If A Girl Or Woman Rejects You, Is There Still A Chance?

Which one of or more of these rejections have happened to you? I've been there multiple times. Tough to make this stuff up when it hurts so bad.

ONE:

You gathered all your courage, the night was going great, you thought there was a connection with her, you closed your eyes and leaned in for the kiss... and then BAMM!

She pulled back and gave you that "look" ... Flat out rejected you.

TWO:

She's been your great friend for a long time and finally, in what you thought was the PERFECT moment, you told her

"I think I love you." 

You eagerly await for her response. It feels so good to let it all out.

You just know without a doubt she's going to come running into your awaiting arms...

BUT her eyes quickly dart away as she's looks down then slightly back up again. She quietly mutters with a slight smirk on her face,

"Awww that's soooo sweet - but I don't want to ruin the friendship. I just don't like you that way."

THREE:

You've been getting coffee at the same shop and the cute cashier seems to flirt with you everyday.

You think you have a shot at her so you "man-up" or "suit-up" or whatever and say,

"I'd love to go out with you sometime. Can I have your phone number?"

Despite all your courage and the time you spent getting ready for this moment, your worst fears come true and smack you hard in the balls!

You know it's coming because it's like the whole shop went silent so EVERYONE could here your PUBLIC REJECTION as she politely but loudly says,

"No.... Sorry. I'm really busy.  I'm not interested in dating someone right now. But thank you."

NEXT PLEASE!

Being rejected sucks big time, doesn't it?

Let me know your story below and please get it ALL out.

Today's post will deal with rejections and explore the possibility of there ever being any reasonable CHANCE you can change her mind.

They are very specific so if you having "general" rejection problems with women this may not be your post.

No worries - start here, figure out why you're failing with women, and we'll get this thing handled, promise:

Why SHE Didn’t Like You, Why Girls Don’t Like You, & What You Can Do To Start Changing That Today… and Forever!

Let us begin discussing a few very important distinctions between women and girls because it's necessary to figure out IF there actually is still a chance for you to turn things around and get her on your side.

There are women and there are girls. Obviously.

Women being older, mature, and more decided in what they want out of their life.

Girls being younger and less aware of what they're looking for and how to go about getting it.

This needs to be said because when it comes to being rejected there's even more of a notable difference:

If a girl rejects you - based on the circumstances of course - there might be still be chance.

Girls are more apt to change and experience a mindset shift. Younger girls change their mind all the time and appear to be a little less set in their ways.

A girl can also reject you accidentally.

She could be just unsure of herself and you, inexperienced and not know how to handle certain situations where attraction is involved, and she could react badly to your approach to her.

However...

If a woman rejects you - and you're around her age - circumstances once again aside - the chance of her changing her mind within a reasonable time goes down to practically ZERO.

Which means it's probably not going to happen with her... ever!

Unless of course the same holds true - Some women are quite unsure of themselves, don't understand men, and also react badly to some men approaching them out of insecurity, anxiety, and fear.

The reality of being rejected by a woman, or the reason why it usually happens she feels little or attraction and if that's the case, changing her mind is the last thing that could ever happen.

Once she forms an impression of you, no amount of anything is going to change that - theoretically speaking.

"The bottom line is that if you interact with a woman long enough that she forms an “impression” of you, and she doesn't “feel it” for you, then you're done.

It's over.

And no amount of chasing her around, buying her things, and being “nice” is going to do the trick.

It's NOT a CHOICE, man!"

Why Being Too Nice To Women And Not Understanding Attraction Hurts

WAIT... !!!!

Before you scurry away with your balls tucked in between your legs...

It's not all bad news... well just yet a least.

Now that I've separated the "girls" from the "women" let's talk about this whole "rejection" thing a little deeper so you can easily tell if there's ever going to be a chance to change her mind.

There are a few relative forms of rejection and knowing which one you're in can make all the difference in turning it into something more.

First up...

The casual sometimes heartless rejection.

This usually comes up while you're approaching a woman. Maybe you said "Hello" to her or gave her a compliment and she blew you off.

She said "no thanks" or "not interested" - either something rude or not from her - it's still a rejection.

They suck, they really do, but fear not - the pain doesn't last long.

You didn't know her anyways. I'm positive there are plenty of available women who'd be happy to chat with you IF you do it right.

Is there still a chance in these "cold approach" situations?

Most likely NO and trying to reverse what has already happened is a BIG waste of your time.

Your best chance at success is to re-think your game and fix it IF it needs fixing.

