It’s equally as important to know that you can NOT trigger her attraction by just giving her what you think she wants and or what you think women want from men.
The nice guy tip is here because it’s an all too common problem for guys. They try to logically figure women out and it just doesn’t work because attraction is isn’t logical.
It has a logic all its own.
You need to understand there’s always a deeper meaning behind it all and knowing it what it is will show you EXACTLY how to create real attraction.
Let’s get started on today’s lesson.
First you must realize how you’re seeing things is from your male mind. You don’t think like a woman and you never will so stop trying.
You also communicate differently than women.
Men and woman ARE different in many ways above body types. Their brains (generally) work differently because they have evolved based on their male and females roles.
You don’t need to know why or probably anything more than just that.
You only need to know there’s a difference.
ALL women have an idea in their head and heart of their perfect man. You’ll find lists everywhere of the type of guy they’re looking for such as the perfect man survey I had them take:
- Brown eyes.
- Dark brown hair.
- 5’11” to 6’3″ height.
- 161 to 180 pounds.
- Perfect Weight to Height body type.
- Casually dressed.
- No Facial Hair.
- Medium hair length with Style.
- Average penis size.
- She’ll notice your eyes first.
- Medium skin color.
- College educated.
- Above average intelligence.
- Somewhat athletic.
- Social Skills: Charming & Outgoing.
- A guy who just contributes to her decision making process.
- Financially Stable.
- Not too neat but not too messy either.
- A strong family background.
- You’ll date couple months before a commitment AND…
- You’ll be slightly older than her.
Quite the list, isn’t it?
Well they are just PREFERENCES.
You’ll also notice when you go through the article that on average women chose many difference preferences for each question.
You may also notice that you’re NOT that guy entirely. I’m sure he exists although it certainly isn’t me BUT that list above means NOTHING when it comes to creating attraction.
Sure, some women will not date a guy who doesn’t match up to what she is looking for but that’s a choice she has every right to make for herself just the same as you do.
Again – it’s her choice.
What she is NOT choosing is whether she FEELS ATTRACTED to you or not.
Which means even if you don’t match up to what she “prefers” she can still feel a deep attraction towards you.
What matters more is HOW you MAKE her FEEL emotionally.
Done right and her preferences might not change, but she’ll be more likely to overlook them or not care.
What she says she wants means nothing and what is listed above is what she says she wants from a guy.
You need to learn to dig deeper.
What she RESPONDS to is HOW you make her FEEL.
Let’s move on to another list which is in tune with or closer to her emotions or how she wants to FEEL.
This is taken from step 6 of my Getting A Girlfriend Ebook you can and should read.
- The ability to show you care in real ways.
- Supportive, loyal, and aware of your partner’s dreams.
- Soft and real eye contact with the ability to hold and have conversations while doing it.
- Mature confidence.
- Emotional strength in many areas but specifically to not bend to the temptations of other women.
- Motivation, direction, knowing what you want, what you have, and your values extend beyond materials and superficial goals.
- Humble sense of humor.
- Fearless of non-threatening situations.
- Able and unafraid to show love and affections anywhere.
- Knowing what you have and appreciating it indefinitely.
- A hint of mystery.
- Capable of empathy and putting himself in others shoes and/or caring for those in need.
- Not afraid of showing raw emotions when necessary within reason and yes not overly emotional.
- Honor, integrity. A strong sense of character with a touch of chivalry.
- Defends those who are being treating unfairly under most non-threatening situations and some actual real threatening situations.
- Able to be himself and not worried about what others thinks of him.
- Old school charm which never wavers long after the relationship has started.
- Honesty with a touch of class.
- #19. Strong kissing and touching skills which propels a woman’s raw emotions and makes her feel loved, wanted, sexy, and heightens her emotions.
- Any kind of intelligence.
- Ability to make a woman feel safe and protected beyond the physical and sometimes also the physical.
- Doesn’t take like seriously but knows WHEN to be serious.
- Knowing how to make tough situations easier for those around him and for himself too.
- A hint of purity and a gentle soul.
- Predictable and reliable yet a desire to surprise and remember important things.
Notice how the two lists somewhat cross but also how entirely different they are at the core.
The second list is what women perceive as a SEXY GUY and you just can not BE that guy unless you make them FEEL your strong sexuality.
You don’t have to be good-looking to be sexy which means when she feels like you’re sexy guy – she’s accessing her emotional RESPONSE to you and not her “logical” list of what she “prefers” in a guy.
Remember when she’s telling you the characteristics of the right guy for her – she’s accessing a different part of her brain.
She’s giving you a list which is normally the same for people in general and it’s things you would expect.
Think about it – what women will tell you she wants a nasty guy who will treat her like shit.
You need to understand the difference.
If someone asked YOU what you wanted from a woman – you’d list out what you’re looking for and it’s highly doubtful you will say things like: Selfish, mean, unemotional, or rude.
You have a list very similar to hers and it will be more about what you prefer as you can see or add to here: 20 Question & Answer Survey Designed To Show A Guy’s Perfect Woman.
Again – it’s what you prefer but what you truly RESPOND to will ALWAYS (unless you’re “that” type of guy) come down to HOW a woman makes you FEEL.
