A Trick For Getting A Woman’s Number – The Secret Is Out!

Written by David DeAngelo.

Hey... have you read Chapter 9 from my legendary "ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE" eBook yet?

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Here's how.

Okay, so I got a bunch of emails this time around asking about how to get a woman's info (email, phone #, etc) and then follow up.

Read on for SPECIFIC ANSWERS plus a whole lot more...


"Hi Dave,

I got your book and subscribed to the emails about a year ago. It's great stuff. A lot of it is new to me - but so much is obvious (with hindsight!!).

I am seeing my inner game change slowly but surely, so that I feel less and less that I need a woman and more and more that they are lucky to have me.

Looking back (I am 40) I reckon I have been most successful with girls when I was most relaxed and confident - they say success breeds success!

Here are a couple of interesting experiences I have had that confirm your approach...

I had a 19 yr old foreign student as a girlfriend a while back. The first night back at my place I offered to call a taxi for, her put her in the spare bedroom or she could sleep with me.

Obviously she chose to sleep with me!

I was just trying to be a gentleman - but my theory now is that by `pulling back' I challenged her expectations (that most guys would be desperate for her to stay) and I forced her to take responsibility for choosing what SHE wanted (whereas most girls spend their time rejecting what GUYS want).

My latest girlfriend is 29 and a total babe. But she is a bit spoilt. She often gets sulky if she feels she isn't getting enough attention from me.

In the past I would have done whatever she asked.

Now I realise that is a game you can never win.

Instead I ask her if she treats her friends like this - no - so why does she think it is ok with me? She has actually said that she really respects me for not letting her be a spoilt brat.

Also sometimes she threatens to find another boyfriend. I always tell her that I can't stop her if that's what she wants. Then she always says she doesn't want anyone else.

It seems so obvious now - why should a woman respect a man she can control??

I read your latest email about getting numbers.

The point about not hiding your intentions is so true! Of course a woman knows what you want. If you pretend otherwise you just seem weak (& also you have made it really hard to bridge to getting the number Doh!).

BUT - why do you say turn away & then turn back as if it is an afterthought?

Isn't this exactly the pretense you said not to do?

Why not just say `I've got to go now, but I'd like to talk to you again. Have you got email?' Isn't that less wussy? Or am I missing some subtlety here. (I have tried the turning away thing, but without success. I think maybe I am not a very good actor)

Thanks for the fantastic information, Dave,




Hey N, great to hear from one of my students across the pond. Confirms that what works with women in one place ALSO WORKS everywhere else...

Anyway, on to your question.

Listen, it's fine to NOT turn away and just ask a woman for her email address directly.

It's actually how I developed my world-famous "3 Minute" technique for getting a woman's number and/or email.

(If you need a refresher on that technique, go here now)

Anyway, once upon a time, I very WRONGLY imagined that it was impossible to walk up to a woman who was a complete stranger and have her just give her number to me.

So what did I do instead?

I started investigating lots of different kinds of tricks and techniques, from palmistry to handwriting analysis... and all kinds of other freaky, pseudo-clever, mostly embarrassing ideas.

I figured that I had to somehow "distract" a woman from the fact that I was interested and wanted her number!

The turning away, then turning back, is something that is kind of "left over" from those days of being "clever."

Turning away, then turning back, basically demonstrates to a woman that you're OK with walking away without getting her number... which is a good exercise if you're at the stage where you get nervous asking for a woman's number/email.

Feel free to just say, "Do you have email?" and then, "Great, write it down... I want to talk to you again" etc.

As long as you are cool and calm with all of your other communication, you'll be fine.


"Hey Dave,

Your material is awesome. I have met more women in 4 weeks with your material than in the previous 4 years of dating!

I have, however, come across a problem which requires your expertise.

I can easily obtain a woman's email and during the follow up email get their number. However, I get their voice mail often when I call them up.

What is your feeling about leaving a message with them?

I mean if you call several times (and they have caller I.D.) and don't leave a message they will think you are some kind of weirdo.

