My biggest (end result) problem was always the dreaded friends zone.
I'd meet a girl, get to know her, become her friend one way or another, yet was clueless and scared shitless to do anything about it, because I didn't know how to take the needed next step.
Well, I knew the "how", most do, but was more concerned with getting rejected, coming off like an ass, acting like a player, being too sexual and scaring her away (...blah blah blah...)
I just wouldn't ALLOW myself to be a man and that's a real problem if you're looking to attract a woman who actually wants a man.
So... My dumbass would hold my real feelings in, do anything and everything for her, kiss her ass, give her whatever she wanted, was ALWAYS there for her...
Until I couldn't take it any more and whined my little girly feelings for her in the dumbest most pathetic way you can think and perhaps have done yourself.
Yeah you know it: Love poems, songs, mix tapes, heart felt talks, begging her to like me, etc... The list could go on forever on some of the stupid things I've done and said trying to PLEAD a woman into feeling something beyond "friendly" towards me.
The result was ALWAYS the same.
They'd squirm away because I obviously creeped them out and the next few words were always the same:
"I like you. You're a nice guy... BUT... "
Followed by the classic "let him down easy, don't hurt his feelings" reasons we've all heard before:
- "I don't want to ruin the friendship."
- "I'm not ready to date anyone right now."
- "I'm kind of seeing another guy."
- "I'm too busy with work and trying to focus on my career."
Although occasionally I would get a real answer so that's kind of cool,
"I just don't like you in THAT way."
Needless to say - I became an EXPERT of getting in a friends zone. I could do it every time, no fail.
What was even worse and more pathetic was that I just kept doing the same thing over and over again thinking,
"THIS time it's going to be different!!! I know it will."
Haha!!! What an ass.
I mean c'mon - It's one thing to do something stupid or accidental like walk into a pole when you're not looking, but to get up and keep doing it over and over again until you have a concussion, plain stupidity.
The two added up:
An expert at failing with women PLUS practicing the same maneuver over and over again to perfection EQUALS one PROFESSIONAL LOSER.
Too bad no one would hire me for that job back then because I'd be a very rich man today.
I made every mistake in these classic articles and paid the heavy depressing price:
Now That The Truth Has Been Exposed...
Those are my past truths. My old realities. I live in an entirely different world now.
Did the whole "everything I missed" stuff with dating and sex and have since moved on to a really cool (and world traveled) family life with my amazing wife.
If that is where YOU would like to go now...
Here's my advice to get you started and headed in the right direction with practically instant results:
(Yeah, for many guys the first step happens rather quickly IF you do it right!)
Step outside yourself more than you ever might've tried in the past.
This means you must become VERY OBJECTIVE over everything , and I mean EVERYTHING in your life.
The definition of Objective is:
"Seeing facts, conditions, experiences and perceiving them without personal feelings, prejudices, or interpretations."
It's not easier said than done.
The real hard part is training yourself to just start doing it a lot so you can learn from it and start seeing things from and entirely new and positively helpful perspective.
Either way - start getting it done.
IF you do something and it fails DO NOT DO IT AGAIN until you've fully assessed the situation (clearly objectified it) and can prove to me and yourself without a doubt, it wasn't the action, it was something else and trying it on another woman will be 100% guaranteed to work.
Yes - it's either 100% or nothing.
Don't let yourself become a professional in doing the wrong shit.
I'm not going to pay you for it, no one else will, AND she or women will only pay you back with painful gut-wrenching heartaches that will NOT go away so easily.
This one is optional for obvious reasons:
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Because if you're failing with women consistently you are breaking her process.
You're not letting her fall for you.
The way in which you are communicating to women NEEDS to change immediately and since communication is an actual skill, attracting women is something YOU CAN LEARN.
Not only are you getting in your own way, you're making it impossible for her to get out of her own way too.
Here's the preview page again to get you started:
Your world (relative to women, dating, girlfriend, and yes, life stuff too) is definitely about to change dramatically with these next numbers.
You’ve been either taught or told the WRONG things about women and attraction. It doesn’t matter how that has happened or how deep you’re in it, because all that will be in the past.
Obviously I don’t know you personally so I’m assuming certain things about you from my perspective (of my past failed dating/relationship experiences) but I’m willing to bet we’ve been through the same shit.
So these things I know and this too:
You see, after reading the first REAL book on attraction (Attraction Isn’t A Choice) I went out and put those new concepts and mindsets into practice and my life was forever changed.
(Although admittingly, his other one, Double Your Dating is better and offers more nowadays.)
No lie, in less than a week!
