Lately I’ve been thinking about what men go through to get women.
Do they (women) actually appreciate it?
Do they even CARE?
Listen to a typical “Get the Girl” rambling.
Step into the mind of a guy trying to be his own version of a ladies man…
Make sure we look good.
Fresh breath and shiny shoes.
Wouldn’t want a misplaced image to destroy our chance at creating attraction, would we?
Okay, how should I approach that “hottie”?
Maybe with a joke, a simple “hello”, what…she’s not looking at me while we’re passing.
Her eyes suddenly dart down and away to avoid being hit on!!!!
As if I’m going to try to get in her pants in two minutes flat.
Wow… sometimes I DO wish I was THAT good.
Here’s my old friend. She’s attractive AND she’s clearly a woman, I bet she can get women to talk to her. I’ll wait and she’ll introduce me to other “hot” girls although I’m not sure she’s up on the idea of me hooking up with her friend.
But who cares. She’ll get over it. 🙂
She had her chance with me. Hahaha!
Okay how do I talk to her?
Do I flirt with her a lot. Maybe bust her ass. Mmmmm she looks good. Should I compliment her? NO! I was told not to (at first). I was told to let her wonder.
This conversation is bo – ring! Must be me. She’s too hot to be boring.
Yeah right. I’m sorry – this one’s not too bright. Oh well look at that ass!
Strange she doesn’t seem too into me anyways.
Probably not HER type.
I probably screwed up. I didn’t “wow” her. I guess that mistake I made when I forgot and asked her out too early scared her away.
Remember Dummy (smack smack) – it goes – attract – rapport – comfort – then sex. Yeah that’s how it goes.
Ahhhh but sex would be comforting right now, THEN I could get to know her better.
I forgot to create attraction AGAIN.
These stinking rules are “Making – me…. thirsty!”
Back to the drawing board.
I’m trying too hard and woman can see right through it.
Seriously I’m not kidding.
Take a guy who’s not so good with women and teach him how to fish.
You have to buy the right pole.
You’ll need the proper Tess.
Wouldn’t want to her get away.
Different bait for those “different” girls.
What about a Bobber, throw it out and see who grabs it?
Maybe I’ll “fly fish” and drag my social life along and wait for a hit.
I have to be on 100% all the time. I have to let out the right amount of slack so I can let her swim around a little before I reel in her in.
Will my inner game be strong enough to hold on. Guess I have to “up” my “Inner Tess.”
Remember it takes Character, Strength, Personalty, Charisma, Indifference, got to avoid making those easy mistakes, wouldn’t want to offend her, gotta be a little cocky, a little fun, a little this, and ALL that, gotta make sure I don’t come on too quickly or I’ll scare her away….
SHIT she grabbed the bait and ran.
Now she’s biting on “that dude’s” line?
Ouch…now she’s nibbling on his ear. WHAT? She only knew him for like twenty freaking seconds.
Well – duh – if you say the wrong magic words – she won’t like you. If you give her a little she’ll take it all and run. If you give her too much she’ll see you as “too easy” or inexperienced, or not worthy of her “bedtime” aerobics.
Why does it feel like I’m fishing from a Balance Beam and all the other women in close proximity are judging my every move, looking for every little reason to reject me, but of course letting me dangle there. You know… just in case.
The words of the day are…
Life is NOT fair.
Relationships are anything BUT perfect.
If we walk half a mile and climb a steep mountain just to make sure we’re eligible to be chosen – does NOT guarantee we’ll find ourselves with the woman we felt the most for – that day.
I feel men give way too much to all this and so few of them get anything to show for it.
Think about what women go through every day to “attract and marry” the man of her childhood dreams.
Some say it’s as simple as “looking good”, “being nice”, and “walking by at the right time.”
But she’s knows it’s not.
She feels something for some guys and nothing for others and it seems the “others” are everywhere but the one guy she wants the most – well he’s always freaking taken or he’s an asshole.
I’m lying, on some days he’s “nice”.
Think about what men go through just to make her believe he’s the man of her fantasies.
It’s not difficult to learn how to attract but if the next stages don’t go right… if the timing’s bad, if the competition is not there, if there’s no chemistry and connection, or if there’s nothing to do today, or she’s not taken to the right places, or if it’s makes her feel like it’s date, or if…
Well you’re getting the point and you should because I’ve been laying it on quite thick.
Let me ask you a few questions…
What have you gone through just to get ONE girl?
Did it work?
Do you feel like men have to work much harder to please women, than they have to please us guys?
Fair is not in question, but the reality of it all actually makes us believe if we don’t spend every waking minute on techniques and tactics we’re doomed to fail more than succeed.
Is it because women are the choosers and we have no choice?
Is it because she’s changes her mind ten times a second?
Seriously… STOP IT!
If you spend all your energy chasing the “uninterested” you will leave very little for learning the powerful concept of how attraction works.
Get out of your own way.
Get out of your own head.
Before you leave the house today get dressed in the dark.
I’ll do it with you, I promise.
Don’t comb your hair – (okay already) you CAN shower. Haha!
If you have anything “real” to say to a woman because you like the way she looks, or looked at you – say it!
I’m not giving you permission to degrade or use hurtful words but if you want talk about the game last night and how your teams sucks – who cares if she doesn’t feel attracted to you because of it.
Whether she cares at all how much you go through, or appreciates the hard work you’ve done, or how hard you’re trying to be someone women want so badly – It will NOT make her feel more attracted to you.
Stop caring so much about what SHE wants. Stop taking her opinions or feelings so personal.
If they appreciate you less because you have a “proverbial” hair out of place… well then all I can say is…
At least for one day – put that hair high up in the sky so everyone can see and show it off. 😀