The very first moment ANY woman sets her eyes on you is your ONE chance to give her a great first impression and to encourage her to want to meet you and want to see you again AFTER you start talking to her.
Looks and appearance DO matter when it comes to women noticing you and they matter if you're to pass her "sight" test or to not rule you out based solely on your appearance.
Which does happen and yes, you can overcome it by just taking care of ALL the details you can learn about below:
- Your Eyes - Generally the first thing she notices on you
- Your Hair - Clean, neat, and manly.
- Your Nails - Trust she will be looking them over as soon as she can.
- Your Skin - She wants to know you feel good to rub up against.
- Your Clothes - Show you value yourself in some way.
- Your Shoes - Says a lot about you and the life you lead.
- Your Accessories - Captures a little attention - gets you noticed.
- Glasses or Contacts - Real or not. Switch it up once in a while.
- Physical Exercise Routine - You enjoy living enough to want to continue breathing.
- Your Body Language - What you communicate is mostly through your body.
- Your Smile - Second thing she notices from you aside from your eyes.
- Your Vocal Inflections - Lure her in closer. Make her want to hear your voice again and everyday.
Your LOOK does make a difference here - just not in the way you might think they do.
You don't have to be good-looking to get a girlfriend. Just look around and you'll see all the proof you need.
You don't even have to great looking to get a really hot girlfriend BUT to increase your chances of that happening - you MUST take care of the details that women notice and look for in a guy.
You must convey VALUE to a woman and if you can do that before you even talk to her - you're ahead of the "game".
When a woman looks at you and sees you take care of yourself or maintain whatever you have the best you can, she gets that you have value in yourself and can also value her just as much or even more.
The key point is - maintaining or doing the best with what you've got.
"A man who is average in looks but who does the best with what he’s got is the guy who gets the overall highest quality women. This has been proven time and time again.
What do I mean?
Well, if you want to get high quality women, you do have to brush your teeth, keep your fingernails clean, get a sense of style, and mix in some Dolce & Gabbana cologne or something.
You do the best with what you’ve got."
You're not always going to look your best or leave your home all dressed up and that's okay.
If you don't dwell on it too much it probably won't be a big deal to her either.
In fact if you can pull off a great conversation with a woman while you're not looking or feeling 100% then you'll make an even greater impression on her...
Because you won't come across as too needy, approval-seeking, or so concerned with how other see you.
What you're going to find on this page are the...
DETAILS you must take care of - to get noticed.
Focus on maintain these, again, with what you've got and you'll be more than just okay - you can STILL attract lots of women.
The point here is VALUE. Show some self-worth. Make yourself FEEL good.
Just show women you care just enough about yourself that she can relax when he's around, feel better being around a guy who is confident, AND you won't make her rule you out because she thinks you can't even take care of yourself - HOW could you possibly take care of her in a relationship.
"When a woman sees a guy whose attention to the details is impeccable, of course there may be some physical attraction created, but if you’re kind of average looking something else magical happens which goes beyond the physical attraction and is felt deeper by women…
It tells her instantly that you have your life handled in such a way you’re ready, capable, and smart enough to have a significant other in your life."
How To Make a Great First Impression - Taking Care Of The Details Women DO Notice.
Hair - Clean, neat, and manly.
A good "clean-cut" works best and make sure a woman matches your face up.
Women generally prefer a clean-shaven face but if you insist on facial hair – give it a defined shape which matches your bone structure.
Just trimming a beard doesn't work. It must match the unique features on your face.
Of course you don't want to over do it.
Very large jaws might want to omit facial hair.
If you don't have much of a chin, build it up with a goatee.
Nails - Trust she will be looking them over as soon as she can.
Trimmed and clean. No jagged edges and fairly short.
If you’re having a problem with color and feel take a look at your diet and lifestyle.
Nails are a good indicator of your health.
If there's serious problem there please have it checked out by a specialist.
Skin - She wants to know you feel good rubbing up against her.
Soft, smooth, and shaved. Find a manly lotion though - no girly stuff.
Personally I use a coconut -lime butter right after a shower.
I Rub it in from the bottom up while my skin is still moist. I learned that trick from a "stripper" who needed to always have soft skin.
Trust me - when you get close enough to a woman and brush up against her - she'll notice and probably get a little jealous over it.
Women WANT to get close to a guy who FEELS good.
Clothes - Show you value yourself in some way.
Layered and loose fit works best..at least that's what I believe.
Some women have certain look they like but don't let that stop you from developing your own.
She'll appreciate you more for not conforming just to attract her.
There's that non-neediness thing again so use it to your advantage when you can.
Learn to use color correctly and you can make a huge impact.
For some great tips pay attention to how guys are dressed in popular sitcoms.
Even if they’re the geekiest guys, remember - they’re NOT dressing themselves. Fashion consultants often pick out every last detail for them personally.
You don't need to go all "gq" here.
Be sensible because you're going to be wearing this stuff. A lot of it depends on your lifestyle.
