How To Tell If A Female Coworker Is Attracted To You

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My job used to be the only place I met women and figuring out if those women were attracted to me or just even interested in dating… drove me crazy!

It’s easy to talk to a co-worker, you’re kind of “stuck” together for long periods of the day.

You also have to be friendly to each other or else work would totally suck.

Sometimes you’re even introduced to her, so no cold approach to worry about and no awkward moments while you “try” to start  conversation.

Except, when you think about it, which I know you have – makes the problem of figuring out if she’s attracted to you or interested in going out on a date so much more difficult…

Which is why you’re asking the question today:

How Can I Tell If My Co-Worker Is Attracted To Me?

It’s understandable that this situation is different than in a bar or club, a coffee shop, a market, or even on the street because there are 3 HUGE obstacles you are facing:

  1. Sexual harassment. Say the wrong thing and you’re done. Make an advance towards her, get it wrong and you’re done. Very real stuff which has definitely gotten worse over the years with all this “me too” stuff going around.
  2. Public rejection in front of your other co-workers. If she’s not interested EVERYONE will find out you FAILED. Kind of makes showing up for work a little tougher and even unbearable. It could easily cause you to quit which wouldn’t be good for you livelihood or pocket.
  3. Whether she says yes, is interested or not, no matter what happens you still have to work with this girl piling up extreme pressure on you. You’re basically stuck seeing her several times a week no matter how the attraction plays out.

Let me know if I’ve missed something but those three reasons alone increases your NEED to KNOW without any doubt she’s into you, or at least feeling a little attracted BEFORE you make any sort of move on her or ask for a date.

Why don’t we get right to it…

In the beginning of the article I mentioned how work was the only place I was meeting women for a long time.

And believe me I was working in a sporting goods store for 18 years which meant a constant stream of hot sexy younger women that never stopped coming.

Seriously, it was straight out of the famous quote from  Matthew McConaughey in the movie “Dazed and Confused” when he says,

“That’s what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.”

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 … and  just so you know I’m NOT a pig – they were college students and they were ALL over 18.

But I digress…

This wonderful  job gave me the opportunity to interact with lots of women and watch ALL of them get hit on or approached by every guy in the place.

It was a front stage plus back stage pass very few are privileged to experience.

I saw it all and I saw enough to know EXACTLY if a girl was interested or attracted to another worker BUT… none of that meant shit. Trust me there.

No matter where you are (with a few obvious exceptions)…

Figuring out if a girl is feeling something for you is not any different just because you’re at work. It’s always the same!

Granted it can be tougher because in this situation you want to be assured it’s happening, but that’s the only difference…

The pressure and the NEED to be totally convinced she’s into you.

With that said…

The best and possibly the ONLY real answer was already written and since it can not be topped, I’ll quote it. NEVER forget it:

How To Tell If She’s Interested – Stop Looking for Signals!

  1. Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
  2. Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
  3. Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!

As long as you use how she’s responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you’ll have a MUCH easier time spotting the “she wants me” clues…

…Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.

How To Tell If She’s Interested – Stop Looking for Signals!

Believe me I tried to come up with a better solution, because I wanted this article to be truly unique but it’s way too freaking perfect!

When it was first introduced to me I put into use immediately and has worked for me ever since; and i KNOW it will work for you too PLUS it WILL alleviate ANY hesitation or DOUBT you might have over knowing or trying to figure if any woman is into you… or not.

Never forget this which supports the above quote:

The more time you spend LOOKING for signals, the less time you get to create the attraction.

The more time you spend in your head, the less time you’ll have to get in her head, mind, and body, if that’s what you want.

Women are very in tune with what is going on around them and they will often follow the lead of the guy they’re talking to IF you’re good enough at it.

If you’re unsure, she becomes unsure too… about you.

If you’re not confident, that makes her less confident too in herself and you too.

When you find yourself searching for signs and signals and are unsure if she’s feeling it back – she too will be unsure HOW you feel about HER too.

So just by looking for the right “it’s okay to ask me out” you’re not leading, you’re waiting for her to decide and by doing so – make it less likely to happen and far more likely to fail.

It’s just basic human behavior which can not be helped so it’s best to first LEAD the interaction in the direction you want it to go.