I know with or without that book I can help you do the same, IF you’re willing to open your mind, relax a little, and start changing YOUR belief system on life, dating, relationships, women, and YOURSELF too!
Which all should have begun with you in number one:
Becoming Very Objective In Your life - Seeing facts, conditions, experiences and perceiving them without personal feelings, prejudices, or interpretations.
Adopting your NEW highly Attractive Attitude.
I'm mentioned Dave above because I'm stealing (or borrowing) these from the guy who first taught me because what the hell, I sell his stuff, I’ve used his material, and now you'll see and know first hand just how simple but powerful his concepts really are.
Ask yourself and demand you ACT accordingly but in a funny slightly cocky and confident way:
“How would you act if you knew that beyond the shadow of a doubt she was TOTALLY into you and wanted to be with you, but you weren’t that interested and decided to RELUCTANTLY give her a chance to hang out with you.”
Do it around ANY woman and I don’t care WHO she is, if you want her or not, if find her hot or physically unappealing, or even if she's some strange bag lady who keeps offering you a button she found in 1956.
Drill these thoughts into your mind until they become completely natural to you:
- I’m not needy. I keep my power for me.
- I’m in control of my emotional self – outside events don’t destabilize me.
- I can hold back when I choose, and delay gratification.
- I’m not impressed by outward symbols or money and status.
- I put myself and my life first.
- I am indifferent to the outcome of all situations.
- I may be smitten by a woman, but I don’t tell her early on, and I don’t let it “slip” indirectly.
Trust me, they DO work and you WILL notice how women are reacting to you a little differently and I mean by feeling attracted to you.
Incidentally, those are just a few which were tweaked and made into "laws" you can follow everyday to give yourself a real boost of confidence:
Don’t worry if you start noticing women are getting a little nervous around you. As long as you’re not acting all creepy and weird this is a good thing because it means they're FEELING ATTRACTED to you.
Women rarely ever meet guys who do this to them and few have little experience with real men who can make feel that way so quickly.
It’s almost like you’re taking away all the power over men they're used to having and now they don’t know what to do with themselves.
Attraction is an emotional response to an outside stimuli.
YOU have ABSOLUTELY no control over feeling it and NEITHER DO WOMEN.
Once you understand how to trigger it in a woman, there’s NOTHING she can do about it.
Her ONLY choice is figuring out how to respond to it.
The added bonus you get (when you have the right skills and attitude above) is that you now have the choice to LEAD her where ever you want her to go and most women will happily follow you along.
Yes… it’s really just that simple.
The secret to attracting enormous amounts of women naturally (yes I said enormous and I’m probably underselling it) is simply:
Setting your life up so you naturally meet lots of single available women.
Building on your personal traits and fixing your limited beliefs so that you become a naturally attractive man which is loosely covered above starting with your attitude.
Communicating THAT self to women using skills and techniques based on a sort of Alpha Male Guide which triggers a deeper attraction and assure an emotional response from her towards you.
And ALL of that has NOTHING to do with how you look or how much money you make unless you plan on buying a prostitute or getting involved with the WRONG type of woman.
BUT they all do require SKILLS and a PLAN which is actually great because it means YOU CAN LEARN THEM.
You can learn how to attract women.
Think about the attitude I gave you above and think about HOW would you act if you KNEW without a doubt exactly how women feel attraction – when she’s not even sure how or why it’s happening to her.
That kind of information is so powerful your confidence (the most attractive trait you can have) will be instantly felt by the next women you come in contact with… guaranteed.
AND if it’s not working for you – shoot me a comment explaining EXACTLY what happened.
PLEASE don't send me your excuses, I already know what they are because I've been there.
I've LITERALLY (before the guy you're reading about today) went from the 1989 to the 2005 (or so because I'm not entirely sure) without one single hug, kiss, grope, fuck, or any real shot at a woman so I KNOW all of the EXCUSES.
You don't go that long without suffering some serious frustration and pain. Which fortunately for me, led me to do all the internal work necessary along with massive amounts research I needed to fix it.
But then after going through my "time-lapsed" transformation was sleeping with women 18 plus WITHOUT becoming a piece of shit player and was finally living the life I missed for so many years.
The lessons I've learned, the worlds I've experienced, the rejections I've suffered through, all the bullshit, etc...
I KNOW and FEEL it for EVERY man who has ever been there or feels like they are there now so please...
Take what I've shared with you today.
USE it everyday.
LIVE in it every moment.
MAKE the change starting today!
BE the ball as Chevy said in "Caddyshack" (One of my all-time favorite movies which by the way - was actually one reason I didn't get laid all those years. Feel free to ask me why below.)