Step 1 in “11 Steps on How To Get A Girlfriend“ is more than just about refining your look.
It’s about taking care of the details women DO notice and unfortunately may judge or disqualify you because of it.
This is also about proving your commitment to every step that follows and it’s about redefining yourself to the world physically.
Doing this step will not only increase your confidence it will also get you noticed by attractive or “hotter” women more.
This is a broad step. Since I don’t know you personally I can not tell you which areas you need more help with.
“When you value yourself enough to care about your appearance, women will assume you are a man with high values.”
Go through the list and be honest with yourself about what you may need some help in fixing or “detailing”.
You might only have to work on a few areas and some of you might need a major overhaul.
Here are MOST of the key elements on what women notice on guys they find attractive.
These are covered in more detail as part of my Nice Guys Approach To Attraction which you’ll find at DiaLteG TM –> Great First Impressions – Details On How You Look and Your Appearance and a few more as part of my Eliminating the Friends Zone Ebook:
- Distraction With A New Hair Cut, Is That Possible? Refining Your Look
- Great Tips On How To Shop With Your Friend and Creating Attraction
- How To Shop For New Clothes That Allow Your Sexiness to Come Through
A good clean-cut look works best and make sure a woman matches your face up. Women generally prefer a clean-shaven face but if you insist on facial hair – give it a defined shape which matches your bone structure.
Just trimming a beard doesn’t work. It must match the features on your face.
Trimmed and clean. No jagged edges and fairly short. If you’re having a problem with color and feel take a look at your diet and lifestyle. Nails are a good indicator of health and diet.
Soft smooth and shaved. Find a manly lotion. I use a coconut butter right after a shower. Rub it in your skin from the bottom up. This will help it to deepen inside your pores. Again your health and diet will affect your skin.
Layered and lose fit works best. Learn to use color correctly and you can make a huge impact. For some great tips pay attention to how guys are dressed in popular sitcoms. Even if they’re the geekiest guys they’re not dressing themselves.
Fashion artists pick out all there clothes for them and their personality.
Whatever your style is make sure your shoes match. Maintain their shape and keep them clean and up to date.
Dirty old sneakers don’t work so get rid of them unless you’re using them to mow the lawn.
A good tip here is to have several pairs so you can keep your “going out” shoes in great shape.
Bracelets, watches, necklaces, and even some tattoos work great. Stay away from being loud and obnoxious with them. Consider them “background material” or something just to catch her eye.
Trust me the right accessory gets women to notice you – especially the better looking ones.
If you have some cool tattoos makes sure you’re not hiding them or even talking about them. Let her mention them first. You’ve probably already noticed how well they work in getting a woman’s attention.
Glasses or Contacts
Switch it up and see what works better. If you’ve always worn contacts try out some modern glasses. If you’re always hiding behind glasses try out some contacts.
The whole point is to start feeling a little different. Switch on and off on some dates is a good thing because she will notice.
Also notice how some glasses will make your eyes look weird and distorted. If you prefer glass tell the person selling you them you want the lenses which do as little distorting and glare as possible.
Remember – for all intensive purposes your eyes is one of the first thing ALL women look at.
Work out a little or maintain some sort of safe physical exercise routine.
You don’t have to go all out trying to look like some buffed up dude.
In fact the purpose is to work on your stamina, which will help you in bed, and increase your confidence, mood, and overall healthy appearance.
I use two routines myself – The Man Diet ( a testosterone increasing diet – great for attracting women ) and The Code Of the Natural ( an exercise routine for free body movement and attracting women instantly.)
Work out properly and you’ll actually become a more positive person. You’ll feel more energized and more in touch with what is happening around you.
Your Body Language.
Steady. Smooth. Quiet movements. Very open and relaxed.
No fidgeting or jerky walks.
Maintain your own pace.
Every move you make must serve a purpose and it must feel like you’re doing everything with reason. So if there’s no reason – don’t do it.
This is an important tough tip because I guarantee you’ll never see a hot women with any guy who does not have amazing and alpha body language.
