“Both men and women are choosing and chasing the opposite sex. They’re just chasing different things. Men want one thing, women want something else. Both are guilty in dating. If you’re being rejected, understand who is leading whom.”
…Written by Scot McKay.
There’s one factor that is common to all who experience problems with MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) versus those who don’t.
Simply put, those who are satisfied with their level of success have control over their dating lives, and those who aren’t…don’t.
When your dating life is “out of control“, that’s precisely when you are in very real danger of becoming a “chaser” rather than a chooser.
In other words, because you don’t feel as if you have OPTIONS, every interaction with every woman becomes all-important.
After all, if she “rejects” you, it’s back to the drawing board…
Just about every day it seems I get an e-mail or two from a guy who believes that WOMEN are uniquely and invariably the “choosers“, while men are the “chasers“.
And although I don’t believe it necessarily has to be that way, those who do sure tend to have a firmly-held belief in that regard.
After all, to the average guy it really does look like attractive hotties call all the shots. Tons of guys approach, and tons of guys get “rejected“. Only a select few “golden boys” get past her defenses and are offered the chance to “impress her“.
Now I’ll be the first to admit to you that those women are indeed “choosers“.
And guess what? If you fall in line trying to “impress her“, you’re chasing.
But here’s a shocking revelation for you.
Just about every day, we get an e-mail (or four) from a WOMAN who believes MEN are the “choosers”, and that she as a woman is left to do the “chasing”.
And she’s 100% correct also.
How can this be?
Well yes, the one with the OPTIONS is in control, no doubt. But there’s something deeper at play here when it comes to “choosing” vs. “chasing”.
And you know what? The deeper issue is indeed VERY gender specific, unlike the baseline factor of having control over your dating life.
The truth is that BOTH genders are CHASING something.
And BOTH genders, once they understand what MOTOS really want, have the power to be selective in giving it to them.
As a man, you’ve probably already figured out that guys tend to “chase” sex. Women who are sexually attractive to us tend to be immediately desirable.
So the battle cry of the man who feels women have all the power in relationships is,
“Yeah, but SHE can get laid anytime she wants…it’s US GUYS who have to try so hard!”
Want to know something? It’s PRECISELY that one-dimensional way of thinking that’s KEEPING YOU in “chaser mode“.
If you are frustrated with the power women seem to have over you, that’s why.
So what’s the secret here?
Let me challenge you: What if you could get outside of your own head for a moment and get into the head of a woman?
Like I said, we get letters from women who believe MEN have ALL THE POWER.
How can that be?
It’s just that men and women are chasing after DIFFERENT OUTCOMES.
Women aren’t chasing sex. Women who are “chasers” are typically chasing COMMITMENT.
A woman who feels her dating life is out of control is likely frustrated because she feels a fantastic long-term relationship is out of her reach.
Google “dating advice for women” and look at the titles of the various books and programs out there. There aren’t many “get laid quick” books for women, are there?
Yet, women’s dating advice is plentiful and apparently necessary. And almost all of it focuses on getting a man to stick around and commit. Even Emily’s Click With Him program is no exception.
So what does all this mean in practical terms?
(Make sure you are sitting down for this.)
What this means to YOU is that making the shift from CHASER to CHOOSER is absolutely, positively within your grasp.
But you’re going to have to make a radical mind shift.
If you are sex-focused, you are–by definition, mind you–HANDING OVER all the power to women. You are putting them in the “catbird’s seat” as far as being the choosers YOU are chasing.
Meanwhile, the man who knows how to IGNITE FEMININITY understands women. He understands the more holistic gift that a great woman represents to him.
What’s more, he also inherently recognizes that a great man–confident, masculine, able to give her security and of unmistakable character–is IMMENSELY VALUABLE to women everywhere.
Basically, he knows that a “great catch” is so sought after by women that they will do exactly that…they will seek after it.
Or said differently, if YOU can be that guy, women will CHASE YOU.
Here’s the crazy part: Your sexual frustrations will likely vanish into thin air when that happens.
When you TAKE THE LEAD and represent to a woman exactly what she wants, she’ll respond by offering YOU what YOU want in hopes of getting what she’s “chasing“.
Now listen, I don’t advocate taking advantage of women sexually that you have no intentions of rewarding with the relationship they seek.
I don’t recommend that any more than I recommend you becoming a “sexless boyfriend” to any of the women you’ve been chasing in the past.
What I AM saying, is that you will NEVER AGAIN “chase” sexual fulfillment.