Just create a comfortable “lived in” look so you can feel at ease wherever you and it's all you'll ever need.
You want women to feel you’re a man with a sexual side through your clothes AND you want them to instantly get that you’re a man who has his shit together!
Keep it simple and make it easy to do.
The last thing you want is to turn yourself into someone who takes forever getting ready.
Below are the principles of fashion which will be all you'll ever need to know.
The mood your clothes represent must match your personality and your body type.
If you're the athletic type - don't buy athletic clothing. Yes, it's as simple as that.
The questions to ask yourself:
- Does this ( shirt or whatever ) make me look confident and approachable
- Do I look comfortable wearing this?
- Do I feel comfortable wearing this?
The layering of colors and expanding your closet.
The clothes in your closer should fit together so you're not always wearing the same two or three things together. Expand to mix it up.
The questions to ask yourself:
- What would look good over the top or bottom of this shirt?
- What else goes with (article) and will it go with something I already own?
Matching and building the look.
The questions to ask yourself:
- Why does this color go this with and why?
- What shoes easily go with mostly everything I own?
This includes all your coats, shoes, belts, hats etc…
You must always find clothes which allow your body to feel comfortable and at ease.
The questions to ask yourself:
- Where can I go out with this on?
- Will I be constantly trying to fix something like a belt or the way it hangs off me?
The point here is about comfort, looking, and feeling relaxed whenever it's possible.
You don't want to look like you're always fidgeting because your clothes don't fit or make you uncomfortable.
Your body language can be helped by what you wear so make sure you think about it BEFORE you buy it.
Try everything on first.... ALWAYS!
Add something relatively shiny and unique to everything.
Two or three different items work great but not all at once.
The questions to ask yourself:
- Does it match my moods?
- Is there a story behind it or how I am buying it?
- Is it expensive? (Keep it relatively cheap.)
That's all there really is to buying clothes and it's not difficult at all.
On to your feet... yes, the all important...
Shoes - Says a lot about you and the life you lead and walk through.
Whatever your style is make sure your shoes match.
Maintain their shape and keep them clean and up to date.
Dirty old sneakers don’t work so get rid of them unless you using them to do the lawn.
A good tip here is to have several pairs so you can keep your "going out" shoes in great shape.
Look for something different that doesn't stand out too much. If you over do it you'll come across as "trying" to be just like everyone else.
Unless it's your type your shoes are not there to get her to notice you.
The key here is to always make sure they are well-taken care of and don't draw her attention.
When you're out you want women to pay attention to your eyes, face, and lips - not staring at your shoes too much.
(Of course some women will actually use it as an excuse to check out your package. No lie. She'll casually mention your shoes and not because she likes them - but because she's looking for a reason to stare at your crotch without being caught. Although in case you didn't know - women CAN check out your dick without even taking her eyes off of your face. Remember THAT the next time she's staring deeply into your eyes.)
Accessories - Captures a little attention - gets you noticed.
Bracelets, watches, necklaces, and even some tattoos work great.
Stay away from being loud and obnoxious with them.
It's best to consider your "accessorizing," as “background material,” something to catch her eye, or perhaps even a conversation starter.
Their purpose is usually to offset something you're wearing.
It's a part of that "clean-cut" look so many women appreciate when a guy does it right.
If you have got some cool tattoos makes sure you’re not hiding them or talking about them.
Let her mention them first.
Glasses or Contacts - Real or not. Switch it up once in a while.
Switch it up and see what works better.
If you've always worn contacts try out some modern glasses.
If you’re always hiding behind glasses try out some contacts.
Women notice eyes quickly.
No matter what color they are there are groups of women who are attracted to them. (They claim it shows your soul and inner-masculinity.)
Sure women say they prefer darker eyes but don't let that get you down if you have lighter eyes.
If ANY woman ever refuses you based solely on the color of your eyes - well you should be grateful it's probably NOT the type of woman you would want anyways.
That about covers the "fashion" part.
For more help on fashion and stuff like that, take a look at these sites:
- GQ - "Look Smart Dress Smart"
- Men's Fashion and Grooming
- Newbie Fashion Tips for Grown Up Men
- Fashion Beans
Tips on more than just what you're wearing to present the total package and make a great first impression and more.
Use the list above and add to it these elements and women WILL start noticing you more and you'll find it that much easier to create some real attraction.
No matter you are going or happen to be.
Working out or a Physical Exercise Routine
You don't have to be all "buffed" up but a maintain a little physical health goes a long way.
Higher feelings of self-worth and confidence.
It won't make you last forever in bed but it will assure you don't tire out quickly so both of you can enjoy it more.
Work out properly and you’ll actually become a more positive person. That's a proven fact.
"Healthy = emotionally stable = clearer thinking = more energy = stronger confidence = higher libido = sexier body language = relaxed & lowered heart rates = calm, cool, collected = positive attitude AND a better ability to communicate THAT to women."
