Everywhere you go you’ll find one or more people bitching about their problems and they’ll always be heard saying, “It’s unfair.” OR how life is not fair.
AND they are the very same people who BLAME others for every problem they have ever had in their life.
That’s fine for them – let them BE that way.
BUT if YOU want to attract women, be an attractive guy, and it feels unfair that you have to LEARN the skills to do it AND you’re always blaming women for YOUR problems then it needs to STOP IMMEDIATELY.
There’s just not a nice way to say it to you and honestly, after spending half my life thinking and believing the same tired shit,
“Why can’t women just like me for who I am, it’s so unfair, why are women this way…?” – I’m not going to even try being nice about it…
The only person on this entire planet that is fully responsible for YOUR actions, is YOU.
It’s not HER problem if she doesn’t like you – it’s yours.
Which is actually a good thing because whereas you can never change her – you CAN change yourself, your attitude, your belief system, and you CAN erase all the blame from your life.
Take complete responsibility for your role in your life. It’s a mature masculine thing to do and guess what… women just happen to be highly attracted to mature masculine men.
Meet your problems head on and solve them. They are your problems and although there are solutions, no one is going to take you by the hand and do the real work for you.
This includes women and attracting them.
Take charge of your life and do it with as little complaining as possible.
Complaining gets you nowhere. It’s a total waste of time and effort.
You’ll only attract more complainers and negative people who will gladly sit around with you bitching about life how unfair it is and things SHOULD be different.
ERASE the word “should” from your vocabulary.
“There are two “high impact” words which will undoubtedly limit how easily you can trigger attraction…
They are “should” and “always.”
Think about how many times a day you say them. How many thoughts cross your mind where one of them is lurking.
And how often do they mean you’re not doing something or you failed to do something beneficial?
Sure we’re talking about attraction but this kind of stuff transcends male-female relationships and reaches out to every part of your life.
You “should” have a girlfriend but you “always” meet women that are taken.
You “should” have said something to her but it’s “always” the worst possible time to do start a conversation.
You “should” be making more money but someone “always” screws you over.”
Way too many nice guys who end up being floor mats because they allow women to walk all over them and end up blaming her for it.
Don’t do it.
If you do not want to be treated badly by anyone, including women, don’t let it happen.
Nice Guy Tip 17 is more than a tip to make you into a more attractive nice guy and to stop all the blaming…
It’s also about having complete and total respect for yourself first, so others will respect you the same.
And it just so happens real women will rarely ever date or sleep with a guy they have no respect for at first.
You can not honestly and morally respect yourself or be self-assured when you blame others for something they should never have control over…and that is you.
Blame is a tough word. That I truly understand.
But let’s keep this in perspective.
We’re talking about YOUR dating life.
YOUR ability to attract.
YOUR views of yourself and how you feel about them.
When it comes to YOU – the things you have absolute control over, you can either take charge of them, take responsibility for them, or you can give others power over you and then blame them for what happens.
Again, it’s YOUR choice.
You can also blame yourself and wallow in your own misery but once again that does not solve anything.
It’s just best to be responsible for the things you DO have control over, understand mistakes can and will happen, blaming anyone outside or within just becomes a waste of valuable time and energy which can be used to take control over what you can… yourself and the affect you have on women.
Here’s an absolute TRUTH no one can escape…
LIFE IS UNFAIR!
The sooner you accept that concept, the quicker you’ll be less likely to blame others or women.
But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
Fairness is just a moral concept or idea invented to make you FEEL better AND it’s used as an excuse when something goes wrong or something doesn’t work out in your favor.
It does not exist in life and will only ever cause you to blame others and in turn – make you a less attractive man.
Is it fair to a Gazelle that a Lion needs to hunt it down brutally and eat it to survive… not at all but to the Lion, it’s just the way it is. Fair or not – if it wants to survive it must eat.
Now I’m not giving you every reason to believe you can go out and start treating others unfairly while saying, “Get over it. Life is unfair. If I want something from you – I’ll just take it.”
You can still PLAY fair. You can still be one of the good guys. You can still work hard for your things and yourself and feel good about yourself for doing it.
