Is there really a trick to all this attraction and meeting stuff?
Can you dress up your “image” and within a short time have women chasing you down? You know calling you up in the middle of the night for a rendezvous?
Of course by “image” I’m don’t mean your physical looks.
More like a small confidence overhaul, a boost in your esteem, and a personality with character who doesn’t feel the need to “give it all away” too easily.
Between you and me, yes. Definitely!
I’ve been there, done it, and this is not including the fact that just going out to bars increases any man’s chances of casual sex with the right attitude.
Just probably not meeting the right woman.
It in part comes down to “quality” and “appearance”.
You want high quality women you’ll want to increase the quality of your life in any and every way possible.
You want a woman who is considered to be magnetically attractive in some way, whether it’s her ass, her chest, a dynamite personality, or just an extreme looker, then you better increase the quantity and attractiveness of your experiences with those “types” of women.
What I’m trying to say in my own often mistaken cryptic sense is again, yes.
There IS a trick to getting attraction just right from the moment you lay your eyes on her.
But often it’s not what you think.
Or what you feel you must do.
It’s about what you DON’T feel like doing.
Take the extreme…
Let’s say you want to start only dating hot young models. Why? Who knows I’ve heard they’re a pain in the ass but hey if that’s what you’re into. 🙂
Well you’re looking at some serious competition there my friend and you won’t be competing with just other guys. You can add some hot bisexuals to that list.
It means you must start doing all the things you’ve avoided.
Mainly because it’s not your style or desire.
Stands to reason if you’ve don’t mind the competition, live like a rock star, or put yourself in every available position like becoming a photographer, producer, or casting director, you’re never going to even meet those hot models in the first place.
What about another more than paraphrased example I’m stealing, excuse me… “borrowing” from a newsletter written by that naked truth guy, David Wygant.
You’re a little overweight, you’re old like me, and you’re not a physical guy. You’re not out there playing sports and climbing mountains or spending all your money on four-wheelers, snowmobiles, and jet skis but you WANT a young athletic woman who likes it on top in every sense of the word.
Again, it stands to reason if you’ve stayed active, ate a little better, and got into those types of things growing up – you’ve probably would have already met a hundred young athletic women where all you have to do is – not screw up the attraction thing right off the bat.
Now I’m NOT saying it can’t happen or you won’t meet a woman who fears asking you how old you are because she likes you so much she won’t admit she’s in love with an old man…
The point is – or the trick to all of this and that – or the secret solution to the women problems we all suffer from – is not all about dressing up your image.
It’s not even all about a small boost of confidence.
Sure it helps but it’s NOT the answer.
The answer, the secret, the TRICK is to start doing those very specific things you’ve avoided doing before TODAY so you’ll give yourself more than a better chance tomorrow to get the woman you attracted to today.
Does that make any sense?
Probably not to everyone.
What I’m trying to say is tough because I’ve failed here more times than I would care to admit.
You know it’s really hard to inspire someone to do something you’ve not done yourself 100%.
But I feel it’s okay because all those little things I started doing before, which hasn’t landed me hot actresses but got me some pretty incredible women, some of which put any “model” to shame with their looks; well I firmly believe it was when I started doing anything and everything I was avoiding because of laziness, ignorance, or just plain depressive apathy, made enough difference to attract women who may have hidden in my blind spots.
“Our excuses don’t make things disappear from our lives, they hide the things we really want and desire the most from us.”
You know the ones who get missed because we go silent, avoid a party, say “no” to a request because we thought there would be no “hot chics” there, or believe she wouldn’t want us so bother trying, or even that cute girl at Macy’s who maybe took a little offense at what we said that day.
We only imagined we scared her off.
Alright let’s get to the absolute minimum you can do to increase your attractiveness to women and just maybe have them chasing you…
One “trick” to all this which will inevitably lead to meeting more women you DO want…
Immediately, start DOING all the things you love the most but have always managed to avoid doing.
The trick to making it work for YOU is to just go deep enough until women jump from your blind spots and appear before your very eyes.
I think they will because everything we do, say, live with, or deal with, has a huge impact on our relationships with the opposite sex.
For me, I started following up with those invitations I left unanswered. I started enjoying more Holidays. I stop refusing to DO things just because I felt there was not going to be any “hot chics” there.
I got a more reliable car which allowed me to travel.
I saved a little more for those just in case moments.
I took up an old passion of mine and joined a Pool League and nope, it wasn’t swimming.
I spent more time just getting to know the people I saw around me instead of avoiding the small talk because I thought it was absolutely mind-numbing boring. Sure for some it was, but for others I was pleasantly surprised at what they had to say or offer to my social life.
Notice NONE of that had anything to do with women, attraction tricks, approaching random women…
BUT IT WORKED because of what I mentioned above.
Those blind spots where the best women seem to be hiding, or where those awesome experiences were just waiting for those who dare to go there no longer were hidden from me.
Find something you love to do or have avoided due to excuses and follow it loosely. Follow the trail it leads you to, explore every available detail related to it and keep going until the women you WANT connect with sort of magically appear before your eyes.
In the grand scheme of things, nothing is THAT simple but the decisions you make between saying yes or no, or between the “doing” and “avoiding” or between one conversation or connection to the next…
Well each of those moments depend on one simple act which will either lead you closer to women or further away.