Sometimes you're going to meet (or not meet) women who are either in their own world too deeply, don't like to be approached by strangers, are actually with someone, or are just dare I say bitches who "don't take kindly to folks like you and me."

The one article above deals specifically with cases like that:

How To Approach Many Types of Women When They Look Inapproachable.

The one tried method to reverse the rejection in this case can prove to help you however it relies heavily on circumstance (where she is - where it happened - when it happened) AND using PERSISTENCE the right way.

Persistence is NOT simply a matter of bugging the shit out of a woman. It is not - NOT taking no for an answer either.

Persistence can be a very attractive trait but how it's related to creating attraction is often misunderstood. It's definitely not trying to convince a woman to feel something for you and give up her contact information to yo...

It's the most attractive to women when it's used as an approach to life.

It's about being relentless in overcoming any challenges or setbacks.

IF you can prove that to a woman with charm and wit in a very indirect way - which is going to be tough, you can certainly reverse the causal rejection as it relates to getting her number or getting her to go out on a date with you.

So...

If that cute girl or woman who makes your coffee every morning rejected you with a kind smile, USE some good old fashioned charm, wit, and throw in some cocky/comedy.

Keep trying nicely and sure, I'm willing to bet you can change her mind more easily than you might believe.

Sometimes - in those circumstances - women just need to see you a few times and to talk with you a bit before they feel comfortable enough to take it to the next step.

This is the best method to use:

Cocky Comedy - The Difference  Being Confident & Acting Like a Jerk

Let's move on to the next form of rejection and see if it is reversible.

The Dreaded "Friends Zone" Rejection - The Worst Kind!

This rejection is often misunderstood and causes a severe amount of pain and suffering.

Nothing stings more than falling in love with your friend and (finally) revealing your feelings for her when all you get back is the dreaded,

"I only see you as a friend."

OR the classic excuse,

"I don't want to ruin our friendship."

Which, I hate to tell you, even though you know it's true, is just an excuse she's giving you to spare your feelings and make her feel good about herself.

The friends zone rejection is the most common reason why a guy will seek out any answer to this problem because he's looking for a way out of it.

He wants to change her mind the most and he wants someone to tell him that she's either hiding her feelings for him and that there's still a chance they can be together.

But alas...

I AM AN EXPERT on the friends zone. No lie, I really and can not think of one good reason why I would bullshit you on that sad note.

I know exactly how you get in one, what it feels like to be in many ones with many different women, what it does to your mental state of mind, and how (if possible) you can get out of it or escape its nasty clutches.

Here's the proof and if you've been rejected with the "Let's just be friends" or if you're not sure if you're even in it, make sure you go through each and every article as quickly as you can:

I hope you're ready for the cold-hard truth about the friends zone rejection.

It's not impossible to get out but the facts remain tested and proven over time so keep your hopes down to a minimum please.

One woman thinks she can get you out and your money is refundable so if you're willing to try, go see Marni. The video doesn't play but the information is still there:

Get Your Step-By-Step Method To Getting Out of The Friend Zone

Here's the absolute from the master himself:

"FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE.

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.

“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just friends“.

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?

And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just friends” with for a long time?

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate” with a man…

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or “not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you.

Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context."

What Women HATE Most About Single Guys & 7 Reasons She Why Won’t Like You

You end up in the friends zone because you put yourself there, or failed to create a deeper attraction in the early stages of your interactions with her.

Once she's made her emotionally mind up about you she will barely budge from that first perception of you.

She's rejecting you because she doesn't feel what is necessary enough to risk the friendship and/or she's just not attracted to you emotionally and physically.

I'm a positive person and since I've been through this many times, I actually DO believe you can reverse the friends zone rejection BUT there's no "winging" it method.

You have to follow a very specific plan with the understanding there's no guaranteed you'll get her.

However there's some great news here:

I WILL guarantee that if you follow the plan the right way - you will NEVER end up in any woman's friends zone again UNLESS it's your choice to be there.

Here are MY 3 steps. Preview page. Full access is for paid members only:

Stuck In The Friends Zone With A Girl You Love? Here’s How to Get Out!

Getting Rejected - Is There Really A Chance to Change Her Mind?

When you consider all the possible rejections and why they happen, it can get very confusing.

If you remain stubborn and refuse to do something different, it will only get even more confusing and frustrating too.

My point is, give up on trying to change her mind, it won't work.

