Today’s lesson is less of a learning tool and more of a wake up call to nice guys who end up with bad girls who are not good people. If you suspect the girl you’re dating meets any of the criteria listed below then read this immediately.
You’ll be shown how staying in the relationship is bad. How to decide if she’s right for you. You’ll be shown things from a different perspective so you can fully understand what’s going on – hopefully to give you ALL the power and drive you need to escape this madness you found yourself in.
You’re this “nice” guy who feels you don’t have any real choices with girls in your life.
By chance, “good” luck remaining to be seen, you meet this girl you are extremely attracted to and she is totally into YOU.
You can’t explain why but you go with it because you just can’t resist.
Except right away there are problems with your relationship.
She’s in control. She calls and you follow her everywhere. She shows you a life you’ve never seen before but then suddenly it hits you.
You begin to realize there are lots of things about her you just don’t like and it’s making you extremely uncomfortable.
She drinks way too much.
She causes drama where ever she goes.
She uses you to do things for her even as simple as getting her a drink in the middle of the night by rudely demanding you to do just get it already.
But you think to yourself,,, what the hell… The sex is great. You’ve never had a women like this before and you’re not going to give her up just because she lacks any control of her own life.
She’s on a kick of never-ending bullshit and taking you down with her but you stick around because somewhere in the back of your mind, you feel you can never get a woman as hot as her.
And now you’re trapped in this awful relationship.
Deeper and deeper you fall and with each passing day your feelings grow for her even though you know for a fact…
She’s one of those “bad” girls.
She seems to have way too much confidence and it always comes out with the words of,
“I can’t help it. It’s who I am. If people don’t like me for who I am, then fuck ’em. I’m not going to change for anyone!”
She has no control of her life but manages to find some poor guy to pick up the pieces of the trash she leaves in her wake.
She stumbles through life seemingly unaware that the path of destruction she makes is her fault, and since men will always want her, chooses to do nothing about overcoming her “character” flaws.
Well guess what man… fellow dude…
I’m here to tell you that it’s NOT okay to stay with this woman.
It’s NOT okay to deal with her bullshit just because she looks good and is willing to have sex with you.
I’m here to tell you that you CAN do better.
“NEVER discount the power of your own confidence!
And it all starts TODAY by leaving her once and for all and let HER deal with her own problems.
Sure she may cling on to the next fool that comes her way. The next dude willing to deal with her bullshit but then she becomes HIS problem.
If you’re thinking that you can change her, you are sadly mistaken. Only SHE can change HERSELF.
If you’re thinking that’s just the way she is and you feel bad that her life has turned out so badly then that is all you should feel.
You CAN show her empathy. It’s okay and a human thing to do.
Sure she might have had a fucked up childhood and doctors have always put her on medicine giving her an excuse for living on the edge, but that should NEVER dictate how you run YOUR life.
You’re are NOT her psychologist or therapist and by acting that way certainly means you’re not allowed to date her let alone enter a relationship with her.
You settled with this “bad” girl and she is the wrong person for you.
There is an easy way to find out if you settled for the wrong woman. A kind gentlemen wrote out some questions you can answer to help you decide if she’s actually right for you.
I wrote out your answers already to push you in the right direction. Hopefully by the time we’re done today you’ll now exactly if you should stick around or completely REMOVE her from your life.
Truth is – I get tired of hearing about bad boys getting all the women and nice guys being left single, alone, or left to settle with women they don’t really like so…
Today it’s time to consider the unthinkable, or what too many people seem to overlook – there are BAD GIRLS too and if you find yourself in a relationship with one of them – keep reading. Answer the right questions and make the right decision… please.
- When considering a brand new woman to date, teleport yourself into the future and HONESTLY consider how you’ll feel having been exclusive with JUST her for a few months.
- How do you feel about introducing her to your friends?
- Imagine you have already seen her naked 100 times and had sex with her about as often.
- Do you enjoy her company?
- Is life more fulfilling with her in it?
- Are you trying to overlook serious character issues?
- Do you envy guys who appear to have higher-quality women with them?
Here are my answers for you based on my experiences with bad girls.
#1. How is your life going to be with this “bad” girl in a few months?
Will it actually be better off or will she take your stable lifestyle and turn it into something Jerry Springer would be interested in buying your story?
Think ahead… will it get better or remain the same or get worse?
How long can you handle the stress?
What will the drama do to your mind and sanity?
#2. How will she act around your friends?
Will she be open to who they are?
Will she respect them?
Or will she just find new opportunities for more drama and eventually you’ll be stuck with only her so-called friends?
Think about when the relationship ends and you’ve given up your friends for hers (because that’s the way she wanted it) and then you’re stuck with no one.
If she’s going to push away the good people you already have in your life, then seriously consider where that’s going to leave you.