The same goes for women!
HOW do you decode, decipher, determine, or figure out what women are really saying or responding to when they describing what attracts them?
Granted, it’s not all that easy. It might be for me but this is what I do.
That doesn’t mean it’s not impossible for you to learn and it definitely does not mean you incapable of triggering her feelings towards.
It simply means you must learn HOW to COMMUNICATE your attractive traits women respond to in skillful way that makes them FEEL something for you.
Let’s start with some easy ones.
Everyone is aware that confidence for men and women is an attractive trait.
Why and more is explained in this tip: 19. Why Confidence Is So Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It Quickly
Simply put – when a woman says she wants a guy with confidence, she’s more or less saying she wants a self-assured guy who believes in himself.
HOW does that make her feel because again, that’s more important?
“Confidence is obviously attractive because just by being confident and real about it, you INSPIRE OTHERS to FEEL CONFIDENT in you, and in themselves too.”
You’re inspiring her confidence in you and in herself too.
You’re passing along your strengths to her. Not that she couldn’t have them for herself BUT that it adds to her feelings of confidence in you.
Mind you – the confidence thing is a BIG one.
Let’s go for another one.
When a woman says she wants a guy who is funny, above her preference how does that type of guy make her feel?
If you can make her genuinely laugh with her… you make her feel happy. If you feels you don’t take life so seriously you must be easy to get along with.
“It’s what lies beneath the type of humor or what it says to women that creates the attraction.”
Humor, done the right way is often a sign of wit, intelligence, charm, and requires the person to see life differently.
So in way one you’re showing her indirectly the type of guy you are and at the same time you’re making her SMILE and FEEL good.
That one was an easy one BUT so many guys get it wrong and think they only have to make her laugh to create attraction which is why it’s covered here.
OTHER things must be in place too and you need to use the right type of humor which displays other attractive qualities that women emotionally respond to.
This next one is a tough one because it’s often misunderstood.
I’m going to another expert to explain it better to you.
What is a woman really saying when she say’s she wants a man to protect her?
How does it relate to how you make her FEEL?
“Look closely at the language a woman uses when she expresses the sentiment of being protected.
Most of the time women are talking about very similar desires and it goes MUCH deeper than mere physical protection from outside influences.
Women are talking about a more general feeling of “safety” here. They don’t want a “goon” who can beat up people for her, they want to be safe at all times, and in every situation.
Notice the “feeling” part.
Try it yourself with anything a woman tells you she “wants” in a guy and you’ll see how it all relates to HOW you make her feel.
The process is simple and once you do it a few times you’ll get it AND you’ll see how they’re all connected or go back to similar feelings.
Try it the other way and you’ll prove it even further. You’ll find some great examples when you do it with guys who normally have a overly negative effect.
“Why in the world most guys think they have to treat a woman like shit (or be a jerk) to make a woman feel all sorts of emotions or where this faulty knowledge came about is beyond me; and I don’t care to explore why it’s there.
Women are literally FILLED with hundreds of emotions everyday of their life. What they experience in a day normally takes you a decade to go through.
This means giving her the “ride” of her life is not at all that difficult (honestly she’s going to take care of most if herself anyways) AND who’s to say they must be negative because they don’t!
Don’t think negative. Think POSITIVE.
Make her laugh. Boom! There’s one emotion. Make her cry over a sad story or something you can both empathize together over. There you go. That’s another emotion you can check off.
My point is to get her to FEEL SOMETHING when she’s with you.
Excitement. Happiness. Inspiration. Thoughtfulness. SEXUALITY. ANYTHING!”
In this next post you’ll be shown how to take any bad boy, jerk, or player behavior that seems to attract women or make them feel something, how to strip out the negative parts, and make her FEEL the same thing without having to become one of those guys.
It’s pretty cool stuff.
“Did you know you can actually take the qualities of a jerk and use them to attract girls – WITHOUT turning into a jerk yourself?
Yes. Today you will learn HOW to use your BRAIN to create attraction BETTER than the jerks, bad boys, or assholes of the world.”
You’re mush closer to understanding the difference between what a woman SAYS she wants and HOW she RESPONDS to HOW you make her feel.
Knowing all that – here’s the counter intuitive part where most nice guy fail almost every time.
They learn, know, or think they know what a woman wants and then they try to give it her – which if you’re struggling with women should only prove to you it does NOT work.
You don’t give her what you think she wants – you stir her emotions, invoke certain feelings which engage her “instinctual reaction” through her female mind which in turn reinforces her thoughts of reality.
Yes, I know that sounds complicated but it’s not and it’s much easier than ever trying to buy, talk, or convince her to feel something for you.
The lists above ARE important BUT as you go through them – THINK and ask these important questions:
- What feeling does it relate to?
- What emotional connection is she making with it?
- How, and what can you do to make her FEEL it?
Knowing those questions alone and how to make it happen is a critical key to success in triggering ATTRACTION in ANY woman.
You’ll also see how you being nice is not a feeling which is why is does not create attraction as noted in your first lesson: Being Nice Has Little or Nothing to Do with Attraction.