That’s it, we’re done.

Seriously, I’m joking. You want more. I know you do, so here you go…

Workplaces, as stated earlier, don’t automatically mean EVERY signal he gives will be as easy to detect because of the many of the reasons listed above.

She, just like you, might be worried about the added pressure, or public thing going on, and could be down-playing what she is feeling because of it.

However there are plenty of “tells” women have IF you’re clued in on them AND you make sure there’s not an ulterior reason behind her actions.

MEANING everything listed below can have a much different reason why it’s happening, it’s not a guarantee, just a clue or hint she likes you.

AND lots of this is coming from, as mentioned above that spent eighteen years working with hundreds and hundreds of women in a retail environment FILLED with athletic and hot young women.

ON THE SIDE – Promo note – When I started that job I was living with a messed up waitress/beauty school student/turned STRIPPER to pay her way through and she messed my head and heart up BAD!

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Okay… back to these sign or signals of interests with some great examples:

You’ll find her popping up when she has a chance to talk to you. She’ll do it to you more than everyone else. She just seems to be in the right place at the right time – a lot.

She’ll find seemingly innocent excuses to be around you. Maybe she needs help with something which you know she could’ve done herself. She’ll start looking to you to “help” her out.

If you’re working apart from each other – you just might find her checking you out or staring at you.

When you catch her doing this she’ll generally look away quickly. If not, she’s probably just spacing out which is very common at work.

She’ll ask you a ton of personal questions about your life.

She’s interested in knowing certain details about you which are not always work-related.

In fact, the less work related they are – the better the chance or opportunity she’s giving you to ask her out AND she wants to make sure you’re actually available.

She won’t talk about other guys too often.

It will be about you and her and life in general.

You won’t be hearing about her date last night or the guy she just broke up with either.

(Very generally because I’ve seen it happen when she actually did like the guy but who am I to say how BAD she was at attracting a man.)

She’ll do things which lead to an exchange of information…

Like pulling out her phone to show you something funny and cool.

She will give you subtle hints to get you to put her information in your phone and to get you on her many social media accounts.

Let’s face it, work buddies don’t always tend to like to see each other outside of work. If she’s doing that, she has a GOOD attractive reason.

She might go as far as asking how you feel about work relationships or if you think they work.

She might bring up a topic about someone else who is seeing someone else there.

She’s doing it because she wants to know what your thoughts are on workplace romances.

Those are all basic and of course the list could go on but not everything can be covered. There are way too many variables and circumstances.

You understand that, right?

Lastly for the examples at least, because we have a way to go here before I make sure you’re ready to go back to work.

I’ve coached, talked, and advised a ton of women over the years. 

There were tons of women asking about a guy at work.

They explained in detail how it happened, when it happened, how they hooked up (if they did) and all the sorted stories (good and bad) which brought them to me.

The common theme in EVERYONE of them was:

  1. She was NEVER sure how the guy felt about her. (Sound familiar in your case?)
  2. They made sure they just “sort of” hung out after work. You know, just to talk a little and share a drink.

What I’m telling you is do NOT wait to figure out if she likes you or wants to do something more. Just get her outside of work as quickly and easily as you can – for a drink or something else.

Most of the time – if you think she likes you – she probably does especially if you got a lot of the signs above.

The longer you wait – the harder and weirder it will get.

Friends go out all the time after work and that’s when the “good stuff” happens and that’s where you’ll find it much easier to transition to a date or more AND that’s where the hints, clues, signals, or whatever she gives you – will be much easier to spot.

I’m listening – you want more, don’t you?

GOOD no GREAT news…

I’ve found something else which is posted here which is really cool in determining EXACTLY if a woman is attracted to you.

Make sure you read the entire article when you can. It’s only fair considering it was not written by me and credit needs to be given:

How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

  1. Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
  2. Words (what she says to you)
  3. Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)

These are also in order.

You trust her actions first, her words next, and her body language after that.

  1. If you’re getting clear buying signals in her actions, ignore her words.
  2. If you get interest from her words, ignore her body movements.
  3. Your last resort is to interpret her body language.

What about sexual energy?

#1. The first indicator is her actions to tell you she likes you.