In fact – I recommend it highly but…
You can NOT use the “life is unfair” excuse when things go wrong and it doesn’t work out the way you wanted it AND you must NEVER use the NICE tactics to get others to play nice too.
You see – your life is your own.
So… own up to it. OWN it. Make it something you enjoy and if you like being good to others… enjoy it for yourself with the understanding in all the unfairness in life – you could give someone everything they want or need and still have them stab in the back for it.
Because that’s their choice, their life, their world and not yours.
Okay… so let’s move on.
Women are not your problem.
It’s not their fault if you don’t have the skills to attract them.
Turn it around.
If some girl is attracted to you and you’re not attracted to her – and then she BLAMES YOU for it – how is that any different than you blaming women?
Would it change how you felt about her?
Of course it would – you’d dislike her even more because you know it’s not YOUR fault for not feeling something for her. You didn’t choose to not feel it – you just don’t.
Nice guys unfortunately like to blame others when things don’t work out the way they want them to.
They feel justified to believe being nice “should” be rewarded.
And in reality, it’s selfish and dishonest!
“Somewhere in your life, you found out that pleasing people is a way to get other people to like you and admire you so you can feel good about yourself.
Whether it was the acclaim of your parents, or the acceptance of your friends, somewhere in your time on this planet YOU LEARNED to feel good based on what other people think of you.
But I’m here to tell you that using other people’s feelings and goodwill like that is not only harmful, but dishonest!”
Remember these things today and you will be that much closer to being an attractive “good” guy.
Stop using excuses, stop blaming others, take responsibility for YOUR life, YOUR actions, and if something is not working – STOP doing it and try something different.
If you’re having problems attracting girls – objectify and learn the right skills that DO create attraction.
Blaming them won’t work. It hasn’t worked for you yet -what makes you think it will all of a sudden start working tomorrow.
Trust it’s complete within YOUR power and YOUR control to make ANYTHING happen for you.
The world or universe does NOT owe you anything whether you’re nice or not just because you believe it or want it to be true.
YOU owe it to yourself.
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ATTRACTION isn’t a choice. It’s an emotional reaction.
ATTRACTION is nature’s way of taking over our minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we mate with someone with the best possible genes.
Attraction isn’t concerned with you, her, or love. It’s evolved over a loooong period of time, and it has a purpose that is very important.
ATTRACTION isn’t logical, in the sense that it isn’t created by things that “should” create it.
Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their approval are examples of “logical” things that SHOULD create attraction… but the truth is, they don’t.
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Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope I’ve encouraged you enough to stop blaming women and start attracting them instead.
These ideas didn’t just come to me one day – I learned them the hard way. I blamed all my problems on others for years.
Trust I was right there with you and have since learned to move onto bigger and better things with a new fresh mindset.
It’s completely within your ability and skill to get this handled.
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All 20 Nice Guy Tips To Attract Women
- Being Nice Has Little to do with Attraction
- Because She’s Flirting With You NOT Your Next Girlfriend
- When It’s Time To Make Your First Move On Her – Fears – Go For It!
- Attracting Women Nice Guy Tip 4 – How Stop Disqualifying Yourself
- You Can’t Pity Girl Into Going On Date Make Her Feel Attracted
- Never Try Buy Women’s Affection Attract Her with Money or Favors
- Handling Rejection Never Feel Sorry for Yourself You Were Rejected
- Don’t Agree With Her Go Against Your Beliefs Hoping She’ll Like You
- Why & How Being Funny Creates Attraction Use it The Right Way
- Start Teasing Women Create Attraction Follow These Four Rules First
- Learn How To Flirt With Every Women You Meet – Skill Of Attraction
- Never Ask if She Likes You – What You Must Do & Say Instead
- Stop Giving Women What They Say They Want, Make Them Feel
- Stuck In The Friends Zone With A Girl You Love? How to Get Out!
- How Why Body Language Attraction To Women – Learn To Control
- Means To Live Your Own Life, How to Do it Why It Attracts Women
- Big Step In Attracting Women – Stop Blaming For Your Problems
- How & Why You Must Give The Women You Are Attracted To… Space
- Why Confidence Is Attractive to Women, What It Is, & How To Get It
- The Best Version Of Yourself – Invest In YOU – Secret To Attraction