Do This To Find Your Perfect Woman & Become A Man With Choices & Value

You must figure out who your "perfect" woman is if you're to find, meet, date, or eventually make her your girlfriend or wife.

If you want to become a more attractive man - take the time to figure out who your perfect woman is and what you're looking for from a long-term partner.

Knowing WHO she is or what she's like will also help you figure out WHERE you might find her.

Women fall for guys who have goals - any kind of real goals - and men who value themselves highly and set high standards towards who they date.

You must learn to decide within a reasonable amount of time if she is worth your time to avoid making a wrong decision which could lead to a bad relationship which will make both of you very unhappy.

Qualifying a woman is a very important step in becoming an attractive guy and when you know EXACTLY who you are looking for - qualifying becomes much easier and much more efficient.

If and when you decide to further a relationship with her, through better qualification techniques – you’re giving BOTH of you the best chance in developing a longer-lasting, happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.

Qualifying a person is an integral part of the human mating ritual."

Are You Qualifying Her? – Attracting Women & Better Relationships

You may not be able to control the attraction you feel, but you can control what you are looking for and you CAN definitely control your choice in selecting her.


Before you can figure out who she is you must remember a few important keys to making this work for you.

You will NEVER find perfection. Don't expect or require ANY woman to be completely perfect.

The purpose of this exercise is to commit yourself to achieving a higher value for yourself and to set standards which deems you as a guy with choices.

Another reason you're doing this is so you can avoid committing to the wrong woman and to learn to be happy staying single while dating lots of different types of women.

Lastly - Keep in mind some of these you'll find yourself naturally drawn towards and some of the are merely preferences. They will and can change over time.

There's a survey I sent out to help men (and women) figure out what they're looking for and you can see the results right here:

Click here for the Perfect Woman Survey Results.

Let's start with the obvious...

Hair Color. Eye Color. Skin Tone. Breast Size. Height. Weight. Body Type.

These are her looks based on your preferences of what turns you on.

Everyone wants their partner to turn them on physically and without a healthy sex life between two capable people, the relationship is not all it can be and sooner later one of you might cheat.

Knowing the physical characteristics of YOUR perfect woman is generally where most guys start their description so in today's lesson it's no different.

The first thing you notice about her. Where you Meet.

Where you meet is important because if you're not clear about where your perfect woman might be, you will most likely not put yourself there to meet her.

Imagine what the first thing you notice on woman and put her there in the place you meet.

Learn where your eyes go when you first see a woman and learn to separate pure physical attraction from your attraction to her personality.

Her overall Personality. Her Social Skills.

Is she nice? Kind. Humorous. Cool.

Is she an introvert, a shy person, or outgoing and fun?

How do you two interact in that first meeting?

Did she flirt a lot. does she have lots of girlfriends and guy friends, or just a small few?

Does she get along with women better or men better?

Think hard about the personality traits you get along best with because you WILL be eventually spending a lot of time together.

Her Age or How Old or Young.

Age may not matter at first but really think about this one. Put yourself into a future with her and where you might be in ten or twenty years.

How much do you have in common?

Can you meet her parents without wondering if you are their same age or not?

Those are just some things to consider but also - knowing the rough age of your perfect woman will help guide you to places where he age visits more frequently.

How She Dresses.

How a woman dresses says so much about who she is just the same as how you dress up or down says a lot about you.

This sounds superficial but HOW a woman dresses can give you insight into who she is.

How competitive she is with other woman. How shy she is. How open she is.

How much care does she put into herself says a ton about how she feels about herself.

For example I know a woman who does not know how to dress. She's always changing her hair color. She cakes on makeup to hide her face. What does this really say about her to me?

She does not know who she is and she is trying to please others. Which is not for me.

It's not that she does not know how to dress herself it's because it feels like she is hiding from the world or  has not found herself yet.

To me that is a sign of immaturity.

If you want a woman who has found herself that don't be afraid to expect it from your next date.

Education. Intelligence.