Instead, your eyes will be opened to an almost surreal world where women desire MORE of you than LESS of you.
When you click that link above, you’ll be instantly introduced to some of the most radical ideas you’ve seen in the world of men’s dating science in a LONG time… but they’re PURE GENIUS, without a doubt.
There’s also some serious “eye-candy” as you scroll through the page.
AND… if you’re like me, you’re going to get VERY excited to discover that you really, truly can compel ANY woman to do literally anything for you.
But here’s the crazy part.
That doesn’t only include any and every hot, sexy woman you have your eye on.
Getting them to adore you is a GIVEN.
You’re about to be shown you how to make ANY woman ANYWHERE want to do ANYTHING for you.
That means if there’s a woman behind the ticket counter at the airport, you can expect an upgrade.
That means all the female tellers will give you VIP treatment whenever you walk into the bank.
You won’t even need to chase the waitress down to refill your iced tea anymore.
Not only will women LOVE you, they’ll WANT more of you and shower you with attention. Imagine the possibilities in your dating life…
Yes, this is THAT powerful, so be sure to check it out.
FULFILL HER WILDEST FANTASIES… AND YOURS!
It’s by far the most tragic irony when it comes to our sex lives as men.
We fantasize our brains out about women, getting them naked and having a wild, riotous, blackout-inducing tryst with them.
In our minds, that would be about the greatest, most shining moment imaginable… almost too good to be true.
But what happens when we actually find ourselves in the moment, FINALLY able to act out that fantasy with the excited, giggling “sex kitten” who’s already peeling off her lingerie before our very eyes?
All most guys can think about is not blowing their top too fast, if they can manage to “perform” at all.
They worry about what to do.
They worry about whether or not they’ll be able to satisfy her.
And then their brains wander to even darker, more unpleasant and totally unexpected places.
You got it:
For most guys, all the FUN gets sapped out of a situation that was supposed to be nothing short of glorious.
But there’s a powerful secret that turns the tables on this tragic mess forever.
From this day forward, imagine mesmerizing the sexiest woman you’ve ever met with pure masculine confidence and sexual bravado in the bedroom.
No more misfires, no more “failure to deploy”, and certainly no more bitter disappointments.
Imagine giving her what she craves so magnificently that she’s calling you midday begging to come over on her lunch break.
Isn’t it time to make your fantasies become REALITY? Here’s how:
HOW DO YOU TALK TO WOMEN WITHOUT GETTING SHAMED OR ARRESTED NOWADAYS?
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you’ve been shocked and amazed by how brazen the anti-male movement has gotten.
The #MeToo hashtag is purposefully vague so as to shame practically any male for virtually any “offense”, all the while cheapening actual sexual assault and fostering a victim mentality among more women than ever.
And the pace at which the rich and famous are being called out, shamed and being ruined for sexual offenses–sometimes without any hard evidence, let alone due process–is enough to cause any man to run for his life.
But see, the truth is you’re NOT one of those guys.
You’re not a monster simply because you’re male and heterosexual.
And just because so many are being hit with allegations doesn’t mean you’re next to be accused.
Meanwhile, the vast majority of women are still 100% female and heterosexual. They never wanted it to come to this either.
Bold, confident masculinity is what turns on feminine sexual urges.
Sex is the most powerful force in the universe, and—news flash—politics can’t stop it and more than you and I could stop a freight train.
Remember, without you women are left unsatisfied…AND the human race would be extinct in 100 years.
So how do you wrap your head around this?
How do you attract women and interact with them without ever having to worry about them blowing the “sexual harassment” whistle on you?
How can you–even as a regular, decent guy–expect to initiate physical, sexual contact without having the “rape police” called on you?
These are the questions men ask my friend and long-time dating coach Scot McKay every day.
Hell, even WOMEN are writing him asking why men don’t even LOOK at them anymore, let alone talk to them or ask them out.
Obviously, it’s all spiraling out of control at breakneck speed.
Just yesterday I read an article about how male managers aren’t even hiring women anymore, and male employees are practically begging their bosses not to be put in the “socially perilous” position of working with women.
It’s gotten to where nearly ALL of us see virtually ANY interaction with ANY woman as a surefire way to have our reputations, careers and even our very freedom itself brought to ruins…again, all without due process.
So WHAT ARE WE TO DO? I mean…should we drown in porn and die alone?
Hell no. There are rational, objective answers…and they make perfect sense when you know the truth:
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