Always watch what she does first, and ignore her words if they don’t jive with the way she behaves.

Here are a short list of “she’s interested” indicators:

  • She touches you or leans in close
  • She makes it a point to smell your cologne
  • She takes you along with her to another bar/dance club
  • She initiates conversation with you
  • She asks for your number (but only if she asks before or after giving hers. If she refuses to give you her number, she’s not interested.)
  • She looks you over (especially glances at your mouth)

#2. The next thing you listen to is her words.

What does she say to you?

Here’s a list of things that indicate her interest verbally:

  • She asks a lot of questions about you
  • She talks about sexual topics (without you initiating them)
  • She uses very sensual words when describing you
  • She tells you secrets (indicating trust)

This next list is more difficult, since you will have to refine your radar as to…

#3. What her body language is saying.

It’s much more subtle, and more difficult to read. Again, I always suggest that you make sure to judge her body language only when you have no other evidence to help you out.

Here are some buying indicators:

  • Occasional glance(s) from far away
  • Looks at you a few times (flickering glances at your lips)
  • Holds your gaze for a moment with no words
  • Looks down, then away
  • Goes out of her way to laugh with you
  • Posture changes, looks alert
  • Covers her mouth or touches her face
  • Adjusts hair, attire
  • Faces you
  • Alert, energetic
  • Pupils are dilated
  • Open posture (arms uncrossed)

How to Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

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Let’s conclude this with a little real help and inspiration so I know, without a doubt, when you head off to work tomorrow or the next day…

You’ll be beyond prepared to handle this girl problem, dilemma, question (whatever) confidently and attractively.

The worst that could happen is that she is not attracted to you BUT because of your new attitude – you began creating it anyways.

Wouldn’t that be cool?

You really want to know how I feel about this question,

“Is my co-worker attracted to me?”

Honestly I seriously hate it because of these three reasons.

#1:

I’ve been there myself and quickly realized if it wasn’t for my insecurity and uneasiness around any girl – I would NEVER have to ask it.

When you believe in yourself enough AND you’re positive you have the right skills to create attraction – you will be instead asking, “Ha! Why wouldn’t she be attracted to me so… of course she is!”

#2:

Every stinking time I found myself asking something like this, even to myself, and was waiting for the right time and signals to do something – it was already too late.

An all-too-common missed opportunity missed to some other guy or she lost all interest in a guy she was into, but didn’t have the courage to DO something about it.

Dating and attraction will always come with risk BUT when faced with courage, time and time again will always come with REWARD.

Never forget that or this:

TAKE RISKS

No doubt about it… until a man is open and excited to try new things in life, he’ll never escape his comfort zone… including “daring” to connect in a meaningful way with women.

The First Thing Women Look For In “Mr. Right”

#3:

The one nice guy habit I had (among other attraction killers) which ruined lots of chances with women was the need for her approval first. Almost like I was asking her, “Hey if you like me… let me know… or else I won’t do anything about it.”

Seeking any sort of approval from her is the fastest way to either rejection or the dreaded friends zone.

For those three reasons and more if we were to sit and talk about it is…

WHY I hate this question but you know what, I’m a positive dude so let’s take that negative shit and turn it into something you can take with you to work or anywhere you’re interacting with women any time of the day.

(Yes, even including weekends or holidays!!!!)

#1 – Believe in yourself.

REAL confidence in a guy is the one absolute trait women are ALWAYS attracted to… always.

You NEVER hear a woman say,

“I really like him because he’s not like those OTHER guys I’ve been with; he’s filled with doubt and uncertainty.”

Listen man – you are BUILT to attract women. You just have to believe it and learn the right skills to achieve or even master it.

Do whatever you can to become so secure in yourself you’ll never doubt yourself again when it comes to women at least.

Here’s my “ultimate” page on confidence:

Why Confidence Is So Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It Quickly.

#2 – Keep moving forward. Be a leader.

Women are looking for guys who will take a lead with little or no fear. Let’s not get into all the reasons why but if you’re constantly waiting for HER to move forward – I’m willing to bet everything that you’re not getting many real dates with the women you want.

Women HATE making any kind of move on a guy so much they would rather stay home alone then ask a guy out they like.

