There can be two types of women as it relates to approaching them - the approachable and the inapproachable. The first one is seemingly easy - she appears inviting and everything about her is telling you it's okay to say hello and start a conversation with her... most of the time.
However - the other type appears a little stand-offish as if she giving you a clear signal, "Do not talk to me. I don't want you to approach me. Stay away. I don't want to meet you!"
Of course it's a "read" thing on your end.
You could be sensing she doesn't know she's putting out that vibe and be entirely wrong OR it's true - to she isn't approachable and everyone knows it.
Today's post will help you separate them by giving you a few valid reasons why and a solid plan to overcome the figurative "palms up" you're getting from them.
BUT First - you MUST consider your approach.
You could be creeping women out and not realizing it.
When you're done with this article, read this to figure out if you're just creeping them out: 9 Questions Reveals Why You’re A Nice Guy & Women Feel Like You’re A Creep.
You'll find most women will appear to not want to meet you if you lack social tact.
If you feel that could be the issue - then this article will help you get that handled: Develop A Social Life, Get Involved, Give Something Back Women Do Want.
Lastly - it could be a body language problem.
They'll see and sense this from far away and the moment you move towards them - their guards go up because they're reading weak and tentative body language OR it's a little scary.
If you suspect this could be the problem - here's the solution: How & Why Your Body Language Communicates Attraction To Women – Learn To Control It.
How do you know if it's you, what you're doing, or if it's the place you're trying to approach women?
Easy - here's the rule:
If it's happening to you consistently - like everywhere you go most women appear unapproachable, then it's certainly YOU and not them.
Approaching women successfully is not a difficult task:
Work on your body language, your social skills, and your conversations (how to talk to women) plus where you meet them, make sure your confidence is relatively normal and this problem goes away all by itself.
Each link will also help you overcome approach anxiety but if you need more help, read this post:
Now that you're convinced it's not you and you've got the basics at least competently covered. Meaning - you don't have to be perfect, just get them at a manageable level because approaching women is simply starting a conversation with a stranger.
So STOP putting all this undue pressure on yourself!
Here are the most common reasons why a woman would not want to be approached or appears to be un-approachable:
- She's not interested in meeting anyone at that time.
- She's been approached or "hit on" way too many times.
- She's in a bad mood or having a terribly unlucky day.
- She's worried about how she looks or whether you will actually like her.
- She's shy and introverted. She doesn't handle social things very well.
- She's rejects guys quickly, rudely, and has the DO NOT APPROACH look.
- She's out with her girlfriends and it's an only girls night out.
- She has boyfriend and is currently in a steady relationship.
- She's married to a jealous guy who always pops up at the worst times.
IMPORTANT: Whatever her reasons are, it's best to understand that unless you're doing something which would repel even the most approachable woman, do NOT take the rejection personal.
If you do, you will never, and I mean NEVER break through a tough persona, especially if she believes the best way to keep you away from her is to be rude and demeaning because it's quick, efficient, and works EVERY time.
The best method to approaching a woman is to give her YOUR present.
(When you're done today - make sure you read my last article on approaching women - MEMBERS ONLY.)
In short, this means whatever mood she is in you must always stay in YOUR present and at the same time, bring her to HER present state if she is not there.
For example, consider a woman shopping quickly because she wants to go home.
She is living in her FUTURE.
She has probably just got out of work and can not wait to get home and finally relax. She's thinking about what she's going to eat. What she's going to watch. Her mind is literally in the future making her slightly oblivious and seemingly uncaring to what is happening around her.
Make her present situation more enjoyable than her future, going home eating and relaxing, and you WILL succeed at connecting with her.
Simple concept and understandably more difficult to achieve so don't let it get to you. It's not impossible and learning HOW is completely within your capability IF you know how to talk and hold a real conversation with another human being.
Now's let's break down that list above.
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This is lesson two from Chapter Eleven: Approaching Women - Eliminating Approach Anxiety & Starting Conversations.
Some women appear unapproachable! It's as if they're putting up this shield to protect themselves but more importantly...
STOP you from something as harmless as starting a conversation.
And it sucks!!!
This doesn't mean all of them do not want to be approached, they're just using a clever trick to stop lame-ass dudes with terrible pick up lines from hitting on them all the time.
In the lesson you get the list all of the types which includes the ones you can approach and the ones you shouldn't even bother with - because it's just not worth your time or effort.
- Learn how to approach in the most standoffish woman you normally see everyday that you wouldn't even know where to begin.
- Learn how to handle each type of pre-rejection so it naturally and smoothly leads to having a great conversation.
Finally you'll be able to go where not many men before you will ever dare to have the balls!
Now's the perfect time to eliminate all your fears and anxiety around approaching women and start meeting the one for you!
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