Look around and I'm sure you've made the connection...A popular guy has a hot girlfriend by his side.
Well you might be wondering if it's at all possible for let's say an average, popularity speaking guy, to get one.
I'm with you there and when a reader sent me this question I could not help but to give my opinion... and hopefully the answer you're looking for.
Being popular is NOT required to getting a hot girlfriend BUT it sure does help.
I'm not going to make false promises or tell you being popular has nothing to do with it.
That's not really fair to you.
We can narrow it down by defining popular but I feel that will only confuse the issue.
Let's just assume, good or bad, popular means you're well-known somewhere in any venue.
Everything I learned about attracting beautiful women comes from the idea that whoever she is - exceptional social competence and status makes a huge difference.
So you're not going to have much success attracting women by just your looks.
It's just not going to happen, generally speaking of course.
The reality of it seems to be - having exceptional social skills and high status will just about automatically make you popular.
It goes along with it.
Now of course you can be popular and not liked at the same time.
People can love to hate you which in turn can make you more well-known.
Loved, revered, or hated, when you have the right social mixture people will consider you popular.
I hope by now you're questioning what I said earlier because I do not want you to take everything I say as an absolute truth...
It's not required but it sure does help.
Then how is it possible to attract "exceptionally cute" women without being the most well-known person in your community?
Let's explore this issue...
Friends - have lots of them and act respectfully.
You don't have to be well-known by everybody but if there's one thing I know in the world of being an attractive man - your friends (when made the right way) their friends, and their friends of their friends are capable of turning even an "average" lonely guy into a well sought out man by single beautiful women.
Wow that was a mouthful.
I've thought hard about it and yes it does seem like when you have lots of good friends you're considered popular.
Yet there is a distinct difference between people seeking you out - popularity - and just being a great enough guy you make lots of friends.
You see when you're out and about living your life there's a vast amount of opportunity to meet lots of women.
When you're "pre-selected" and introduced to the more attractive ones by your friends you're going to find she's probably going to trust you more.
She's more likely to accept you as a real person because so many others do.
BUT, and I'm going to warn you, pre-selection by friends can and does land way too many men in the friends zone.
You'll have to learn how to avoid that trap so for those of you who always end up there - please I insist you take care of that issue as quickly as you can or else meeting friends of friends may not help you at all.
The second way to attract a hotter girlfriend is to get women to chase or compete over you more.
You can learn all about that in my last post - You Want More Dating Choices, Then Learn How To Get Women To Chase You.
You'll find four ways plus more on how to have those women begin to chase you.
The idea is basically this - competition for you, make yourself the prize, allow women to act fearless when with you, open yourself up just enough to make her feel special, and attract her or them with an amazing lifestyle.
And I don't believe you need to be that popular to have all that happen naturally.
The third way to make it happen is a no-brainer but probably much harder.
I mean seriously you might have to do a lot of work so ask yourself if it's worth it to you before you proceed.
I talked a little about branching out your friendships to meet more women.
So you got that going for you.
I talked about getting the one you meet to chase you. And you've got that going for you too...
Now - expand yourself and increase your odds of success by using every possible means to connect with ALL women you find attractive.
Use the internet.
Use several dating sites and maximize the social ones where it's appropriate.
If you're out to dinner and your waitress is hot - well you better get her name and her phone number.
Utilize every meeting to further expand how many women you meet.
If you're walking somewhere, anywhere, and you see an attractive women - don't fall back - say something.
Preferable "Hello" even if it goes nowhere.
Visit bookstores, malls, get a membership to a gym, go skiing, play volleyball on a beach...
The point is that beautiful women live every available life and if you only look for them where they're more likely to hook up with Mister Popularity - then yes...
You're going to have to be popular to get them to be your girlfriend.
I have known so many attractive women who live such boring sheltered lives it pains me to talk about it.
They don't do very much at all.
They rarely go to parties.
You'll never find them at a bar or a club.
Yet they're so incredibly good-looking they'll make your knees buckle to see them.
And THOSE are the ones who couldn't care less how popular you are.
They couldn't care less how big your bank account is or what you drive.
They refuse to be someone's eye candy and the last thing they want from you is to drag them to places they don't want to go - because YOU'RE intent on being popular.
For more advice on meeting hotter women please read through my recent post - Start Meeting Hotter Women – Find and Remove Your Fears Around Them.
Last but definitely not least... Make sure you Look the part you plan on living and playing in.
If you're going to be with an attractive women - and no you don't have to great looking, BUT you must take care of yourself down to every last detail.
You can get a pretty good list with some great tips on my page: Refine Your Look, Style – How To Take Care Of The Details Women Notice
Truthfully speaking people, and in this case women, do assume certain things about you based on how you look.
I can not help that nor can I get in her head to change her belief structure.
Now if you believe it's all about how good-looking you are, I'm going to disagree with you almost entirely.
You must understand though your image is something she's going to see first, you don't want to have to work so hard to overcome that challenge.
Especially when so many things about yourself are in your control.
I feel it's just best to suck up any notions you have that looks mean nothing or everything and learn to make yourself feel exceptionally good about yourself by taking care of those details.
On the whole of it all - Yes. It does help to "get" a hot girlfriend if you're popular.
I will admit that.
But based on what I've shown you today it IS possible for any perceived "average" known guy to land a hot girlfriend.
That is if you follow or believe in yourself and you:
- Make lots of respectful friends.
- Work on attracting women to get them to chase you. In other words become "pre-selected."
- Expand your options and opportunities to meet the kind of women who couldn't care less about your popularity.
- Look the part you plan on living and don't let the small stuff you have control of ruin your chances.
But then again - doing that - and doing it right - WILL make you popular because you're bound to have other guys wanting to be like you and more women will want to be with you AND to be your girlfriend.