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Big Step In Attracting Women – Stop Blaming Them For Your Problems

Everywhere you go you’ll find one or more people bitching about their problems and they’ll always be heard saying, “It’s unfair.” OR how life is not fair.

AND they are the very same people who BLAME others for every problem they have ever had in their life.

That’s fine for them – let them BE that way.

BUT if YOU want to attract women, be an attractive guy, and it feels unfair that you have to LEARN the skills to do it AND you’re always blaming women for YOUR problems then it needs to STOP IMMEDIATELY.

There’s just not a nice way to say it to you and honestly, after spending half my life thinking and believing the same tired shit,

“Why can’t women just like me for who I am, it’s so unfair, why are women this way…?” – I’m not going to even try being nice about it…

The only person on this entire planet that is fully responsible for YOUR actions, is YOU.

It’s not HER problem if she doesn’t like you – it’s yours.

Which is actually a good thing because whereas you can never change her –  you CAN change yourself, your attitude, your belief system, and you CAN erase all the blame from your life.

Take complete responsibility for your role in your life. It’s a mature masculine thing to do and guess what… women just happen to be highly attracted to mature masculine men.

Meet your problems head on and solve them. They are your problems and although there are solutions, no one is going to take you by the hand and do the real work for you.

This includes women and attracting them.

Take charge of your life and do it with as little complaining as possible.

Complaining gets you nowhere. It’s a total waste of time and effort.

You’ll only attract more complainers and negative people who will gladly sit around with you bitching about life how unfair it is and things SHOULD be different.

ERASE the word “should” from your vocabulary.

“There are two “high impact” words which will undoubtedly limit how easily you can trigger attraction…

They are “should” and “always.”

Think about how many times a day you say them. How many thoughts cross your mind where one of them is lurking.

And how often do they mean you’re not doing something or you failed to do something beneficial?

Sure we’re talking about attraction but this kind of stuff transcends male-female relationships and reaches out to every part of your life.

You “should” have a girlfriend but you “always” meet women that are taken.

You “should” have said something to her but it’s “always” the worst possible time to do start a conversation.

You “should” be making more money but someone “always” screws you over.”

Skinny Chics With Big Ears ALWAYS Have Nice Butts

Way too many nice guys who end up being floor mats because they allow women to walk all over them and end up blaming her for it.

Don’t do it.

If you do not want to be treated badly by anyone, including women, don’t let it happen.

Nice Guy Tip 17 is more than a tip to make you into a more attractive nice guy and to stop all the blaming…

It’s also about having complete and total respect for yourself first, so others will respect you the same.

And it just so happens real women will rarely ever date or sleep with a guy they have no respect for at first.

You can not honestly and morally respect yourself or be self-assured when you blame others for something they should never have control over…and that is you.

Blame is a tough word. That I truly understand.

But let’s keep this in perspective.

We’re talking about YOUR dating life.

YOUR ability to attract.

YOUR views of yourself and how you feel about them.

When it comes to YOU – the things you have absolute control over, you can either take charge of them, take responsibility for them, or you can give others power over you and then blame them for what happens.

Again, it’s YOUR choice.

You can also blame yourself and wallow in your own misery but once again that does not solve anything.

It’s just best to be responsible for the things you DO have control over, understand mistakes can and will happen, blaming anyone outside or within just becomes a waste of valuable time and energy which can be used to take control over what you can… yourself and the affect you have on women.

Here’s an absolute TRUTH no one can escape…


The sooner you accept that concept, the quicker you’ll be less likely to blame others or women.

But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

Fairness is just a moral concept or idea invented to make you FEEL better AND it’s used as an excuse when something goes wrong or something doesn’t work out in your favor.

It does not exist in life and will only ever cause you to blame others and in turn – make you a less attractive man.

Is it fair to a Gazelle that a Lion needs to hunt it down brutally and eat it to survive… not at all but to the Lion, it’s just the way it is. Fair or not – if it wants to survive it must eat.

Now I’m not giving you every reason to believe you can go out and start treating others unfairly while saying, “Get over it. Life is unfair. If I want something from you – I’ll just take it.”

