You’re this “nice” guy who feels you don’t have any real choices with women in your life.
By chance, good luck remaining to be seen, you meet this girl you are heavily attracted to and she is totally into YOU.
You can’t explain why but you go with it because you can’t resist.
Except right away there are problems with this relationship…
She’s in control.
She calls and you follow her everywhere.
She shows you a life you’ve never seen before but then suddenly it hits you.
You begin to realize some things about her you just don’t care for.
She drinks way too much.
She causes drama where ever she goes.
She uses you to do things for her even as simple as getting her a drink in the middle of the night by rudely demanding you to do so.
But you think to yourself what the hell…
The sex is great.
You’ve never had a women like this before and you’re not going to give her up just because she lacks any control of her own life.
She’s on a kick of never-ending bullshit and she’s taking you down with her but you stick around because somewhere in the back of your mind you feel you can never get a woman as hot as she is.
And now you’re trapped in this awful relationship.
Deeper and deeper you fall and with each passing day your feelings grow for her because it’s almost easy.
Even though you know for a fact…
She’s one of those “bad” girls.
They seem to have way too much confidence and it always comes out with the words of,
“I can’t help it. It’s who I am. If people don’t like me for who I am then fuck them. I’m not going to change for anyone, anytime. “
They have no control of their lives but always manage to find some poor guy to pick up the pieces of the trash they leave in their wake.
They stumble through life seemingly unaware that the path of destruction they leave is their own fault and since men will always want her, chooses to do nothing about overcoming her character flaws.
Well guess what nice guys…
“NEVER discount the power of your own confidence! But I’m ‘Average,’ How Can I Possibly Deserve The Partner Of My Dreams?
I’m here to tell you that it’s NOT okay to stay with this woman.
It’s NOT okay to deal with her bullshit just because she looks good and is willing to have sex with you.
I’m here to tell you that you CAN do better.
And it all starts by leaving her once and for all and let HER deal with her own problems.
Sure she may cling on to the next fool that comes her way. The next dude willing to deal with her bullshit but then she becomes HIS problem.
If you’re thinking that you can change her, you are sadly mistaken.
Only SHE can change HERSELF.
If you’re thinking that’s just the way she is and you feel bad for her that her life has turned out so badly then that is all you should feel.
You can show her empathy if you want.
Sure she might have had a fucked up childhood and doctors have always put her on medicine giving her an excuses for living on the edge, but that should NEVER dictate how you run YOUR life.
Unless you are in the business of being her psychologist or therapist than you can never actually be that to her and still date her anyways.
The fact remains, you settled with this “bad” girl and she is the wrong person for you.
There is a great article designed to show you exactly how to tell if your settling for the wrong person.
Just in case you’re not sure…
- When considering a brand new woman to date, teleport yourself into the future and HONESTLY consider how you’ll feel having been exclusive with JUST her for a few months.
- How do you feel about introducing her to your friends?
- Imagine you have already seen her naked 100 times and had sex with her about as often.
- Do you enjoy her company?
- Is life more fulfilling with her in it?
- Are you trying to overlook serious character issues?
- Do you envy guys who appear to have higher-quality women with them?
#1. How is your life going to be with this “bad” girl in a few months?
Will it actually be better off or will she take your stable lifestyle and turn it into something the Soap Operas or Jerry Springer would be interested in buying your story?
#2. How will she act around your friends?
Will she be open to who they are?
Will she respect them?
Or will she just find new opportunities for more drama and eventually you’ll be stuck with her so-called friends and if the relationship ends, you’re stuck with no one.
#3. Seeing her naked 100 times or having lots of sex with her doesn’t seem bad on the surface but…
You get it ONLY when she wants it. She’ll be in control of you and your dick. Your feelings come second and she’ll be more likely to use sex as a bargaining tool to control you.
#4. Sure once in while she mighty be fun to be around but…
What if you find yourself worrying about when the next fight will be. Where the next problem comes along where you’re let picking up the pieces behind her AND do you honestly believe you can be completely yourself around her without her evil ways dissecting your “inferior personality or looks” ?
#5. Is your life more fulfilling or is it now just filled with bullshit?
We can all fill our lives up but fulfilling it means moderation of quality and not just a ton of junk, right?
#6. Bad girls have serious character flaws. It IS what makes them typically bad.
The point of this post implies you are overlooking these flaws because you might not feel you can do better.
But again, I THINK YOU CAN!
#7. Do you envy those guys in stable in relationship or are you just using HER for her looks?
Think about this one hard because it is extremely important.
Are you with her for her looks and ignoring those bad traits she possesses?
Number seven tells me why a nice guy would settle for a bad girl and not allow himself to pass her up. It is huge signal that your neediness to settle will only cause more problems in the future.
But guess what?
Just turning down that bad girl because of her shitty attitude will strengthen your masculinity.
“If you feel intimidated or scared by the thought of giving up the girl you’ve got, even if the situation you’re in with her is painful, you’re not truly free. You’re not truly secure. You’re at HER mercy. Being Single is Just as Good! Do You Need a Girlfriend To Be Happy?
It will allow you to begin to date more stable higher quality women because for one, you’re now choosing to be selective. Which just happens to be an attractive trait to have.
It also proves you have the strength to resist and not let your life be played out by what in your pants.
Remember: Men who are weak and needy rarely find themselves with high quality stable women.
Just learning to use “the power of NO” can, when used for good, make you a more masculine choice for women.
A man who is not afraid to avoid those “bad girls” because he DOES have more choices AND is very selective.
Turning her down and breaking it off does NOT have to leave you alone and bitter.
Okay so this is a NICE guys approach to attraction and the “bad boys” have been covered pretty well so far.
If you’re with a bad girl, or even if you’re considering letting one ruin your life just because she’s hot and seems to be into you…
PLEASE consider this post today.
I’ve been on both sides.