There are some real benefits to becoming friends with some "hotter" women especially if you intend on getting a hot sexy girlfriend. BUT... There are also some warnings which you need to be aware of before you go out searching for them and a few rules you must follow for this to work.

Yes, this is a controversial borderline strange step. Many of you won't try it. Many of you will just skip right to the next step.

And of course many of you will tell me it's impossible.

But hear me out first and give it a try because there are lots of valid reasons why this must happen AND by doing this step - certain things will be put in place for you which WILL help you find a great girlfriend.

That's not counting the real benefits you'll soon find below making this step one you should NOT even think about skipping.

This is STEP 4 of How To Get A Girlfriend...

Become friends with five to ten "hotter" women and don't expect or push anything more than a friendship.

There was this guy who would come to me about his woman problems. He was explaining to me how something would always happen with women as he just experienced yet another bad breakup.

He exclaimed,

"Pete...I don't have many problems getting some pretty hot girls but every time I find one, I turn into some needy wuss who always has to be with them. They eventually get sick of it and leave."

This is a common problem for guys who first learn about how attraction works. They revert back to their former self and eventually lose their first or sometime second and third girlfriends because the same thing happens to them.

You see most "attraction" programs don't teach you how to keep a girlfriend, they only teach you how to attract a woman.

This poses a few common problems:

1. Not knowing or learning the difference between creating attraction and creating attraction which leads to a better longer-lasting relationship. The rules or techniques are actually different. Getting a real woman to commit to you requires something more and different than just practicing some skills which create attraction.
2. Most real "attraction" programs do help you with your inner game, self-esteem, and confidence but developing that part of you takes longer than actually creating the attraction. It's actually easy to get girls to like you. It's actually easy just to go out and get laid.
3. Your inner game takes time and experience to develop and way too many men glaze over and don't bother working on those parts because they want QUICK results and once they get them, become complacent and satisfied. That is until they tire of one night stands or relationships that fizzle out after a few months.

I wouldn't be telling you r giving you this step if I didn't experience it myself and something occurred to me one day as I was giving the guy above some advice.

It came from the one and only master at dating, attraction, and now relationships: David DeAngelo:

"When you meet a woman or the type of woman you want - immediately go out and find ten other like her."

Every time he met someone he really liked he had no other choices. Maybe he liked it that way. Maybe he always thought he had found "the one". Maybe he suffered from all three reasons from the list above. That's not important.

What IS important is by getting deeply involved with one girl and making her his "instant girlfriend", he doomed himself to suffer the same fate over and over again.

He would desperately try to lock her down quickly which only showed his desperation and lack of real choices with women. Quickly diminishing his status and making him look like he would anything and everything to keep her from leaving. (Which generally causes a girl to leave.)

He would become overly needy. A little jealous and overbearing. He would suffocate her in a half-relationship making her feel like she had to GET OUT and away from him.

So he could attract them but like written above...  did NOT have the skills to attract a relationship.

He did not have a solid inner game with confidence and self-esteem.

He refused to do the real work involved to keep a great woman attracted to him and wanting to be in a relationship with him.

He felt every hot girl he met was the ONE but only know how to attract them a little and just went with eventually leading himself down the same road once again.

I told him this,

"The next time you hook up with a woman - STOP pull back a little, and before you commit to her find another one who is like her and only casually date them. Also... learn to be happy just being single for a while. Learn how to do it by yourself first before you get involved with another girl.

Start doing more things you enjoy which don't involve women. You have to feel complete without a girlfriend first because you'll never be complete with one. If a better woman realizes she's the only source of your happiness she WILL grow tired and exhausted of trying to keep you happy because it won't happen.

She will eventually leave you out of exasperation. Putting that kind of pressure on anyone will eventually cause them to crack and do anything to get out."

The advice which I passed on to him might not work until you can land some dates but it has a lot to do with Step 4 because it will make keeping a girlfriend easier - especially when you're a more complete person.

Something you'll work on in the next upcoming steps.

This step is number four because it can take some time and while you work ahead you'll find this step will happen more likely if you're continually doing it along the way.

The last thing I want to do is keep you from an amazing woman but I also don't want you to suffer from the same fate as way too many other guys do. No need to get hurt when it cam be avoided by simply following the steps and learning the REAL skills it takes to KEEP an amazing girlfriend.

Why you must go out and start becoming JUST FRIENDS with some hotter women.