If A Girl Or Woman Rejects You, Is There Still A Chance?

You gathered all your courage, the night was going great, you thought there was a connection, so you closed your eyes and leaned in for the kiss BUT she pulled back - flat out rejected you.

She's been your great friend for a long time and finally, in what you thought was the PERFECT moment, you told her - "I think I love you." - You eagerly await her response and it feels so right BUT she darts her eyes away from yours and says, "Awww that's sweet - but I don't want to ruin the friendship. I just don't like you in that way."

You've been getting coffee at the same shop and the cute cashier seems to flirt with you everyday. You think you have a shot at her so you "man-up" or "suit-up" or whatever and say, "I'd love to go out with you sometime. Can I have your phone number?" and your worst fears come true... the PUBLIC REJECTION as she politely says,

"No.... Sorry. I'm kind of busy and not interested in dating someone right now. But thank you."

Being rejected sucks, doesn't it. Let me know your story below and let it out.

Today's post will deal with rejections and explore the possibility of there being any reasonable CHANCE you can change her mind.

They are very specific so if you having "general" rejection problems with women this may not be your post but no worries - start here, figure out why you're failing with women, and we'll get this thing handled, promise:

Why SHE Didn’t Like You, Why Girls Don’t Like You, & What You Can Do To Start Changing That Today… and Forever!

Let's begin with some very important distinctions between women and girls because it's necessary in figuring out IF there's still a chance for you.

There are women and there are girls. Women being older, mature, and more decided in what they want out of their life. Girls being younger and less aware of what they're looking for and how to go about getting it.

This needs to be said because when it comes to being rejected there's even more of a notable difference:

If a girl rejects you - based on the circumstances of course - there might be still be chance.

Girls are more apt to change and experience a mindset shift. Younger girls change their mind all the time and appear to be a little less set in their ways.

A girl can also reject you accidentally.

She could be just unsure of herself and you, inexperienced and not know how to handle certain situations where attraction is involved, and she could react badly to your approach to her.


If a woman rejects you - and you're around her age - circumstances once again aside - the chance of her changing her mind within a reasonable time goes down to practically ZERO.

Which means it's probably not going to happen with her... ever.

Unless of course the same holds true - Some women are quite unsure of themselves, don't understand men, and also react badly to some men approaching them out of insecurity, anxiety, and fear.

The reality of being rejected by a woman, or the reason why it usually happens she feels little or attraction and if that's the case, changing her mind is the last thing that could ever happen.

Once she forms an impression of you, no amount of anything is going to change that - theoretically speaking.

But it's not all bad news... yet.

Now that I've separated the "girls" from the "women" let's talk about this whole "rejection" thing a little deeper so you can easily tell if there's ever going to be a chance to change her mind.

There are a few relative forms of rejection and knowing which one you're in can make all the difference in the world as for turning into something more.

First up...

The casual sometimes heartless rejection.

This usually comes up while you're approaching a woman. Maybe you said "Hello" to her or gave her a compliment and she blew you off. She said "no thanks" or "not interested" - either something rude or not from her - it's still a rejection.

They suck they really do but fear not - the pain doesn't last long. You didn't know her anyways. I'm positive there are plenty of available who'd be happy to chat with you IF you do it right.

Here are my best ideas to limit being rejected in these cases:

Approach Women With No Anxiety & Fears – Four Words Changes Everything

How To Approach Many Types of Women When They Look Inapproachable

The Fearless Approach To Meeting Women With No Pressure To Perform

How To Give Any Woman The Perfect Compliment – Steps On How To Create One

Is there still a chance in these circumstances?

Most likely NO and trying to reverse what has already happened is a BIG waste of your time.

Your best chance at success is to re-think your game and fix it IF it needs fixing.

Sometimes you're going to meet (or not meet) women who are either in their own world too deeply, don't like to be approached by strangers, are actually with someone, OR are just dare I say bitches who "don't take kindly to folks like you and me."

The one article above deals specifically with cases like that:

How To Approach Many Types of Women When They Look Inapproachable.

The one tried method to reverse the rejection in this case can prove to help you however it relies heavily on circumstance (where she is - where it happened - when it happened) AND using PERSISTENCE the right way.

Persistence is NOT simply a matter of bugging the shit out of a woman. It is not - NOT taking no for an answer either.