What you must do is alter or change her emotions and the "reboot" her attraction process:

The Real Secret to Attracting Women & Getting Laid No One Knows But Me

Again, a refusal to start over and follow a new plan means you're deflecting. You're avoiding the truth and relying too heavily on hope to mask your true feelings that you're unwilling to face.

You're developing (or already have a mindset)  an inability to just let something go in a healthy, mature, responsible way.

I understand how hard it is.

The feelings don't just go away, do they?

It takes a while for that to happen and in the meantime, you're stuck dealing with the rejection.

You're trying your hardest to not let it ruin your current life and it's spilling over into any new interactions you have with women. Making it more difficult to let it go.

I've been rejected many times in my life where I refused to give up and I must honestly admit, the better choice was to walk away and to consider "something else" or someone else.

The times I made myself believe there was still a chance only delayed the inevitable and that lost time could've been spent in a much more productive way, like finding a woman who I did like who would not reject me.

I can tell you this:

Asking the seeming innocent question, "If a girl rejects me is there still a chance?" is not what should be coming out of your head IF you want things to start changing for you.

When you get rejected, it's time to be OBJECTIVE.

You must assess your situation logically without any emotional attachment to the outcome because that is where your real answer will show up.

Being objective will help you see if this is a pattern in your life which can be easily fixed, or if it's one time thing and all is well because another woman will certainly come along soon enough.

After all, there are lots of women out there just begging for the right real guy to come their way.

Why bother wasting your valuable time trying to force something to happen that happens naturally  (attraction and getting together) because when it doesn't, when you try to force it and it fails, the healing process will take longer than it should.

Attraction can not be forced. You can not coerce someone into feeling something and remain morally right no matter how much effort or forced romance you put into it.

Romancing a woman for months or years hoping she'll cave in (based on persistence alone) from my experience, rarely if ever leads to something better than what a strong natural attraction felt from the very beginning can achieve.

The longer you try to romance her into liking you guarantees you'll find out  SHE has been in control of you the whole time and you'll never have any personal power in the (maybe) relationship anyways.

When a girl seriously "rejects" you, whether it's the hard or easy way, whether she's rude or nice about it, whether she gives you a pack of lies to spare your feelings, whether she unknowingly gives you a real reason to not like her anyways...

It's time to move on to bigger and better things.

Hanging about hoping and thinking you can change her mind never turns out good.

(Actually sometimes it becomes more of what a stalker would do and I know that's not what you want to be labeled as.)

Delaying the healing process will have a devastating effect on your confidence and self-esteem.

And that stuff is VERY important and needed in attracting a great woman.

You know that.

It's best to let it go.

Don't take it any of it personal.

Remain positive.

Learn something valuable from it that you can use for the rest of your life.

Learn to ask more important relevant questions which can help you in the long run of life, relationships, happiness, and becoming a more attractive real man, rather than the quick useless answer you get from wondering "if there's still a chance".

Move on as quickly as you can.

If you're struggling to get past the pain, if you can not get it out of your mind and heart, if you can not seem to find a way to let it all go...

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  • Ron

    I have no problem striking up conversations with women of all types, including those I find very attractive. I’m considered good-looking and well spoken; I dress well, have a great job, a good sense of humour, and live a well balanced life with lots of hobbies, etc. Although women clearly enjoy talking to me, nothing ‘more’ ever happens. We talk, chat, laugh, often over two or more drinks, but I literally never get the sense that the woman is even potentially interested in me sexually. I’m not a ‘pushover’, and often disagree with whomever I’m talking to – and tell her so in a way that respects her and me. I’m certainly not a ‘nice guy’ and have clear boundaries – if someone disrespects me or a woman I’m with, I tell them off. I have no idea why it is that I’ve gotten a date – not even one – in my life. Could it be that although I attract women as a conversationalist, I’m just incapable of being sexually attractive?

    • Hey Ron – you’re definitely NOT incapable of being sexually attractive.

      Based on what you told me though – you’re lacking in the skill of sexual communication. Body language subtleties, Flirting, Cocky/Comedy, Conversational attraction, etc…

      You’ve got everything taken care of but those essentials if you want to date more women or become sexual active with them.

      You have to start “literally” turning them on in your conversations and back it up with your body language.

      Sounds like you’re having a good time, get the laughs and all – have something to offer as boyfriend or dating material BUT since it’s not going anywhere, it MUST be sexual communication.

      I used to have amazing conversations with women. The stuff they told me. The way we interacted on a personal level. The humor was there and so was the ability of me to open them up.

