They use excuses to prove their actions and only feed the misconception that being nice has anything to do with attraction.
Check out this video Scot McKay has posted.
(Sorry, the video is not longer available but you can still learn something so please keep reading.)
It’s a short interview with an incredibly beautiful woman who finds herself dateless. You can learn so much from this seven minute video that I had to include it.
Make sure you pay close attention to the text this nice guy sent her…..
I’d Love to get together some time but I don’t want to be pushy. You’re a pretty cute girl and I would love to get to know you but if you have a boyfriend, or girlfriend, haha, or just not interested, just let me know. Either way I still want to show you around.
I’d love to get together sometime but I don’t want to be pushy.
This is what enters a woman’s mind when you say anything similar in this context…
Love…aww he’s sweet…together…ooo…a date….doesn’t want to be pushy…wtf…I gave him my number…he’s a pushover, great!!!
You’re a pretty cute girl and I would love to get to know you but if you have a boyfriend, or girlfriend, haha, or just not interested, just let me know.
Her mind or what she’s thinking now:
he thinks I’m cute…my mom’s cute…love…wow…yep, he’s real confident…i gave him my number…doesn’t that mean I am least interested..let me know? So what now, I’m supposed to call him even though I gave him MY number…this guy would be way too much work!
Either way I still want to show you around.
Her mind or what she’s probably thinking now:
Show me around…what am I…a trophy…why don’t you just call and tell me what we are going to do!!!!!
What she actually says about it:
Now I don’t want to be friends with him at all. He didn’t call me, confidence is not there. I don’t want to call him back if he can’t call me at all.
Okay so I AM exaggerating to prove a point but believe me, if you talk like this to a woman you want to date, if you text women like this that you want to date… STOP IT!
Even out of context the message this man sends wreaks of neediness. It shows little confidence, and just gives her a clear picture of a guy that doesn’t understand women. Believe me I know all of the cop outs or excuses.
I have said them all myself and is probably why this guy wrote texts like this…
“I don’t want to be like every other guy she has met.”
When you say this you are already being just like every other guy. I would have to say it’s the biggest reason a woman like the one in the video goes dateless.
It’s also a big reason women date jerks. The jerks are not afraid to step up and be their own unique self. The tactics they use are often anti-social but women thrive on feelings and emotions.
And feeling something is better than feeling nothing.
If you actually believe that if you give a woman a choice between a real masculine man or a typical jerk, and she will still choose the jerk, I’m going to say abruptly – you’re wrong!
“I don’t want her to think I just want her body.”
She has a sexy body, a pretty face, and great hair. If she likes you, I mean really likes you, she wants to share that incredible body with you.
She wants to experience your passion.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting her body but there is something wrong with trying to hide your masculinity.
If you genuinely want to connect with a girl then connect with her emotions.
“She’s so hot and I don’t want to ruin it.”
Thinking like this or acting on this is always a great way to ruin it anyways.
So what, she’s hot. Get over it! The women who use their looks to get through life are not worth it anyways. Don’t let the power of her looks she has over “other” guys affect you negatively and there’s a good chance you won’t ruin it.
Now, raise your hand if you’ve said any of these before.
My hand is held high.
I admit it.
So get them out of your system today and learn to recognize them.
Do it below and lets fill this page full of cop-outs or excuses on avoiding being a masculine man so we cal ALL learn from them.
We can ALL learn something valuable today about our “nice guy” mistakes.
Whether it’s the old classic “fortune favors the bold” or how we should avoid excuses or giving her every reason to reject us because we’re afraid of being THAT guy…
Mostly it’s about being a leader. Confident in ourselves. Aware of her intelligence and how it’s actually OKAY to be a masculine man because that’s what women really want.
No matter how good-looking she is, no matter how many guys hit on her on a daily basis, women like that can go “datelss” for a very long time because too many men are pretending to be someone they think she’s looking for rather than being the masculine leader she feels the most attraction for.