Persistence can be a very attractive trait but how it's related to creating attraction is often misunderstood. It's definitely not trying to convince a woman to feel something for you and give up her contact information...

It's the most attractive to women when it's used as an approach to life.

It's about being relentless in overcoming any challenges or setbacks.

IF you can prove that to a woman with charm and wit in a very indirect way - which is going to be tough  - you can certainly reverse the causal rejection as it relates to getting her number or getting her to go out on a date with you.


If that cute girl or woman who makes your coffee every morning rejected you with a kind smile - USE some good old fashioned charm, wit, and throw in some cocky/comedy - keep trying nicely and sure - I'm willing to bet you can change her mind more easily than you might believe.

Sometimes - in those circumstances - women just need to see you a few times and to talk with you a bit before they feel comfortable enough to take it to the next step.

Let's move on to the next form of rejection and see if it is reversible.

The Dreaded "Friends Zone" Rejection - The Worst Kind!

This rejection is often misunderstood and causes a severe amount of pain and suffering.

Nothing stings more than falling in love with your friend and (finally) revealing your feelings for her when all you get back is the dreaded, "I only see you as a friend." OR the classic excuse, "I don't want to ruin our friendship." which IS an excuse just to spare your feelings.

I'd say the friends zone rejection is the most common reason why a guy will seek out any answer to this problem because he's looking for a way out of it, he wants to change her mind the most, and he wants someone to tell him that she's either hiding her feelings for him that there's still a chance they can be together.

I am an EXPERT on the friends zone. No lie, I really and can not think of one good reason why I would bullshit you on that sad note.

I know exactly how you get in one, what it feels like to be in many ones with many different women, what it does to your mental state of mind, and how (if possible) you can get out of it or escape its nasty clutches.

Here's the proof and if you've been rejected with the "Let's just be friends" or if you're not sure if you're even in it, make sure you go through each and every article as quickly as you can:

I hope you're ready for the cold-hard truth about the friends zone rejection.

It's not impossible to get out but the facts remain tested and proven over time:


For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.

“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just friends“.

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?

And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just friends” with for a long time?

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate” with a man…

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or “not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you.

Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context."

What Women HATE Most About Single Guys & 7 Reasons She Why Won’t Like You

You end up in the friends zone because you put yourself there or failed to create a deeper attraction in the early stages of your interactions with her.

AND once she's made her emotionally mind up about you she will barely budge from that perception of you.

She's rejecting you because she doesn't feel what is necessary for her to risk the friendship and/or she's just not attracted to you emotionally or physically.

I'm a positive person and since I've been through this many times - I actually DO believe you can reverse the friends zone rejection BUT there's no "winging" it method.

You have to follow a very specific plan with the understanding there's no guaranteed you'll get her.

However there's some great news here:

I WILL guarantee that if you follow the plan the right way - you will NEVER end up in any woman's friends zone again UNLESS it's your choice to be there.

Here are the 3 steps. Follow them exactly:

Stuck In The Friends Zone With A Girl You Love? Here’s How to Get Out!

Moving on...

Getting Rejected - Is There Really A Chance to Change Her Mind?

When you consider all the possible rejections as to why it happens things can get quite confusing.

Add to that a certain stubbornness or belief there's still a chance something else is at play here:

Trying to change her mind, which is pointless because attraction does not work that way - you have to change her emotions or reboot her attraction process which I wrote about here:

The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me

It appears to me this is becoming more of a deflection for you, you're avoiding the truth, relying too heavily on hope to mask your true feelings, or you have an inability to just let something go in a healthy, mature, responsible way.

I understand how hard it is.

The feelings don't just go away.

It takes a while before that happens and in the meantime you're stuck dealing with the rejection and trying your hardest to not let it ruin your current life or worse yet - have it spill over into any new interactions you have with women.

I've been rejected many times in my life where I refused to give up and I must honestly admit - the better choice was to walk away and to consider "something else" or someone else.

The times I made myself believe there was still a chance only delayed the inevitable and that lost time could've been spent in a much more productive way - like finding a woman who I did like who would not reject me.

Asking the question, "If a girl rejects me is there still a chance?" doesn't seem to be the right question to ask on a man's journey to not only become a more attractive man but to actually succeed in finding the right woman AND attracting her too.

The quicker more beneficial and healthy answer will always  be a resounding:

"NO. There isn't a chance." 