You can still PLAY fair. You can still be one of the good guys. You can still work hard for your things and yourself and feel good about yourself for doing it.

In fact – I recommend it highly but…

You can NOT use the “life is unfair” excuse when things go wrong and it doesn’t work out the way you wanted it AND you must NEVER use the NICE tactics to get others to play nice too.

You see – your life is your own.

So… own up to it. OWN it. Make it something you enjoy and if you like being good to others… enjoy it for yourself with the understanding in all the unfairness in life – you could give someone everything they want or need and still have them stab in the back for it.


Because that’s their choice, their life, their world and not yours.

Okay… so let’s move on.

Women are not your problem.

It’s not their fault if you don’t have the skills to attract them.

Turn it around.

If some girl is attracted to you and you’re not attracted to her – and then she BLAMES YOU for it – how is that any different than you blaming women?

Would it change how you felt about her?

Of course it would – you’d dislike her even more because you know it’s not YOUR fault for not feeling something for her. You didn’t choose to not feel it – you just don’t.

Nice guys unfortunately like to blame others when things don’t work out the way they want them to.

They feel justified to believe being nice “should” be rewarded.

And in reality, it’s selfish and dishonest!

“Somewhere in your life, you found out that pleasing people is a way to get other people to like you and admire you so you can feel good about yourself.

Whether it was the acclaim of your parents, or the acceptance of your friends, somewhere in your time on this planet YOU LEARNED to feel good based on what other people think of you.

But I’m here to tell you that using other people’s feelings and goodwill like that is not only harmful, but dishonest!”

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Remember these things today and you will be that much closer to being an attractive “good” guy.

Stop using excuses, stop blaming others, take responsibility for YOUR life, YOUR actions, and if something is not working – STOP doing it and try something different.

If you’re having problems attracting girls – objectify and learn the right skills that DO create attraction.

Blaming them won’t work. It hasn’t worked for you yet -what makes you think it will all of a sudden start working tomorrow.

Trust it’s complete within YOUR power and YOUR control to make ANYTHING happen for you.

The world or universe does NOT owe you anything whether you’re nice or not just because you believe it or want it to be true.

YOU owe it to yourself.

When you’re ready to accept the concepts that life is unfair, blaming others won’t help you or solve any problem you have…

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When you’re ready to accept responsibility in your life…

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Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope I’ve encouraged you enough to stop blaming women and start attracting them instead.

These ideas didn’t just come to me one day – I learned them the hard way. I blamed all my problems on others for years.

Trust I was right there with you and have since learned to move onto bigger and better things with a new fresh mindset.

It’s completely within your ability and skill to get this handled.

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Any questions, comments, beliefs, problems, or anything you’d like to share with your fellow nice guys – leave them below.

About the author: Peter White – I can help you find, meet, and attract your ideal woman for a real relationship. Live your life the way you want to with purpose and fun. Build a mindset that is free and positive. Learn the truths about attraction. When you can do that – the woman of YOUR CHOICE will gladly join you.

6 comments… add one
  • TheAbsoluteTruth

    Well for a very Good man like me that really wanted to get married and have a family that i still DON’T have today which i can certainly BLAME the women of today since they’re totally different than the women of years ago that were so much more NICER and a hell of a lot EASIER to meet back then which it really would’ve made a COMPLETE difference in my life had i been born many years EARLIER.

    • Peter White

      Guess the article didn’t convince you. Blame women all you want but it won’t solve your problem.

      Sorry, but there’s no way you can prove being born earlier would’ve made a difference. If your shitty attitude was the same – it’s more probable you would’ve had the same problems.

      It’s not women – it’s you.

      The “absolute truth” is that you have a very limited and negative belief system and unless you work on changing that – it’s likely nothing will ever change for you.

      As above – take responsibility for your life. Own up to it. The world owes you nothing just because you’re a good guy. In fact if you were truly a good guy – you wouldn’t expect anything back from it… including women.

      Real men, the true good guys – don’t blame women or anyone for their problems. They don’t say women are not nice anymore or “nicely” belittle them.

