In all honestly this nice guy tip (number 12) in itself is not too big but its implications could easily cause many other problems because when you think about it, asking any girl “Do you like me?” is not something ANY guy should do – IF he wants to attract her.
Okay so maybe you’ve never asked this question before – some guys have and some haven’t BUT you might be ACTING like you are which will have the same effect on her and attraction.
Anytime you do or say something which is only done to figure out if she likes you will feel the same way to lots of women because they are generally very intuitive to this kind of thing.
And it’s an attraction killer.
Yes – in a perfect world or interaction you’ll always be one step ahead of her. You’ll have unwavering confidence. You’ll do everything right. You’ll be classically indifferent. You’ll assume and project that her liking you or not is not a big deal.
And since the world or your interactions with women won’t always be perfect sometimes you’ll be unsure if she’s interested in you sexually or as a potential date or whatever.
It’s going to happen.
BUT if you’re only answer to this problem is asking or doing things to get her to reveal he feelings for you BECAUSE you’re unsure then you must immediately start doing something else.
Every time you feel yourself about to do anything like this (especially asking her directly is she likes you) do THIS instead:
- Step back a little.
- Look right in her eyes.
- Put a small smirk on your face and a little squint in your eyes.
- Think but don’t say unless many other things are in place, “She likes me. Awww… How sweet. Haha!”
It may not work every time but it’s much better than asking any woman if she likes you and the little pauses will help create some good old tension.
Here’s a FOOLPROOF way to tell if a woman is interested in you and then you’ll see how it all relates to liking you.
HOW TO TELL IF SHE’S INTERESTED
You engage her.
She engages you back.
Yes, that’s it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.
I know that this sounds a little “Duh-ish”, but stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with “Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us…” and she laughs at my joke, then IT’S ON!
If I’m standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say “Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room…” in a serious tone of voice… and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT’S ON!
If I’m talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her “What’s with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?” and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT’S ON!
In a nutshell, what I’m trying to say is:
Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
As long as you use how she’s responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you’ll have a MUCH easier time spotting the “she wants me” clues…
…Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
Simple and elegant and it WORKS.
You’ll NEVER have to ask a woman if she’s interested in you again if you follow that advice AND you do what it says…
Trigger the interest. If she engages, then assume it’s on because YOU are the one causing them.
Now as far as the whole “like” thing…
Interest in one thing.
Liking is another thing.
Think about it from your perspective. You like a girl or find her physically attractive regardless of whether you know her or not. It’s explained better in the first tip: Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction.
BUT for you to become INTERESTED in her for something else, you’re going to talk to her. You want to find out what type of person she is and if she’ll respond favorably to you.
A woman wants to feel like you understand her.
How you’re “in tune” with her emotions.
She wants to connect with you on a different level which includes sub-textual communication.
Asking if she likes you only tells her you don’t get it, her, or women in generally which makes creating attraction and dating her that much harder.
This “tip” may seem small but it can have a huge impact on your dating success.
Sometimes just even thinking it causes you to act differently around the women you really want.
So be careful because although you might not saying – thinking it could cause the problems attraction problems.
The entire point is to avoid constantly looking for signals or signs a woman is into you.
Focus on creating them first.
Focus on how she responds or reacts to what you are doing.
Do the alternative method above when the urge comes up:
Step back a little.
Look right in her eyes.
Put a small smirk on your face and a little squint in your eyes.
Think but don’t say unless many other things are in place,
“You like me. Awww… How sweet. Haha!”
That sends a very powerful message to women. Try it and let me know how it goes for you.
Another tip ANY nice guy who is struggling getting women and/or getting dates is party covered in a post I wrote to help you avoid common “asking” questions: 17 Questions You Should Never Ask A Girl If You Want Her To Like You.
Substitute or REPLACE any weak sounding question you might want to ask with a confident and POSITIVE STATEMENT.
It’s exactly what I showed you above except now you can use it to erase a lot of unattractive weaker questions with something more confident and therefore attractive.
Even if it’s a simple as this:
“Do you want to go…?”
Gets replaced with:
“Let’s do this. You’ll have fun.”
“What time should I pick you up?”
“I’ll be there at 9. Be ready.”
See how easy it is hopefully you’ve noticed a complete dynamic change.
One is weak and timid.
The other is strong, confident, and filled with self-assurance.
Do this a lot and you’ll see an immediate change for the better in how women see and react to you.
It will also get her to see you as a leader and if all else goes well- she’ll more than happily follow you along on lots of things.
This tip is also here to help you achieve a new mindset in dating ad with women. A more attractive way to see things. A shift in thinking that CREATES a NATURAL SUCCESS.
Something so clearly written in this quote taken directly from the Advanced Dating Techniques workbook page 36:
“How would you act if you knew that beyond the shadow of a doubt she was TOTALLY into you and wanted to be with you, but you weren’t that interested and decided to RELUCTANTLY give her a chance to hang out with you.”
That about covers it for today. Hope you’re taking away some helpful tips and a more attractive way to interact with women.
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All 20 Nice Guy Tips To Attract Women
- Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction
- Because She’s Flirting With You NOT Your Next Girlfriend
- When It’s Time To Make Your First Move On Her – Fears – Go For It!
- Attracting Women Nice Guy Tip 4 – How Stop Disqualifying Yourself
- You Can’t Pity Girl Into Going On Date Make Her Feel Attracted
- Never Try Buy Women’s Affection Attract Her with Money or Favors
- Handling Rejection Never Feel Sorry for Yourself You Were Rejected
- Don’t Agree With Her Go Against Your Beliefs Hoping She’ll Like You
- Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction Use it The Right Way
- Start Teasing Women Create Attraction Follow These Four Rules First
- Learn How To Flirt With Every Women You Meet – Skill Of Attraction
- Never Ask if She Likes You – What You Must Do & Say Instead
- Stop Giving Women What They Say They Want, Make Them Feel
- Stuck In The Friends Zone With A Girl You Love? How to Get Out!
- How Why Body Language Attraction To Women – Learn To Control
- Means To Live Your Own Life, How to Do it Why It Attracts Women
- Big Step In Attracting Women – Stop Blaming For Your Problems
- How & Why You Must Give The Women You Are Attracted To… Space
- Why Confidence Is Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It
- The Best Version Of Yourself – Invest In YOU – Secret To Attraction