Saving lots of time to figure out if it's a pattern in your life - which can be easily fixed or if it's one time thing and all is well - another woman will certainly come along soon enough.

After all there are lots of them out there.

Why bother wasting valuable time "trying" to make something happen which SHOULD naturally happens by itself because when it doesn't - and you try to force it - you've just made the healing process take longer than it could.

Attraction is not meant to be forced and you can never coerce someone into feeling something no matter how much effort you put into it AND this certainly includes trying the whole romantic angle.

Romancing a woman for months or years hoping she'll cave in (based on persistence alone) from my experience rarely if ever leads to something better than what a strong natural attraction felt from the very beginning can.

The longer you try to romance her into liking you guarantees you'll  find out  SHE has been in control of you the whole time - and you'll never have any personal power in the (maybe) relationship anyways.

When a girl seriously "rejects" you, whether it's the hard or easy way, whether she's rude or nice about it, whether she gives you a pack of lies to spare your feelings, whether she unknowingly gives you a real reason to not like her anyways...

It's time to move on to bigger and better things.

Hanging about hoping, thinking you can change her mind never turns out good.

(Actually sometimes it becomes more of what a stalker would do and I know that's not what you want to be labeled as.)

Delaying the healing process will have a devastating effect on your confidence and self-esteem. And that stuff is VERY important and needed in attracting a great woman. You know that.

It's best to let it go.

Don't take it any of it personal.

Remain positive.

Learn something valuable from it that you can use for the rest of your life.

Learn to ask more important relevant questions which can help you in the long run of life, relationships, happiness, and becoming a more attractive real man, rather than the quick useless answer you get from wondering "if there's still a chance".

Move on as quickly as you can.

If you're struggling to get past the pain, if you can not get it out of your mind and heart, if you can not seem to find a way to let it go...

Then please - read this; I wrote it just for you and from my personal experience of being rejected by lots of girls and women in my life:

Handling Rejection – Never Feel Sorry for Yourself Because You Were Rejected

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  • Ron

    I have no problem striking up conversations with women of all types, including those I find very attractive. I’m considered good-looking and well spoken; I dress well, have a great job, a good sense of humour, and live a well balanced life with lots of hobbies, etc. Although women clearly enjoy talking to me, nothing ‘more’ ever happens. We talk, chat, laugh, often over two or more drinks, but I literally never get the sense that the woman is even potentially interested in me sexually. I’m not a ‘pushover’, and often disagree with whomever I’m talking to – and tell her so in a way that respects her and me. I’m certainly not a ‘nice guy’ and have clear boundaries – if someone disrespects me or a woman I’m with, I tell them off. I have no idea why it is that I’ve gotten a date – not even one – in my life. Could it be that although I attract women as a conversationalist, I’m just incapable of being sexually attractive?

    • Hey Ron – you’re definitely NOT incapable of being sexually attractive.

      Based on what you told me though – you’re lacking in the skill of sexual communication. Body language subtleties, Flirting, Cocky/Comedy, Conversational attraction, etc…

      You’ve got everything taken care of but those essentials if you want to date more women or become sexual active with them.

      You have to start “literally” turning them on in your conversations and back it up with your body language.

      Sounds like you’re having a good time, get the laughs and all – have something to offer as boyfriend or dating material BUT since it’s not going anywhere, it MUST be sexual communication.

      I used to have amazing conversations with women. The stuff they told me. The way we interacted on a personal level. The humor was there and so was the ability of me to open them up.

      BUT, never got me anywhere too because I was missing the “sexuality” part – the light touching, the sexual & confident body language, the RIGHT kind of humor, and a disgusting reluctance to move forward in the direction I wanted to go – as I sat around waiting for HER to do MY job.

      Let me know if all that rings a bell for you.

      You’ve got a ton going on for you – downplay all that – ALLOW women to get more info from you by being a little mysterious, be excruciatingly humble, play it off as they’re trying to GET something from YOU – TEASE them – BE just a little difficult, make them laugh in a way that they’re not even sure if you’re being serious or not – then, IF they’re willing to get a little closer – push them away nice and once again – accuse them of being too forward perhaps borderline needy or desperate to GET a guy like you – find that line that they’re willing to cross where you can take charge and really u=turn them on sexually.

      Flirt more – tease more – find the right blend of cocky and confidence which is humorous and far from being arrogant and rude and I BELIEVE, your problems will all go away and be a distant past.

