Can A Woman Change Your Mind Or Make You Like Her?

There seems to be a common belief out there among guys who have been "friend zoned" by a woman that they think or believe they can change the her mind into liking them.

BUT.... you rarely ever hear the other side of the story.

Can a woman change a guy's mind?

Common belief suggests it's easier for a guy to get a woman to feel something more for him than it is for a guy to feel something for her IF there was nothing there in the beginning.

What do you think? Is it easier for a man or woman?

Before you answer in the comment section you might want to read what's coming up next because it's rarely something anyone thinks about BUT it makes a lot of sense.

The not-always-so-obvious problem with questions like this is the one thing we use everyday... our MINDS.

Attraction and love is NOT a CHOICE.

No one chooses to FEEL something - it just happens.

Changing another person's mind is assuming a man is CHOOSING to not feel something which is far from the way attraction and love works.

David DeAngelo wrote the most powerful and insightful book explaining how attraction really works and PROVED to me how something so simple can be so amazingly RIGHT.

(Pick up the ebook for yourself if you're a guy of course and if you have any problems with women. ANY problems because this will literally change your entire mindset and open success with women like most men will never ever experience - Attraction Isn't A Choice.)

The ideas in the book also suggest that once a woman doesn't FEEL something for a guy - no amount of asking, pleading or begging will change it.

"You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.

If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?"

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The same goes for you too.

Guys are NOT "choosing" to not feel something for you therefore changing his mind is not going to work.

In fact - "trying" to change, convince, call it whatever you like, is one of the biggest mistakes a woman can attempt IF she's to find real love.

MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You.

"What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious? They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.


Never, ever, ever. You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.

Think about it.

If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?

Men are the worst at this by the way. They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.

Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man. She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.

When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches."

Avoid These Ten Mistakes With Men To Get The Love Life of Your Dreams by Christian Carter

Okay so...

Changing someone's mind (man or woman) is definitely NOT the answer.


Finally! Some good news, right?


Assuming it's not a choice this means you can CREATE something and you'll be shown the best way for it to happen below... just be patient.

Let's go back to the original idea of this post and that was to hopefully get "other" guys to tell you the absolute truth about changing how the FEEL about you if nothing was there in the beginning OR if it went away.

Here are 4 scenarios a guy might experience with you followed by a very specific question he could answer.

Scenario 1:

You meet her.

You both go out on a date one or more times.

You realize you're not feeling it.

Maybe she's kind of cool and all so you wouldn't mind hanging out with her so you tell her,

"I just want to be friends."

Could she ever "change" your mind?

Scenario 2:

You meet her.

She's totally into you and you begin to think, "You're in."

She's hot, sexy, and does it for you physically.

There's no doubt in your mind that you want her so the chemistry rises and you end up having sex one or more times.

Then suddenly you begin to feel if you let this go any further you will end up in a relationship with her and that's not something you sure you want from now OR with HER.


You pull back and stop calling her so much or stop calling her entirely.

You just feel you're not ready but she continues pushing you causing you to pull back ever further and eventually you've have enough so you tell her,

"I like you but I don't want to hurt you."

Could she ever change your mind into wanting a relationship with her?

Scenario 3:

You meet her.

You don't feel physically attracted to her.

She's seems really into you and keeps pushing you to go out with her or she flirts with you constantly hoping you'll get the hint.

But you never do for obvious reasons...

Could she ever get you to feel what you were missing when you first met her?

Scenario 4:

You meet her with a friend.

She's pretty cool and you end up hanging out with her more and doing shit together.

You both quickly realize you have a lot in common. In fact you have so much in common you end up becoming very close friends.

Months or years down the road you have "the talk" because you both have been in and out of so many relationships since you met and it's driving both of you crazy.

She casually mentions,

"Have you ever thought about us going out?" or

"How come we never hooked up?" or

"How come you never asked me out on a date?"

This surprises you and as you think about her questions you realize she is more like a sister to you so you tell her and she accepts it outwardly...

But inside, deep in her heart, that WAS the VERY moment she realized she had fallen in love with you and now wants more.

Could she ever change your mind about seeing her less as a sister and more as a sexual partner?

T is not a survey. We're not going to click on some pre-selected box which may or may not be close to what we were or are feeling.

Leave your answers below and let women finally get a glimpse into the mind of "the guy" who either chose to be just friends with her or who was just never feeling it for her.

Now it's my turn...

"If a guy is not feeling any kind of attraction towards a woman it’s very rare for him to begin to feel it.

This includes both types of attraction.

Making it incredibly much more difficult for a woman to escape his friends zone."

Men generally experience two forms of attraction.

The first is purely physical and is by sight only.

The second happens when a man connects deeply with a woman and a bond is formed which includes love and possibly a relationship.

If the attraction is there and he's hesitant about entering or committing to you - his mind can DEFINITELY be changed.

But again - like mentioned above - you can NOT convince him of anything.

You can uses certain skills, techniques, or communicate to him differently to urge him to decide he wants a relationship with you.

There are literally thousands of advice and tip articles to help you there and even more paid advice products.

(Tell me a little about your problem below and I'll do my best to suggest the best for you because I've reviewed and advertised hundreds of them over the years.)

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If there is no initial physical attraction then you're going to have a much harder problem on your hands because like before - you can't MAKE him feel physically attracted to you.