For example I got this hot woman's email but whenever I call her(3 times in the past week) I get her answering machine.

Should I leave a cocky/funny message on the third attempt or should I email her back or just keep calling until I get in touch with her?

Thanks for your help,

D. in Alabama"


I'm going to answer your question in two different ways... one is the direct answer, and one is the "bigger picture" answer...

First, the bigger picture answer:

Most problems, like this one, boil down to a rather simple formula:


Are you with me here?

If you were out getting more emails and numbers every day instead of worrying about this one, you would have called her the first time and said, "Hey, it's me. Call me, here's my number..."

A few days later you would have probably emailed and said, "Hey, you'd better call me, because my week is filling up fast..."

Finally, you would have forgotten about her because you got too busy seeing other women.

When you become too concerned with one woman, you do things like CALLING HER THREE TIMES IN A WEEK... without her calling you back.

What's the message you're sending to her?

Of course... "I tolerate and even pursue women who don't call me back."

That's not what you want to communicate, man.

By not leaving messages, you also add the charming TWIST to the overall message of "I might be a stalker, because I don't leave messages."

So, get out there and meet more women! That's the bottom line.

And now, the direct answer...

Call the first time and if you get voicemail say, "Hey, it's {your name here}, call me. My number is..."

If she doesn't call you, then send her an email that says: "What, trying to play hard to get already? Call me."

If she doesn't call you, then YOU have to decide what to do.

WHATEVER you do, don't call or email her again for awhile. Give it a week or two if she isn't responding to you.

Then, when you do contact her again, make sure she gets the hint that you're busy, that you're dating other women.

Oh, and that you're not at all impressed with the fact that she's a flake.


"Dear Dave,

Love your material. I have gone ten years looking for material on dating and your knowledge is second to none. I have learned tremendously from your ebook and emails.

I do have a question though. I had met a hottie the other night and using C & F she was all over me, making out with in a bar.

However when i got her back to my place and we continued "making out" she kept saying "I usually don't do this" and "what are you thinking (about us hooking up so quickly)?"

Needless to say I continued forward with my manly duties, but I was wondering 1) why was she asking these questions and 2) what is a good way to respond to such questions in the future.

Your new follower,

A in Vermont"


Okay A, let me ask YOU something...

  1. What would YOU do if you were a woman who:1) Had a self-image that didn't include "hooking up" with a guy the first night you meet him.
  2. Had a STRONG sexual attraction to a guy that you just met, and you want to hook up with him the night you met him?

Of course... you'd say things like, "I'm not this kind of girl" and "I don't usually do this" and "What do you think about this?" etc. etc. etc....

You've asked me what I think of this, and how to respond to it when it happens.

First, I think it's normal and natural for a woman to behave this way. Get used to it.

Secondly, as far as responding to this kind of thing... I have a couple of thoughts for you.

1) Don't Expect Anything

I think that guys get their hopes up when a woman "comes home" with them... and they get more and more excited about the possibility of "hooking up"... to the point where they're UPSET if it DOESN'T happen.

When you put this much importance on something, you set yourself up for failure... and often do things to CAUSE failure.

When you WANT something, it costs more. Right?

So don't EXPECT anything. Be OK with whatever happens. Lean back. Chill. Be cool with it.

2) Make Sure She Knows You're Cool With It

The next step is to let the woman you're with KNOW that whatever happens is cool.

Don't PUSH.

When you start using all the different concepts and techniques that you've learned together... and you start to smoothly transition from one step to the next... you will start to see women responding VERY powerfully.

But, part of this powerful response will USUALLY be some sort of "resistance."


Because women aren't used to meeting men who KNOW all this stuff!

They're not used to being swept away by the powerful sexual emotions that you're triggering with your communication, body language, and touch.

I'm not kidding here.

Don't be surprised when some women get so freaked out that they literally run out the door or start shaking with nervousness.

Women just aren't used to men who know how to make them feel things this powerfully!