      It’s actually NOT a nice thing to do.

  • Jean

    Let me set you people straight! 3-2017
    So men think dating is unfair and don’t want to do the pursuing any more? Really? That’s what you all created. Women didn’t have a voice in these sexist, man made rules of dating and pursuing. In fact you men took away all of the power from females even for their own lives. Females didn’t have a voice in any of that. You men, even created other some crazy man made rules, like having the boyfriend ask the dad for permission to date the daughter as if dad is the only parent of the daughter, shame on these males. So, then the boyfriend had to again ignore and omit the mother and ask only the dad for permission to propose to the daughter, shame.
    Today, some stupid females still allow their dads and boyfriends to treat them like they are objects or property. So, now we see that boys and men can dish it out, but they can’t take it. They created all these sexist rules in society for women to abide by, now boys of today are tired following the rules.

    I am a female and I am really just fed up with all the mess from men. Men started this mess in the world, and now they are reaping what they have sown.
    Men are the ones who set up this society. You all made up all the sexist rules . In and out of relationships in this world. Men told told wives to shut up and let them lead, drive, and do all of the decision making . Men are the ones who set up society for the boy and the man to be the one to get the relationship started.

    • Peter White

      So in an article where men are being told that it’s not good or attractive to blame women – you decide to blame men for YOUR problems.


      You’re not setting the record straight – you’re merely reinforcing their negative beliefs with your shitty attitude which will not help solve anything at all.

  • Random Person

    I browse the web looking for answers, many of which I happily find, but then the responses discourage me. Delusional nice guys along with gals who, rightfully, both seem to acknowledge a sexist system, but don’t seem to understand the deeper heart of the problem. Yes, the system has damaged ALL of us in varied and individual ways, but glorifying amd demonizing the past (even present) just seems like a massive waste of time since we don’t seem to Learn from it and better ourselves. You Acknowledge the past and the things that did and did not work, without inserting your own warped view that is nothing more than selfish thinking, and acknowledging your own selfishness is something most are terrified of. Scratch that, No One wants to face the truth, so they create a scapegoat because they’re scared to see just how pathetic and effed up and wrong they are (about lots of things).
    Yes, there Are people who’ve damaged you, but the ones I admire are the ones who recognize that, and want to be better, Different from the crowd, but the result is that they end up alone. They know they’re Not alone, but why hope you’ll find someone like you when it’s hard enough to stand strong, apart from the masses? I’d like to think there’s one who understands, is mature, selfless, noble amd responsible, yet all the comments in articles like these only seem to reinforce my hopelessness, that no one wants to own up, so they keep blaming others, and frankly, this does seem to be WAY more common with guys, primarily targeting women. I don’t know if they’re just the loud and influential ones or if society’s taught them to spread blame, but it’s Very childish amd pathetic.

    The men and women I admore are the ones who fight their inner demons and accomplish so much more with their lives, because they see there’s absolutely No Point in making Excuses and generalizing. Every time period has problems of its own, yet people somehow found happiness in each one, and this is just Our time. Stop blaming women and so deny your own selfish issues, Grow Up and be mature, don’t give in to that inner demon that’ll ensure you’re a spoiled brat forever. Life is too short for that bull–t, plus it only creates More bulls–t. The world won’t ever change, but change Yourself and your Response to it.
    Refuse to be like the rest, but don’t ignore legitimate pain, which won’t happen until you Want to see things from another person’s world, a SelfLess act in and of itself (quite revolutionary really).
    You do not Deserve to be with anyone, no matter Who you are, if you cannot recognize and deal with the pain and selfishness in yourself and in others. I’d like to find someone who understands what’s truly pointless And truly important, and if I never find them, that’s all right, because more than that even, I want to stand tall and strong on my own, and enjoy what blessings I DO have all around me. In this time, just like Frank Sinatra sang, I’ll do it My Way.

    • Peter White

      Quite the comment. You lost me a little in the beginning but who am I to judge, my writing can confuse me sometimes too. Hahahah!!!

      You got it all out and that’s important.

      But I like the ending.

      Thanks for sharing.


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