Like above, for those of you who want to explore this area in more detail, please read through a great page I wrote titled –> Body Language IS Communication.
You’ll get more than just a few tips there.
Women love a smile on a guy for more reasons than you can ever imagine. This does mean getting a good dentist. Keeping them naturally white and it also means relaxing your facial muscles and lips so you can gain a naturally inviting smile.
No faking no matter how self-conscious you might feel about this area.
My trick is I spent some time watching my laugh. I use a baking soda toothpaste. I have two cleanings a year. I also use an electric toothbrush, proxabrush, dental floss, and brush my tongue a few times a day.
I also am always found with gum or something to freshen my breath.
My very personal thoughts should not be taken lightly – women love a great smile on a guy. It can literally give her goosebumps when she sees it.
If I can do it, and I have a huge gap between my front two teeth… so can you! When I tried to hide it or fake it proved more harmful. When I got past it I actually started to get some real compliments on my smile. ( Something the younger guy in me would never have believed possible. )
This won’t land you a hot girlfriend alone – but it can STOP you from ever getting one if not taken care of.
Your Vocal Inflections.
You can literally seduce a woman with your words and how you talk so do not over look this area at all.
You want a naturally deep voice if possible.
Slow it down and use your words sparingly. Use “acting” inflections to tell a story because it can make even the lamest ones seem that more exciting and powerful.
Pause once in a while. Draw your listener in.
Never let you or the person you’re talking to rush you.
Avoid mumbling or speak too softly. It projects weakness and a lack of confidence in yourself.
Don’t be a “loud Howard” but make sure you can be heard.
Again as I mentioned above you can watch the guys on sitcoms who are portrayed as being good with women.
Notice the soft eye contact when they’re talking to a woman and how they’re enunciation is perfect. Keep it realistic though so don’t overdo like you’re a stage actor. It’s too fake sounding.
At first it WILL feel strange but after a little practice you’ll notice how easily you can draw ANY woman in with your voice alone.
We’ve covered some of the basic here.
These are the ones women tend to notice first and are easily attracted to.
These will help us attract a girlfriend not only by sight, but through our words, and the value we put in the details of our life.
Something ALL quality women look for in a man.
You do NOT have to go all out here. In fact some women don’t prefer men who are better looking than them.
They WANT to be the slightly more attractive one. Generally speaking of course.
I’m a guy and if you don’t like taking these kind of tips from me go straight to the source of what you’re after and have attractive women take you from average and beyond. You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to look good OR to get a hot girlfriend but it doesn’t help to become fluent in it and to literally turn every woman’s head in your direction. These women are hot and study this shit –> Discover Your Style & Make A Lasting First Impression
Okay let’s just say you’re not sold on this idea of getting a makeover. Let’s say you’re not comfortable refining your look.
I completely hear you.
Really, what guy wants to start spending time on things that WOMEN seem to care more about. Kind of feels metro sexual, doesn’t it?
But you DO want a quality girlfriend right?
Preferably whose looks turns you on.
You DO want her to be hotter than the ones you may have dated in the past?
If all this completely scares you I have another way of looking at it to help us get past it. This directly did it for me:
- You want women to believe and see you’re capable of knowing how to make yourself look good.
- You want women to believe and see you care about yourself enough.
- You want to get your foot in “her” door and keep it there.
- You do not want to be ruled out instantly because you didn’t take the time to care about the little things.
Before you go on thinking I’m asking you to make yourself into some pretty boy – think again.
A new look not only does ALL the things I mentioned above but sets the tone, and the attitude needed to move on to the next steps.
It may only be a small boost of confidence but even a little can drive you to success.
Trust me, all this become much easier to maintain than it does to start.
Each and everyday you’ll find yourself getting in the habits needed to keep and constantly refine your look and it then becomes something you WANT to do and expect from yourself.
It just starts to feel that good.
It will come down to how you feel about yourself…
The better you like the way you look, talk, move, smile, and dress you WILL understand how all these subtle changes make a huge difference in getting a girlfriend.
Any question, comments, or add-ons to the list above please by all means I want to hear them. So don’t forget to leave your opinions below.