      Start with these:

      26 Traits Women Find Sexy – How To Become A Sexual Guy Despite Your Looks

      How You Can Develop Your Personality & Be A Real Mysterious Alpha Male

      When It’s Time To Make Your First Move On Her – No Fears – Go For It!

      Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction If You Use it The Right Way

      Learn How To Flirt & Start Flirting With Every Women You Meet – Essential Skill Of Attraction

      Start Teasing Women To Create Attraction But Follow These Four Rules First

      Cocky Comedy – The Difference Between Being Confident & Acting Like a Jerk

      Study the mating sequence – going from eye contact to the bedroom.

      IF all those don’t get you exactly where you want to be with women, invest in this because it WILL go as deep as you will even need to go from hello to the bedroom OR a great girlfriend if that’s what you truly want in your life:

      How To Transform Yourself From A Man With No Sexual Confidence Into The Kind Of In Control Man That All Women Fantasize About – Power Sexuality

      That’s my affiliate link.

      Let me know how it goes for you and any other questions you might have – happy to help you out.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing – thanks for asking. Always appreciated to hear from good guys like you.


      • Arthur

        I talk to women all the time but literally never get anywhere. I guess no ‘advice’ could help me to get a date. I will never touch a woman unless she gives me explicit verbal permission to do so because I’m not about to set myself up for a possible harassment accusation. Her showing ‘signs’ she enjoys talking to me and ‘dropping hints’ – whatever that means – just isn’t good enough

        • Really – you’re AFRAID of sexual harassment? From what? Just talking to a woman?

          Dude – get over it!!!!

          Yeah touch a woman in public, like grab her ass, or whatever, and yeah, sexual harassment BUT… ASKING for permission to touch a woman when you’ve already established a matter of sexuality, and flirty exchanges, in a way which demonstrates you’re a man of confidence, who is willing to FACE the fear, despite all the shit you READ (not experience) is exactly WHY you’re not getting anywhere.

          Tell you what – unless you’ve been accused, because of some stupid move you made, unless that moment has happened to you – it’s not REAL. AND you’re fooling yourself, you’re copping out, you’re using it as an excuse because you’re SCARED!

          Reality check:

          IF you talk to women all the time, and you’re not getting anywhere – THEN it’s because you’re conversations are NOT creating the sexual flirting chemistry you need to move and step up from there.

          YES, it’s as simple as that dude. Don’t delude yourself, stop using excuses…

          It’s THAT SIMPLE – your conversations with women is probably a big part of the problem.

          Change how they go and manifest – and suddenly – women become EASY!

  • Allen

    I work out 4x per week and travel extensively to climb mountains and waterfalls as hobbies. I dress well, own three properties mortgage / debt-free and have a great job. I also have zero chance with women so I don’t waste time approaching because I know every one will reject me every time. Some of us have no chance with women no matter what.

    • Thanks for sharing Allen but I still think you’re entirely wrong. I can understand the enormous problems with approaching women most guys have, and how it can feel like a grueling, pressure filled, feel like you can’t win situation. However “attracting” women and “approaching” women are not necessarily connected.

      Meaning – you do NOT have to approach women – especially the hard cold approaches to be successful BUT if you want to learn the skill, if you’ve done what you’ve done, I guarantee you can learn how with some great advice and practice too. All it takes is a little confidence in yourself, some courage, AND the skill of attractive conversations. Seriously, that’s all there is to it.

      On the side – you don’t have to approach women to create attraction. You can meet women lots of ways without ever having to do it. So… both are possible.

      Obviously you’re not going to meet many women on the side or top of a mountain. Maybe one or two IF you’re really lucky.

      Yet the success you have in other areas of your life tells me that all you’re lacking is the confidence you have there which can be brought to women through knowledge and learning the skills that create attraction.

      I’m POSITIVE you can learn those two things. Trust me it’s a LOT easier than dealing with all the legalities of managing properties and it’s certainly less exhausting than climbing a freaking mountain.


      Confidence with women. (Understanding attraction and how women work a little.)

      Attractive conversational skills. (Don’t why you bragging or talking out your ass or saying things women don’t respond to with attraction.)

      Put yourself in more positions so you’ll meet women naturally without having to approach them.