The great news is:
A lot of those items on the list are normally attained internally through you.
You don’t have to TRY to invoke them.
Just by being that person and allowing her to come to her own conclusions is how the attraction is created.
Please read the quote below.
“If you want a woman to think of you as a “lover“, then BE ONE.
If you want her to think of you as a provider, then just BE ONE.
What you haven’t quite realized fully yet is that when you know how to trigger ATTRACTION in a woman, all the “normal” rules go away.
If a woman feels that powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you, then she’ll do ANYTHING with you… just to be in your presence and have your attention.
If you have dialed up the ATTRACTION, then all you need to say is “come over here”.
One of the most important KEY word above is BE.
Just BE the guy who naturally creates attraction and you can quite literally do whatever the hell you want. (The good and the bad.)
BUT since you’re a nice guy (sorry now you’re a good guy as explained in the bonus tip here: You Want To Attract Her? Start By Changing How You Define Being Nice) you probably won’t ever be BAD for her.
When you ARE or become that guy the last piece of the puzzle only requires you to COMMUNICATE to women.
Something happens, or the attraction is acted on or “amped up” in a few ways but the most common is how you communicate those traits to her.
You communicate to her through your body language, your words, how you live your life, how you socialize, your actions and reactions – directly or indirectly… that’s how she connects her emotions to YOU.
That’s how you make her FEEL something and she will connect those feelings to YOU.
You don’t just pretend or tell her you’re a confident guy.
Imagine a woman walks up to you and says,
“Hey, I’m an attractive woman. You must feel attracted to me.”
Wouldn’t work, would it?
If you found her attractive, you would. If you didn’t, her just telling you wouldn’t make any difference in how you felt at all.
You don’t TRY to be a funny guy thinking it will work.
You BECOME or just BE a funny guy and communicate that to her in a way she responds or FEELS good about you.
You don’t TRY to act all mysterious because you think that’s what all women want or say they want – you COMMUNICATE to her in a way which first doesn’t reveal everything and second, encourages her to want to know more about you, and third; challenges her desires to know more about you.
You can now see how playing games or following some stupid rules doesn’t work or is certainly not as effective as just BEING.
We all have lists. We all have preferences. And sure some will turn you down because of that choice just the same as you might turn some women down because you might prefer something else.
Attraction is not a choice.
It’s a gut feeling. A reaction.
Giving a woman what you think she wants when it doesn’t invoke some sort of feelings does NOT create attraction at all.
Get this Ebook: Attraction Isn’t A Choice and you’ll learn for a more then generous price and guarantee HOW to create it and get her to FEEL what she needs to feel.
Download it and read it over and over until every piece of information sinks into your brain.
Remember, you can not think like a woman. Your difference are obvious and they go well beyond outward appearance.
Thinking like a man or trying to logically give a woman what you think she wants does NOT work.
What does work is…
HOW you MAKE her FEEL emotionally. What she RESPONDS to is HOW you make her FEEL.
Focus on creating feelings.
You want to triggers those feelings then figure out what they are, integrate the traits which stimulate them, BE that guy – and then learn how to COMMUNICATE them to women…
And you will fully UNDERSTAND and GET…
Women women WANT!
This is exactly how a good nice guy like you will SUCCEED in dating, attraction, and any relationship you choose to get in.
Thanks for stopping by today. A lot was covered and I do hope I’ve been able to communicate them to you in simple way that you can understand and then put in use too.
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ATTRACTION isn’t a choice. It’s an emotional reaction.
ATTRACTION is nature’s way of taking over our minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we mate with someone with the best possible genes.
ATTRACTION isn’t logical, in the sense that it isn’t created by things that “should” create it.
Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their approval are examples of “logical” things that SHOULD create attraction… but the truth is, they don’t.
When you understand how attraction works, you begin to see that it has a “logic” all its own.
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All 20 Nice Guy Tips To Attract Women
- Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction
- Because She’s Flirting With You NOT Your Next Girlfriend
- When It’s Time To Make Your First Move On Her – Fears – Go For It!
- Attracting Women Nice Guy Tip 4 – How Stop Disqualifying Yourself
- You Can’t Pity Girl Into Going On Date Make Her Feel Attracted
- Never Try Buy Women’s Affection Attract Her with Money or Favors
- Handling Rejection Never Feel Sorry for Yourself You Were Rejected
- Don’t Agree With Her Go Against Your Beliefs Hoping She’ll Like You
- Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction Use it The Right Way
- Start Teasing Women Create Attraction Follow These Four Rules First
- Learn How To Flirt With Every Women You Meet – Skill Of Attraction
- Never Ask if She Likes You – What You Must Do & Say Instead
- Stop Giving Women What They Say They Want, Make Them Feel
- Stuck In The Friends Zone With A Girl You Love? How to Get Out!
- How Why Body Language Attraction To Women – Learn To Control
- Means To Live Your Own Life, How to Do it Why It Attracts Women
- Big Step In Attracting Women – Stop Blaming For Your Problems
- How & Why You Must Give The Women You Are Attracted To… Space
- Why Confidence Is Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It
- The Best Version Of Yourself – Invest In YOU – Secret To Attraction