15. Pay close attention to your body language to create an un-breakable image of a relaxed confident man.
You may not be aware of it but you’re body language is a “tell.”
A give away to who you are, how much you believe in yourself, and how attractive you feel.
It tells women so much about you and the life you lead and it shows them how confident you are.
It also can present the image to her that you’re are so relaxed and conformable in who you are – how her looks – her emotions – her attraction may not affect you in any way.
Your body language can present the ultimate challenge to women AND just because you’re a nice guy doesn’t mean you don’t have the ability to achieve an amazingly attractive body language.
How you hold yourself can also demand an amazing presence and give women the impression of space.
You also show her, by not hovering or lingering around her just how really strong you are. Perhaps you’re indifference. Your body language can allow her to believe you’re the least needy person she has ever met. Which is a good thing.
Women tend to follow your lead IF you do it right. You can build her interest and increase her attraction just be leading her where you want her to go.
“Women are all about connecting with a man. A woman will also start to relax because you are relaxed.
This Nice Guy tip is here because I’ve personally and done it myself…
Negative body language from great guys – and they struggled getting the girlfriend they wanted because of it.
Sure they could use a refresher course in conversations but they either tried to fake it by putting their body in such strange uncomfortable positions it actually created more stress than it did to relieve it.
Or they “manufacturer” a walk or look that they’re some kind of bad-ass just to hide the fact that when they think about their relationships with women as a whole – their body followed their mind and slumped over.
Yet those nice guys and maybe you’re one of them have more to offer to women than you might believe but because they tend to “emit” a weak image it only causes women to get “turned off” or not sexual excited enough to give them even a half a chance.
This tip is to let you know or to remind you this is such an easy part of your life which you have COMPLETE CONTROL of because it has everything to do with you, your mindset, and your drive/ability to exercise and create comfort for yourself.
Once it’s done you just have to maintain it at your own pace.
Once it’s done your confidence will never have to be shown or played, women will accept it as a reality.
Once it’s done you only need to enjoy the benefits of perhaps better health, more energy, and a fearless attitude around women.
Here are some facts about women and not theories…
They are naturally attracted to men who appear healthy and have a seemingly never-ending amount of energy.
They are naturally attracted to men who display “animalistic” movements which are free-flowing and free from stress.
Don’t confuse this tip with turning yourself into a muscle bound man. Lifting weights is optional but exercising is not. Cardio, for those of you who can maintain is also part of it.
I’m saying a little goes a long way and you DO NOT have to destroy your muscles or joints in the process.
I’ll prove it to you…
John Alexander – known for his ability to teach guys how to attract women once wrote this:
Watch a man with high status–Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work–and you’ll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over him.
Slade Slaw – Creator of Fireworks with Females – and as far as I’m concerned has amazing advice on how to attract women… and he wrote this….
The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.
Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they’re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.
Elena Solomon – who you might not know but she’s quite intuitive and very smart (and beautiful), never fails to mention how your body language affects your attractiveness…
Which means that if you display the ‘open’ body language, you will be irresistibly attractive. They won’t know why but feel drawn to you. People usually describe it as, “You have something special about you”, or “a presence”.
If you start consciously ‘open’ yourself to other people, you will notice the change in your communication almost immediately. Open body language makes you appear more approachable and trustworthy. It will also make you feel more comfortable and relaxed in any situation.
Remember, your body language tells MORE about you than your words.
Use it to your advantage!
Carlos Xuma is a guy who teach extensive inner game, conversational ability, approaching, sexual confidence, etc… and even he never fails to mention how important it is to lead her with your own body language…
She wants a man who can take charge and confidently LEAD her to the place she wants to go.
This means that if you’re too hung up on reading body language and watching for signals, you’ll miss the real opportunity – which is to LEAD her with your own body language.
You see, if you’re waiting for signals to appear, you’re not creating the kind of initiative that makes a woman feel attracted to you. In fact, you’re at risk of looking socially reactive.
That fancy little term just means that you’re reacting to what people do instead of just doing what it is you’re going to do. It ends up looking like you need permission to take action.
This doesn’t inspire confidence in you from the woman’s point of view.
Okay I DO hope you’re getting my emotional connection here and that’s not just because I want you to fix it.
It’s because I once had the experience of being turned down to another man who could’ve been my twin because his body language which just that much “sexier” and alpha than mine was.
At the time I couldn’t figure it out. Now in understand he had IT and I didn’t.
You want my “secret” or how I mastered my body language?
- I started with a book. It wasn’t very helpful but it teach me how to read body language and what it meant or was portraying.
- Then I watched other guys who were good at it. This was extremely helpful and the more I watched the more I began to move like them.
- I paid close attention to how I walked, how I was sitting, how I talked, how quickly my words came out, basically compared myself to the “naturals” I was studying
- I mimicked their movements and it helped a little – well at least a lot more than doing nothing.
- I met Rob Brinded through a newsletter and began using “The Code Of The Natural”.
The rest is history… Well sort of.
I’ll admit this whole body language thing is sort of a circle of success.
More confidence gets you more relaxed which in turn boosts your confidence and the more freer you and your body language becomes and so on…
Here is what I can do for you today.
Read the posts I’ve included plus go through this page entirely – My Body Language is Communication – Nice Guys Finish First.
You can also flip through
- Can Golfers Attract Women Better Than Most? Confidence In Motion
- What Parts Of A Man’s Body Instinctively Attracts Women?
- Not Being Sexy. How Your Body Language Can Put You In Her Friend Zone.
I believe you’ll get an extensive education on what your body needs to be doing to attract and about 80% of what I know about the subject.
You may not need anymore than that but if you really want it… try this -> Body Language Video Presentation