Are you turned off by a woman smarter than you?

Does a smart woman do it for you?

Having a higher education says she had or has goals and managed to achieve them.

Having intelligence may not mean she will always make the right decisions but it does mean great conversations, perhaps a great career, and the ability to pass on her intelligence to your children.

And so much more!

Also consider how YOU are with women who are smarter than you. Can you handle it? Will it upset you when she's always right or you're not.

There's a point to every trait or preference listed here and beyond what was covered above - knowing what type of intelligence you're looking for in a woman will clearly help you find the right match for you.


Couch potato or get off your ass and do shit together?

Will she be lazy in helping you with your home?

Will she push you to constantly get off your butt and do things with her?

Will she watch sports with you and constantly be upset because you're always on the couch watching football on Sunday?

Think about this one seriously because it can make a huge difference in who you choose.

You don't want to waste your time "chasing" a woman who is more active than you OR likewise you don't want to bother trying to date a woman who is more book or sit-down and relaxed orientated.


How does she feel about her family?

Does she get along with them?

Are they stable?

How big is her family?

Does she do things with them or avoid them altogether?

These are so important because they give you great insight into how she will be with your family. How much time you two will spend dealing with her family's problems.

It will also tell you little secrets about her personality.

For example...I turned down a woman once because she constantly argued with her mother. Fine for a teenager but for a twenty something year old, not a good sign of maturity.

It also showed me she had a quick temper and was only willing to show it to the people she cared for the most.

And in the end that would end up being me.


I know a cute woman full of energy and spunk. Sounds great right?

She owns her own home. Has expensive things. Even has the ability to pay for us, but she has no social life whatsoever because all her time is spent earning money.

It's not how much money she has, it's what she goes through to get her money. Working 60+ hours a week tells me so much about her and it's not for me, it screams, avoidance, and fear.

I don't see anything wrong with an individual trying to get a head in life but in this case she avoids having to keep up a healthy personal life and has a fear of losing things.

I know it sounds rude to say but it's my truth about MY perfect woman.

I believe someone who is willing to work so hard to keep her stuff, her car, her couch, her new bed, her fancy rugs, and her solitude or a place to escape to which she rules, does say independence; but it also says fear when it goes beyond a healthy drive to succeed and live more comfortably.


Haha! You have to love this one. I added it because just like women, I read into everything about a woman.

If her bathroom is spotless, but the bedroom is always a mess, I'm okay with her. If her bathroom is always clean, and her living room is clean, but her bedroom is filled with dirty clothes and hardened used towels, that may be a sign she cares way too much about how others see her.

You should now have a clearer image of who your perfect woman is and know the reasons why a certain trait or look is important to you or not.

You should also have some great clues as to where she might be "hanging out".

You should also now begin to see how your perfect woman is not there to make your life perfect but to ENHANCE your already great life.

You should also sense as to which areas or traits can be compromised a little and which areas you're more firm on making sure she fits exactly.

The point of today's lesson is to realize that you as a man, are choosing women based on many factors BEYOND her looks.

It's about discovering all the traits you prefer.

It's about becoming more intuitive about the person you choose to have a relationship with.

Woman will read into the details and subtleties of who you are based on the little things and you should too.

Women are also more likely to become DEEPLY attracted to a man who KNOWS what he wants and who has some real goals no matter what those goals are.

Most men overlook too many important details when it comes to choosing their perfect woman.

When a woman realizes you don't "settle" for average or looks and you expect more from the women you date it will mean just that much for her when you choose her.

In conclusion:

Remember this is just an EXERCISE.

It's a way of determining as close to a perfect partner you want.

Doing this exercise also help you know where to find her by what she likes to do and is more likely to be found in your everyday life.

This will also help you understand the deeper meaning behind these preferences and what it can mean to you and her long-term.

Today's lesson will also help you to avoid committing too early when you're not ready or for the wrong reasons.