This includes just about every women at work that you are actually attracted to or not!

The truth is yes, there’s a chance she’ll reject you especially if you don’t get or understand how attraction works but think of it this way:

IF you don’t ask or choose do nothing,  she will NEVER say yes.

“There are only 2 kinds of men…

TYPE #1:

Men who feel paralyzing FEAR and ANXIETY whenever they meet or talk to a beautiful woman.

And TYPE #2:

Men who feel CALM, CONFIDENT and SECURE about it, no matter what the situation.”

There Are Only 2 Kinds Of Men – 3 Steps To An Attitude For Dating Success

Trust me I’ve been with plenty of women who did the asking or took the lead and they all worked out badly because they ended up taking the masculine role OR tried to hand it over to a guy who didn’t know how to do it.

Which may sound cool at first, a woman attacking you or chasing you, but in the end, it’s emasculating and only deprives you the opportunity to be the man you are born to be!

Women do like to lead their lives, careers, whatever in their own way and do not want to be told what or how to do it – but when it comes to man and woman – attraction – those sorts of things – most women WANT you to lead.

AND one more thing on this one:

A woman will more often than not accept a date or invitation from a guy she’s not that interested in just because he asked her out.

She’ll do it time and time again OVER any guy who fails to do it or doesn’t have the courage to even try. Giving HIM the chance to create a real attraction and not you – because you didn’t DO anything about it and waited around for the right sign or signal from her.

Never forget that when you see a hot chic with some supposed schlep…

He went for it when every other guy wouldn’t dare risk it and now HE is reaping the REWARD.

AND if you don’t believe it OR have a limited view of what women want or how they all hot some hot rich stud – then you’re only limiting YOURSELF:

“Tragically, most men make it impossible to get their love lives on track because they accept one or more of these “myths” as an EXCUSE for not succeeding with women.

They let their false beliefs about what it takes to be a “real man” bog them down in both life and love.

They let these false beliefs hold them back.

Worst of all, they let these myths give them a reason to continue ACCEPTING PAIN and FAILURE.”

Are These Myths About Women Standing Between You And Dating Success?

#3 – Her approval of you means NOTHING!

Seriously, she can hate everything you do and still feel attracted to you.

She can despise everything about you and yet, still sleep with you.

She can absolutely not stand being around you and yet still find herself falling for you.

Hey I don’t make the rules or laws of attraction here and actually, neither does she.

So…

When you start kissing her ass, begging for her approval, trying to buy her affection with stupid shit, or playing the nice guy role hoping she’ll like you…

You will NEVER create the right attraction.

Waiting around and trying to figure out if she is interested in you, is in some weird twisted way, trying to gain her approval because when you begin to hope she’s feeling instead of just going for it, you’re giving out a signal of please like me so I can move forward.

So stop worrying.

Stop asking.

Stop looking.

Start believing and…

Start creating attraction right now.

Give her something positive to react positively to and you’ll never have to ask if this co-worker and any other woman likes you again.

Oh and read this:

The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me.

You’ll learn about her process of attraction from a point of view NEVER been said before as  far as I know.

When you’re fully ready or even just on the fence still deciding if some woman at work is attracted to you or not AND you want to skip all the signs and bullshit and misreads and “hair flipping she must be into you nonsense…

START creating the attraction moment you meet, LEAD her in the direction YOU want to go… 

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  • A different thought

    It’s a risk for men these days to ask a female colleague out. Even when it seems like she likes you. If for some reason the “click” does no work out, it depends on her how everything will continue. One complaint to HR and you are toast. My advice: Work is for work. Socializing is something you do outside work, with different people. Being a professional and prudent, I think you should keep this things strictly separated. I know, in the past, lots of married couples initially met at work, but times have changed.

    • Good points, thanks for sharing.

      I’d say though, it’s hard for a lot of people because they dedicate so much time to work that they feel exhausted after it and don’t have the energy to go out searching – so as always – balance is important.

      Not an excuse – but solving the “tired” thing might (in part) take care of the problem of wanting to date a co-worker.

      I don’t advise it. It rarely if ever works out.

      Again – appreciate your thoughts and very good points.