Written by Dean Cortez – The Cortez Files – One Night Stands Underground Seminar Notes (.pdf file open in new tab or right click and save)
You should know by now that when it comes to scoring a one-night-stand, both SPEED and TACT is of essence.
So let’s say you’ve used a solid Opener, you’ve determined that this girl fits your logistical criteria, and the conversation is flowing.
Now it’s your job to CONTROL the conversation and “tweak” her emotions to make her feel curiosity and sexual attraction.
In order to drive up her attraction, you’ll need to frame yourself as a CHALLENGE.
You’re not the typical, ordinary guy who is agreeing with everything she says, and trying to impress her!
The question isn’t whether YOU are worthy of HER.
No, the way you “frame” this conversation is that it’s HER job to impress YOU.
- Is she fun enough?
- Cool enough?
- Adventurous enough?
- Sexual enough? Etc.
When you turn the tables and make women want to earn YOUR approval, you’re well on your way to achieving the One Night Stand.
Here are some tactics you can use to turn the tables, frame yourself as a high-value guy, and drive up her interest and attraction…
Use backhanded compliments.
These are statements that sound like compliments initially, but then you slip in a “jab.”
These should sound like playful teases, not insults.
This technique is also known as Push/Pull.
“You’re the funnest girl I’ve met…in the last five minutes.”
“You’re cute, but I detect a bitchy high-maintenance vibe from you. I bet all your ex-boyfriends say you’re a handful.”
When she protests and playfully slaps you on the arm, you say “only kidding. Actually, not really…but it’s okay, you seem fun. Are you?”
Keep testing and challenging her.
Mention how you two shouldn’t date, or aren’t compatible.
This technique always catches women by surprise…and makes them feel curious to know more about you, because you’re doing the exact opposite of what most guys do!
Say things like…
“You and I could never be boyfriend and girlfriend. We’re way too much alike. We’d probably clash all the time, and then have crazy, wild make-up sex and wake up all the neighbors…and then we’d break up again the next day and you’d throw my clothes out in the front yard…it would be hot, but a whole lot of drama.”
“It’s too bad I swore off dating girls like you…” Change the subject and don’t explain.
“I’ve always had a thing for women who are tall/short/blonde/Asian/etc.” Something she is NOT.
“I’m all wrong for you. You’re probably used to dating ‘nice guys’ who kiss your butt and bring you flowers on the first date.”
“You’re such a nice girl — you shouldn’t be hanging out with a guy like me. I could get you in all kinds of trouble.”
“You’re really sweet…but seriously, you should probably be talking to a nice boy like the one over there (point to some dorky-looking dude). I’m more like the guy your mom warned you about.”
OK, moving onto more “teasing” tactics…
Put her in the Friend Zone.
This tactic is also very powerful because it reverses the normal roles. Usually it’s women who put guys in the Friend Zone, right?
But you can do it to her!
“You’re like the little sister I never had.” Or,
“You remind me so much of one of my little sister’s friends.”
“It’s good we met, I don’t know if we’re right for each other but we can be friends for sure.”
“I can tell you would make a great friend. You’re so nice.”
Blame All Flirtations On Her.
This is another fun way to “flip the script” and show confidence.
Play around with her and get her to start feeling some attraction, and then “blame” her for what’s happening:
“Here I am trying to have a serious conversation with you, and you keep giving me flirty looks. Cut it out, would you? It’s distracting.”
“If you keep looking at me that way, I’m going to have to turn on the charm and seduce you.”
“If you don’t stop being so cute, you’re going to force me to start hitting on you.”
“I hope your boyfriend isn’t around, because if you keep smiling at me that way I’m going to be forced to start flirting with you.”
Notice, you’re not telling her you are hitting on her/flirting with you right now.
You’re saying that it might happen soon, and it’s going to be “her fault.”
“I really ought to get home because I have work tomorrow, but if you keep flirting me like this you’re going to force me to have another drink with you.”
“You’re making me think such naughty thoughts. Do you have voodoo powers or something? Stop it, I’m trying to concentrate on what you’re saying.”
“You are totally trying to seduce me right now. Stop looking at me that way. I promised myself I’d be celibate for the next 30 days and you’re messing everything up.”
“I’m don’t know why, but you keep making me think about us going to the mall and picking out a bunch of sexy lingerie for you at Victoria’s Secret. Cut it out, OK? I don’t want to be thinking about that stuff right now.”
“I came out tonight to have a couple of beers and chill, and then you come along and force me to start flirting with you. It’s all YOUR fault for wearing that dress.”
Employ her/fire her:
“I like you. I’m hiring you as my personal assistant.” Or,
“I’ve always thought that my life would make a great book. I’m hiring you as my personal biographer. Start taking notes.”
If she knows how to build websites, make her your website developer. If photography is one of her hobbies, she’s now your personal photographer. Or your chef. Or personal trainer…
Then, when she does something dorky or gives a lame answer to one of your questions, you “fire” her:
“That’s it — you’re fired. Tell the cute blonde over there she can submit her resume.”
By using these tactics and many others that are explained in The One Night Stands Playbook ), you’re FRAMING the tone of the conversation and staying in control at all times.
She probably can’t remember the last time she met a guy who showed such confidence, self-control, and playful humor…who made her feel that she needs to STEP UP and earn your approval!
But you won’t make it easier on her 😉
You’ll continue to use cocky humor and “teases,” while at the same time ESCALATING (verbally and physically) and priming her for sex tonight.
I explain this concept in more detail within my ONS program. This program will give you an in-depth education on how to think and behave in such the way the REAL PROS do… no matter what your looks, height, income, age, etc.
You will learn literally HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of killer ideas for getting over your fears, approaching women, speed seducing & speed closing the women you want.
The best part?
I’ll send it to you at MY RISK.
You can order it now and try all the techniques YOURSELF… and if you aren’t THRILLED with this program, just send it back and pay nothing. No questions, and no hassles.
Trust me, I don’t get many of them back!
But I DO get back a lot of letters telling me about the success that guys are having meeting women after using it… and the complete transformation that this success leads to in other areas of life.
- One Night Stands Masterclass Video Presentation
- The Cortez Files – One Night Stands Underground Seminar Notes (.pdf)