It's not that guys are only into looks - that couldn't be further from the truth. Despite what most feel - it's a myth.

Men are definitely not just into how attractive you are.... it just helps to gain his initial interest in wanting to get to know you better.

If you think he was missing the physical attraction part when you first met AND you want to get his attention then this might be your only solution:

Do not see him for at least a few months.

Three to five months may be enough because we all go through stages in our lives that play out over that time.

A lot of time needs to pass BEFORE she could ever be seen any differently.

Develop or change how you appear physically.

It could mean losing weight, changing your hair color, dressing differently, or even just learning how to walk with more sex appeal.

It any case this must be done according to YOUR life and not for him.

You must understand that for him to begin to feel something different for you - this must be done selfishly - for yourself.

It's hard to create something new with him if you're only doing for his love and affection.

Just like you - men like a challenge.

If you're too willing to give up so much of yourself for him, it will destroy the chances of a second stage attraction. (Connection, love, relationship.)

So you can see - you're not TRYING to change his mind - you're merely presenting yourself differently to him by triggering his physical attraction towards you.

And you can see the only REAL solution to that is to get far away from him and create a new look for yourself.

Which takes time and patience.

As noted above - men are NOT all into looks BUT if you're not doing certain things for yourself which can help him feel attracted to you - then that needs to be taken care of.... immediately.

Something noted in this popular article:

#1: Look after yourself.

You may think that this is about being a flawless specimen of beauty or wallowing in vanity.

NOT at all.

What I’m stressing here is that you need to let everyone know you care enough to look your best. And that’s not the same as physical perfection “guys just need to cotton on to the fact that you’re always on top of your looks.”

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You can read this Ebook to learn some FACTS about men and their attraction to women:

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The book brings up a point which is very important to understand IF and WHEN you want to change how a guy FEELS about you.

Remember the two forms of attraction above?

IF a guy isn't too physically attracted to you at first BUT becomes more emotionally connected to you and bonds with you (intimately and sexually) you WILL become more physically attracted to you.

Likewise - your PERSONALITY - regardless of your overall look CAN AND WILL MAKE YOU APPEAR MORE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE.

This is good news because it gives you just as much opportunity as he does in making you FEEL something even though nothing was there in the beginning.

Does it fully answer the BIG question today?

Can you CHANGE a guy's mind into "liking" you if any of those scenarios have happened to you or you're going through something "different"?



Because you must get away from changing his mind.

Remember - you can not convince someone to feel something for you and attraction in all its form is not something which is chosen... it is FELT!

You can not change his mind BUT...

Do the right things and you CAN make him start to FEEL something for you.

If all other things are in place and you learn the right skills to make that happen.

Obviously it's not guaranteed to work on 100% of all guys in every situation but it can and does happen.

Just like you might not have felt something for a guy you knew and then months or years down the road he started to feel it - the same goes for him.

Lots of guys have personally wrote to me to tell me that they didn't experience anything more than a friendship with a woman and slowly, over time BEGAN to have real deep feelings for her.

It's TOTALLY possible so it can be work.

In all the scenarios above you can get him to "feel" something different BUT it does require some work and since this about people, there's never a guarantee it will work.

You might end up wasting a lot of  your valuable time with nothing to show for it and each situation requires a different technique or skill or communication style.

Since the transition to making DiaLteG TM just for men I strongly encourage and suggest you take a good look at my "only for women" - "all about guys" website appropriately named  Why Do Guys...?

You'll find lots of great stuff on understanding men there.

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  • Allison

    I have been fwb with a guy for 7 months. He would come to home 25 days of the month. We would go on lavish dates. We bonded deeply. He would express his life with me and visa versa. He would really try to meet all of my needs. I lost my home and he would even come to my friends house constantly. Call me all day. The whole nine. He also gave me access to his business to run it. I never had to pay for anything or prompt him to spend time with me. He initiated everything. Recently, after a getaway trip for his birthday (also paid by him), he said he had no intentions of ever being with me. So I backed off of course after some heated arguments. He assumed I was being “tough” by not spilling into tears or crying and begging for his attention. I never had to so I won’t start now.

    Anyway, I do desire a relationship and it throws me for an entire loop how a man does all these things but never had a desire to be with me. His friends and mine are all confused. He called me delusional to even think he thought of me that way. I was only a smash thing and he would have pursued me differently. After all the smoke, he continued to contact me to “fix” the confusion. He said he never meant to hurt me, blah, blah, blah. He also wanted to remain friends and continue to go out. Our current situation wasn’t based off of sex alone. He would come plenty of nights just to cuddle and talk to the wee hours of the mornings. He would really pull all the stops. He was upset I haven’t reached out and assumed I was dating someone new recently. But he keeps this thing going off I don’t want her at all when he speaks to our friends. Yet, he practically begs me to continue to have him in my life. He has finally slowed down or stopped communication. It hurts yes, but I also stood my ground because it hurts to continue in light of him having no desire for more.

    My question is: is this done? Will he change his mind or is it a lost cause? I do love him I admit that. However, I refuse to allow him to misrepresent me when clearly it was far more to what he was saying. If he does contact me, I do not answer or reply most times. It’s not a game. It’s the pain I feel if I get my hopes up. So I just keep things as it is for me. Am I wrong?