and you want something made specifically to get you past any and every woman problem you might be having AND the "relationship mode" is where you're at because that is ALL you really want and feel you need, THIS is where you'll find it.
Time for the conclusion.
So... you wanted or had her meet your parents after a few dates or less?
In itself or if it's an isolated incident may not seem like a big deal but the implications of why it happened certainly is and can be a huge reason why you're failing with women or "girls" just don't seem to like you all the much.
This is typically a "going into an instant relationship" problem which comes from many areas but effectively has the same effect and none of it's usually good.
You want to show her you're in it for the long-term. How you're looking for a real relationship. You're not just some scumbag player who only is looking for sex.
You want her to understand you are "boyfriend" material and you want to do whatever you can to prove it.
The problem is by doing so you're disregarding some important aspects and requirements need to create attraction AND...
You're only actually doing things which show her that you're insecure, needy, desperate, approval seeking, low self-esteem, little confidence, acting from scarcity rather than abundance, fearful, and even a little manipulative in the nice guy sense.
It's doing the complete opposite and ruining your chances with some really great women.
Follow all the great advice above and this problem can and will be eliminated and you'll find lots of women who will like you and then...
After you've qualified her, spent some great time together, gone on lots of fun dates, and taken a reasonable amount of time together:
By all means - let the parents or relative introduction happen because that IS an important step leading to a relationship.
Some related helpful articles you can go through:
- Are Your Space Issues Pushing Women Away? Why You’re Like This & How To Stop It
- “She Said, I Need Space” The Difference Between Giving Her Space and Creating The Space Necessary
Related articles about failing with women:
- Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women
- The Ten Reasons Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT Men Fail With Women
- What Women HATE Most About Single Guys
- Are You Like This Guy? If So You’ll NEVER Get A Woman
This was reason two from the quick versions you’ll find on this page: