Imagine this… You’re stuck in a dark room with lots of strangers for an hour and a half!
You’re with the hottest date of your life but you can’t even get that close to her because an unmovable stick-like supposedly comfortable arm is blocking you.
You just learned how you can “trigger her attraction” with your body language and amazing conversational skills but the rule for the next hour and a half is,
“Sit down and be quiet!!!!”
As if that doesn’t suck the big one.
The smell of popcorn is making you sick and you’re little pissed off because you’re on a date…. and the last thing you want is freaking “popcorn” breath.
It kind of smells like rotten eggs and without some serious mouthwash that breath isn’t going anywhere.
But hey maybe she’ll eat some first…wait that could mean she doesn’t intend to kiss you later…but if both of you have the same breath…Grrrrr!
You can see her out of the corner of your eye.
In the dark she looks even more amazing.
You find yourself even attracted to the curve of her nose.
For some strange reason it makes you think about her body.
More discreetly her sexy curves.
So you bite your lip, your stomach growls at you, and now even the freaking smell of her hair is reminding you how close you want to get to her.
Half way into the movie your mind has wandered off so many times you can’t even remember what you were thinking about.
She looked at you and smiled a couple times so you acted like you were paying attention but really – you’re struggling just to keep your eyes open.
You feel lucky enough just to catch your head from falling back and throwing your “sleep” drool against the side of her face.
Suddenly there must have been some magic on the screen. She reaches over to grab your hand and squeezes tight.
As she lets go as you hear a sigh from the strangers around you. You can literally feel the place getting more humid from all the drenched eyes.
You might even feel something yourself but you better NOT shed that tear.
You’re a man and this is a date!
Every year around Mid-February “Valentine’s Day” movies are drawn from a manufactured “romantic” template.
High priced – hot actors – and a format designed to tug the emotions of even the strongest willed women.
They lure her in and you want to impress her, right?
You want to do something for her because hey, it’s Valentine’s Day.
Take her to a romantic dinner, a sappy movie, and just maybe you’ll earn some “brownie” points.
Think about it what it must mean if she chooses YOU for this special day.
I don’t care for Valentines and I despise those movies even more.
Not because it’s become a pre-fabbed holiday or the cause of so much relationship stress, or because the movie trailers are really annoying, or perhaps because the commercials are practically suggesting – you don’t have a choice ( haha!!! ) we know – right guys…?
That twinkle in her eye on camera is telling her she has to have “it” but it’s really saying to you – “Get it or she won’t believe you love her as much as you say.”
I don’t care for Valentines and it’s not even for being stuck on the sidelines for years while everyone else either dreaded having to be romantic or looked forward to the romance or an escape from their kids.
Hell it’s not even because, and I shouldn’t share this as my reputation might be at stake… ME falling for the “just friends” Valentine’s day dinner where I paid for it and dropped her off at some dude house… to screw!
Not even for the lovely old childhood memory of sitting at my desk waiting… hoping… desperately wanting one stinking card from a “slightly better than the average” girl in school.
I think I’ve move on from all that.
I hate Valentine’s Day because it only reinforces an old tired concept of “date” and what a date is supposed to represent.
I fell for them too which is probably why I had such few, mostly lonely Valentines.
A real date should never put two people in a position to NOT have fun.
Having to hide behind a table hoping each of you don’t notice you’re chewing down food OR stuck in a dark room where nothing really fun is not going to happen OR giving her a pre-made card – some flowers – and chocolate desires – rewarding her for saying yes like she’s some Pavlovian cliche.
Valentine Day movies are stereotypical romantic adventures.
And it would seem they attract women because of that.
An emotional ride into the sunset with or without the happy ending.
Dating on Valentine’s Day does NOT have to be just another attempt to show her you care.
It can be almost the perfect night to build on what you’ve hopefully already established.
Taking her or any date at any time to dinner and a movie is just another way to show her – how much you don’t understand women – and how you’re willing to follow in some other guy’s footprints and to play it safe. Possibly just to get it over with.
A date should be an experience where learn you about each other in real situations…
Which probably work better if you’re interacting AND having fun.
I think women want a story to tell.
Even if it doesn’t work out the way you or her expect.
In fact she’s more likely to overlook common mistakes when you set ups dates differently.
I mean the poor guy who wines and dines her makes one mistake and he’s done for.
Too much pressure and no where to go to relieve it and too many awkward moments!
Plan better “experiences” or activities if you’re old like me, and avoid any Valentine’s Day dinner and a movies bullshit.
If you want to “play in the dark” with her try anticipation, attraction, rapport, and invite her somewhere it’s more likely to happen… and if that’s not your goal….
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