Develop a dynamic social life by branching out your friendships and doing more things you enjoy.
A social life is an important piece of getting a girlfriend.
This is STEP 3 of How To Get A Girlfriend
I’ve seen and been a guy with little friends and barely a social life and finding a girlfriend was always just above zero percent.
Step 3 is not simple. It’s not easy for everyone but it’s also where we have the most options, get to build more dating options, and then watch things happen almost effortlessly for us.
Some of this is obvious. Some is not. Hopefully it’s just enough to push you in the right direction.
Branch out your friendships but don’t push the “girl” thing.
“Your FRIENDS are an often overlooked avenue to dating bliss. I ‘m not talking about rounding up the boys for a night out on the town, but rather your overall SOCIAL CIRCLE…. Slade Shaw – The Approach – Meeting Women Through Social Networks, Friends, and Online Advice
Watch everyone with a curious look. Be careful here not to scare people into thinking you’re some kind of nut. I’ve found too many people go through life with blinders on. They fail to notice how much actually goes on around them.
Take those blinders off – step back and get a real good look at what is going on.
Notice body language, how men and women interact, try to figure out who’s Alpha and who is not, and of course how certain women respond to them and how they respond back.
Your dynamic social life starts with you “keying” in on the basics and then noticing what is happening below the surface.
Hopefully you’ll begin to start noticing things you have not seen before.
Read into everything without getting too involved because on a normal day – this is something women do in their social world.
Notice the dynamics of what is going because we must integrate into it – except with more awareness than before.
Get involved in your social surroundings.
Find many different places and start making friends who the people who are there the most.
It’s okay to talk to passer by’s but our focus must be on the “regulars” and there’s a good reason for it.
Obviously you’ll to want visit places where you can enjoy yourself AND where there’s a better chance women are there.
“Developing a solid social life with lots of friends practically guarantees success in finding a girlfriend.”
This takes time and energy but it’s worth every second because we’re developing a social life and “go to” places where people can recognize us and enjoy seeing us.
Branch out and get to know their friends.
It only take a few minutes to introduce yourself to lots of different people.
Some you’ll like. Some you won’t.
Some will like you. Some won’t. It doesn’t really matter.
For now focus on the process and not the returns. You’re not there to scheme and kiss ass to the so-called alpha-elite of all the groups.
And most importantly so please never forget this…
You’re NOT there to GET something from them – You’re there to GIVE something worth contributing to the group.
Ask more real questions and offer your opinion sparingly. Listen. Learn. Give them “yourself” and the best parts of your personality. Whatever that happens to be. Mine might be different from yours.
You see social dynamics don’t work best when you’re always looking to get something unless that is what type of guy you are. If it is you might want to work on it.
Okay before you get worried because I’ve been there – you DO NOT have to be the life of the party… EVER.
Doing or trying to do that before you’re ready can destroy your confidence when you don’t instantly bubble up to “leader” status.
It’s not necessary for success.
This is what you want to naturally (you’re having fun) create by developing a social lifestyle:
“Dating is tough enough but then when you add trying to figure out where to meet up you find out what you already knew, “There’s nothing to do around here.” Your dates should not be about money or have anything to do with “trying” to get someone to like you.”
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You want women to believe and see you’re a social guy who “knows” people. People know you and are always more than willing to grab your ear.
You want a list of places to take a date or go to when you’re looking for a good time.
You want to fill your “friends” list full of people you enjoy being around. Careful not to get too involved because you’re probably going to have to do more than before. For most just stay casual.
You want women to feel and see your personality “in action.” You don’t tell a women (even in an online profile) who you are you show them by demonstrating it and you do that by putting yourself in situations where will naturally bring that out.
WARNING: Social dynamics can be complicated and confusing.
From work to the internet to your neighbor’s backyard there’s a certain social thing going on. You got ego’s clashing, competition heating up, friends are being made, enemies are created, long-term bonds, making up and breaking up, and that’s just the tip of it.
The truth is – Games are being played on an enormous level most people don’t want to even imagine.
Keep things simple and don’t get too bogged down in them. You might find yourself off course too quickly.
Now for you shy guys this is where you’re going to need more help breaking out. Yes confidence and esteem, or what we’ve covered so far will help. Facing your fears and being willing to fail in front of a group will also help when used the right way.
You CAN completely cure your shyness – especially around hotter women. Read this because when it comes to getting a girlfriend this post will do more than help you: Is Social Awkwardness Holding You Back? Connection and Friendship
Since I was so introverted for so long and got over it I believe it’s within any man’s capability to overcome social shyness.
You might have to do things a little differently to learn the complete skills. In fact for the worst of you it will take longer without them but don’t get discouraged. It WILL happen one way or another.
I’ve just given you the opportunity to take a short cut.
I also want to reassure you – in case you’re stuck on your couch thinking this nice quiet relaxed lifestyle will have to go completely away – it does not have to.
I gave you time management in step 2. If you’re really good at it then by all means save some time for yourself. It will help you. Everyone needs time by themselves. I don’t want you feeling guilty because you decided to hang with yourself one night.
Don’t! One of the basic needs of ALL humans is being capable and willing to spend a little time alone to think, or do something you enjoy.
However it’s only one piece of the puzzle.
Socializing is another part – and without that integral piece women, especially the hotter ones will unfortunately not give you a second look.