      PLEASE keep reading every post here at DiaLteG TM. Take 20 minutes a day and go through each and every one of them. Sooner or later you’ll find something that clicks, something you can relate to, something that will inspire you to put in the necessary energy and work to make it happen for you. AND you’ll figure out exactly where to begin to solve this problem you’re having.

      Women LOVE guys who travel. Women LOVE guys who dedicate themselves productive hobbies outside of getting laid and looking at naked pictures on the internet. Women LOVE guys who know how to look and dress good. They LOVE guys who have skills and KNOW how to use them to better their lives AND who actually have a passion for what they do.

      Do NOT tell me you don’t have what it takes because I do NOT believe you Allen.

      Believe in yourself and MAKE it happen. Risk it.

      Since you feel you have NO chance, you have NOTHING to lose by trying either, right?

      Let me know what you need and Ill get it for you or push you to where you should go first.

      Thanks again for sharing,


      • Allen

        What I do have to lose, Pete, is my professional reputation and a lot more. All a woman has to do is accuse me of harassment, and it’s all potentially up in flames. I have great conversations with all kinds of women, but none of them ever give me and signs whatsoever they are interested in me sexually. As such, I’m not about to delude myself into thinking I might have a chance when other guys are incomparably more attractive than I could ever be. I honestly believe I have no chance because there is no way for me to sexually attract any woman.

        • Yeah – I understand the complications and repercussions with women you work with… BUT that does not apply, in any way whatsoever to women outside your profession. IF you continue to base your experience and successes and failures to women at work… you’re doomed; forever to be fall back to this limited belief that there’s nothing you can do about it. AND that appears to be what you’re doing.

          Go OUTSIDE! You’re comfortable and complacent at work, I get it BUT – STEP OUT of that comfortableness, FACE those fears, and do something beyond work. Because those same rules don’t apply and you can take advantage of your confidence and abilities within work, and use them in places where your career won’t be threatened – why you don’t see that is beyond me.

          Lastly – STOP thinking about other guys – you don’t like men, right? You don’t want to fuck them, right? So… who gives a shit about them? Why would you even consider OTHER men in YOUR quest then? Extrapolate to your success in your career? Would thinking in those terms help you succeed? NO! Not even a bit.

          OTHER men are irrelevant.


          Make your own way man.

        • Allen

          I consider other guys as part of the equation because women choose from among guys who pursue them. Since other guys are more attractive than me by default, I simply can’t hope to be successful in the competition for women’s attention and interest.

        • Allen, physical attraction is not as nearly as important as you think it is. If you continue to think this way, it will only make it worse for yourself.

          Aside from that – YOU can be the chooser, women are NOT in charge of this as much as too many men believe. Read these:

          Who “Chooses” and Who “Chases” Men Or Women?

          and if you’re a member of my group you can read it there, but I wrote this:

          “Who has more attractive POWER, men or women – think hard… men are the pursuers… who has more power… You have a choice, McDonalds or Burger King – you pursue a shitty ass quick meal… YOUR choice keeps one in business (generally speaking of course) – Doesn’t that mean they have no real power because they’re only hope is to do something, anything to draw you in… because without you… they FAIL!”


  • Paul

    I never ask women out because rejection is always guaranteed – there is no chance of any woman ever agreeing to go out with me. Women send signals to men they are attracted to – and not to those they are not. I have never gotten a signal from a woman; in fact women have always completely ignored me. Since there is zero evidence that any woman has the slightest romantic / sexual interest in me, it’s clear that I am simply not attractive to women, and therefore it is not worth approaching in the first place.

  • Doug

    People say that in order to attract a woman, a man must be confident. Many sources say that women often (usually?) initiate contact with men by sending signals to guys they find attractive and would like to approach them. Conversely, women don’t send signals to men who are unattractive. Given this, I’m a realist – since I have never received an approach invitation from any woman, it’s clear that I’m unattractive to women. As such, I never approach any woman, no matter how attracted to her I am. With all the other guys she could choose from – and sends approach invitations to – there is zero chance she would want me.

  • Nova

    Then what’s with all these Eliminate Friend Zone / Friends to Lovers guides? Are these different because “Friend Zone” and outright “Rejection” are different cases?

    • peter white

      Hey Nova, actually there are the same but different. Confused yet? 🙂

      Generally when a woman put’s you in the friends zone, she’s rejecting you in a “nice” way and it usually means you’re already friends.