      BUT, never got me anywhere too because I was missing the “sexuality” part – the light touching, the sexual & confident body language, the RIGHT kind of humor, and a disgusting reluctance to move forward in the direction I wanted to go – as I sat around waiting for HER to do MY job.

      Let me know if all that rings a bell for you.

      You’ve got a ton going on for you – downplay all that – ALLOW women to get more info from you by being a little mysterious, be excruciatingly humble, play it off as they’re trying to GET something from YOU – TEASE them – BE just a little difficult, make them laugh in a way that they’re not even sure if you’re being serious or not – then, IF they’re willing to get a little closer – push them away nice and once again – accuse them of being too forward perhaps borderline needy or desperate to GET a guy like you – find that line that they’re willing to cross where you can take charge and really u=turn them on sexually.

      Flirt more – tease more – find the right blend of cocky and confidence which is humorous and far from being arrogant and rude and I BELIEVE, your problems will all go away and be a distant past.

      Start with these:

      26 Traits Women Find Sexy – How To Become A Sexual Guy Despite Your Looks

      How You Can Develop Your Personality & Be A Real Mysterious Alpha Male

      When It’s Time To Make Your First Move On Her – No Fears – Go For It!

      Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction If You Use it The Right Way

      Learn How To Flirt & Start Flirting With Every Women You Meet – Essential Skill Of Attraction

      Start Teasing Women To Create Attraction But Follow These Four Rules First

      Cocky Comedy – The Difference Between Being Confident & Acting Like a Jerk

      Study the mating sequence – going from eye contact to the bedroom.

      IF all those don’t get you exactly where you want to be with women, invest in this because it WILL go as deep as you will even need to go from hello to the bedroom OR a great girlfriend if that’s what you truly want in your life:

      How To Transform Yourself From A Man With No Sexual Confidence Into The Kind Of In Control Man That All Women Fantasize About – Power Sexuality

      That’s my affiliate link.

      Let me know how it goes for you and any other questions you might have – happy to help you out.

      Thanks for stopping by and contributing – thanks for asking. Always appreciated to hear from good guys like you.

      Pete

      • Arthur

        I talk to women all the time but literally never get anywhere. I guess no ‘advice’ could help me to get a date. I will never touch a woman unless she gives me explicit verbal permission to do so because I’m not about to set myself up for a possible harassment accusation. Her showing ‘signs’ she enjoys talking to me and ‘dropping hints’ – whatever that means – just isn’t good enough

        • Really – you’re AFRAID of sexual harassment? From what? Just talking to a woman?

          Dude – get over it!!!!

          Yeah touch a woman in public, like grab her ass, or whatever, and yeah, sexual harassment BUT… ASKING for permission to touch a woman when you’ve already established a matter of sexuality, and flirty exchanges, in a way which demonstrates you’re a man of confidence, who is willing to FACE the fear, despite all the shit you READ (not experience) is exactly WHY you’re not getting anywhere.

          Tell you what – unless you’ve been accused, because of some stupid move you made, unless that moment has happened to you – it’s not REAL. AND you’re fooling yourself, you’re copping out, you’re using it as an excuse because you’re SCARED!

          Reality check:

          IF you talk to women all the time, and you’re not getting anywhere – THEN it’s because you’re conversations are NOT creating the sexual flirting chemistry you need to move and step up from there.

          YES, it’s as simple as that dude. Don’t delude yourself, stop using excuses…

          It’s THAT SIMPLE – your conversations with women is probably a big part of the problem.

          Change how they go and manifest – and suddenly – women become EASY!

        • Allen

          “IF you talk to women all the time, and you’re not getting anywhere – THEN it’s because you’re conversations are NOT creating the sexual flirting chemistry you need to move and step up from there.”

          The fact is Pete, I have NO idea how to “create the sexual chemistry” – I literally don’t know what “create” means. I’ve read your articles on this – as well as pieces by others – and they make sense on a cerebral level. But I’m still at a total loss as to how to apply them to me.

  • Allen

    I work out 4x per week and travel extensively to climb mountains and waterfalls as hobbies. I dress well, own three properties mortgage / debt-free and have a great job. I also have zero chance with women so I don’t waste time approaching because I know every one will reject me every time. Some of us have no chance with women no matter what.

    • Thanks for sharing Allen but I still think you’re entirely wrong. I can understand the enormous problems with approaching women most guys have, and how it can feel like a grueling, pressure filled, feel like you can’t win situation. However “attracting” women and “approaching” women are not necessarily connected.