Now, if a woman says "I don't know if this is a good idea, I don't usually do things like this with a guy I've just met"... you basically have a couple of choices.

You can PUSH, in which case you'll usually meet with resistance...

Or you can PULL BACK, then let things start again slowly... which will make it far more likely that things will continue to HEAT UP and continue to the next level.

But I go into all of this "hot" stuff in a lot more depth right here...

But for now, the real key here for you, A, is to walk into every situation with a woman NOT EXPECTING anything... or being overly concerned with the outcome.

Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of thing from women...

It's normal and natural.

Best of all... it shows you're listening to the MASTER and getting RESULTS.

Keep it up.



All I can say is wow!

Thanks a lot, the Dating Tip; What To Do When She LIKES You, couldn't have came at a better time!

It's the first message I read over, hell I even read it 3 times! And now canceling something tonight so I can read over your book and past letters, the information is truly amazing, I was shocked at how well this book was written.

Question: This one girl with a 9.5-10 personality and great looks has this sparkle in her eyes that I really LOVE.

How can I mention it in a non-pussy way?

Bust on her about it (making fun of it)? But I like it!

-JB, Chicago IL"


You really got me going with this one, JB.

Why is it that men feel such STRONG urges to compliment women early on?

I just don't know what's with us sometimes...

I have to say though, I know EXACTLY how you're feeling, because I have to watch this myself... it's like we come pre-wired with a "nice guy compliment" mechanism.

Well, TURN IT OFF for the first 10 dates or so, OK?

Look at those beautiful eyes, and when she says, "What? What are you looking at?" say, "Oh, just my own reflection in your eyes..."

Cocky *PLUS* Funny wins out every time.

If you need to get back in line when it comes to laying off the compliments and pouring on the Cocky & Funny instead, everything you need to know is here (including TONS of SPECIFIC things to say...)


"Hey David:

I have a question that I'm not sure you've addressed in your book.

Have you ever come across a situation where you're working on a girl and her construction worker boyfriend shows up ready to pound you one?

Any idea on how to handle that situation?

I've been there and lets just say that I'm damn lucky my front teeth don't look like some of the hidden back ones!

In fact, it's instilled an added fear into me that has made it really hard to approach women for the last 13 years. Some guys are crazy and if they see
another guy making his girlfriend all excited, it could be bad news.



Yeah, I have a great response for this...

Walk away.

What did you expect me to say? Beat him up?

I know that secretly a lot of guys have a fear of the husband or boyfriend showing up and becoming violent.

Does it happen?


How often?

I don't know... but, I can tell you that I've never heard of it happening to a guy for just talking to a girl... and I know a LOT of guys who meet a LOT of women.

Just walk away.

Risk is a part of life, and you have to accept it if you want to enjoy unusual levels of success.


"Hi Dave,

I've been enjoying your emails in the last few months. You've offered some valuable advice on how to deal with people. But, I am sorry to say I'm finding your advice less valuable.

You are focusing on being cocky and funny with people. But you are forgettign one thing.

You have to make sure you make people feel good. Otherwise, they will be like - fu** you, I don't to talk to you - you are a piece of sh**.

I'm just trying to help you get on the right track, man. Nothing personal."


I have to be brutally honest here, my friend...

You sound like just another "Couch-Based Expert."

In other words, I'll bet you couldn't get a woman's phone number if you were giving away CASH PRIZES... OK?

Now, to be fair, from time to time I do get an email from someone who says "It sounds to me like you're suggesting to men that they act like jerks", etc.

What does this tell me?

The most IMPORTANT thing it tells me is that you haven't read my book or listened to my Advanced Series... and you just don't get it.

This isn't about making women feel BAD...

It's about making them feel GOOD!

You might not have caught on yet, but half of the Cocky & Funny equation is FUNNY.

If you're funny, then you don't have to worry about what you say, because it's HUMOR.

I'm not sure that "Wow! That's nice shoes!" is the answer.