In order to attract a better relationship into your life KNOW who your perfect woman is and make sure in the very least these next four things are taken care of:


You MUST be secure and relatively happy being single.


You must have the drive and ability (or skill) to date lots of women so you can confidently decide which one would be the perfect woman for you.


Learn HOW to qualify her in an attractive way by going through this one:

Are You Qualifying Her? – Attracting Women & Better Relationships


You must decide if she's a good match for you. This clever little article will help you with that when you're ready:

How Do You Know If You’ll Make A Good Couple, Become Exclusive Or Not?

Lastly - give this one a quick read:

"You know your dream woman is not all about how attractive she is.

You know relationships that last are not built on physical attraction alone.

So how do you find your dream woman.

Here are the three steps to do so. See the bigger picture.

Define what you want out of life. Match up with her."

3 Critical Steps To Finding Your "Dream Woman"

You Can Become The Perfect Man For Any Woman You Desire!

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Dave here I like the way you communicate, it makes me think. I am what I call a thinker, meaning I am always consciously thinking about something, usually a project or a future project how to proceed about things. But for some reason I never put it use in my social life probably because I was raised to believe only “sluts” want sex and who wants a slut, right? Right now she is looking pretty good. LOL anyway You make me think in ways I haven’t before and it is making me feel better about many things I just wanted to say I am glad I accidentally ran across your site and to say Thank You and keep up the good work. If you want to feel free to use this letter.
Thank You again your awesome and your teachings are also, Dave Allen

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  • First of all Sasha I am Me. And when I write a post about The Perfect Woman I will dictate my perfect woman. If you see it as judging, then that is fine with me.

    (I also did mention I know the woman, therefore I do know without her stuff, she is lost. Debt is just debt and though I feel it is my moral obligation to repay any debt, I refuse to give up my health, family, or social status in the process. I aim to live a happy fulfilling complete life whether I owe a million or ten dollars. I will learn to deal with it responsibly and do my best to not let that stress ruin me completely.)

    And yes, I do not prefer dating a woman that spends way too much time working. I look for woman who at least attempts to maintain a balance in their lives. You can call it superficial if you want but my standards should not be judged by anyone but me.

    Perhaps you should read my perfect man survey. There is a reason for both surveys. It is not to find a perfect woman or man but to merely conceptualize strict requirements for dating. It is to begin experiencing choices and to release the scarcity attitude we may hold. Of course no one is perfect.

    And honestly Sasha I do not enter relationships to advise. I’m not her accountant or lawyer. I can be supportive and yes, offer my opinions, but that is just what they are, my opinions. I prefer a woman to be able to make her own decisions and stand by them. Whether she fails of succeeds I will still be there with her.

    I understand some people have deeper family issues that what is on the surface but you must keep in mind the woman I spoke of showed no signs of restraint with her family members. She lacked patience and maturity in dealing with the closest people in her life. And that is why I never kept in touch with her.

    I do appreciate your opinions are yours, just as mine are mine. I thank you for spending the time to comment here.

  • Sasha

    I have to disagree about the thing with money. No offense but, who are you to judge a woman’s economical status like that? You don’t know whether or not she HAS to maintain those things like a car, a house, etc. People, especially women, become overwhelmed and subconsciously not bother to maintain their social status. I mean, what if you were in a situation like that? You would want the woman to understand. Granted, you would make the right decision to not get yourself in debt, but many women and people in general are usually not trained in stuff like maintaining finances. So you would just turn down a woman off the bat because of something like that? Sounds very selfish and somewhat superficial to me. In times like that, women need someone that can help them sort out through stuff like that and give them advice on what to do so that they don’t have to work hours like that. You seem to be like one of these men who want a person with LITERALLY perfect traits without having some understanding that NOONE is PERFECT. Please correct me if I’m wrong.

    Another thing when it comes to family. You don’t know what family history has gone on in that woman’s family. Everyone has arguments and disagreements. Even mothers and daughters. So to turn down a woman b/c she had an argument with her mom is just stupid, in my opinion.