Again - there's absolutely no need to do too much but doing too little or not taking care of this detail can hurt your chances with lots of women.
You do NOT need to be muscle-bound or huge.
"The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women."
I use two routines myself, some strengthening exercises, and little Yoga because I've developed a stinking chronic pain disorder and these DO help along with a major change in my diet.
- The Man Diet - A testosterone increasing diet which is great for attracting women.
- The Walking Code - An exercise routine for free body movement and attracting women instantly. This will help your body language tremendously.
Lastly - when your body is maintained even a little it makes the next detail so much easier. It will almost happen naturally for you. It won't fix your inner game which will come out on your body language but you'll already be halfway there and then some.
Body Language - What you communicate is mostly through your body.
Steady. Smooth. Very open and relaxed.
No fidgeting or jerky walks.
Maintain your own pace.
Every move you make must serve a purpose and it must feel like you’re doing everything with reason.
So if there’s no reason for it – don’t do it!
Your body language is too large of a subject cover here BUT please make sure you start working on it IMMEDIATELY.
It's too much of an important detail to overlook.
Here's some REAL help for you to get you started on making your body language ATTRACTIVE:
- What Is Body Language? 4 Tips On Communicating With Your Body
- The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male’s Body Language
- How & Why Your Body Language Communicates Attraction To Women – Learn To Control It
You'll definitely want the complete package below if you feel your body language is stopping you from attracting women because this course is specifically designed to do just that and more:
If A Woman Likes How She Feels When She Meets You… It Doesn’t Matter What You Say.
Now that you've got the body part handled, the next detail is...
Your Smile - Second thing she notices from you aside from your eyes.
Women love a smile on a guy for more reasons than you can ever imagine.
This does mean getting a good dentist you like. Get to know him. Some of them are pretty cool.
Keep your teeth naturally white but not enough to lead the way through a cold dark night. (Try not to overdo the whitening.)
Relax your facial muscles and lips often.
Practice a nice smile at home.
Sure it feels weird but what the hell since no one else is watching but you.
Your friends will laugh at you - mine did - but screw them I'm sure you got something on them anyways.
Avoid the "fake smile" no matter how self-conscious you might feel about it.
My personal opinion is if it's not comfortable don't do it. Trust you can attract lots of women and never smile.
BUT avoid trying to hide it, fake it, or being embarrassed about it.
Take it from a guy who was majorly self-conscious about it. I have a huge gap between my front two teeth and seriously needed to figure out a way to get past it.
But once I did women actually started to compliment me on my smile. Probably because it was natural and I didn't try to hide it.
Baking soda or any good whitening toothpaste.
At least two cleanings a year.
Use an electric toothbrush.
Proxabrush, dental floss, and brush your tongue a few times a day when it's possible for better breath.
ALWAYS be prepared by having gum or some breath freshener with you.
PLUS a healthy amount of saliva typically lead to healthier looking teeth so make sure you drink lots of water.
Since we're in your mouth region let's talk about...
Vocal Inflections - Lure her in closer. Make her want to hear your voice again and everyday.
You can literally seduce a woman with your words and how you talk.
Women respond highly to your "aural" attractiveness.
You want a slightly deep voice.
Slow it down and use your words sparingly.
Use the inflections to accentuate a story or sentence so it's sounds more incredible than it sometimes is.
Breathe deep and pause often at the right time so it leads her in a little.
Never let you or the person you’re talking with rush you to the end of any sentence.
Learn to enunciate clearly but not like you're on stage acting. That's usually too much.
Don’t be a “loud Howard” but make sure you can be heard.
Mumbling is never attractive at all but worse it doesn't demand her attention confidently.
Again as I mentioned above you can watch the guys on sitcoms who are portrayed as being good with women.
Notice the soft eye contact when they’re talking to a woman and how they’re enunciation is perfect.
Tip: Don’t overdo the enunciation. Keep it real.
“No matter how big or small you are, how much you make, or what you do, HOW you project your voice or use it to create attraction is something practically every guy can learn.”
Making a great first is something you can easily IF you take care of the details. It may be a little work at first but it gets easier once it's done.
Women can and will feel attracted to you despite your looks but why risk losing or missing out on a great woman because she took one look at you and didn't think you cared enough about yourself to believe you have VALUE.
The first thing women will see is your appearance.
Show her you care. Show her your confidence. Show her you're a guy that takes care of the details because it makes you feel good about yourself.
Self-worth goes a long way in attracting women and these details covered today will instantly convey a big message of it.
A "clean-cut" look ALWAYS seems to work best so you don't need to "peacock" or go beyond what was covered today.
Just cover the basic list and you'll be fine.
Women WILL NOTICE.
This is also about your self-esteem and making you feel good about yourself which in turn makes it easier to make others feel good just being around - which just happens to include any woman you want to date.
Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope now that you've read this and follow the links you're much better prepared and ready to make a great first impression.
If you feel something was missed today - go ahead and let me know below.