You’ve fallen for your friend and it SUCKS!
The part which hurts even more is that this has probably happened before.
It’s a cycle of never-ending “casual” rejection starting with you meeting a woman you’re probably already attracted to, getting closer to her, becoming friends with her to stay close to her, and by then it’s usually already too late…
You’re just friends.
You want to reveal to her how you feel but that’s what you tried before and that’s when the nice rejections come spilling out of her mouth as if she’s treating us like a child, trying not to hurt our feelings…
“I really like you BUT…”
“You’re a great guy BUT…”
“I don’t want to ruin the friendship.”
“I’m not ready for a relationship.”
“You’re just not my type.”
You can name a few of your own below but I bet that about covers it all and I know this because I’ve been there.
I’ve heard them all.
I’ve revealed my feelings over and over again thinking it would change things between us but it never did.
It only made the friendship awkward and destined to fail.
This Ebook is my gift to every guy who feels like they need to be friends first with a woman.
For every guy who has been rejected with the classic excuses above.
For every guy who feels helpless, powerless, frustrated, and annoyed because despite your wonderful ability to get along with these girls – they are not feeling it enough for you to see you as more than just a buddy.
For every guy who sat and listened to ALL her relationship, work, and family problems, and kind of got the shaft because of it.
For every guy who was there for them. Did them favors. Picked them up. Drove them places.
Who were the kindest men in the world but the only feelings or intimacy you got back was an awkward hug and a “demotion” as being something less than a man.
If you haven’t noticed by now…
I am a friends zone expert.
For 20 non-concurrent years I was “just a friend” of practically every woman I wanted sexually either for a relationship or more or less.
I’ve done over 8 years of research, trial and error, reading, writing, developing tests, exploring anything and every about how we get in the friends zone, how we put ourselves in it and through all that learned how to finally eliminate this friendly affliction almost entirely.
Let’s get real here because I do NOT intend to coddle you, hold your hand, or treat you like your “woman friends” have when they rejected you.
And I mean this from my heart…
Do you know why you are in, get stuck, or find yourself in the friends zone over and over again?
The number one reason ( and yes I’m going to give lots more so you can narrow down everything which may go wrong – you know the easier stuff )
We put OURSELVES in the friends zone.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to become friends first and yes I won’t lie, some women may find themselves attracted to you over some time ( especially in the work place ) but we act complacent, we become afraid to be seen as something more, we dance around our “masculinity” when she’s close AND we fail to set ourselves up as a sexual option first and foremost.
Yes, there’s more but we’ve got a lot to cover here so bear with me. Remember when we’re dealing with these kind of social issues there’s always going to be more and we have to generalize.
We end up in the friends zone because…
- Women find us too easy.
- We’re too accommodating.
- They GET us.
- They understand us.
- We’re not a mystery.
- We have no other options.
- They have no other women to compete with.
- We make easy mistakes like putting women on a pedestal and not treating them like equals.
- We’re predictable.
- We fail her tests too easily and early on.
- We pretend we’re something else by agreeing with her every move.
- We feel privileged among the jerks and assholes of the world.
- We feel it’s not fair and how our “niceness” is destroying it for us but find it difficult to be anything more or less.
- We’re not a challenge.
- We believe attraction is her choice to feel.
- We’re not proactive and fail to move during those early critical times.
- We get stuck on one woman at a time for way too long thinking and believing destiny brought us together.
- And unfortunately and sadly enough… there’s more.
Like my newsletter states to give to you…
We’re not UPFRONT. HONEST, and REAL about it all.
Whatever the reasons we come up with to explain, no matter how awful it feels to hear all that above… it’s the absolute truth I’ve come to see because at one critical time in my life I took the blinders off and saw what was in front of my face the entire time.
Women know this shit and don’t let anyone make you believe women don’t end up the friends zone themselves because they do… a lot!!!! In fact they probably end up in there more often for reasons I won’t get into right now.
Some of your were not friend zoned that quick but sooner or later she either gave up on you because you didn’t make a move, or realized you make her think more than feel which generally destroys attraction.
I want to assure you my point of view comes from a man who has befriended almost every girl I was attracted to.
If the numbers seem absurd I’ll put it in perspective for you…
I hit puberty in 1982. Every year I lived not counting the last decade I was in the friend zone on the average with 3 women a year.
That’s 72 women in which I poured more than my heart out to with nothing to show for it!
72, give or take a few, women who I put every effort in getting to be my girlfriend. All with the same failed techniques and the same goal,
TO MAKE THEM WANT TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND!
There were a few I fell madly in love with.
My life centered around then completely and faithfully.
In fact I’m willing to bet they were in no way attracted to me but if I were to get with another woman while they were in my life, I would have felt as if I was cheating on them.
Pretty sad huh?
Don’t feel sorry for me.
I just want you to understand why I feel like I’m an expert of the friend zone.
And not solely because I’ve been there.
And not because I was wrong to believe the same thing would eventually work when it never once did.
And not because I feel like my life has been an experiment in futility and failing tactics. Someone who was only interested in the probability of accidentally getting laid.
My expertise has been formed by actually learning how to change that probability I mentioned above from 99% failure rate to I’m going to guess…
A 85% to 90% RATE OF SUCCESS.
Yes I’m proud of that number. As I should be.
I put in the work and now I get to share it with you.
What you’re going to read are the exact steps I have used to eliminate the friends only role.
Some you may have to skip because they won’t apply.
Some you’re not going to like or want to do.
Some of them you’re going to miss because you don’t have the time.
But that’s your choice. Again, I don’t plan on holding your hand.
I trust if you’re going to follow my lead the best you can and that’s all I can ask.
So once again…