Nice guys just do NOT flirt with women enough, if ever, and if you want to trigger any attraction, you must start doing it immediately.
Flirting is a form of sexual communication.
It’s not something only players do. It’s NOT a bad thing.
Flirting can and will change the dynamics between you and women for the better.
Learn HOW to do it. Practice it whenever possible.
Perfect it and use it to create better and more excitement interactions with the opposite sex.
Flirting is a SKILL you can not afford to not be fluent in.
It’s not a sleazy tactic to get into a woman’s pants.
It’s about adding a pure form of communicating sexuality to women and when done right – displays indirectly to women charm, wit, intelligence, experience, and lets women know – you GET IT!
Here’s a near perfect definition of flirting:
Flirting is simply ANY INTERACTION of ANY KIND with (members of the opposite sex) that would flat-out feel WRONG were it directed to someone of the same gender.
This ultimately means you’re not limited to crass bold statements which do little but make women believe you’re a crass rude guy who only ever has sex on his mind.
Telling a woman she has nice tits is NOT flirting.
Whistling at a woman walk by is NOT flirting.
Smacking some chic’s ass even playfully is NOT flirting.
Using a pick up line or an opening with a sexual overtone is NOT flirting.
What IS Flirting?
As Scot noted above, it could be anything you’d say or how you interact with a woman which would be odd, awkward, weird, or strange if it were directed towards another guy if you’re a heterosexual guy.
It’s HOW you talk or interact with a woman which can generally be teasing, have sexual overtones, contain subtle sexual innuendos, create sexual tension and/or chemistry, up to and including complimenting her in a different way.
There are many types of flirting.
Creating fake scenarios about future events in which she fails or even succeeds with you.
Such as telling her you wouldn’t be good together because you’re too much alike at the same time implying you would be good together.
Creating fictitious relationships through storytelling. Otherwise known as role playing.
Such as building up an imaginative story together about how some day you’re both going to take over the world.
Using sexual humor to entice her to play along with you.
Teasing her about anything she does which may be cute, but you’d rather bust her ass about it.
It’s a blend of charm, wit, humor, and social awareness with sexual overtones and innuendos.
It’s play fighting verbally sometimes too.
It’s about creating chemistry and sexual tension.
It’s about making her laugh (with you) in a way which creates or triggers feelings of attraction.
Flirting is FUN. It’s a shared enjoyable experience.
Flirting IS a natural thing to do. When you avoid it, you’re subduing your or avoiding a natural ability or skill to attract women.
Flirting is a communication which shows you are a sexually aware, fun, playful man.
Women get that.
Women WANT that.
They understand it and when done right, no matter who she is, how old she is, where she is – they WILL understand it and are more than happy to play along.
Keeping in mind a previous nice guy tip:
So you can see – there is an unlimited way in which you can flirt.
Flirting can be practiced almost anywhere at anytime with any woman of any legal age.
Perfect it and use your best on the women you want.
How Do You Flirt?
You can see from above there are many ways to flirt and it’s suggested for you to learn to use them all.
There’s no pre-determined way to flirt.
The easiest (and the most used way) is obviously done or performed in your conversations. (I won’t be covering the lesser ones, they’re just too rare and not needed.)
You can… as noted above:
Create fake scenarios about future events in which she fails or even succeeds with you.
Create fictitious relationships through storytelling.
Use role playing.
Use sexual humor to entice her to play along with you.
Tease her about anything she does which may be cute, but you’d rather bust her ass about it.
You can use cocky/comedy which is very effective. Here’s an article to teach you how:
Since a lot of your flirting comes down to having flirty conversations with women (be it through messages, texts, or vocally) you’ll definitely want to go through as these as this as you can.
- Bobby Rio Guide on How To Send Text Messages To Girls – Texting Rules
- Bobby Rio Interview – Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy
- DOWNLOAD – 7 Deadly Texting Mistakes
- DOWNLOAD – Teasing and Banter Lines
- DOWNLOAD – Small Talk Tactics
- Bobby Rio Guide on How To Send Text Messages To Girls – Texting Rules
- Conversation Topics That Keep Her Attention, Charm Her and Attract Her
- How to Avoid Awkward Silences with Women – Conversation Techniques
- How to Have Better Conversations with Women
- The Six Deadliest Conversation Mistakes You Make With Women
And this great tutorial on flirting:
Learning how to flirt is not that difficult but it will take some dedication, practice AND time if you want to perfect it.
Start paying attention to other couples and how they flirt with each other.
Notice the social dynamics.
Practice it on every available woman you come in contact with regardless of age and whether you want her.
If you don’t practice it – you will NOT get good at it.