      However outright rejection is typically reserved for approaches, getting numbers etc.. and is normally with a woman you don’t know.

      So in each case you’re being rejected except with the friends zone, you’re friends with her and makes the situation a little tougher and is handled slightly different. For most guys it takes them longer to move on – hence the Escape The Friends Zone “stuff.

      General rejection from someone you don’t know I’d say is easier to move on and try again with someone else depending on why, who, or who you were rejected.

      Hope that clears it up for you,

      • Cyfa

        I totally agree. I met a girl for the first time the other day, and that day I thought I had seen the most beautiful girl in the world. After lectures I approached her and got her number. But even before then, we kept staring at each other in class. I caught her a lot of times staring right at me. And she caught me too several times. So it wasn’t hard to get her number. Later that evening, I called her and asked what she was doing the next day, hoping that she would go out on a date with me. I am not sure but the way she responded to my questions didn’t sound anything like what I had expected. I had thought that the fact that we had been staring at each other all through the class meant that things were gonna just flow with her. The next day was Sunday and when I asked her if she had chance on sunday, she said no. And then I asked her if she had chance during the week and she still said no. But it wasn’t just the excuses. It was the way she sounded. So…i told her the conversation was not moving like I had expected and that I was just going to let her go back to what she was doing. We said bye bye to each other and as soon as I hung up, I went to my contact and deleted her number. I can’t say I did not feel bad. But the bad feeling just lasted a minute and I totally forgot about it. And that’s totally in line with what you have explained. But on the other hand…Jesus Christ!!! There is a girl in my hostel. I don’t know what that girl gave me to eat that makes me so crazy about her. Honnestly, that girl has rejected me more than I can count. And her excuse is that she isn’t interested in dating. I have fought for 8 months to forget about that girl all to no avail. U have tried to distract myself with other girls, but it’s like any girl I see reminds me of the fact that I am crazy about someone in my hostel. I have prayed for God’s intervention but….no way. IS THIS A CURSE OR WHAT??? I can’t explain. The worst is that she keeps calling me sweet names and sending me sweet imoji’s in her SMSs. She has rejected me so many times I am scared that the next attempt I make, she might slap me. But I just can’t stop trying. I have even tried to hate her. That was the worst idea because during the time I tried to hate her, my love rose to it’s peak. I have tried to get out of that friend zone. No way! I HAVE SUFFERED!!!! Even as I am writing this story, I am planning to approach her again. I think God is trying to tell me that, that girl is the disease I will die of. I will keep trying untilll…..i don’t know what’s going to stop me. I’ll just keep trying.

        • Hey Cyfa, Don’t do it. Find a way to move on and get past her.

          It’s not a curse – You have a definite pattern which keeps happening to you with women and the sooner you see it and fix, the better off you’ll be too. It’s hard for me to tell exactly what that pattern is BUT based on my knowledge and what I’ve read from you – I’d more the positive this is happening:

          You’re smothering them too quickly. You’re coming on too strong and too eager. It’s almost like your life is revolving around them. Something I too was guilty of at your age.
          You have space issues too so maybe you’ll find your answers here:

          What It Means To Live Your Own Life, How to Do it, & Why It Attracts Women

          How & Why You Must Give The Women You Are Attracted To… Space

          Point is: Sure women like to be pursued. Guys like to pursue to. BUT women like a challenge too. It’s a tough balance to achieve at first but you’ll get it. That I promise.

          Try some of the techniques in this post:

          Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women to Feel Attracted to You

          Women fall for guys who have a life outside of them. Think of it this way – women don’t feel attraction for you (so to speak) they feel attracted to what a guy does and says, HOW he lives his life, WHAT his aspirations are, HOW passionately he’s lives his OWN life. They fall for men whose life they want to be a part of – so make it your own life. Give them some room and LET them go through their process of attraction.

          You can’t force it man.

          Make sure you finish it off with my most recent book I highly enjoyed writing which will show you exactly what her attractive process is and how you can not interrupt it:

          The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me

          Thanks for leaving your story, I appreciate it and all the best to you.

          You’ll figure it out.

  • Hitch

    Unfortunately once a woman isn’t interested, she’s always not interested. I have heard of woman actually having a change of heart in time. But for the most part it never happens. If anything she becomes even more not interested as she gets to know a man she’s not interested in.

    • peter white

      Very true Hitch and and it’s usually best just to move on.