What is Flirting?
This question may seem simple enough to answer. After all, we’ve all done it (or tried to, at least.) Complimenting women, dressing to impress, and spouting off cheesy pick-up lines are just some of the tactics devised to attract a mate, but how much do we really know about the art of flirting?
In short, flirting is nothing more than a mating ritual, and it is not exclusive to humans alone.
Consider the animal kingdom.
Have you ever wondered about the songs birds sing? Is it just a mere coincidence that peacocks have such stylish feathers?
What’s the science behind apes beating their chests the way they do?
The answer is simple… it’s all a part of their mating ritual.
While flirting techniques are unique to each species, the goal behind them is not. For humans, flirting involves the verbal and nonverbal cues we use to attract a potential mate.
As men, we take specific actions to impress the female of our choice: humor; intelligence; material wealth; social status; confidence.
Like the male ape beating his chest, these are just some of the signals we emit to prove our desire and worthiness to the opposite sex.
This is the essence of flirting!
"Flirting is nothing more than a mating ritual."
What’s more is that it is mostly done on an unconscious level. Think back to the animal examples mentioned earlier.
Do you think any of these mating rituals are pre-planned?
They are not.
In actuality, they are all nature’s answer to continuing the life cycle, and every creature on the planet is bred specifically for this purpose, including humans.
Like the animal kingdom, humans don’t think about flirting… they just do it. In fact, the only time we’re actually aware of our flirtatious nature is when it backfires on us.
Every guy has been in a situation where a girl appears to be flirting with him, only to act annoyed when he returns the gesture.
She spouts off comments such as, “You’re not my type,” or “I like you as a friend,” and he finds himself confused at the entire interaction. In fact, it’s not uncommon for a guy to misinterpret a girl’s friendly signals for a sexual attraction.
The Right Way to Flirt:
Before we discuss how to successfully flirt, you need to consider one very important fact – women do not like cocky assholes.
Showing off your hot set of wheels, running your mouth about how much money you have, or boasting about how important your job is may seem like a good way to grab a girl’s attention, but it’s not.
Bragging actually portrays weakness, and it will do you more harm than good.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s delve into the topic at hand – flirting.
In essence, flirting is a subtle but fun way to show a girl you’re interested in her.
Just for a moment, imagine yourself talking to a girl for the very first time. She’s cute, she seems interested in the conversation, and even better… she appears to be giving you “the eye.”
This type of sexual tension is, in reality, part of the human mating ritual. From it, we determine if the attraction is mutual, and in turn, whether or not to move forward.
When flirting, try to incorporate all the qualities of masculinity that women find attractive; but for the sake of this discussion, know that women generally respond to men who are confident and in touch with their emotions.
Flirting is a subtle way to show a girl you’re interested in her.
Flirting is your chance to demonstrate that you have these core character traits women find appealing in a guy.
Perhaps the most important element to flirting is the use of your nonverbal cues, also known as your body language.
Did you know that only 10 percent of communication is verbal? That’s right! The remaining 90 percent of communication is expressed through a person’s actions.
With that said, don’t think that simply talking to a girl will make her interested.
Two guys can say exactly the same thing, but deliver completely different messages, so you’re going to have to learn how to use your gestures, voice, and overall body language to make your message more penetrating.
Another important aspect in flirting effectively is to know the difference between a romantic interest and a platonic (non-sexual) interest.
It wouldn’t be an understatement to say that women have an almost innate instinct to flirt, regardless of whether or not they’re genuinely interested in a guy. It’s a gray area that creates a sense of confusion for many men, and that’s why it’s important to understand flirting.
Know when it’s for fun and when it’s serious by deciphering between the different types of flirting…
As you can probably imagine, the first is more playful in nature, aimed at nothing more than friendly encounters with the opposite sex.
The latter category is more direct in its approach, singling out one female in particular for the ultimate purpose of seduction.
Two of Types of Flirting:
Flirting generally breaks down into two categories: flirting without intent, and flirting with intent.
Let’s take a more detailed look at these two methods of flirting.
Flirting WITHOUT Intent.
We all know that guy. The ladies seem to flock around him, and for some reason, everything that comes out of his mouth has them giggling, blushing, and the like. This is the guy who playfully banters with everyone he meets.
There is a positive and fun energy that he gives off when talking to women, and in actuality, that is what they’re drawn to his energy.
The most successful flirters out there do so without intent, and the reason is very simple… they appear confident.
Flirting for fun not only shows those around you that you’re unafraid of their opinions, but it also enables them to pick up on your energetic vibe, making you more approachable.
That, and it’s a great way of expanding your social circle.
Guys who develop this attitude tend to have several female friends, simply because they give the girls the they desire.
Now I know what you’re thinking: “I’m not reading this book because I need more girl friends.”
On the flipside, we all know that girls travel in packs, so you never know who you’ll meet as a result of expanding your network.
Flirting With Intent
As explained earlier, flirting with intent is targeted at one specific girl. In actuality, it is the beginning of the human mating ritual involving playful, back-and-forth banter between a man and the target he has set his sights on.
By flirting with intent, you’re sending out specific attraction signals and picking up on the feedback you receive from the woman.
As you can probably imagine, this type of flirting carries much more risk than the former. Flirting with intent puts you in a slightly more vulnerable position, as the woman has the choice of not responding to your advances.
But like the old saying goes, “You never know unless you try!” She may very well be receptive!
As a sexually-healthy man, flirt with anyone you want.
Don’t make the mistake of not pursuing a specific female simply because she appears out of your league. The point is that you never know who will be receptive to your advances, and if she’s not interested, then move on.
On a side note, make sure you’re not flirting without intent around a girl you’ve set your sights on.
One surefire method of sending her mixed signals is to flirt with practically every female in the room. If your aim is to get to know her, then do just that.
Keep your eyes on the target; otherwise, you may come off as being insincere.
Now before we go deeper into basics of flirting, let us pause for a second and figure out what women want from you.
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Editors Note - PLEASE READ:
This report was obviously not written me. It was given to me long ago as a free report to give my readers. The agreement was made under the condition that it was untouched and only used to promote a program called: Flirt Mastery by Steve Scott.
I absolutely LOVED it and still get lots of hits on the pdf file which is somewhere out there on the internet.
The problem is: The product is not offered any more and was probably written under a very obscure pen name - which I've reason worked with, or actually was Dean Cortez.
I came to that conclusion based on a product Dean now offers which is designed almost exactly on this one originally was.
It's been now published and stripped from a pdf file because I still think it's incredible and filled with amazing tips.
My effort now, to satisfy the agreement, is to promote Dean's work which is, to the best of my knowledge, transformed from flirt mastery.
So - that's the whole story.
To "Steve Scott" - THANK YOU.
The outside links lead to a video titled: Simple "Magic Words" That Make Any Girl Crave You. The title says it all.
It's a great highly inexpensive informational product which contains several modules which highly a lot of what it written above.
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