Start on women who don’t have an out or choice like cashiers, waitresses, or any woman you interact with who is being paid to take care of you.
Yes, they might just play along because they have to and because they want your money – but not all of them.
Remember most of the guys they meet on a daily basis don’t act like that. They can be rude or uncaring.
BE the one guy who makes her smile.
GIVE her something to remember you and your interaction with her.
That’s really the best way to practice and if just so happens the best way have it lead somewhere IF that’s your next step.
LEAVE her happier and in a better mood.
Get her name. Say it once or twice.
The whole point is just to make her feel good about herself and feel good about your conversation with her no matter how short it is.
So start practicing immediately.
Add things to your repertoire.
There’s nothing wrong with using the same “routine” on different women to see how it works. It’s mostly or probably wrong to use that same routine on women you actually want to date. (At that point you’ll want to make it special for her.)
How Do You Know If it’s Working?
The secret to flirting is to make her smile, have fun, and laugh with you.
If that is happening then you can easily tell if it’s working when SHE PLAYS ALONG WITH YOU.
That’s it. There’s nothing more to knowing if it’s working or not.
When she happily gives it back, goes along with what you’re saying, when she’s smiling with you, when you get a genuine laugh – then all is good.
Just make sure you’re using the RIGHT type of humor which is attractive.
You’ll find that answer in this tip:
Flirting is not a player move. It’s not reserved to guys who are only trying to get into a woman’s pants.
It’s important and must be done IF you want to attract women.
If you can do it right you’ll be displaying many attractive traits and women will ENJOY your presence.
“Nice guys” just don’t flirt enough.
Find your own style. Develop it.
Watch others and practice it whenever you can and keep doing it until you’re a flirting “master.
It’s really means that much and once you learn to change your interactions with women and add some sexual edge by flirting – once you see them smile and give it right back…
You’ll never go back to boring conversations ever again.
Thanks for stopping by today. I do hope you’ve learned something and that I’ve convinced you to go out right after reading this and to start FLIRTING as much as you can.
Here’s something from a master “flirter” you can take with you and a great program to teach how too..
Getting a Girlfriend FAST! BE THE COCKIEST / FUNNIEST GUY IN THE ROOM
It’s no big secret… humor and confidence are PROVEN biological aphrodisiacs to women.
In other words, if you can show a woman that you’re in control and keep her laughing while you do it, everything will go your way no matter how you screw up otherwise… all because women are helplessly, magnetically drawn to men with a great confidence and a sense of humor.
No, naturally, this is tough to explain to some guys…
Lots of men take this advice and immediately start coming across as ‘overly arrogant’, which is not what I mean at all.
The formula for how to do RIGHT it is actually very simple:
- Speak in a highly confident way.
- Add humor to make it funny instead of just arrogant and obnoxious.
Here’s one of my most famous examples how to put this formula into action…
Let’s say you’re walking down the street with a woman and she says,
“Hey, I like those shoes in the window.”
You might answer, “You would”.
Or, if you’re talking to a woman who’s wearing four inch heels, you could say,
“What, are you four feet tall without the shoes?”
Basically, you’re saying things that are funny while being arrogant at the same time.
Best of all, while it’s obvious that you’re making fun of her, it’s not exactly clear what you mean.
This creates interest and intrigue as she tries to “figure you out.”
But naturally, 99% of guys wouldn’t dare to say things like this right away to a woman they LACK CONFIDENCE.
And I can totally understand it, because I used to be that way, too… that is, until I saw guys doing Cocky & Funny CORRECTLY with women, and therefore getting all the opportunities that I (and 99% of other guys) never got.
To get you started on the right path, I recommend that you watch Chevy Chase in “Caddyshack” or “Fletch”.
Pierce Brosnan was AWESOME at this in “The Thomas Crown Affair”.
Clarke Gable, of course, in “Gone With The Wind”.
Even Tom Cruise in “Top Gun” showed the kind of humor I’m talking about.
In the meantime, start trying to be Cocky & Funny on your own… you’ll notice a mind-blowing difference in the way that women respond to you!
How To Use Cocky Comedy To Make Women Feel Instant Attraction And Literally Addicted To Being Around You.
The “Magic Bullet” Of Attraction…
A Simple, Step-By-Step Way For ANY Man To Start Using It.
This is the ONLY way to start using Cocky Comedy as your personal, fail-proof SECRET WEAPON for creating intense personal connections with ANY woman you want…
… the MOMENT you meet her…
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That’s it for today nice guy tip on flirting with women.
If you have any comments, questions, stories you’d like to share, flirting tips for guys which have worked for you, or anything on this topic… leave them below.