OK, now get up off your couch and go learn how to meet some women.

My suggestion?

Check out my "Advanced Series" that I mentioned above... it's 100% GUARANTEED to help you finally get OFF that couch... and start SUCCEEDING with women.

Once you do, please write back.

I love to hear it when one of my students gets off the bench and into the game.



You may not consider this a true success story it's not about scoring with every good-looking girl I meet. Rather it's about the change in my feeling about myself.

In the past few months I've gone from feeling absolutely crushed by "rejection" or seizing up to recognizing that there are so many attractive
women out there, IT DOESN'T MATTER if one of them shoots you down.

I've also reached the point where I can approach a cute girl and get her e-mail/number.

I admit sometimes it's not her real info, but this is a work in progress.

I'm on several online dating/chatting sites, working my stuff. I'm even using the arrogant humor routines on two of my former love interests and am starting to see some smoke rising as a result.

I'm working the material on the servers at the restaurants I frequent. And on and on...

At first, I didn't think it could take three years to "get it down," but last night I had my first cup-of-tea-at-Starbucks date and now I understand even more what you talk about in your online programs.

It does take time to become "totally congruent" with this. But it's going to beso much fun getting there!

So, in conclusion, I already consider myself to be a success simply because I feel so much more empowered as a man. Thank you.

CPAG Tucson, Arizona"


Actually, CPAG, this is the BEST kind of Success Story there is.

Now you know that getting a hot woman's number is no big deal... once you know HOW.

But, changing how you FEEL inside and how you feel aboutWait! Before You Try To Approach That Hottie – Read These True Stories YOURSELF is huge.

Great job.



First off, i realize you hear this a lot but your ebook is totally the mack- i've seen a big difference in my interaction with women which i'll contribute much of my success to your book.

I've recently been giving some serious thought to ordering your advanced materials.

Here's my question:

With the other 1 billion "buy our stuff and your success with women will boom for three easy payments of $19.99" sites, how would you compare your advanced series to {other dating products} which tout basically the same types of things?

Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying your stuff isn't brilliant, and i realize that i've easily spent $195 in dates/on women, i just wondered what your take is.

Thanks a ton and keep up the great work!



Well, here's the deal, M...

I'm about to say some things that are going to make me sound a little too confident, so get ready...

I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to be successful with women and dating.


I read books, listened to tapes, went to seminars... and tried all KINDS of things.

I mean, if you knew half of the stuff that I tried, you'd laugh your ass off at me.

Most of it didn't work... and the stuff that did work actually worked IN SPITE of the fact that it was lame!

I mean, if you do ANYTHING it will work SOME of the time.

I'm going to tell you something that is both simple and profound at the same time...

The thing that makes my Advanced Program different from all the other stuff out there is that it's BASED on watching and learning from guys who are "naturally" good with women.

The experience that REALLY took my success to a high level was watching, learning from, imitating, testing, and refining what I learned from these guys.

In fact, I invited several of my friends who were the MOST influential on me to participate in the live seminar that was edited into the Advanced Dating Techniques program -- I interview five of them LIVE in it.

I've worked hard to create a great set of tools and techniques, and a logical way to learn them, understand them, and start using them.

I will bet you that if you listen to or watch the entire 12+ hours of this program at LEAST 5 times... there are so many killer ideas inside, you will be thrilled.

Again: you can get all the details here.

And, if you haven't downloaded my online eBook yet, then go do that FIRST.

You can download it in a few minutes and be learning some of my best techniques right from the comfort of your computer.

It's right here.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your friend,

David DeAngelo

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David released his first book over ten years ago which changed the dating and attraction world for all the men he helped. He coined the phrase "Attraction Isn't A Choice" which is the first of many books and programs I went through personally as did millions of men in every corner of the world.

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His advice is unique, ethical, smart, and cleverly intuitive as he progresses from matter-of-fact to counter intuitive techniques and tips he practiced himself first, before ever releasing them to the public.

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