If you’re afraid to introduce her to your friends – then it’s not just a maybe she’s not right for you – it’s a fact you might be overlooking.
#3. Seeing her naked 100 times or having lots of sex with her doesn’t seem bad on the surface but…
You get it ONLY when she wants it.
She’ll be in control of you and your dick.
Your feelings come second and she’ll be more likely to use sex as a bargaining tool to control you.
It’s not like if you leave her you’re never going to see a naked woman ever again. There WILL be others.
Don’t let her body control you.
Great sex does not make or guarantee a great relationship.
Just because she’s hot when she’s naked doesn’t mean anything more when the lights are back on.
#4. Sure once in while she might be fun to be around but…
What if you always find yourself worrying about when the next fight will be?
When the next problem comes along and you’re left picking up the broken pieces behind her… what does that make you?
Fun comes in many different ways and real fun doesn’t end up doing more harm than good.
If you can believe for one minute that you can’t have fun without her OR you’ll never find another woman you can enjoy being together then you’re sadly mistaken.
#5. Is your life more fulfilling or is it just filled with more bullshit?
She’s not making your life more fulfilling or rewarding, she’s just making it more complicated and padding it with MORE things which need fixing.
Take a moment to think about what your life was like before she came along.
Sure you might have felt lonely on occasion. Being alone can suck at times.
BUT you had the freedom to change all that and now you don’t because she’s in control of your life.
It’s a fair reasonable assumption that you still feel alone even when you’re with her. You still feel lonely once in a while. AND it still sucks on occasion.
The ONLY things that has probably changed is that you get laid once in a while, when she wants it… AND…
She makes you feel needed.
You ARE needed by YOURSELF too.
The only people in your life that should actually NEED you are the seriously handicapped who need your assistance, perhaps an unfortunate dying relative or friend, OR your children.
If feeling needed is something you desire, if it’s something you seriously want to feel then go do some real charitable work.
That will make you more happy than this bad girl will ever do.
#6. Bad girls have serious character flaws. It IS what makes them typically bad.
The point of this post implies you are overlooking these flaws because you might not feel you can do better.
But, I THINK YOU CAN!
Believe in yourself.
Keep this in mind – the longer you stay with this girl – the more she’ll make you feel like you can’t do any better than her because that suits her motives.
You can not overlook her serious character flaws for too long because eventually those same flaws – will affect you negatively.
They’re there – just admit it.
Figure out why you’re weighing all her bad against what you are getting out of this relationship and you’ll see things for what they really are.
#7. Do you envy those guys in stable relationships or are you just USING HER for her looks?
Think about this one hard because it is extremely important.
If you find yourself constantly looking at other couples hoping and wishing you had that kind of stability in your life – then it’s certainly time to get out.
Does it feel like you’re only with her for her looks then you my friend, are USING her!
If you do not want to be that guy then STOP being that guy!
You’ve settled for looks over quality and that’s a huge red flag that you’re a needy guy and she’s using that to control you.
She’s using that part of you to lower your masculinity so she can stay in charge.
“If you feel intimidated or scared by the thought of giving up the girl you’ve got, even if the situation you’re in with her is painful, you’re not truly free.
You’re not truly secure. You’re at HER mercy.”
Do you want to know how to get your MANHOOD back?
You’ll show yourself strength and how you DO have it.
You’ll prove to yourself that your “bigger” head is in charge.
Men who are weak and needy rarely find themselves with high quality stable women.
BUT just learning to use “the power of NO” can, when used for good, make you a more masculine choice for women.
A man who is not afraid to avoid those “bad girls” because he DOES have more choices AND is very selective.
Turning her down and breaking it off does NOT have to leave you alone and bitter.
If you’re with a bad girl, or even if you’re considering letting one ruin your life just because she’s hot and seems to be into you…
PLEASE consider this post today.
I’ve been on both sides.
Learning about attraction and getting some new skills will mean more women will enter your life… and unfortunately some will be bad BUT some will be good too.
Don’t settle or put up with a bad girl just for the sex or a belief that you can’t do any better because I think you can!
You only need to believe it yourself, don’t put up with bad behavior, realize there are plenty of good girls out there for you and remain strong enough to never let a bad one take advantage of you or make you believe she’s the only for you.. because she’s not!
“Qualifying a woman gives you a better chance at attracting her & a better relationship into your life.”
Thanks for reading this heated post today. I do hope it’s helped you out and you’re now in a better more positive place to make a good solid decision for yourself.
Don’t play into all the bullshit out there.
Just because she’s a female does not grant her automatic “niceness” just the same as just because you’re a male does not mean you’re inherently bad.
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Any questions, comments, experiences, or tips if you know some guys who should leave their girlfriends or wife because they’re not good for each other, leave them below BUT please refrain from turning this HELPFUL post into a female-bashing event because I can not and will not allow that to happen.