      Meaning – you do NOT have to approach women – especially the hard cold approaches to be successful BUT if you want to learn the skill, if you’ve done what you’ve done, I guarantee you can learn how with some great advice and practice too. All it takes is a little confidence in yourself, some courage, AND the skill of attractive conversations. Seriously, that’s all there is to it.

      On the side – you don’t have to approach women to create attraction. You can meet women lots of ways without ever having to do it. So… both are possible.

      Obviously you’re not going to meet many women on the side or top of a mountain. Maybe one or two IF you’re really lucky.

      Yet the success you have in other areas of your life tells me that all you’re lacking is the confidence you have there which can be brought to women through knowledge and learning the skills that create attraction.

      I’m POSITIVE you can learn those two things. Trust me it’s a LOT easier than dealing with all the legalities of managing properties and it’s certainly less exhausting than climbing a freaking mountain.

      So…

      Confidence with women. (Understanding attraction and how women work a little.)

      Attractive conversational skills. (Don’t why you bragging or talking out your ass or saying things women don’t respond to with attraction.)

      Put yourself in more positions so you’ll meet women naturally without having to approach them.

      AND you WILL SUCCEED!

      PLEASE keep reading every post here at DiaLteG TM. Take 20 minutes a day and go through each and every one of them. Sooner or later you’ll find something that clicks, something you can relate to, something that will inspire you to put in the necessary energy and work to make it happen for you. AND you’ll figure out exactly where to begin to solve this problem you’re having.

      Women LOVE guys who travel. Women LOVE guys who dedicate themselves productive hobbies outside of getting laid and looking at naked pictures on the internet. Women LOVE guys who know how to look and dress good. They LOVE guys who have skills and KNOW how to use them to better their lives AND who actually have a passion for what they do.

      Do NOT tell me you don’t have what it takes because I do NOT believe you Allen.

      Believe in yourself and MAKE it happen. Risk it.

      Since you feel you have NO chance, you have NOTHING to lose by trying either, right?

      Let me know what you need and Ill get it for you or push you to where you should go first.

      Thanks again for sharing,

      Pete

      • Allen

        What I do have to lose, Pete, is my professional reputation and a lot more. All a woman has to do is accuse me of harassment, and it’s all potentially up in flames. I have great conversations with all kinds of women, but none of them ever give me and signs whatsoever they are interested in me sexually. As such, I’m not about to delude myself into thinking I might have a chance when other guys are incomparably more attractive than I could ever be. I honestly believe I have no chance because there is no way for me to sexually attract any woman.

        • Yeah – I understand the complications and repercussions with women you work with… BUT that does not apply, in any way whatsoever to women outside your profession. IF you continue to base your experience and successes and failures to women at work… you’re doomed; forever to be fall back to this limited belief that there’s nothing you can do about it. AND that appears to be what you’re doing.

          Go OUTSIDE! You’re comfortable and complacent at work, I get it BUT – STEP OUT of that comfortableness, FACE those fears, and do something beyond work. Because those same rules don’t apply and you can take advantage of your confidence and abilities within work, and use them in places where your career won’t be threatened – why you don’t see that is beyond me.

          Lastly – STOP thinking about other guys – you don’t like men, right? You don’t want to fuck them, right? So… who gives a shit about them? Why would you even consider OTHER men in YOUR quest then? Extrapolate to your success in your career? Would thinking in those terms help you succeed? NO! Not even a bit.

          OTHER men are irrelevant.

          YOU ARE RELEVANT!

          Make your own way man.

        • Allen

          I consider other guys as part of the equation because women choose from among guys who pursue them. Since other guys are more attractive than me by default, I simply can’t hope to be successful in the competition for women’s attention and interest.

        • Allen, physical attraction is not as nearly as important as you think it is. If you continue to think this way, it will only make it worse for yourself.

          Aside from that – YOU can be the chooser, women are NOT in charge of this as much as too many men believe. Read these:

          Who “Chooses” and Who “Chases” Men Or Women?

          and if you’re a member of my group you can read it there, but I wrote this:

          “Who has more attractive POWER, men or women – think hard… men are the pursuers… who has more power… You have a choice, McDonalds or Burger King – you pursue a shitty ass quick meal… YOUR choice keeps one in business (generally speaking of course) – Doesn’t that mean they have no real power because they’re only hope is to do something, anything to draw you in… because without you… they FAIL!”

          https://www.facebook.com/groups/whydochics/